https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 02:50:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surrogacy#post-2434595 Sat, 23 Jan 2016 18:24:49 +0000 LilacWine 2434595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anyone here been a surrogate or used one? Was hoping to get in touch with someone who has first hand experience, preferably as a surrogate, to vet out some details before doing it. Thanks in advance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-friendships-change-during-if-how-would-you-deal#post-2768640 Fri, 18 Aug 2017 18:41:00 +0000 goodnightelisabeth 2768640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could really use some advice about how to deal with what I am going through right now. I will give you a quick background - my husband and I have been TTC for 2+ years. Infertility testing found a bunch of hormonal issues and endometriosis. I recently had surgery after a long wait. We were almost cleared to start TTC again, but some hormonal issues that we thought were fixed have come up again. It's been incredibly frustrating, draining, and emotional that we have had so many barriers for such a long time, and still may have a long road ahead.</p> <p>About a year and a half into our journey, our close friends started TTC for a few months and decided to get some testing done because they couldn't handle the wait. They had listened to what we were going through and decided to be proactive - no problem. Long story short - after comparing fertility battles, they got pregnant naturally within a year. All of a sudden, the people who said they'd be there for me through our struggles and my surgery were nowhere to be found because they had gotten pregnant.</p> <p>I'm happy for them, but I don't know how to deal with this. It feels like a huge transition in our friendship. It's incredibly odd to not be sharing this part of our lives because they think it's too awkward to talk about it, especially after the amount of advice they asked us about infertility. The worst part is they told us the news via text, even after inviting them over several times, they didn't even bother with a phone call. When we said we were hurt by that, they apologized and said, "We didn't want to upset you because we've been there and know how it feels." But they haven't been through what we've been through.</p> <p>Any advice for the transition in a friendship like this when going through infertility? We haven't seen them in person yet, and everything just seems so strange and I don't know how I will react. I'm afraid others will alienate us because they won't want us to dampen their happiness for the new pregnant couple.</p> <p>My husband is so positive about things while trying to commiserate with me, and he doesn't want me to isolate myself. I just don't know what to do or how to maintain normal friendships while I'm going through this - like I've completely lost myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/our-problem-with-infertility#post-2755493 Thu, 06 Jul 2017 06:57:44 +0000 rosy 2755493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it ok if one partner blames the other for some infertility issues? It isn't his/her fault, infertility can be caused by environmental factors. Even if it is not, You don't have the right to blame or leave your partner. You should stand beside him/her until he is completely healed. We all must face infertility with all our strength. We need to spread awareness about this monster. I hope a good life for every woman. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-your-help-pcos#post-2757105 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 11:10:29 +0000 WhiteDragon 2757105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! I have PCOS and this is the main reason why my hubby and I can’t conceive a baby. I was diagnosed with PCOS in my early teens. I had very irregular periods and was a little bit overweight. When I was in my 20s, I managed to reduce some weight, but gained again in my 30s. I do have some loose weight. I tried to do some fitness, but I didn’t help me. I also have very irregular periods. Is there anybody here with PCOS? How did you manage to conceive? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-it-bother-you-if-your-dh-was-a-sperm-donor#post-2646983 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 18:00:00 +0000 travellingbee 2646983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good friend of mine told me a story recently. Her BIL and SIL were having trouble conceiving and it turns out that BIL has no viable sperm. So she was encouraging her DH to donate. Her DH happily volunteered but his brother is still making the decision. </p> <p>I was thinking, I don't think it would bother me regardless of the situation, but I know for some people it would be uncomfortable. Would you feel comfortable with DH donating sperm to someone close? To a stranger (like a sperm bank?) What if you found out that he had before you were together...? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-donor-eggs-cycles-did-you-use-before-bfp#post-2543459 Fri, 06 May 2016 19:55:41 +0000 fotolori1 2543459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have done 2 donor egg cycles and both ended in a bfn. We never had very high quality embryos. Has this happened to anyone else? We are 25,000 in debt and scared to try again, then again we are scared not to as it may be our only way to conceive. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-used-a-donor-egg#post-2359020 Mon, 16 Nov 2015 21:55:10 +0000 fotolori1 2359020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am new to this thread and I am scared to death!!! On Saturday morning we had our first IVF transfer using a donor egg. Our donor was only 25 , I am 41 and we determined that my eggs are poor quality so we moved to this option. Anyway.... my question is this, I don't understand the embryo grading and ours was only graded a "C". I told my dr that our kids get in trouble for C's, so I am not encouraged. We transferred 2 5 day embryos and she said there is a 55-60% chance of pregnancy and a 20% chance of twins, BUT... considering I have had a negative test monthly for the last 3 years, I am scared to death! Are there any encouraging words anyone can offer? Success stories? Etc? </p> [attach=3834/15/nxxury.337x600.Screenshot_2015-11-15-20-45-30.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-to-use-donor-eggs#post-2284467 Sun, 06 Sep 2015 10:56:14 +0000 fotolori1 2284467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have tried everything.... laparoscopy, 2 hsg's, and 8 IUI's, because I am older (41, been trying for 3 years) we are having to go to IVF... however, the dr advised us that with my eggs (I have DOR) we only have a 10% chance of success, but with a donor egg we have about a 70% chance of success. Because our insurance covers nothing and we have to pay about $18,000 out of pocket, we are opting for the one with the highest success rate, so we are going with the donor egg. Has anyone else done this? Was it successful on the first try? How do you feel about it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-thought-about-donating-eggs-or-being-a-surrogate#post-2271580 Mon, 24 Aug 2015 11:23:49 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2271580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really hope this doesn't become a heated discussion because I'm genuinely interested to see how people feel. </p> <p>I was visiting a friend of mine last weekend (another mom of 2) and we got on the topic of if we would ever try for one more kid. She told me that her SIL was asked to be a surrogate for her best friend, because she has been battling infertility for 3 years. </p> <p>My friend and I started discussing what we would do in this situation and what the options would be. My friend said that she would definitely be a surrogate for family or close friend, but she can't see herself donating her eggs because, to her, that's her child. </p> <p>Prior to having children, I always told myself that I would be a surrogate for family if they need it. But now, I don't think that I could physically or mentally carry another child (due to PPD issues with my last child). I would absolutely be open to donating my eggs, but I think I would have to limit it to my siblings/family. Yes, it's my DNA in the egg, but my siblings also come from the same DNA as I did so I can separate it from being "my" child. </p> <p>I know this community has so many different women from so many backgrounds and that I thought I would see how other people feel about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-between-an-egg-donor-vs-embryo-adoption#post-1995908 Tue, 23 Dec 2014 12:33:52 +0000 winter_wonder 1995908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To make a long story short, DH and I are considering an egg donor vs. embryo adoption as our next step in our infertility struggle. Basically, my eggs are of really poor quality and my doctor thinks there may be a chromosomal issue on my end. We've decided we're not going to try another round of IVF with my eggs. </p> <p>In addition, if we go with an egg donor we'll have to decide if we go with a fresh cycle or if we purchase a select number of eggs from an individual. I'm not sure we'll be able to afford a fresh cycle....based on preliminary info it looks like it could be $36,000+ </p> <p>Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What advice do you have? Are there options we're not considering?</p> <p>Please share your perspective with me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/egg-donor-or-sperm-donor#post-1818343 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 14:17:52 +0000 Mmsva 1818343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just looking for anyone who has used or might used an egg or sperm donor.</p> <p>I've been TTC for 3.5 years and I'm 44. I've had 5 IUI's, 1 natural BFP but MC'd, 2 IVF's. So now it's on to using an Egg Donor. </p> <p>Just hoping to find some support... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/embryo-adoption#post-678227 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 19:14:16 +0000 Mrs. Polish 678227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure whether to post this under adoption or infertility, but here goes. </p> <p>I was just reading about embryo adoption. Would you ever consider this?</p> <p><a href="http://www.embryoadoption.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.embryoadoption.org/</a></p> <p>What about those of you who don't think you could adopt? This would give you the chance to carry the pregnancy. Would that change your views? </p>