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My DH does that all the time. They have blinders that don't let them see multitasking.

I would have been an ass and said "thats fine if you don't want dinner."

I would have said, "Actually, no, it's not a good time to mow the lawn." *scowl*

Yeah, DH sucks at figuring out when I need help with LO. LO was screaming and I was trying to prep a bottle, while holding him and trying to soothe him... Dh walks through the kitchen, grabs a Gatorade and walks out the back door.

If looks could kill!

I'd be annoyed. DH does things like that too and it drives me crazy. And LO isn't even hear yet!

I know logically that if I say, No, I would prefer if you would do this for that reason, he would, but I want him to see that for himself and not make me ask. It's a work in progress. Right now, I'd settle for him leaving the seat down on the toilet, since I'm 7 months pregnant and it's getting harder and harder to put it down on all my many trips!

I would be a little annoyed that he didn't notice I could use some help. But, it's not like he said "would this be a good time for me to play video games". He was trying to do something helpful around the house that also needs to get done, but maybe just wasn't the number one priority at that moment, so I would try to give him a bit of a break. I would have just said "Actually no, I can't wait to get this soup finished so I need you to take the baby for a little while right now and mow later"

I find this happens more than I would like.... I have to constantly remind him that I need him to help me out while I'm trying to do something so I can actually get ONE thing done, instead of 5 projects about 1/3 done.

I think it's normal to get a bit upset, but it would be pointless to be mad for long or to hope that he just sees that you could use a hand. If he's anything like my husband, his brain is automatically going to think about what his responsibilities are (assuming he's the one that normally mows), not to dabble in things that you're doing and seem to have a handle on. If you need/want help, he'd probably be more than willing to if you were just direct and asked. I would've probably just said no, and handed the baby over.

On a side note... does it seem like guys are totally obsessed over mowing the lawn?! My husband is always talking about how he needs to mow it, and that he's going to do it this or that day... or that its going to rain Tuesday, so he HAS to do it Monday...

I would not be upset bc if I need him to help me with LO, I just ask and he always does. He does have his man duties on the brain a lot, and that's fine, bc he needs to get those done, but if I just ask him to do "Daddy Duty" so I can do xyz then he will.

I try REALLY hard to not sound like the stereotypical nagging wife about the baby. I dont mean to be contraversial or offend anyone, I just have noticed that a lot from wife to husband in other couples with kids and I make an effort to try to be conscious of that nagginess toward him;). He thinks our little family is fun and I try to keep it light around here:)

@Crumbs: My DH is that way all the time. I don't think men get it. DH always leaves me with LO when he does things or has me take LO when I run errands.

I wouldn't be mad. Maybe Annoyed but men don't read women as well as we'd like sometimes so simply asking for the help may just be a better approach.

LO isn't even here yet, but my DH already does this. There are certain things he hates doing, like folding the laundry, so when it gets to the point when it clearly needs to be done he 'announces' that he's doing some other task or loudly starts workign on something else in another room. I call him out on it every time though and he owns up to it!

Not that I think he's going to 'hate' watching our son, but I know it gets tedious to constantly have to watch over a little person so I do picture him thinking up other tasks that need to be done in order to get a break sometimes lol.

I've had to have multiple talks with dh about this and since he's been much better. The problem is he has things he wants to do around the house and he gets frustrated when they can't get done. But I have things I need to do too, and I've been home all day taking care of lo so I can't do them. He didnt realize that, and he didn't realize that me doing that stuff means I get a much needed break from mommy duty.

@Crumbs: I love how people are saying that your husband isnt a mind reader. But yet seriously, as a woman, if I was your friend and I walked into your house and saw you doing that, id be like "omgosh let me help you, hand over that baby..." It just seems like common sense to me. But I don't expect it from my husband (I don't want to say all men).

I had a similar discussion like this with my husband. I said, "do you want to go with me to this doctor's appointment"? He said "yes". The next day he's like "if you don't mind I think I'm going to mow the lawn instead of going to the appointment. Is that ok with you"? Of course I don't think it's ok and told him so. He seems to think because I didn't say "I want" that it was optional. I think men and women just communicate in two different ways sometimes. Hopefully one day we will learn to speak the same language