https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 23:02:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-year-old-crying-at-drop-off#post-2854923 Mon, 05 Nov 2018 12:13:44 +0000 babycanuck 2854923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So over the last few weeks, drop off on Monday's has become full of tears and separation anxiety for my little guy.</p> <p>Is this normal for this age? I always call to check in later in the day and they say he's great; he's never gone through this at this daycare that we put him in this past January. He was in another daycare prior to this one and we all hated it, I expected drop off to be difficult there.</p> <p>It breaks my heart in the mornings to see him so upset when I leave :( I know they give him lots of tender care and they are amazing with him, he's super happy in the day and most days he's telling me all about his days and his friends, but Mondays....I know we spent the weekend together, it's just so unexpected since it began. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-to-do-morning-drop-off-suggestions-please#post-2836762 Mon, 30 Jul 2018 08:58:07 +0000 cake2017 2836762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi again! </p> <p>DH in January will be responsible for droping DS off at his preschool. DS will be approximately 18 months going on 19months old! </p> <p>The school is about 5-10 mins away. He will eat his breakfast there with his classmates(I will pack his breakfast and lunch) ahead of time with DH. </p> <p>I’m looking for suggestions for my husband and what will help him in the morning. </p> <p>He will be responsible for DS and the dog which needs to be fed and let out in the back. </p> <p>I’m going to be at work so i can get DS early. Also if I can keep my schedule then DS isn’t there all day and week. I can do dinner/ bedtime routine etc!</p> <p>Trying to get DS to sleep until 630/7am . He just started sleeping through the night. (However see previous post about that please). That would give DH time to get up and take care of himself before DS and doggie! </p> <p>Any suggestions please?! </p> <p>Who does Drop off in your house? </p> <p>How can I help DH be confident he can do this? It seems like ppl have been negative ( his mom etc) that it’s “too much” . However, I do it and I know plenty of fathers who can get their kids ready at this age and younger etc. I applaud single parents etc and I know my husband can do it as I share that with him. </p> <p>TIA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preparing-toddler-for-childcare#post-2834324 Mon, 16 Jul 2018 16:05:02 +0000 cake2017 2834324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all,<br /> LO will be attending a school next year. He will be approximately 15/16 mo. What are ways I can help ease the transition since this will be his first time away from us? My husband will be dropping off in the mornings and I will pick up in the afternoons.</p> <p>We are going to do one hour drop off each day for the week prior to full enrollment. Any other suggestions. I plan to talk about his school and drive by there also as he gets older. I was thinking about “practicing” on sundays at the church nursery too. During services drop him there so he understands we always come back?! </p> <p>He cries when not with us so trying to see how to minimize the “shock”. </p> <p>Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-time-do-you-leave-for-daycare-dropoff#post-2826454 Tue, 05 Jun 2018 13:07:23 +0000 codeitall 2826454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When do you leave in the mornings? </p> <p>We leave between 8:30 and 9. I know I'm on the later end, just not sure by how much ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-too-much-of-an-imposition#post-2825411 Wed, 30 May 2018 16:25:45 +0000 Katrocap 2825411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is starting kindergarten in the fall. We'd really like him to attend our neighborhood public school. The problem is that they start at 8:00am and don't have before care and I have to get to work at 7:30am. We have one car, and my husband could theoretically walk him every day, but it's a mile away. One of my son's closest friends from nursery school will be attending the school and I was thinking of asking his parents if I could drop my son off with them at 7:00am and they could drive him to school. However, this seems to me like this might be way too big of an imposition. I'm a teacher so my school day ends early so I could pick up her son daily. What do you think? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-home-from-daycare-tips#post-2825545 Thu, 31 May 2018 10:26:14 +0000 MaryM 2825545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, our LO is only 3.5 months, but the transition home from daycare seems to be killer for him. I'm sure it doesn't help that he's usually exhausted, but even if he's coming off awesome naps, he still loses it on the way home. And it's seriously like two miles from home. </p> <p>DH does pick up most of the time. The baby will be fine (usually) until DH clicks the carseat into the car. Then, I can only imagine, it must set in for him that he's going from a very loud bright place to a home where there's just the three of us. </p> <p>I know I've read about easing this transition for older kids, but has anyone been able to help a baby not freak out about it? I can tell when DH gets home by the crying as soon as the garage door opens. DS is inconsolable for several minutes until he finally tires himself out and calms down (and we immediately start getting him ready for bed). </p> <p>DH has tried feeding him at daycare before putting him in the car. He's tried leaving the car running with the AC on in case it was too hot. He's tried music, no music, talk radio... </p> <p>Anything else we can try? Or is this just how it is? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-are-day-care-drop-offs-and-pick-ups#post-2791974 Thu, 14 Dec 2017 18:37:22 +0000 agold 2791974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long does it take you to drop off and pick up your kid(s) at day care? I currently have my mom watching my toddler a couple of times a week and I spend soooo much time dropping her off and picking her up. I'm just wondering what is the normal amount of time parents spend doing this with day cares and non-family nannies? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-are-your-preschool-drop-offspick-ups-winfant#post-2786509 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 08:23:24 +0000 ineebee 2786509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS will be 3.5 and DD will be 6mo next September, and I’m a SAHM. As we browse preschools for next fall, we’re considering how many days a week to put DS in school. We can probably only afford half-day. I’m sure I’ll have to get used to interrupting DD’s naps to do pick-ups and drop-offs, but I’m also wondering about others’ experiences and other factors that I haven’t thought of.</p> <p>As a parent with a child in preschool AND an infant, what do you like or not like about the preschool schedule you have? Also, how far is your drive to the school? Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-did-crying-at-dropoff-start#post-2739977 Thu, 25 May 2017 10:18:09 +0000 SteelerGirl 2739977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter just turned 9 months old and she's been doing drop-offs no problem since she was 9 weeks old. In fact, she normally can't wait to get out of the car seat and start playing!</p> <p>Today, for the first time ever, she cried. My husband had to just leave her there crying. Is this the start of an everyday occurrence? Or a one-off thing? Nine months old seems so young to be starting this behavior! Especially since daycare 5 days a week is her norm! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-4-yo-with-dropoff-anxiety#post-2730244 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 09:39:05 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2730244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kiddo is coming up on her 4th birthday in June, just for age reference. She's been with her daycare for almost 2 years, and a home daycare before that from the time she was 3 months old so she's no stranger to daycare. She usually loves going, has a great time, and was moved up to the 4 year old classroom in February because her teachers thought she's ready for an older group. According to her teachers in the 4s group, she's doing really well "academically", gets along with all the kids, eats well, naps well, etc. </p> <p>In the last couple of weeks, she has been really clingy and upset when we drop her off. She's very verbal but won't tell us if anything is bothering her. My husband does dropoff and pickup 95% of the time due to our commutes, and talked to her teachers to see if something might be happening, and they were just as puzzled. They say she's usually fine after we leave, and has a great time all day, doing well, etc. We also have a hard time picking her up in the afternoon, because she's busy with activities and doesn't want to leave so it's even more weird that she doesn't want to stay. However, she always says that she didn't have a good day when we ask her afterwards, but again, won't give us anything specific. </p> <p>I know dropoff anxiety is normal, but this is new to us so I'm wondering if there are any good tips to manage this. We do all the usual things that are recommended - we try not to linger, her teachers will help distract her, etc., and I don't have any concerns, especially after talking with her teachers, that something is going on at school that's upsetting her. We haven't had any transitions in our lives recently or anything I can think of that would bring this on suddenly. I went with them today for dropoff thinking maybe if I was there it would be easier, but that didn't help either. </p> <p>Possibly related but probably not, we have noticed that she also wants to eat a lot more than usual lately. Her teachers mentioned she usually asks for double lunch (they feed them lunch and two snacks and she has a full breakfast at home). Yesterday she inhaled 3 slices of pizza (minus crust) and a bowl of oatmeal before bed. She's a fairly small kid from birth (currently 32 lbs at almost 4 year old) so this might be a growth spurt/development thing, but coupled with the dropoff anxiety, I'm not sure if there might be something bigger? She's a super happy kid overall, sleeps well, no other issues that I can tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-just-leave-car-seat-at-daycare#post-2698292 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:17:15 +0000 snowbaby 2698292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO (19 mo) is starting daycare at the beginning of March. I will probably do most of the drop-offs, and DH will probably do most of the pick-ups. We have one car seat, and we each have a car seat base installed in our separate cars. The daycare is on my way to work. It would be a minor PITA to turn back around to drop the carseat at home after doing dropoffs on the days that DH is doing pickup. Is it okay (and is it typical) just to leave the car seat at daycare, or do we invest in a second car seat? I feel like such a daycare newbie! Most families must deal with this issue, but I have no idea what is the norm. Car seats are such clunky items; I don't want the daycare to be irritated with us if we leave ours there for the day and take up precious space. Thanks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/get-off-your-phone-daycare-pick-up#post-2690314 Wed, 01 Feb 2017 12:50:30 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2690314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/02/01/get-off-your-phone-day-cares-message-to-parents-goes-viral.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/02/01/get-off-your-phone-day-cares-message-to-parents-goes-viral.html</a></p> <p>A Texas daycare posted a strongly worded sign telling parents to put the phones down when they pick up their kids. </p> <p>Was this the best approach?<br /> Do you practice a little phone multi tasking when picking up your LO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-early-do-you-arrive-for-pick-up#post-2653831 Thu, 17 Nov 2016 16:55:00 +0000 Boogs 2653831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you arrive super early to pick up your LO or do you arrive right on time usually?</p> <p>I'm usually at school to pick up LO maybe 5 minutes before the bell, but they always get out late so I usually wait at least 10 minutes. Today I was already out so I'm parked out front with sleeping baby 30 minutes early, which never happens. 😜 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-have-a-bad-morning-drop-off#post-2645355 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 08:24:09 +0000 mediagirl 2645355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a bad morning about once a month. This morning was one. First her boots felt weird when we were in the car. We walked in and adjusted her socks and then sat in the gym for 10 minutes with me getting more and more frustrated and her sitting there, stubborn, refusing to move because something felt "weird." She cried the whole time. She snotted on me when she was giving me my kisses and hugs. So, we both had a bad morning. Happy Halloween!</p> <p>How often does your child have a bad morning at drop-off? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-responsible-for-drop-offpickup#post-2615600 Thu, 29 Sep 2016 18:45:00 +0000 Boogs 2615600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who is usually responsible for the drop off and pick up of your kids from child care/school?</p> <p>95% of the time it's my responsibility, and sometimes DH tags along, but that's more often for pickup V's drop off. I don't work, so it's no biggie, but if I eventually work again I'll still have to figure it out because DH's availability won't be changing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-does-drop-off-and-who-does-pick-up#post-2594535 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 13:19:03 +0000 mediagirl 2594535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now I do drop off and my husband does pick up. That may change when he finds a job but, we'll see. I like the set-up we have now but I also wouldn't mind picking up, as well as dropping off. </p> <p>Who does drop off/pick up for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-didnt-cry-at-drop-off-on-her-first-day-of-school#post-2621340 Wed, 14 Sep 2016 12:11:04 +0000 Bao 2621340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>and had no tears the entire day (yesterday), but today she cried. As some of you can probably remember, we struggled with this every.single.day last year. With such an awesome drop-off yesterday, full of smiles I thought she grew out of it. I just got home from dropping her off and I can't help but feel sad, frustrated and confused. I can't do this again every single day this year. What can I do? Why would she be so happy and willing to go yesterday and today she was not going to have it? Help me:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-pick-up-chaotic-at-your-los-school#post-2620741 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 14:09:49 +0000 Bao 2620741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO goes to an elementary school so there are grades Preschool-2nd grade. The teachers were telling us last night that pick up is really chaotic, with parking and all the parents coming and going and the busses. Today will be our first pick up at this school, so I'm interested to see how it goes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-the-drop-offpick-up-situation#post-2614474 Thu, 01 Sep 2016 07:04:26 +0000 Bao 2614474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For LO's school last year we would bring her in for drop-off and then go back in and wait in the hall outside her door for pick up. This year she is going to be at a new school and we will bring her in for drop-off and then at the end of the day the teachers walk the kids to the end of their hall door, which goes out to a parking lot and we pick them up from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hysterical-crying-at-drop-off#post-2602745 Thu, 11 Aug 2016 16:38:36 +0000 Teachermama 2602745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son returned to preschool after being on summer break with me and new baby. I am taking the yr off from teaching to stay home with my daughter. My son has been crying hysterically every morning for 2 weeks because he doesn't want me to leave. He refuses to get out of the car, he screams at me as we walk to his class. I have to pry his hands off me and it doesn't feel good when I leave. As a teacher I KNOW they are fine 5 mins after moms leave. But it's hard to see him feel this way. I know that he wants to stay home with us. He has the same classmates, just new teachers. Any suggestions on how to ease this transition? Or shall I just endure this as it is? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/city-dwellers-how-do-you-do-childcare-dropoffpickup#post-2571936 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:02:00 +0000 yellowbird 2571936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are trying to figure this out. We only have one car and I ride the train to school. My husband will most likely be driving to work when he starts (train doesn't go there.) </p> <p>Our two kids will be going to a daycare about 2 miles away - definitely not walkable and no close train stop.</p> <p>I'm thinking we're going to have to move them because... How am I supposed to help at all if I can't get to them? There are very limited options walking distance but I'm praying we can find a spot. Otherwise I don't see how we can make it work. </p> <p>What do you do?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-are-drop-offspick-ups-like-for-you#post-2535784 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 10:27:54 +0000 runnerd 2535784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a small talk person outside of close friends. Not at work, not at the park, etc. </p> <p>So this carries over to daycare drop-off, pick-ups. Sometimes I leave and have this awful feeling wondering if the teachers think I'm rude, don't care about my son, etc. I'm curious how you approach it?</p> <p>I usually say good morning, and pass along anything important (etc: he already had breakfast), then I'm gone. This morning I have felt awful bc there were several people in the room and I did nothing more than make eye contact across the room with his teacher. :/ We also often struggle with crying drop offs so I try to get the hell out before he has time to realize what's happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crying-at-drop-off-for-parents-morning-out#post-2529402 Wed, 20 Apr 2016 08:25:42 +0000 cat620 2529402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM, but I signed my son up for a once a week parent's morning out program. I figured this would be a good way to get him used to being away from me and prepare him for preschool in the fall. He is almost three, and he's never with anyone other than me, my husband or his grandparents. </p> <p>The first time I brought him he only cried a little. I think he was confused about what was happening. The second time, he cried a lot and started before we even got out of the car. He recognized the building and started wailing saying that he didn't want to go. The teacher said he cried for about 15 minutes after I left. The third time, he started wailing as soon as he saw me getting his backpack ready at home. He cried the whole way there and for a bit after I left. It's getting progressively worse! I was supposed to bring him today, but I didn't have the heart to do it. He laid on the floor by the door, making me have to peel him off the floor and carry him to the car. Once we were in the car, he cried and asked to go to bed for night night, which he NEVER wants to do. I tried to tell him he would have fun, but he kept getting more and more upset, so I turned the car around and went home. </p> <p>Is this normal behavior? I can't tell if he has separation anxiety, or if he hates the place. I ask him if he had a good time when I pick him up, and he says "no". He has a speech delay, so he doesn't give me any details about what they do there or how he feels beyond saying he doesn't want to go. Should I keep bringing him, try to find somewhere new to take him, or assume he's not ready to be away from me? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-ever-cry-randomly-at-drop-off#post-2521089 Mon, 11 Apr 2016 08:38:43 +0000 mrsjyw 2521089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 has been going to preschool p/t MWF since last September. He hasn't cried at drop since the first month and today he did! Told my mom he didn't want to go in his classroom. (She sometimes does drop-off for us so this isn't new!)</p> <p>She thinks that it may have a couple of new kids in class (twins) that were both crying at the entrance of his classroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-does-drop-offpick-up-1#post-2489570 Thu, 10 Mar 2016 08:30:55 +0000 mediagirl 2489570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has it ever been different?</p> <p>Currently I do drop-off and he does pick-up. Once he finds a job, I'll probably do both for a while. Her new daycare will be near my work so I don't really mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-does-pickup-take#post-2474921 Thu, 25 Feb 2016 15:45:02 +0000 regberadaisy 2474921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What time do you leave work and what time do you get home?</p> <p>I usually leave work around 4:15-4:20pm and we get home by 5:10, assuming no traffic. So, door to door, a little less than an hour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-the-drop-offpick-up-procedure-at-your-childcare#post-2439436 Thu, 28 Jan 2016 06:51:41 +0000 autumnlove 2439436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A parent/caregiver has to walk their LO in and sign in/out on an iPad at our center. I wish there was an entry code to get in the building!</p> <p>Some of my friends have drive up drop off/pick up and that sounds so convenient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-does-drop-offpick-up#post-2431136 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 14:09:18 +0000 LuLu Mom 2431136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm usually in charge of drop off/pick up because it's only a couple minutes from my work, but there are time my DH will have to do it if I have something come up. I wish it was more convenient for him to help more so i could run to store, ect. without 2 little ones in tow, but it is what it is :) What about you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hasnt-cried-at-dropoff-in-over-a-week#post-2427688 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 14:09:34 +0000 Bao 2427688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know I'm probably the only one excited about this, but I had to share! My LO has cried every single day at preschool dropoff since the second day of school, back in the beginning of September. She has made it a good 6-8 school days with no crying. This is huge for her! </p> <p>How is your LO doing with school/daycare dropoff? Are they usually excited to go, or a little more clingy? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-parents-at-daycare-leave-their-cars-running-during-drop-off#post-2419866 Wed, 13 Jan 2016 09:22:07 +0000 mediagirl 2419866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This baffles me. I know it's cold outside but some people do this all year long. They leave their car right outside the building, grab their kids and go inside. With the car running! Maybe I'm paranoid but I would be worried the whole time I was in there that someone would steal my car. I always turn it off and lock it before going in...</p> <p>Do you or other parents leave their cars running during daycare drop-off? </p>