https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:06:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/so-upset-infertility-sucks-just-a-big-vent-post#post-2916634 Fri, 19 Jun 2020 09:58:28 +0000 Umbreon 2916634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have normal 28 day cycles. I know when I ovulate because I get pain in my side every damn time. DH is healthy. We are both healthy. Unexplained infertility just plain sucks.</p> <p>Why cant I get pregnant naturally? Why? Why is it so hard?</p> <p>I had an appt with the fertility clinic yesterday. She said I have to wean LO. Fine. I was expecting that. I don't want to but I want another baby so I'll do it. I need to get blood tests done, one on cycle day 3 which wont be for awhile as I'm on cycle day 7 now. So next month. Then they get the results and so dr said I could start the IUI cycle after that.</p> <p>She told me to message the nurses through the online portal so they are informed. Covid has changed things up.</p> <p>The nurses informed me today after I wean I need to have two normal periods before they will do the IUI. "Sorry if Dr didnt mention that"</p> <p>I'm just soooo upset. There is no way we will get our first IUI in august like I was hoping. Maybe sept if I am able to wean asap. Which is just a month difference but still. </p> <p>I dont want to wean. I enjoy bfing so much. I just have so many emotions about all this. It just sucks.</p> <p>I guess working from home has its perks and I can take time away to have a good cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890560 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:55:15 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2890560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m having a rough week. I have been dealing with severe anxiety on and off for the last 10 years. Various things will trigger it and send me into a tailspin of panic attacks and debilitating depression and worry. That’s happening right now. Plus, we are 3 months behind on our mortgage and some of our bills due to my business being very slow this year (I’m a wedding photographer). Among other stressors (such as my dad undergoing chemo), I just feel like going forward with treatment right now, this week, would be irresponsible. However, I’ll be 41 in September. I already have low AMH. I had a good follicle count on Sunday and I’ve already done 3 days of injections. My husband thinks we should stop at least for now (maybe stop trying all together). But he says he’s on board for whatever I decide. What would you do? </p> <p>This would be our third baby if we were to get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/re-and-iui#post-2890226 Sun, 07 Jul 2019 14:32:15 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2890226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Went in to get started with my IUI cycle this morning. RE told me that at my age (almost 41) 85% of my eggs won’t be viable. He also said that most pregnancies I have will end before 6 weeks. Then he went on to say that basically we better plan on genetic testing because we want to know if our baby will be abnormal. I mean, I knew the statistics sucked, but gosh. Way to be a downer, Doctor! I had 7 antral follicles on each ovary- more than I had with my other two IUIs resulting in my daughters. So, I’m taking that as a good sign. We only get to try this one cycle because of insurance. So, here’s hoping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ttc-to-iui-to-ttc-to-iuiaahhhh#post-2856891 Thu, 15 Nov 2018 10:54:53 +0000 mrsrobertson15 2856891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what took me so long to find this site, but I am so happy I did! We've been TTC for almost 3 years now. We tried on our own for a while, then went through 3 rounds of IUI, with Clomid and trigger shots, and had no luck. After being mentally and emotionally drained, we decided to take a break. That was a year ago. We still were TTC on our own but just playing the every 2 day game to cover our bases and not really focus too much on it. With no luck, we have now made our way back to IUI land and had our first one this morning. The doctor said he is willing to try a few cycles again before we take to IVF route, because everything checks out normal in both of us. It's so hard to remain positive, and to not feel like there must be something we are doing wrong. Reading everyone's stories this morning has been so helpful, and I am just looking for all the support I can find right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trigger-shot-and-timing#post-2835305 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 12:17:34 +0000 Stardust17 2835305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m on my third round of Femara and 2nd round of getting the ovidrel trigger shot. My husband suffers from ED and even with medication, sometimes we aren’t able to BD (as in he can’t climax). My question is on timing. We can usually have success if there has been 72 hours in between BD’ing. I’m getting my trigger shot on Friday (CD12) at 10am. We plan to BD that night but it won’t be possible to do it for the next several nights. My last 2 cycles I have ovulated on CD 14 (per digital OPK, last month I didn’t do trigger shot). So, should we try for Sunday or do you think waiting until Monday evening will still be ok? I’m worried Sunday won’t be successful. He’s so discouraged but I’m supportive. We are both 36 and this is just life. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-ttc-2-that-dealt-with-infertility-for-your-1st#post-2594688 Thu, 28 Jul 2016 15:27:44 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2594688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Everyone!<br /> I have a 15 month old from IVF and we are finally talking about TTC for #2 in a couple months. Anyone else in a similar situation? How long are you trying naturally before going back to your RE? We have 3 frozen embryos but moved to a new state so it will complicate things a little if we do go that route. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wives-tales-or-supplements-for-ttc-infertility#post-2764969 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 14:22:57 +0000 LaughLines 2764969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What have you tried to help conceive? Here are all the things I did when i got pregnant last time. I had a miscarriage (2nd one) so I'll be trying again soon and wanted to make a list and see if anyone had any other suggestions. I have pcos so some of these may be specific to that.</p> <p>B-complex<br /> Iron<br /> CoQ10<br /> Mucinex from cd12 on (i ovulate later than normal, so others might do this sooner)<br /> Drink Pom juice mixed with ground flax seed every day first half of cycle to increase estrogen<br /> Eat slice of pineapple (including core) for 5 days after ovulation<br /> Drink over a gallon of water a day<br /> BD EOD from cd 10 past ovulation<br /> Opks<br /> Low carb (low gi) diet</p> <p>I also am on metformin, take femera, and do IUIs, but that's not wives tale stuff </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-can-i-support-my-friends-going-through-infertiliy#post-2756715 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 12:05:46 +0000 snowjewelz 2756715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two real life friends going through infertility. One is pretty open (to us anyway) about it; basically after doing rounds of clomid/IUI and what not, she went to a new doctor and he said she had thin lining so they're trying t amp up the lining. I've checked in with her here &amp; there.</p> <p>I have another friend that so far just has diagnosed infertility due to a few miscarriages. She is definitely feeling bitter/sad, esp now since it was just the due date of her 2nd lost pregnancy. I also just tell her I'm here for her, check up on her, etc. </p> <p>Anything else I can say/do? On mother's day I gave her a gift that I was prepping for all moms at our church and she said she was so touched to be included. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaching-out-to-friend-who-is-struggling-with-if#post-2735786 Sun, 14 May 2017 16:33:58 +0000 Miss Flamingo 2735786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello, I have a very lovely friend who is struggling with IF. I was thinking of reaching out to her today, because I think today (Mother's Day) might be really hard for her and I've been thinking about her all day. But I don't know if that would make it harder or if that seems strange or insensitive. What do you guys think? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/late-and-scared-to-test#post-2765008 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 15:57:58 +0000 Jellyfish 2765008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hi ladies, need some emotional support... we have unexplained IF, have been TTC #2 for awhile now and had a CP last sept. Recently I underwent 2 injectable IUI cycles that ended with BFNs. after the last cycle I developed ovarian cysts and am currently on a rest. but my period is late, just a few days but i'm usually really regular... i'm guessing it could be just the ovarian cysts and/or hormones making this cycle wonky but part of me is wondering whether there's a chance I'm preggers. I want to test but don't want to face the disappointment of seeing another BFN. not sure what i'm looking for, maybe just virtual hugs :) has anyone been on a rest cycle and had a late period? or gotten pregnant? thx for reading! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-effective-are-the-fertility-clinics-in-dealing-with-infertility-without-the-obvious-ivf#post-2748066 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 16:37:14 +0000 Curious_Katty 2748066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been trying to conceive for about past 8 months. Though no major infertility issue has been detected in me or my partner, somehow our efforts have proved to be futile so far. Even the use of OKT didn't help. At infertility support, I have heard about the obvious IVF already but reluctant to opt for it just yet. Did anyone ever face a similar issue? What were the alternatives to IVF that your fertility clinic offered? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dreading-the-ttc-process#post-2740922 Fri, 26 May 2017 18:53:45 +0000 pachamama 2740922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will try to keep this brief. I was diagnosed with Diminished ovarian reserve with an AMH of .3, FSH 12-33, few follicles, low testosterone and progesterone, after TTC 13 cycles but I am otherwise a healthy 33 year old. I got pregnant by some miracle (on a canceled IUI cycle with an RE) and have a happy and healthy 16 month old! So I am very lucky to somehow have gotten pregnant. My son is a gift I never thought I'd have. Now we'd love a second. We wanted them about 2 years apart....<br /> So I had to wean to get my period and all the torture of the TTC process is coming back. We have only been trying 2 months but I DON'T WANT TO GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN. I am already stress/ low-progesterone spotting, stressing about sex (that I really do not enjoy having). I will not go back to an RE. It failed every time before and the injectables were awful. I am dreading the depression I get every month when I start spotting and the sinking feeling of knowing deep down I am not pregnant. I am taking DHEA, coq-10, Vitex, vitamin e, reducing meat and daity, meditating and exercising. I will start my Progesterone supplements next cycle (I hate taking them!!)</p> <p>Just a vent I guess. I was hoping to be one of those unicorns "that got pregnant quick after #1!" but I am probably in it for the long haul again for months and months and am just bummed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/all-the-dor-ladies#post-1580990 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 13:33:22 +0000 spaniellove 1580990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last year when I found out I had DOR (diminished/low/poor ovarian reserve) and went through IVF, then IUI, then random treatments, I felt kind of lonely because there weren't many bees saying they had DOR. Now I think there are more. I was hoping we could all pool our collective knowledge and support since DOR is an especially tough thing to overcome and doctors have so little knowledge about it still. </p> <p>So...what has your journey looked like? How were you diagnosed or what made you suspect you have it? Is your RE knowledgeable about it? Has your doctor talked to you about the other health risks associated with it? (This is important!) Did they ever find a cause? Is there something you're curious about? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-inspiration-lt3#post-1119086 Sat, 28 Sep 2013 17:30:43 +0000 FaithFertility 1119086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to start an inspiration board! </p> <p>I know so many times it seems as if no one understands, the world and your body is against you and you just want to cry, give up or well drink a whole Liter of what ever!!!! </p> <p>I find so much piece in inspirational quotes, bible versus, peoples inspirational stories...</p> <p>So I wanted a Thread where people can post daily inspirations!!!!!<br /> &lt;3 &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-12516#post-2661702 Mon, 05 Dec 2016 17:24:36 +0000 SweetiePie 2661702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all, how is everyone?<br /> Any updates?</p> <p>For Fun:<br /> What is your favorite holiday memory (i.e. Most special or exciting)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-week-of-112116#post-2655522 Mon, 21 Nov 2016 19:34:10 +0000 SweetiePie 2655522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey ladies, I am so sorry I spaced on this! I just totally forgot! </p> <p>Any updates?</p> <p>For fun: what is your favorite Thanksgiving dessert? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-101116#post-2637085 Fri, 14 Oct 2016 17:17:15 +0000 SweetiePie 2637085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all, sorry for the delay! I didn't think people seemed interested last week so I skipped this week but now I see it was used!<br /> I guess I'll keep them going till no one replies at all ;-)</p> <p>What is your favorite fast food / takeout?</p> <p>Updates? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-10416#post-2631688 Tue, 04 Oct 2016 12:47:30 +0000 SweetiePie 2631688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Fall, y'all! I know it's been fall for about a week but this week REALLY feels like fall in NYC!</p> <p>What's new this week? Reminder this is for ANYONE going through any form/stage of IF. All welcome!</p> <p>For fun - if you could only eat one candy for the rest of your life, what would it be? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-check-in-92716#post-2628028 Tue, 27 Sep 2016 16:07:12 +0000 SweetiePie 2628028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As some of you have already seen in a previous post of mine, I wanted to try to bring back the IF checkins we used to have a few years back. This is for anyone going through any form of infertility/treatment. Whether you're in the diagnosis stage or waiting for your embryo transfer, this is the place to give a weekly update so we all have a place to reference key dates and status for each other without having to scan pages and pages. Chatting/discussion about specifics would still happen in the IVF thread, 6+ months TTC, etc. It's also an opportunity for those in the earlier stages of infertility to get a glimpse of what may come from those in the later stages.<br /> We'll give this a few weeks and if it doesn't really take off, no big deal. </p> <p>We also used to ask one or two more light-hearted questions :-)</p> <p>What's the best vacation you've ever taken and why?<br /> Updates? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/weekly-if-check-in-poll#post-2625275 Thu, 22 Sep 2016 09:35:37 +0000 SweetiePie 2625275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies,<br /> I was just having a conversation with @northstar on the IVF thread and we were "reminiscing" about the old weekly IF check-in threads from the days of yore. ;-)<br /> It was helpful to have one place weekly to give your update and keep track of everyone's status. It wasn't just for IVF'ers, it was anyone going through the different stages of IF (diagnosis, medicated cycles with TI, IUI, IVF, the whole shebang).<br /> We still had the IVF thread for a more comprehensive chat and IVF specifics, if that makes sense. And the TTC 6+ months, etc. </p> <p>If I took this on, starting the weekly threads, would you guys be interested? Or is it too confusing to have a weekly check in and a big IVF thread? Be honest! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insurance-experiences-wfet-for-2nd-baby#post-2426916 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 23:34:22 +0000 ineebee 2426916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have our beautiful IVF baby, and are thinking about a second. We're NTNP now and are thinking we'll probably end up having to use one of our four frosties in the next year or so. But I'm wondering what people's experiences with insurance were for FET for secondary infertility.</p> <p>For example, did you have to show that you were trying to conceive for a certain amount of time again? Did you have to get blood tests to see if you still have an IF diagnosis? Or any other experiences to share! I know everyone's experiences were probably different, but I'm curious what it looked like for HBers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sad-post-warning#post-2576828 Tue, 28 Jun 2016 11:07:10 +0000 mopeybuthopey 2576828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey guys - I am currently in the process of miscarrying. It's uncomfortable and sad. I'm doing ok mental health wise because I saw it coming, but can I vent for a moment? I have to go to the OB tomorrow for a follow up. I'm considering cancelling. First, not only are things a little gory at the moment, but second I don't think I can sit in the waiting room with all the many ladies having healthy happy pregnancies. I am an infertility veteran so to conceive on my own was a moonshot and then to lose the pregnancy is totally gutting. Has anyone ever had to go to an appointment like this in the midst of miscarrying? Help me be strong. Or should I just cancel. My heart can't bear it. Thank you for reading this sad lament. Xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/un-happy-mothers-day-to-those-of-you-with-if#post-2543601 Sat, 07 May 2016 10:05:18 +0000 BSB 2543601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of those of you with IF. I remember logging out of social media to avoid the pain and reminder that I was not a mother.<br /> :heart: :heart: :heart:<br /> You are not alone and I hope next year you are pregnant or have a child in your arms. :goodluck: :goodluck: :goodluck:<br /> Try to hold onto hope. </p> <p>[attach=147/16/o6tb8u.236x236.image.jpeg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/infertility-cards#post-2531932 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:42:00 +0000 raspberries 2531932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stumbled on this Etsy shop and thought it might be relevant for those of us with close friends going through infertility (or going through it ourselves.)</p> <p><a href="https://www.etsy.com/shop/TTCGreetingCards" rel="nofollow">https://www.etsy.com/shop/TTCGreetingCards</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unexplained-infertility-any-successes#post-2525788 Fri, 15 Apr 2016 08:50:19 +0000 LoveHope 2525788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies. I'm back after being away since December. I've just been on an emotional roller coaster the last few months.<br /> I just had my 3rd IUI a few days ago and may have to look into ivf if we're not successful. Anyone with unexplained infertility have IUI success? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/message-on-flowers#post-2432633 Fri, 22 Jan 2016 08:30:23 +0000 LBee 2432633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my good friends just did her final IVF transfer and found out that out of the 3 frozen embryos she had left, none made it through dethawing. She is, understandably, devastated. </p> <p>I plan to send flowers, but the message I ran by my husband -- "something to brighten your day" -- he said was too cliche. Any ideas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss-panelsclotting-factorspai-1-info#post-2410288 Tue, 05 Jan 2016 15:04:52 +0000 MaryM 2410288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm slowly starting to get my results back from the full loss panel (I had "part A" done in december and it all came back negative, so I asked for "part B," which wasn't ordered since I've "only" had two losses so it might not be covered)</p> <p>I called my OB for another reason today, and when the nurse called back she said everything was negative so far except I had slightly elevated plasminogen levels (PAI-1 I think). But she said the doctor said it wasn't "clinically significant."</p> <p>Has anyone else had high levels of whatever this is and have experience to share? Know what causes it or how it's treated? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-infertility-appointment-nervous#post-2398176 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 10:45:09 +0000 WinterBee 2398176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Bees,<br /> I haven't been too active lately since I got the news that I am most likely not ovulating on my own (suspected PCOS) from my family doctor. He referred me to an OB in the area who specializes in infertility and I have my appointment today! I met with my doctor on Dec. 4... so it's moving along pretty fast which I'm happy about.</p> <p>I am nervous for today though, I'm assuming he will ask a brief history, and tell us (DH and I) what will be happening in the upcoming weeks. My GP mentioned I would most likely be taking femara or clomid, but I'm not entirely sure what to expect.</p> <p>I'm overweight, and I'm afraid he's going to tell me, 'it's all your fault you can't have a baby, you're overweight and won't get pregnant until you go on a diet'. I know that's irrational, but that's where a lot of my nerves are coming from.</p> <p>Anywho, sorry for the rambling, but I feel a lot better just writing this down and look forward to reading others experiences.</p> <p>FYI, Ontario, Canadian bee here. Other Ontarians, please share! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coming-out-of-the-infertility-closet-if-you-will#post-2394899 Sun, 20 Dec 2015 08:21:29 +0000 Mrs. Pinky 2394899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told family at all about our infertility struggles and plan to do so this week...as in today and when we see the IL's in Christmas.<br /> Where do we start? How much to divulge? I didn't want to tell them for a few reasons (I.e., didn't want unsolicited advice, didn't want thousands of questions when I'm usually pretty private) but now feel their support would be great for both me and my dh.<br /> Anyway, did anyone else share this news after struggling for a while? It's not like we have super great news (I'm not pregnant) so I'm not even sure how I should bring it up.<br /> Any advice?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/funny-moviesshows-to-queue-for-if#post-2355694 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 14:08:59 +0000 GreenThumb 2355694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything I queue lately is either gory or depressing (or both). I need to laugh a little bit more heading into our next round of IVF. Can you help make a list of funny, silly, lighthearted or even inspiring/uplifting movies and shows to watch? TX! </p>