https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 01:45:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926907 Tue, 26 Apr 2022 18:01:02 +0000 Fawn 2926907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrswin: Thank you for sharing and congrats on your pregnancy! That's great your RE found something that works! Interesting to think that trying to create too many eggs at once could result in lesser quality eggs though I could understand that.</p> <p>At this point with 5 embryos left I think it makes more sense to get them tested rather than spend more money on transfers with possible abnormal embryos. It will cost more to go through these embryos than to do another retrieval.</p> <p>It never occurred to us that we would need to do another retrieval since we went into this with 8 embryos and we just want 1 more child. I still don't love the idea of doing a new retrieval but I do think we would do one more if that's our best option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926886 Tue, 26 Apr 2022 07:52:27 +0000 mrswin 2926886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are having such trouble with the FET's especially having been fortunate enough to create 10 embryos.<br /> In my case we never had enough embryos to justify doing the testing. My oldest daughter was from our first cycle (fresh transfer) but the two frozen from that same cycle ended in a chemical (blighted ovum) and a negative.<br /> We did another full cycle that was a complete bust with the majority of the eggs retrieved too immature to be fertilized. We transferred one embryo on Day 3 and it was negative. The RE we were seeing felt like there was some sort of genetic issue but all the testing we had done didn't identify anything specific.<br /> We decided to take a break and I started seeing a naturopath for some other health issues but she ended up putting me on an egg quality supplement along with B12 and a very high does of Vitamin D because my level was almost undetectable. Believe it or not after about 3 months on the supplements we ended up pregnant on our own :shocked: but that ended at 6 ish weeks in a blighted ovum.<br /> The new RE wanted to try a monitored Femera cycle with an Ovidril trigger. His theory was that by trying to get my body to make large amount of follicles in an IVF cycle was resulting in lots of low quality eggs so he wanted to make fewer better quality eggs. Unbelievably I am 23 weeks pregnant right now from that cycle - more than 5.5 years after we started trying to have a second. </p> <p>In your case I think you need to weigh the cost of the testing against the fact that you have spent $12k on failed transfers. Could the testing mean you will overall spend less at the end of the day by being able to focus on transferring only the viable embryos? If you found out that the rest of them are not viable would you consider another full IVF cycle? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926885 Tue, 26 Apr 2022 05:56:01 +0000 Fawn 2926885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: Yeah that's what I'm thinking now as well. I can't necessarily say it was a bad batch as we did have success the second transfer, but wondering if only 1 or 2 remaining embryos are healthy. At least I hope at least 1 is healthy if we get them tested. We are paying fully out of pocket and just spent $12k on 3 failed transfers which gets me super annoyed as well. </p> <p>My dr did tell me he has another young patient (I don't think I'm that young, but maybe I am in the RE world) that had a few failed transfers and got her remaining 7 embryos tested and they discovered only 3 were healthy so there's a good chance she would have gone through at least a few more failed transfers if she didn't get them tested. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926884 Mon, 25 Apr 2022 20:00:41 +0000 bhbee 2926884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not IVF specific (we only did IUIs) but my RE told us that some couples just make a lot of non-viable embryos - we had 5 documented losses (and I think maybe more like 7 counting early chemicals) and they never found anything else wrong. He told us, play the numbers game (try and try again) or do IVF with testing. I think it might be worth testing if the chemicals are taking a toll on you. At least then you’d know if you’re looking at a lot of genetic abnormalities or something else and it might help decide next steps. Hugs this is a long hard road :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926883 Mon, 25 Apr 2022 15:38:36 +0000 Fawn 2926883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@azbaby: I'm sorry you've dealt with failed transfers as well. My dr hasn't talked to me at all about my diet. I usually eat pretty healthy but can definitely cut out some sugar as I have a sweet tooth.</p> <p>My dr doesn't suggest anything besides testing the embryos as he seems to think we have just been unlucky with them choosing unhealthy embryos. I think his thinking is that we had success with IVF before so we will again if we just keep trying, which I suppose could be the case but I dont know. I was 30 during my IVF cycle in 2018 so I assumed most of the embryos would be healthy which is why we didn't test at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926882 Mon, 25 Apr 2022 15:06:38 +0000 azbaby 2926882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're going through this. We're trying to figure out our next step to grow our family too.<br /> Has your Dr recommended any supplements or diet changes? My only successful transfer was after I ate lots of healthy fats( Salmon,nuts,avocados). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-failed-fets-what-next#post-2926881 Mon, 25 Apr 2022 14:43:35 +0000 Fawn 2926881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know the infertility board isn't active at the moment, but I'm at a loss on what to do next. </p> <p>I conceived our first pregnancy naturally, but we ended up having a tfmr as the baby was not healthy. We then struggled to conceive again (unexplained infertility) and did multiple failed IUIs followed by one IVF cycle which resulted in 10 embryos. Our almost 3 year old daughter is from that batch of embryos so I figured when we wanted to try for a sibling it would be simple and work quickly. Unfortunately I've now had 3 failed FETs while trying for a sibling. If anyone has any experience with something like this I'd love to know what you did next or would suggest. I'm devastated and worried we won't be able to grow our family.</p> <p>As of now I'm thinking we should test our remaining 5 embryos even though it gets me nervous to thaw them to test them and then refreeze and then thaw again for transfer if any are healthy. I'm also going to ask to do an ERA. I did an endometrial biopsy to check for endometritis/infection back in Feb and that was all clear so I didn't see the need for an ERA since I've has a successful pregnancy with the standard timing. I really don't want to do another egg retrieval. Any other suggestions or advice on what to do next? I'm at a loss as this has been totally unexpected. </p> <p>Here's my IVF history:<br /> 1 egg retrieval resulted in 10 embryos<br /> Fresh transfer - chemical<br /> FET - 3 year old daughter<br /> FET - chemical<br /> FET - chemical<br /> FET - negative </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921395 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 22:47:59 +0000 winter_wonder 2921395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: hang in there!! Your comment on eBay made me laugh, glad you can keep a sense of humor at times. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921393 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 15:09:21 +0000 MoonMoon 2921393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: I'm so sorry about this update! Your attitude is so positive and you've been so strong. Screw 2020, for real. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921388 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 07:59:29 +0000 paranundrum 2921388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fawn: @winter_wonder: @yellowbeach: @Mrs. Pajamas: Thank you! :heart: </p> <p>So much time has passed with not even a hint of a positive pregnancy test, I'm starting to think it's all a hoax and everyone gets their kids from eBay or something...would you mind sharing a link? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921382 Mon, 07 Dec 2020 15:18:47 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2921382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: nooooooo ugh i'm so frustrated for you but continue to be amazed at your positivity. Just keep swimming right? So many hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921372 Mon, 07 Dec 2020 13:23:31 +0000 yellowbeach 2921372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: Ugh damn damn damn. 2021 promises to be a fresh start in so many ways. Let's hope that's what makes the difference. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921340 Sat, 05 Dec 2020 10:26:53 +0000 winter_wonder 2921340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: I'm sorry. I can only imagine how disappointed you are :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921337 Sat, 05 Dec 2020 08:38:18 +0000 Fawn 2921337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: I'm so sorry to hear this! You have been through so much. I was so hoping this was it for you. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921334 Sat, 05 Dec 2020 05:24:27 +0000 paranundrum 2921334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a happy update from me unfortunately, AF is starting.</p> <p>I had a little spotting on Thursday, thought I was out, but there was nothing yesterday and I deluded myself into thinking it still might be my turn... No luck. Today started with bleeding and cramping.</p> <p>I'll call my doc on Monday and find out, when I can start a new round. That probably won't happen before March or April. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921161 Mon, 30 Nov 2020 09:36:22 +0000 paranundrum 2921161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MoonMoon: @foodiebee: Thank you so much! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921159 Mon, 30 Nov 2020 09:24:29 +0000 paranundrum 2921159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: Thank you! :heart: </p> <p>I'm not sure, I don't like to test that much, they're always negative. :grin:<br /> Blood draw is on the 8th, presuming AF doesn't come before that. I might test on that day or a day before to soften the blow, but I also might chicken out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921152 Mon, 30 Nov 2020 06:02:11 +0000 yellowbeach 2921152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: Sorry I’m late to seeing your update. You do have the worst luck love. I’m frustrated for you. I wish your retrieval had yielded better results, but I’m glad your clinic was aggressive in going for the fresh transfer since they saw that opportunity. </p> <p>Will you test before beta? I can’t remember from the POAS board when you like to test. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921123 Fri, 27 Nov 2020 21:43:28 +0000 foodiebee 2921123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: Just getting caught up on this thread but wishing you so much luck with this!! Wow you've been through it, and I know covid is just making an already stressful, difficult experience all the harder. Sending you so many good vibes :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921122 Fri, 27 Nov 2020 18:52:03 +0000 MoonMoon 2921122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: So good to read an update from you. And wow, you have been through so many roller coasters! You are so strong. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, and sending you all the positive vibes :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921116 Fri, 27 Nov 2020 10:03:14 +0000 paranundrum 2921116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: @PurplePumps: @Jessiemuller88: @Mrs. Pajamas: @winter_wonder: @Fawn: Thank you so much, I really appreciate the support! :heart: </p> <p>It's usually not that hectic over there, but it's just my luck. My first round was just before the first covid wave and this one is right in the middle of the second one. They're probably really stressed over there too.</p> <p>And also as all of the procedures and most of the meds are free, I feel like I don't have too much to complain about anyway. The waiting sucks, but I'm still relatively young and can afford it for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921114 Fri, 27 Nov 2020 08:45:56 +0000 Fawn 2921114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: Oh my goodness, how stressful! Im sorry you had to deal with all of that. An IVF cycle is stressful enough without communication issues. Wishing you so much luck that this transfer was the one! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921067 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 19:26:39 +0000 winter_wonder 2921067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: oh my goodness. I would have been livid with the communication error. Wow! Wishing you all the luck!!! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921058 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 12:52:55 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2921058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: What a freaking nightmare! You poor thing. Wow you sound so positive considering all that you have been through. I'm amazed at your resilience and persistence (22 calls, I counted lolllll). I'm sure you're passing on these amazing traits to that little bean inside of you. Wishing you all the luck in the world. Please keep us posted!!! You deserve this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921055 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 12:03:57 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2921055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: wishing you all the sticky baby dust. You have been through so much, and I hope more than anything this is it for you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921053 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 10:02:01 +0000 PurplePumps 2921053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: holy moly what a... for lack of better terms... shit show!! Is your clinic typically this chaotic??<br /> Hopefully you wont need a third round next year! FX! :goodluck: :goodluck: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921049 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 08:51:39 +0000 bhbee 2921049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paranundrum: wow what you’ve been through! Wishing you all the luck for a sticky baby in this one :goodluck: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921048 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 08:36:44 +0000 paranundrum 2921048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi everyone, I hope you're doing well.<br /> I have an update! About time, right?! I thought about posting a few times before, but just didn't dare with my luck.</p> <p>So after my second unsuccessful frozen transfer in July, I was supposed to start the next full cycle in October. I went to the appointment and...they had forgotten to send me and SO to do some tests that needed to be done before starting a new round. I got mine done quickly, but I got an appointment for my SO for mid November - that would have pushed IVF to December and transfer possibly to January or February. That was the lowpoint for me in my seven and a half years of infertility so far. I was so broken. Two to three months delay for a communication error!</p> <p>I got my tests done and every time I had to go in, I went to the front desk and asked if they had any cancellations for the test my SO had to take and finally got a time for him for two weeks earlier. With that we were back on track to start in November. When my period started, I was supposed to call them to make an appointment. I called 22 times (I counted), the line was busy all the time and when I finally got to speak to the nurse, she rustled papers around for a few minutes and told me in a sad little voice, that they had no room for me that month, because my doctor had a vacation coming up. We could start the cycle over the phone and I would just start the shots, but they couldn't schedule me for an ultrasound. She thought for a bit and told me my only option was to write an e-mail to another doctor and ask if she had time for me. I didn't have much hope, but she wrote back and told me to start the shots the next day and come for the US in a week.</p> <p>The day before my appointment I got a call - the other doctor had to cancel and I had a new appointment with a third doctor and it was obvious it was squeezed in just for me, it was so late in the day and I was the last patient in the building. It was a bit funny. Things started to move fast after that, retrieval was scheduled three days later and that was done last Thursday.</p> <p>I woke up from the nap and they told me they would do a fresh transfer. I didn't see that coming, I was so sure it would go like last time.</p> <p>My first ever fresh transfer was this morning. Unfortunately we got only one good embryo from this cycle. I had 24 follicles with 14 eggs, 5 were mature, 3 fertilized and that went down to one - the little buddy I took home with me today.<br /> If this cycle fails, I'll probably start my third round next spring, but the times are so turbulent, we'll have to see what happens.</p> <p>As of now, I intend to be pregnant until they tell me I'm not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2921015 Sat, 21 Nov 2020 22:21:22 +0000 winter_wonder 2921015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fawn: thank you!! We feel really lucky and thankful that things seem to be going well :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-4/page/63#post-2920998 Sat, 21 Nov 2020 08:02:47 +0000 Fawn 2920998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winter_wonder: That's fantastic! I'm so glad everything is going well! :heart: </p>