https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 08:23:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/trying-new-stuff-in-bed#post-2922288 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 11:35:26 +0000 Chuckles 2922288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa, the boards have been extra slow in the last week. I'm hoping to get some good participation here :grin: This question comes from what I was reading on another website the other day. A few people were saying that because they have been together for a long time with their partners, they have made an effort to try new things in bed (nothing crazy, just new positions or toys or something). DH and I have been together for 14 years. When we have sex, it's great, but it's also very predictable at this point. Generally the same stuff in about the same order. It got me thinking - should we be trying new stuff to keep things interesting? And at first I thought, well it's working for both of us, so who cares. And because of life, we don't have sex super often (like once a month or so), so there's not a lot of opportunity to test out something new that might not work for us. But then I pictured having this exact same sex for the next 20 years and was like, whoa - no. That sounds so boring. (an important related note is that DH is definitely not adventurous in bed and probably doesn't care at all if we don't do anything new). So my question is - do you consciously try new things in bed not because what you're doing isn't good, but just for the sake of keeping things interesting? How do you think it impacts your sex life? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-do-you-keep-yours#post-2918294 Sun, 16 Aug 2020 19:21:53 +0000 Corduroy 2918294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in a heat wave with no AC and today we had no power for 12 hours (thankfully it just returned). At some point midday the kids walked into the living room and presented me with my vibrator. Yikes. Which leads me to the question - where do you keep yours? </p> <p>Mine was in DH's nightstand because I figured the kids would be way less interested in his boring stuff. I previously had it in the master bathroom but after finding out MIL went through my master bath a few years ago to find a hair dryer I took it out of there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/vent-shelter-in-place-does-not-put-me-in-the-mood#post-2913756 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 14:08:57 +0000 Corduroy 2913756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's sex drive is way up with shelter in place and honestly it's the thing that's driving me nuts the most right now. #firstworldproblems.</p> <p>I do not feel like having sex all the time just because we're stuck at home!</p> <p>Now that I've shouted that, I understand physical touch is his language of love and he needs more of it when he's feeling vulnerable. We're having sex a handful of times a week through this. We're generally in a good place. This isn't a bad situation or anything just frustration with the shelter in place. </p> <p>But sh*t man back off with the constant come ons. I feel like I'm failing as a mom, a home (whatever you call this teacher), an employee, and intimate partner. </p> <p>I have been trying to make myself more available and make my rebuffing gentle but I just freaked out on him on something he said wasn't a proposal for sex (there have probably been 6 direct reminders this morning that we have a bedroom or that we could go fool around or similar). Forgive me DH for misinterpreting this last one. </p> <p>Is anyone else in this boat? Any suggestions for phrasing open and productive communication? Or suggestions for getting in the mood in less than ideal situations? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bding-when-you-have-kids#post-2885241 Wed, 22 May 2019 00:34:22 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2885241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you lock your door to ease your nerves of little ones walking in? Our door doesn’t have a lock. Considering getting one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-sex#post-2837211 Tue, 31 Jul 2018 20:06:25 +0000 Portboston 2837211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know there is no “normal” but...</p> <p>How often do you and your SO have sex and are you happy with that amount? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784296 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 15:11:21 +0000 travellingbee 2784296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How often do you, ya know....BD/DTD? I’m just curious what the average is? I don’t know why it doubled the last few answers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/small-nice-things-do-you-do-for-each-other#post-2711453 Thu, 16 Mar 2017 13:03:33 +0000 travellingbee 2711453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been in a fog of teething, illness, work and tantrums, and I am sensing that we need to start rebuilding some intimacy in our relationship. What small gestures do you and your SO do for each other to show love and affection? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-heard-of-grapefruiting#post-1728380 Fri, 27 Jun 2014 20:57:10 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1728380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone told me that they "grapefruit" their husband to get him through the six-week post-partum period. (And said person said they learned about it from other moms who did it to their husbands.)</p> <p>Apparently you cut the ends off a grapefruit as well as the insides (so it is a really thick ring) and you....ummmm.... jack off....your partner with it. </p> <p>But first you put it in the microwave. So it is supposedly warm and squishy and wet and feels just like the real thing. </p> <p>So.....who's running out to buy a grapefruit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-get-your-libido-back#post-2609636 Wed, 24 Aug 2016 08:15:09 +0000 arosebyany 2609636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>8 months post partum and I'm still really struggling, I'm starting to wonder if it's ever comeing back? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-lubricant-for-sensitive-skin#post-2562597 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 13:08:45 +0000 simplyfelicity 2562597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What's your favorite? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488230 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:02:58 +0000 Portboston 2488230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 7.5 months old &amp; EBF. I have ZERO desire for sex. Which is crazy since I could never get enough before. And when we do have sex, the bra stays on and my boobs are off limits. They're just so not sexual right now!</p> <p>If you breastfed, how did it affect your libido? If you lost that lovin feelin, when did it come back? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-have-sex#post-2483377 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 14:40:32 +0000 ladybee 2483377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 4 weeks PP after a RCS. I am itching to DTD badly! We are going out of town with friends next weekend (I'll be a little over 5 weeks PP) and I would love to drink, have fun and maybe have sex. I keep wondering if one week (not even, 4 days) makes that big of a deal. </p> <p>When did you DTD? With our first it was 11 weeks. I can't believe I feel good enough to want to sooner this time! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-sex#post-995060 Wed, 07 Aug 2013 06:07:29 +0000 Beyond2 995060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Alright... TMI but at what point did you start quieting down your sex life due to parenting? How do you remember to stay quiet while doing the deed? Apparently I'm struggling with this but thankfully my son isn't old enough to notice yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-sex-on-your-wedding-night-1#post-1197386 Tue, 05 Nov 2013 14:02:00 +0000 Beyond2 1197386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea why, but it never crossed my mind that someone might not have sex on their wedding night. Did you? Was it anyone's first time and yet still didn't have sex on their wedding night?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-sexy-time#post-1589139 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:12:05 +0000 LAZB 1589139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw an article yesterday that had some interesting stats, but I don't know if I believe all of them. One of the stats was that the average time people have sex for is 7 minutes. Is that true for you and your SO? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-were-you-ready-after-baby#post-2137053 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 16:42:45 +0000 TheReelDeal 2137053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Post baby when were you ready for sex? I'm 4 months post partum and I'm just not feeling it. Did you do anything special to feel sexy again? </p>