Hello Bees - I used to post ages ago, but now have a toddler and don't post as much. But this group has always been an insightful resource, so here goes:

Have any of you ever been ghosted/dumped by a friend? I feel completely awful and blindsided and confused. A close friend of several years began to pull away when she began dating a new boyfriend. Before she met him, we were very close. Gradually, she stopped initiating plans, texting with me, checking in in any way. Any time I asked to do something or checked in, it was met with a breezy "Life is just so crazy right now!" excuse.

I finally emailed her and said, Hey. I miss seeing you. Is everything OK?

And got back another, "Life is just so busy!" excuses. No offer to meet up, no expression of "hey, I miss you too!" or ANYTHING.

Meanwhile, I still get mass emails from her (her change of address when she moved in with the new boyfriend, for instance, with a group "come visit us soon!" message).

This is someone I once considered a dear friend. I have met her boyfriend a total of once. I just don't understand. Last night, I did see her for a large group dinner. She basically ran out of the restaurant. I ran after her (!) and said, Hey. I really miss you. What's up? She said, "Yep, just so busy, gotta go do laundry!" and booked it out of there.

I'm ashamed to say, I cried on the way home. I don't understand what caused the loss of the friendship. I do know she still continues to hang out with other mutual friends, tho I have no idea how much.

If you were me, would you just....move on? Never speak to her again? Press for an answer? Is this something that happens with grown women? I keep replaying every aspect of our friendship and wondering if I did something wrong, somehow. The only thing I can think of is that I have two kids and she doesn't have any and wants kids, although I do know she is still friends with other women who just had babies, so...

Any advice?