https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 06:17:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gift-for-friend-whose-father-died#post-2858685 Tue, 27 Nov 2018 21:45:50 +0000 Jennibenni 2858685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My very close friend recently lost her father. At the time of his death I sent her flowers and a handwritten card, and I’d like to get her something meaningful that would help her remember him. I can’t decide what is cheesy or trite vs what is special? Any ideas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/persian-mamas-i-need-some-guidance#post-2850917 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 11:22:05 +0000 babycanuck 2850917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about a really awkward question.</p> <p>My hubby unexpectedly lost his best friend of 25+ years. He was Persian, though I don't know offhand if he was Muslim or Christian.</p> <p>I'm trying to prepare myself for an cultural sensitivities and what I might need to do to follow suit if they go with a traditional Persian funeral. If any of you have any insight, or any websites I should check out, please let me know. Google hasn't been very helpful, other than in Iran most people are buried quickly and in linen (similar to my own Jewish background). </p> <p>Also - are flowers acceptable?</p> <p>Thank you. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-do-you-do-10#post-2809300 Mon, 12 Mar 2018 14:52:43 +0000 FaithFertility 2809300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend had an etopic and her tube removed Wed.</p> <p>I've talked to her over the phone and to her DH who said she was still in pain and not up for talking, I've reached out to him for dinners/kid care and such and to her!</p> <p>She texted me yesterday saying she would call soon!</p> <p>I'm hearbroken for her and just feel awful, I feel she needs time, but I also want her to know she is not alone!</p> <p>Should I just go over?! </p> <p> I feel like I should?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-after-miscarriage#post-2522499 Tue, 12 Apr 2016 12:52:11 +0000 janeybee 2522499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend completely abandoned me after my miscarriage. In fact, it happened two weeks ago and I have yet to even lay eyes on her. She went to a party out of town the weekend after it happened. When she texted to ask what I was doing with my evening, I told her how much I was hurting and how much it would have meant to me to have her there, and she stopped talking to me for a week. She's texted me today, after a week of silence, and still seems to think this is a Jane issue - I didn't tell her exactly what I needed. Zero self-reflection. Zero consideration for how her behaviour contributed to this situation. I don't even think she bothered to google what she should do to help. </p> <p>She doesn't see this as the significant loss I feel it has been, which is all I keep telling myself because it's the only way I can even start to wrap my head around how she's separated herself from me. </p> <p>I feel like I'm grieving the loss of my baby, the loss of my excitement, the loss of a new part of my relationship with my husband, the loss of the future I was imagining, and on top of all that I'm grieving the loss of my friendship. And she doesn't even seem to notice. </p> <p>I'm heartbroken on so many levels. And I don't know what to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offering-condolences-to-our-neighbor#post-2438810 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 12:32:34 +0000 littlejoy 2438810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our neighbor's husband passed away last weekend, after a long battle with cancer. We aren't super close to them, but our street is pretty close-knit in general &amp; friendly, so of course I'd like to reach out. I'm wondering how to offer condolences, without being invasive. </p> <p>Should I drop off food (in freezer ready containers)? Leave a card? If I leave food, do I just assume no one has food allergies? Maybe a basket of snacks? I'm at a loss ... </p> <p>Another neighbor (who I'm very close to) mentioned that the family (they have 4 young sons) is pretty private, and would like this time respected, which means no visitors. I do know that the husband was a jazz musician since the 70's, so us neighbors will be making a contribution to a youth jazz program in his honor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-a-reminder-on-your-due-date#post-2307415 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:23:27 +0000 mediagirl 2307415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you lost a baby midway into your pregnancy (after you had announced, planned the baby shower, started setting up the nursery), would you want someone to remember your baby's due date? Would you want someone to send you a card and say they are thinking of you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-care-package-ideas#post-1831786 Fri, 22 Aug 2014 19:08:34 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1831786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend just suffered a miscarriage and I'm heartbroken for her. Would really like to send her a thoughtful care package. Any ideas? All I've got up my sleeve are some of her favorite snacks, and celebrity gossip magazines. I would send her one of my favorite books on loss, but she's not much of a reader. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957946 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:04:05 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1957946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When talking about pregnancy, parenting, infertility, etc with my friends sometimes my miscarriage comes up. I don't go out of my way to talk about it though. Its been several months now so it's not very fresh in my mind. </p> <p>My best friend lost her first pregnancy early like I did, so it is nice to have someone I can talk to who relates to what I'm feeling if I need to. And the same for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-just-feel-so-sad#post-1940217 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 21:38:16 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1940217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is mostly just a vent. I have no one to tell this to (other than DH &amp;I just need to talk.)</p> <p>I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with my second. At the end of September I got the thrilling news that my best friend of 14 years was pregnant too! Based on calculations, she was about 6 weeks behind me. About 4 weeks ago she sadly (&amp; tragically) miscarried. Having never experienced this I didn't know what to do. I dropped off some yummy treats &amp; a funny movie at her house for she &amp; her husband. I am doing my best to be there for her without being over bearing or making her feel like she has to talk about it nor that she has to act like everything is okay. I sometimes (once a week tops) text her to say I love her &amp; hope she has a good day at work or that I miss her. She usually just says thanks or you too. </p> <p>I know social media is not a good gauge of how well someone is doing but I've seen on FB her inviting her BIL &amp; his girlfriend to go on vacation with them &amp; stuff so it's hurting me a little that she isn't talking to me. I understand completely why she wouldn't want to talk to me but other than DH, she's all I have. She's my other half &amp; I'm really missing her. The past week or so I just feel desperately sad because I miss her &amp; am scared this may be a rift we can never cross. Usually when a problem arises, I can generally just bring it up with her &amp; we discuss it &amp; vice versa but that doesn't really seem applicable here, especially because she isn't doing anything wrong. I'm just sad because I really love her and miss her and feel overwhelmingly sad for her.</p> <p>Thanks for listening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/something-special-for-a-dear-friend#post-1843128 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 19:27:52 +0000 lady grey 1843128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A dear friend of mine just lost her mother from cancer. They knew the end was near and my friend, who was newly engaged, planned her wedding in about week just so her mom could be there. Then her mom died the day before the wedding. :( So so sad. My friend lives in Seattle, but her family and mine are all on the east coast, and thats where the wedding took place. I wasn't able to be there.</p> <p>Anyway, I know my friend and her husband want to do some kind of wedding celebration with their friends when they return to Seattle. I really want to do something special for her. Any ideas? She didn't have a wedding shower or a bachelorette party, so I could help plan that. But she is a very outdoorsy type and not too girly. Or maybe we could just do something special together- need ideas- help!</p> <p>BTW, she also did a lot to help me out with my wedding and basically planned my whole bachelorette weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-lost-baby-at-24-weeks-thoughts-on-what-i-can-do#post-354755 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 18:43:43 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 354755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend at work was expecting a baby in February. We're not best friends, but we've had fun bonding over our pregnancies. She had a sonogram this afternoon and they didn't find a heartbeat. She was six months along. She was obviously showing (with 100+ teachers and 900+ students a lot of people were in the know), she'd already registered and received presents, etc. </p> <p>I can't even imagine what she's going through. I'd like to do something thoughtful for her - I think she's being induced tomorrow - but no idea what would be appropriate. </p> <p>Any ideas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-a-friend-through-a-mc#post-301684 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 19:01:02 +0000 Mrs. Pen 301684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good friend of mine just miscarried today. I really want to show her some support and love but I'm not sure how... If you MC'ed would you appreciate a care package? What would you like in it? I am thinking for sure some yummy homemade treats and of course a special card- what else? Or would that be a bad idea?</p> <p>Here's the sticky part - she doesn't know that I knew she was pregnant... and she doesn't know that I know that she miscarried. But we are good friends - good enough that she told me when she first started TTC back in April. My heart just breaks for her.</p> <p>Any advice or ideas on how to show love/support would be so appreciated! Thanks ladies </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-miscarriage#post-174716 Thu, 31 May 2012 14:02:03 +0000 knittingmama 174716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and all of my cousins (3 of them) are currently pregnant, but one of them had a late miscarriage. She lives in the same city as we do, but we haven't seen her since the miscarriage. She was originally due two weeks after me, and my parents are coming for the birth of my baby and I feel at a loss about how to talk to her or interact with her—or if we'll even see her. </p> <p>I wanted to hear from other bees about how they had dealt with similar situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-reach-out-to-friend-who-had-a-late-term-loss#post-70686 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:04:51 +0000 Pancakes 70686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A dear friend lost her baby at 20w due to a birth defect. I can't imagine how devastating it must be for her. She (understandably) hasn't been in touch with our other friends. She doesn't live nearby. What can I do to reach out to her besides the usual email/card/phone call? </p>