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#1 is probably the chaos. I can handle 2 and I'm not sure I want to handle the noise and demands of more kids. I like my peace and quiet and independence. I can't wait till they are older and I get it back.

Strictly financial for us. I would love to have 3, but we couldn't swing the daycare costs. I will be 39 when my oldest is out of daycare, so I don't think I will be trying again.

We have two and we are done for a variety of reasons. For one, I am just tapped out with two. I WOH and there's just only so much that I am capable of. My DH is a rockstar, but even so there is just so much to do and one or both of them always need attention.

Even if I wasn't mentally tapped out, financially it's just too much. Daycare around here is very high and I'm looking forward to thing we can do now and in the future that would be tougher with the expense of an extra child. There are vacations we want to do, college we contribute to, and we'd like to help with houses or weddings down the line too.

I also just can not do pregnancy again. I hate it and it hates me. And now that I'm doing the baby stage a second time, my nostalgia for it has gone away permanently I think. We looked into foster to adopt and it's just not a good fit for our family.

And then there's the fact that life as a family of four is just easier. It's easier to eat out, everyone fits easily in a normal size car, etc.

I'm really really happy with having two kids. It's perfect for our family.

Done at 2 for the stress of finding AMAZING childcare. This has been our biggest obstacle. Another small reason is we kinda like the idea of not being out numbered and not because we can't handle it but because what if all three+ children had an event at the same time, how do we split it all up? So 2 it is for us!

Money. Daycare is expensive.

When I think about the future, I think I'd like 1 more. We have 2 right now. But, we don't have the support or resources for more kids.

We are already tapped out physically and mentally with 2 and we are really looking forward to finally being able to travel again without the stress of small kids. Plus I think a lot of things are just easier with 2 and we will be able to devote a lot more energy and attention to each of them. Finances weren't as big of a reason for me - even if having kids cost $0 I would still want to stop at 2.

Health. I am 2 for 2 for traumatic deliveries and NICU stays. There is a small part of me that would like a 3rd, but with my history, I feel like I'd be tempting fate.

Number one reason if we love the way our life is. The fact that we move every 2/3 years and I have solo parent for 6 plus months every 1.5 years while DH is deployed plays a small roll.

We have 2 living boys, and we're done. I've been pregnant 6 times with 2 live births, and I can't go through another miscarriage. We're very lucky that we have both of our boys, and we're not pushing it. So my mental well being is the #1 reason.

I am mentally, emotionally, and physically tapped out. I already struggle with dividing my time and attention between the two we have, and just feel pretty crushed under the stress of it, so more than two would do me in. Finances are another consideration, and logistics, but I feel like we could make that work if we really wanted another. But I'd rather try to just be a better parent to the ones I have!

Finances was never a factor for us. It's just at 2 we are stretched thin emotionally. I worry what 3 would do to our marriage and personal well-being. I like knowing that DH won't resent me for leaving him alone with the kids for a few hours. We're in a good place.

We are done at 2 for basically financial reasons... I SAH and my husband is a restaurant manager so we aren't exactly rolling in $$. We are prioritizing retirement savings and buying a house now that we have 2. There's no more room for more kids in our apartment. I would eventually like to get back to work as well but it doesn't make sense right now because of the daycare costs.

If we ever did change our minds I would love to foster a kid (or two!) but that would be like 10 years down the road when we are more settled

We're pretty sure we're one and done. We have two pretty equal main reasons -- first, we're at our max capacity with DD. I honestly think going through the toddler/preschoolers phase again would send one or both of us over the edge and probably kill our marriage. The other reason is more abstract, but basically I'm seriously worried about what the world is going to be like for DD and can't bring myself to add another kid to this festering stew of a mess. I know politics change, but the environment is a major concern and I'm not confident she will have a healthy world to live in throughout her life. Since the election, I've actually had overwhelming guilt about having DD, to the point where I might need to look for counseling if it doesn't start to get better. DH isn't as pessimistic but does believe one kid is the responsible choice. It's hard because we had originally said two, and I'd like DD to have a sibling, but now it just feels wrong to go ahead with it.

No desire. I have two hands, one for each kid. Money is another huge factor.

Is it wrong to say my threenager factors into the equation? We kind of always figured 2 anyway, but seriously, if we had gotten to this phase before I was ever pregnant with the second, she might be an only child.

Help. We do 2 kids ALL ourselves. No help, no breaks. That won't be forever, however, as LO1 starts 4k in fall. But, I sometimes imagine if I was surrounded by a big healthy family I could trust, with people to watch the kids... And a trust fund, of course

We've pretty much decided to stop at 2, purely for financial reasons.

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2 just feels right to me. Mentally and emotionally, I think this is all we can handle. Logistically, most things seem to be easier for families of 4. Finally, I feel very much done with pregnancies, not only for the toll on my body but also because it took too many (5 total) to even have 2 healthy babies. I don't think I could handle heading down that path again at this stage in life.