https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:51:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotions-around-closing-the-factory#post-2927902 Sun, 22 Jan 2023 16:39:36 +0000 yellowbeach 2927902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So here I am, returning to the people who helped me so much during my TTC years, struggling with infertility and loss. 6 years later I now have three beautiful LOs, 6, 2.5 and 1. </p> <p>I feel like the rational part of me knows we are done. I’m 44, so it likely wouldn’t happen naturally and we wouldn’t do IVF again, but I also said that prior to having #3 at age 43. </p> <p>Financially and as far as family logistics, it would just complicate everything. DH was pretty upset about #3 - saying multiple times it just blew up the plan and added stress when we had things under control. I know he doesn’t want a 4th. For sure. </p> <p>And I’ve had so many health issues with each delivery/postpartum period. A 4th feels like tempting fate. </p> <p>But about three times a week I think about just pulling my IUD. </p> <p>I long to be pregnant again as I give myself and my imperfect body total grace when pregnant, and just feel so down on myself when not. </p> <p>Closing the factory at age 44 represents more than just no more babies, but admitting I’m middle-aged and entering a later phase of my life. Where I’m older. I’m no longer a head turner. No one flirts with me. </p> <p>It’s caused me to realize my appearance has been much a part of my identity and way I navigate the world than I had realized. I’m ashamed of that some days, others just grieving its loss. </p> <p>I see other women so confident in their mid 40s, and most would look at me and feel I’m quite accomplished. So why can’t I? Why do I feel so in limbo? I’m happy with everything and everyone around me, just not myself. </p> <p>I know these are not legitimate reasons to add a fourth. I just want some peace and guidance in achieving acceptance of where I am. </p> <p>If anyone else feels comfortable sharing their thought process for closing the factory, I’d really appreciate it. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-3-how-do-you-do-it#post-2925519 Wed, 17 Nov 2021 10:58:21 +0000 Cait1 2925519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are super infertile - our oldest son (currently 6) is adopted and our youngest was conceived via donor embryos/IVF (1.5). We’ve been married almost 9 years and never gotten pregnant naturally. I was late this month and took a pregnancy test on a whim. Shocked to discover I must be 5-6 weeks pregnant. :shocked: </p> <p>I am terrified and had never really considered having a third. I have no desire to be pregnant or have a newborn. :crying: My husband works a weird schedule and I solo parent roughly half of the week. I just got a huge promotion and feel so guilty taking yet another maternity leave. Financially, we *can* swing it, but it’ll mean cutting back in ways we did not plan to. I’m sad for my boys and feel guilty that our money, time, and attention will be spread even more thin. I’m also worried about how this will impact my oldest’s feelings around his adoption - if he will feel like the odd one out because I didn’t give birth to him. </p> <p>I know many of you are moms of three (or more). Any advice? Is it going to be ok? I’m so upset and feel bad that this miracle happened and I’m not at all happy about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-and-done-and-happy#post-2922801 Thu, 04 Mar 2021 20:01:21 +0000 JJ2626 2922801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m looking to hear from people who are one and done and happy with their choice. Would also love to know what made you decide. I do not want to hear why you ultimately decided to have 2 and it’s great. Ha sorry, but I already hear that enough. </p> <p>I am pretty sure I want just the one kid (3 yo DD) but I feel an incredible amount of guilt and fear of regret. I never had an urge to have kids but did it because my DH wanted to and it seemed like a life experience I wanted to have. And it’s the best. She is the most amazing kid and I am happier than I could have ever imagined. I don’t want to mess that up with another kid. Life is fun and easy right now. I’m an only child and it was totally fine. That said, I feel like I am doing her a horrible disservice and am just a selfish, awful person for this. There must be a reason everyone else has more than one kid, so should I too? She has cousins but they live cross country though we’d consider moving to be closer to them. My DH would like another but would be happy with 1. </p> <p>Anyway, sorry for the rambling! Really I think I want people to justify my choice in having one kid. It keeps me up at night. I’m 39 so need to decide soon if we are trying for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coming-to-terms-with-family-size#post-2909621 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 17:44:20 +0000 crazydoglady 2909621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People always talk about feeling like their family is "complete," and I feel conflicted because we were supposed to be done with 2, but I am slightly struggling to come to terms with it. DH got a vasectomy with DD was only 4 months old, and he has told me time and time again that he would have never changed his mind about a third. In the tiny baby phase, I went along with it. DH has always wanted 2 while I wanted 3 and he feels like our family is complete and what he always envisioned while I am...not so sure. Maybe it's the romanticized vision of having three never mind the logistics of our personalities, jobs, childcare, etc.<br /> Anyone else feel this way? Conflicted and not feeling complete, but having to accept it any way?</p> <p>I also want to add that I know I am ridiculously blessed. The road to these kids wasn't easy, but they are here and I am so blessed for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-so-torn#post-2900727 Sat, 26 Oct 2019 20:46:55 +0000 LKsmom 2900727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are completely torn on baby #2. I know no one can tell us what to do. I know it’s ultimately down to our decision. But was anyone else out there so unsure either way? What did you end up doing, and how did you decide? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/career-change-1#post-2895148 Wed, 21 Aug 2019 11:46:31 +0000 cake2017 2895148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi!</p> <p>DH dislikes his job. Hours are long but money is good. However, when you aren’t really happy it’s hard to work in my opinion. </p> <p>How do you make a step in changing a career when you have a lot and only experience in one area, too busy for school, a young family etc? </p> <p>Any experiences or stories or ideas - very interested as I think this may be something he wants to do soon.....TIA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ive-got-the-fever#post-2892065 Tue, 23 Jul 2019 16:20:15 +0000 macintosh 2892065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby fever is coming back! My DS is 4 and was conceived through IVF. My DH is disabled and we live with my mom now. Mostly life is easier and we’re in a good groove, but I’d love to have another. There are 4 frozen embryos from my first cycle.</p> <p>Normally I’m pretty content with DS and realistic about my limitations, but I was just looking back at his baby pictures and thinking “ah yes, there’s the reason!”</p> <p>My brother and SIL are about to start their own IVF treatment and I’m so excited for them. I would love a niece or nephew to spoil and my son would be so happy...but I still want to have another myself.</p> <p>I tell myself that it’s not the right time and I’ll think about it more seriously next year, but I can’t help it. What did you do while you were waiting to try again? Focus in your career? Health and fitness? I want to feel like I have a plan in place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-and-your-so-want-a-different-of-kids-who-won#post-2891874 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 21:27:16 +0000 crazydoglady 2891874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...the person who wanted less or the person who wanted more?</p> <p>My husband has always been set on two while I have been 2, maybe 3. After our second, he was basically running to the urologist for a vasectomy. So...we have 2. In our case, the person who wanted less got what they wanted.<br /> What about you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-birth-control-after-baby#post-2886262 Sat, 01 Jun 2019 09:10:03 +0000 dc yoga bee 2886262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone opt to not take hormonal birth control after baby? I am exclusively breastfeeding my 14 week old son. I have pcos and went through infertility to get both my kids. I’d rather not take hormonal birth control and allergic to copper. I didn’t experience any improved fertility after my firstborn either like some do with pcos. Yet, I have friends who got a miracle third baby after infertility. We have discussed the risks and would welcome a third child as the miracle it would be. But, it feels weird. I haven’t had a period so I can’t do natural family planning right now either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guilt-about-having-a-second#post-2884419 Tue, 14 May 2019 10:39:25 +0000 DillonLion 2884419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is like, the most common feeling ever, but I am struggling with feeling so guilty over taking away my kid's "only child" status. </p> <p>We were planning on being one-and-done and have a pretty big gap (nearly 7 years) between kids. We've told her her whole life that she's going to be an only child. This baby is a surprise. We are happy and excited for this surprise, except for these lingering feelings about siblinghood for my DD. </p> <p>Anyway, she's just my main gal! I feel so bad like rocking her whole life with this tiny baby brother that she may or may not wind up being close with in life. They won't really be able to play together since they are so far apart in age. And now our resources are split in terms of helping her pay for college, etc. </p> <p>I'm an only child so I don't know how to navigate sibling relationships, and DH's relationship with his brother is super strained. </p> <p>How did you resolve your guilt over a change in your expected family size? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/deciding-to-be-done-even-though-youd-like-one-more#post-2883561 Tue, 07 May 2019 12:56:45 +0000 agold 2883561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we are stopping at two kids. :bummed: My husband and I would both really like one more, but we think our lives are best to accommodate just two kids for various short and long term reasons. Is anyone stopping at their current number of kids, even though in a perfect world they would like one more? It's just a little sad for me because more and more this feels like a final decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-family-was-complete-any-experience-with-a-4-year-age-gap#post-2874627 Sat, 02 Mar 2019 17:25:08 +0000 peaches1038 2874627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are trying to decide if we want to add to our family or if we will be one and done. DS is just about 3.25 yo and he is just awesome. Yes, he is a preschooler with big emotions and pushes boundaries, but he is seriously a pretty easy kid and so cute and funny and clever. DH and I both work outside the house full time and we live in extremely high COL area. We always thought we would have 2 kids, but when I got my IUD removed in January, I began to have second thoughts. Both DH and I could go either way and I feel like that is making the decision harder! I can imagine our life with just DS or with another child and they both seem lovely, just in different ways. If we do have another one, we would be looking at a 4.25 year age gap at least. Also for reference, I am 33 and DH is 34</p> <p>So! Two questions!<br /> How did you know your family was complete?<br /> Any experience with a 4+ year age gap? Pros? Cons? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/siblings-with-birthdays-close-together#post-2844362 Sun, 09 Sep 2018 19:30:45 +0000 cat620 2844362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are trying for a third. If I were to get pregnant this month, my baby would be born around June 15th, and my oldest son's birthday is June 18th. Would you skip this month so their birthdays aren't so close together? If any of you have a birthday close to a sibling, did it bother you growing up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-another-child-after-4-year-gap#post-2841410 Thu, 23 Aug 2018 16:36:36 +0000 cat620 2841410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm wanting to hear from those who have had another child after a 4+ year age gap. Was it hard to go back to the baby stage after being out of it for so long? Any advice you can give me?</p> <p>DH says he would like a third, and it would be a minimum of a 4 year gap for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-or-three-year-age-gap#post-2835318 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 13:45:37 +0000 LemonJack 2835318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are likely trying for baby #3 at some point, and right now I’m debating on whether I want to try for a two or three year age spread. Our first two kids are three years apart and I LOVE it. Our first was definitely more challenging, and also didn’t sleep, so by three years she had calmed down a bit, was sleeping better, and was able to be more independent when her sister arrived.</p> <p>DD2 is 13 months, and the total opposite temperament wise. Super chill and easy since the beginning, and I can see it being fine with her having a younger sibling at 2. </p> <p>I was pretty set on having another three year spread for a few reasons, but I can see the advantage of just getting the pregnancy and infant years over with at this point. Plus I’m not getting any younger. Age isn’t a huge factor (I’m in my mid 30’s), but something I’m thinking about.</p> <p>So, for those of you with a two or three year spread, what did you like/not like? It’ll be especially helpful to hear from those of you with three or more children! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-what-you-wanted#post-2813218 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 18:39:06 +0000 stormborn 2813218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to wait for so long for my husband to feel ready for kids, like years. When he finally came around and we tried for a baby I had a miscarriage. Now I have my sons and I wouldn’t trade them for the world, but I always thought I’d have a little girl. It feels like everyone around me got exactly what they wished for sometimes and I feel so incomplete. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811199 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 09:55:39 +0000 cat620 2811199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are still deciding whether to have a third child or not. I think one big concern I have that keeps me from saying yes is being able to handle three kids on my own. I'm a SAHM, and my husband works a lot, so it usually is just me with the kids until after dinner. I like to stay active and do things with my kids like go to the park, the children's museum or other kid friendly places. It's getting easier now that my youngest is 2.5. I can easily handle the two boys by myself and can even relax a little while they play together. DH and I also like to travel a lot, and we take an annual trip to Disney World with the boys as well as go on beach and mountain trips. Having two is nice, because we can each take one if we're doing different activities (like certain rides at Disney World). </p> <p>My MIL had three kids, and DH says they rarely went anywhere and spent the majority of the time at home, because it was too overwhelming for his mom to take them places by herself. That's what I'm worried about. Another example is my boys' preschool did a family event outside of school, and I asked my friend with 3 kids if she was going. Her reply was no, because her husband wasn't home that day and she couldn't handle the 3 kids by herself. I don't want to be in a situation where I have to turn down events or invitations because I can't manage 3 kids alone. </p> <p>If you have three kids, do you still go out and do things? How do you manage them on your own? Does anyone have thoughts on this topic? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-3#post-2811296 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:01:01 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2811296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you plan on a 4th? </p> <p>I feel like we've gotten this question a lot because we should "even it out." Doesn't help we have two girls and one boy rather than 3 of the same! But we are done and considering permanent bc options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-get-rid-of-all-the-baby-stuff#post-2804814 Sat, 17 Feb 2018 17:38:05 +0000 cat620 2804814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is 99% sure he doesn't want another baby. We have two boys - 4 and 2.5 years-old. I was on the fence for a while about having a third, but now as my boys get older, I feel less and less like going through the baby stage again. DH says we should get rid of all the baby clothes and gear, since there's no point keeping it if we're done having babies. While I'm pretty sure I'm done, part of me is afraid I might change my mind later or we could have a surprise pregnancy. I wouldn't want to be in a situation where I got rid of everything, and then had to go out and buy everything all over again. How did you decide to get rid of all the baby stuff? Did you regret getting rid of everything after you did? Are you glad it's all gone? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2799978 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 13:33:05 +0000 CRGmama 2799978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What did you decide?</p> <p>Basically, I always wanted 3. I’m the middle sibling with an older brother and younger sister and I adore my siblings. We are all 2 years apart. I have 2 boys now, they are about to turn 2 and 4 next month. My husband is happy with two and it would take a lot of campaigning on my part to convince him for another, although I’d ideally like to wait another year so my oldest will be in school. Logistically it makes more sense to be done with 2 but I just don’t feel at this point like I’m done. Anyone care to share what worked for their family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids-1#post-2793894 Thu, 28 Dec 2017 13:20:52 +0000 cat620 2793894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm happy with my two boys, and life is getting easier now that my youngest is almost 2.5. I was holding on to all the baby clothes, toys and other items in case we decided to have a third, but now I'm not sure if that will happen. The older my youngest gets, the less I want to go through pregnancy, childbirth and the newborn stage again. I'm also thinking about the future and all the trips we can take and how it will be easier to handle two kids when we go out. I feel like I could give my kids more attention and time if we stopped at two.</p> <p>But at the same time, I can't bring myself to get rid of the baby stuff and be 100% sure I'm done having kids. A small part of me thinks maybe I want to try for a girl, or maybe two kids isn't enough excitement in my life. My kids are growing up so fast, and maybe it would be nice to have a little baby to hold again. It's frustrating, because I want to make a decision one way or the other. So if you're 100% done having kids, how did you make that decision? Do you ever think about having another baby, or do those thoughts stop eventually? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-one-and-done-addressing-sibling-questions#post-2794022 Fri, 29 Dec 2017 10:12:44 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2794022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 4.5 year old daughter is likely going to be an only child. There's a chance that we might adopt in a few years, if we can make it work financially, but biologically, due to physical/fertility issues, she's going to be an only. Although she has tons of friends who are also only's, we're starting to get questions about when her brother or sister will be coming. Unfortunately it's exacerbated by her not having any cousins (both hubby and I have younger brothers, neither of whom want kids at this point), and we don't have a particularly solid community of friends around us, so she's definitely feeling lonely at times with just her dad and I. We do everything we can to spend times with friends we do have, and she goes to school so she has kids around her, but I can definitely understand her curiosity around this. We've talked about how families come in different sizes, and pointed out other kids she knows who don't have brothers and sisters, but I feel like we're coming up short on this. Any ideas folks have deployed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-better-to-have-four-or-more-kids-than-three#post-2587859 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 14:05:51 +0000 cat620 2587859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read an article online that cited a study that said three kids is the most stressful number to have. The moms of three kids said they feel a lot of pressure to be the perfect parent even though having three kids makes it much harder to give individual attention to each child. Ironically, the mothers of four kids reported feeling less stressed. They said after having their fourth, they gave up on trying to be perfect and gave in to the chaos that is their lives. They also said the kids were more likely to pair up instead of having one left out, which made things easier on them. </p> <p>I'm wondering if anyone has personal experience with this. Do you have three or four kids, or did you grow up in a family that did? If so, do you agree with the study? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-to-wait-to-ttc-at-a-new-job-without-fmla#post-2781213 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 06:43:00 +0000 dc yoga bee 2781213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! I've been away from the boards a bit. We TTC #2 since LO #1 was a little over a year old, and she's now 2.5. After two failed clomid cycles, we've been taking a break TTC. I had been thinking of leaving the federal government for a while, so when an amazing opportunity came up to go to a family friendly company I took it. That being said, my new firm is small small small. FMLA exempt small. As a lawyer in a busy litigation practice, I'm not TTC my first month as I'm establishing myself. </p> <p>I've lost a little over 40 lbs over the past year, and am hoping that will help the PCOS, and TTC. But, how long would you, or did you wait to TTC at a demanding new job that was FMLA exempt? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-heart-wants-a-3rd-my-brain-is-trying-to-convince-me-otherwise#post-2779465 Fri, 13 Oct 2017 13:15:01 +0000 maggierose 2779465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coming from a small family, I always dreamed about having a big family with lots of kids running around, big family holiday get-togethers, family vacations, etc. Right now, I have a 3 y/o son and an 8 m/o daughter. I loved being pregnant and had two easy pregnancies and deliveries. I always knew I wanted a third (or more!), but agreed to wait and see how we felt once number two arrived. I definitely don’t have that feeling of being “done” that so many people talk about; even though we have one of each so everyone tells us “oh great, now you can be done!”. Despite re-living the exhaustion of the newborn phase, and the complete chaos that is life with two, my heart still feels compelled to have another. </p> <p>However, the logical part of my brain is telling me to think long and hard: two kids in daycare is expensive; kindergarten is not that far off for my first, but do we want to extend that cost with a third? Would I just stay home at that point? Either way, money would be a factor – not to mention financing three kids’ college degrees, needing to buy a bigger car, family vacations for three. I feel like we would find a way to make it work, but no doubt things would be tighter.</p> <p>Time is another issue: my husband and I barely have time to connect as is and are both so exhausted at the end of the day. I don’t have much “me” time. In fact, I’m just now getting to the point where I can squeeze in a workout occasionally or get out for a girls night every so often; I know having a third would probably make those things impossible at least for a few years.</p> <p>Between both working, our time with the kids is sacred. As my husband says “why do you want another kid? We barely spend time with the ones we have.” While I see his point, the time we spend with them is quality time, and if I could stay home that would be a moot point. </p> <p>One more thing I consider is how my current kids would feel about expanding our family, primarily my son. He is an introvert and extremely attached to me; the adjustment to having a sibling wasn’t easy at first, although it’s better now that the baby can interact more and he is more independent. He does like to make her laugh, which is so heartwarming, but he also does occasionally get jealous for my attention. How would he do with another sibling? The baby is shaping up to be more of a social butterfly who loves watching her brother and other kids and I think it would be nice for her to have another sibling. I also think either way it would be great for one of them to have a sibling of the same sex. I always just had a brother, and I dreamed of having a sister for the longest time. </p> <p>My husband is not really inclined to have a third, but he knows I want one and has indicated that he would maybe be open to trying if it’s what I really want; but tends to more remind me of all the “down sides” of a third and I think he’s trying to convince me not to go for it.</p> <p>What do you guys think? What would you do in my situation? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/benefits-of-larger-age-gap#post-2760714 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 17:57:07 +0000 LaughLines 2760714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having another miscarriage, this baby was due when my dd will be turning 3. </p> <p>I had always wanted a small age gap but I've had 2 miscarriages now and many months of infertility. I'm really struggling with the big age gap that we will eventually have if i get pregnant again.</p> <p>Please tell me reasons why a 3.5 year + age gap isnt so bad </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/managing-baby-fever-when-you-are-so-done#post-2725803 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:07:25 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2725803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH and I are so, so done. Logically, I know that we should not have three kids (finances, future expectations, my age, my emotional well-being, DH's career, etc.). But my oldest is starting kinder and my younger is turning 2 this Friday and I'm hurting here!! We've considered adopting later in life if our financial situation is still stable, and that is still an option, but there's a part of me that wants to throw it all out and try for a third. I feel like my body is betraying my mind. Anyone else in this situation that wants to be emotional with me? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-one-amp-done-regrets#post-2747583 Wed, 14 Jun 2017 18:20:50 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2747583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an AMA mama &amp; it took us almost 1yr to conceive DD, so that is at least half of my driving force in trying to accept we are probably one &amp; done, but I do have other personal feelings about how this is probably the right choice for us, too. I'm not 100% convinced of my feelings, but I have been selling off the larger baby items we had for DD &amp; while I was fine with clearing that stuff out a little at a time, I find myself today feeling sad &amp; a bit regretful about only ntnp &amp; wasting time that we could've conceived a 2nd baby. I learned today in a play group that one mama is having twins (which will give them 4 under 4!), another mama whose LO is my DD's age is newly pregnant, and a family member is expecting. I didn't expect to be so envious, but I had to fight back a tear &amp; lump in my throat. I guess I'm just venting, but curious how other mamas have felt about "just" having one when other families around you are growing--and sometimes quickly. Our LO is the light of our lives &amp; all we could've asked for in a child, but part of me does want to be pregnant again &amp; have a sibling for her. :bummed: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-and-your-so-didnt-or-dont-agree-on-having-another#post-2744461 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 16:54:11 +0000 josina 2744461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did you come to a final decision? Who conceded and how did the other person make peace with that? </p> <p>Just curious to hear other's stories. DH and I have 2 LO's plus my step-daughter. He would like to be done, I would like another, but we're holding on any permanent decisions until DD (3-1/2 mo) is closer to two. Right now I'm hoping w/i the next 2 years one of us will change our minds, and I'm working on being comfortable with the idea of being done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-a-second-child#post-1168623 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 12:12:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1168623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is going to be a very messy question, so please bear with me! </p> <p>For those of you who have a second child (on the outside or still baking on the inside),or who want a second (or third, fourth, etc.!), what was the reason (and/or moment) when you knew that's what you wanted, and why? </p>