I'm just curious. Do you spank? You do not have to explain why or why not, just do you?
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Nope. My DD is too young to be disciplined right now. I know the expression is "never say never" but I can firmly say I will never spank.
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No. I feel like it would send a mixed message since I'm trying to teach my boys that you don't hit someone!
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@Adira: agree completely. "We don't hit" and "we don't allow others to hit us" is a core teaching to our LO and it comes with no exceptions.
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No, that form of punishment isn’t for us. We teach our son that hands are not for hitting and that hitting is not an appropriate action, so how confusing would it be for us to turn around and hit him when we deemed that his behavior was bad? My parents did spank me and my siblings and we are fine, but it’s still not how I want to handle our discipline.
To each their own though, no judgement. I know parenting can be HARD and sometimes you do what you have to do in the moment.
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I have spanked a few times. I hate it and don't do it anymore.
My husband spanks, but I'm working with him to never do it again because spanking makes me uneasy anyway.
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No. I've become more firm in this since kids after watching different parenting styles. There is no doubt in my mind that kids mimic parental behavior.
You can tell by kids phrasing the ones that are torn down at home, they don't magically pick up phrases. I was just talking to DH about how watching our neighbors kids grow has really solidified my opinion. I knew they got screamed at but the other day saw a physical reprimand (not spanking though) of the oldest. The kids purposely try to inflict pain on each other when they get mad, it def seems like they've picked up on their dads expression of dissatisfaction. -
Why do we have this conversation come up every few weeks?
Here is a really long thread about it that was just 4 weeks ago: http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spanking/page/2#post-2576505
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No, I don't believe in hitting a child for any reason. We teach kids that hands are not for hitting. And it wouldn't be acceptable for me to hit my DH or even my dog, why would I hit my son?
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No. Hitting is not cool in book under any circumstances.
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@Adira: This is how I feel- we have to set an example. My son is terrible with hitting and kicking me sometimes and I don't want him to see that behavior from his parents. Especially since I think he hits to try to take control- I don't want to make him think that is right.
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@T.H.O.U.:
Yes!
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@T.H.O.U.: thank you so much for showing me this! I clearly didn't do my due diligence and check if this topic had been addressed before, I apologize for making such an error.
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I don't really like the options above - discipline is different than punishment. I don't plan to punish my children (and I don't spank), but I do believe in discipline.
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No, it's completely inappropriate in my opinion. Hitting an adult or a dog is unacceptable, a child shouldn't be any different. I also don't believe in punishing my child though. Discipline is for teaching, not punishing.
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When this comes up in a social setting, I lie and say things like, "It's a personal decision." But the truth is that I am very judgemental of spanking.
My husband's parents spanked him, and he knows I would consider it a deal breaker if he does that to our child.
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No way. I was spanked as a child and I can tell you for sure it doesn't work to correct behavorial issues. It makes kids more aggressive and act out in all the wrong ways. I actually hit my son a few days ago as a knee-jerk reaction when he was tantrumming and hitting me hard and while it got him to stop I still feel terrible and it haunts me. I just kind of think that one day they will be able to hit you back so when that time comes do you want them to be raised with physical violence as a parenting method? Probably not.
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