https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 09:26:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-miscarriageectopic-ptsd#post-2908469 Wed, 15 Jan 2020 16:45:27 +0000 bhbee 2908469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="https://people.com/health/women-miscarriage-ectopic-pregnancy-may-develop-long-term-ptsd/" rel="nofollow">https://people.com/health/women-miscarriage-ectopic-pregnancy-may-develop-long-term-ptsd/</a></p> <p>I thought this was interesting data - something rarely talked about, the duration of mental health effects. I’m not sure what the qualifications are for PTSD but my last loss absolutely changed me. The feelings of hopelessness mentioned were more pronounced in the beginning, but the mention of detachment from family and friends really struck me as that was much more long lasting. </p> <p>Mainly posting to raise awareness - if this feels familiar to you, you are not alone :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-1#post-2904320 Tue, 03 Dec 2019 19:27:34 +0000 Shybee23 2904320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a miscarriage yesterday. They said I need to come back in a couple days for bloodwork to confirm my levels are dropping as expected, and that we can start trying again as soon as I feel up to it (unless we are concerned about dating ovulation with certainty, in which case we should wait a cycle.)</p> <p>Just curious what the physical recovery will be like - when does the bleeding stop? I also have a splitting headache and am completely exhausted (but I’m sure the late night in the hospital is contributing to that). </p> <p>I am so sad. I am actually kind of surprised at just how upset I am - I know it was early, I know it’s so common, etc. People keep saying we can try again and there’s nothing we could have done and I know all that is true - but I am just so, so sad for THIS baby that we will never get to meet. I took today off but have to go back to work tomorrow and it just feels so strange to go back like everything is normal (I hadn’t told anyone at work yet). </p> <p>Has anyone tried again without waiting a cycle after a miscarriage? We don’t really feel a need to wait but what’s the best thing to do - get some ovulation tests to try to find our window?</p> <p>Thanks for any advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beyond-miscarriage-support-v2#post-1993115 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 20:43:55 +0000 jaguar 1993115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, ladies who are still here.</p> <p>Our last thread was a wealth of love and support, and since it was getting so big, I thought I'd start a new thread for us all. Please feel free to use this space however you like - and know that you are safe here, and are not alone.</p> <p>Feel free to fill this in, if you feel up to sharing.</p> <p>1. What is your story?</p> <p>2. How do you feel today?</p> <p>3. If you have any "next steps" what are they?</p> <p>4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recurrent-chemical-pregnancies#post-2858202 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 15:23:56 +0000 bananasareyellow 2858202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, bees! Wondering if anyone had any experience or advice. My husband and I started TTC #3 two months ago. We had no problems with TTC #1 and #2. Last year we had an oops pregnancy that ended at 5 weeks - we shored up our contraception, moved on, and didn't really give it a second thought. Then our first cycle TTC this time around resulted in a pregnancy that ended at 5 weeks, and our current (second) cycle looks like another early loss, which would make 3 in a row. I'm 36 and DH is 39, so while this could just be bad luck, I'm worried about wasting precious time and experiencing more losses if there is something that needs to be addressed. I put a message into my OB asking for a referral to an RE to discuss recurrent loss testing. Has anyone out there been through multiple chemical pregnancies? Did you end up being successful with or without diagnostics/treatment? Thanks, bees! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846105 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:00:50 +0000 creativemomma15 2846105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just had a miscarriage about one month ago and I've been having a few rough days. Since our miscarriage and D&amp;E at 9.5 weeks, we've had our best friend and other family announce their pregnancies to us. They've both been very kind and supportive of us, but I am struggling. </p> <p>How do you mentally process this? I can't help but think they are having the pregnancy we so badly wanted and it's been hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-close-friends-about-a-miscarriage-over-text-too-weird#post-2832713 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 21:06:06 +0000 Chuckles 2832713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found out on Thursday that instead of being 8 weeks pregnant, it's a blighted ovum and missed MC. I'm going to be spending a lot of time with 3 very close friends this month (lunch dates and 2 long weekends away with our families). I tend to be very private about stuff, but I kind of want them to know for a bunch of reasons - but I don't want to have to actually tell them, if that makes sense. I'm a crier and I hate crying in front of people. Plus I'm meeting 2 of them for brunch tomorrow, and I don't want to be a mess in public. Also, since I'm seeing 2 of them tomorrow, but another on Friday, I'd have to repeat myself. I'm thinking about just texting them all at once. Is that super weird and cowardly? Sorry for the rambling post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-pregnancy-announcements-after-loss#post-2670544 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 12:51:47 +0000 mrskansas 2670544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies - for other loss mamas, how do you deal with pregnancy announcements from friends/family? I had a miscarriage around 3 weeks ago and was due in July. This morning a good friend of ours was over and said "oh by the way (wife's name) is knocked up and due in July".<br /> I am very happy for them but it took everything in me not to cry right there. I am really surprised by how difficult the miscarriage has been because I had an ectopic in October and didn't feel nearly as many emotions.</p> <p>Oh and Christmas doesn't help because everyone and their dog is announcing a pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-natural-miscarriage-begin-anyone-have-bleeding-without-a-loss#post-2693151 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 15:28:39 +0000 StrawberryBee 2693151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 8 weeks 6 days, and just started bright red heavy bleeding about an hour ago. Big gush and now it seems to be slowing down/maybe stopping. No clots except a small one. No cramping. I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks and had a hb of 138. DH and I DTD this morning, about 9 hours before the bleeding.</p> <p>Nurse's line said that it's just a matter of waiting, and if I get horrible cramps or excessive bleeding, to go to the ER. </p> <p>What are my chances of this turning out ok? My previous pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage and a d&amp;e. Pregnancy before that was healthy and textbook. For those of you who have had a natural miscarriage, is this how it started for you?</p> <p>I want to be realistic but I'm cautiously optimistic. For some reason I don't feel as doomed as I did with the last one, where I had no sign that anything was going wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ectopic-story#post-2695717 Fri, 10 Feb 2017 14:34:40 +0000 mrskansas 2695717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to share my ectopic story in case it could help someone else. I know when I was going through it, I desperately searched the internet wanting to know that I wasn’t alone.</p> <p>I got my BFP at 13 DPO and it was so faint I had to point the line out to my husband. It worried me because when I tested with my daughter at 13 DPO it was a dark line, but I tried to stay optimistic. At 14 DPO, I still had the same faint line and then began bleeding. I chalked it up to a chemical pregnancy. I saw my doctor three days after I started bleeding and she conducted a urine pregnancy test, which was negative. She also ran CD 3 bloodwork which all came back normal.</p> <p>I bled for three days (my periods are usually five days) and then on the fourth day had EWCM and a positive OPK. I was baffled by this and thought that maybe I was already ovulating. I had no idea what was going on but my husband and I DTD anyways since the bleeding had stopped. I continued spotting on and off for the next week.<br /> Eight days after the weird EWCM/OPK I had a nagging feeling that I should take a pregnancy test. It was positive immediately so I called my doctor’s nurse. She wasn’t sure what could be going on, so they wanted me to come in for a beta the next day. It came back at around 400.</p> <p>My OB and her nurse were both perplexed and thought it was possible that it could be a new pregnancy, but not likely, so they repeated the beta 3 days later and it was 350. At this point I was still spotting brown and red. My OB suspected a natural miscarriage and wanted me to come back in a week for betas.</p> <p> The next week my numbers hadn’t dropped much; I think it was still around 300. At this point I was still bleeding and it just didn’t feel right. If I was experiencing an early miscarriage, why was I bleeding for two weeks? I had also started to get a crampy and sometimes sharp pain on my left side. I finally decided to advocate for myself and called my OB and told her I wanted an ultrasound ASAP because something was wrong. They got me in the next day.</p> <p>When I arrived for my ultrasound, the tech told me that she was just going to take some pictures and send them to my OB for review. She mentioned that she would only have to call my OB if she saw something “alarming”. She started her scan and the uterus was empty, as suspected. When she got to my left fallopian tube, she drew a circle around something and put a question mark to it and immediately printed the picture. Obviously she couldn’t tell me what it was but I immediately got very concerned. She got up and told me she was going to call my doctor. Cue freak out. When she returned, she said that my OB would be calling my cell phone in a few minutes and I was free to go. I knew then it was ectopic.</p> <p>My OB confirmed my fear and said that I could wait it out, receive a methotrexate shot or have surgery. At this point, I had been bleeding for a month and having pain so waiting was out of the question. I didn’t want methotrexate because we would have had to wait 6 months to TTC again, so surgery it was.</p> <p>The next day I had laparoscopic surgery where they removed the fetal tissue from my left tube and the corpus luteum from my right ovary. The worst part of recovery was the pain from the gas they pump into your abdomen to expand it. I bled for about 5 days and then my hCG was back to 0.</p> <p>Emotionally, the experience was not that difficult because I had been detached from the very beginning when I thought it was just a chemical. I was just ready to feel normal again so the days following the surgery were very liberating.<br /> Sorry for the novel here, but like I said above, I wanted to share my experience in case anyone else is ever going through something similar.</p> <p>------------------------------------------------------------</p> <p>Miscarriage:<br /> The morning of November 16 (10 DPO) I tested with a Wondfo. At first I thought it was negative, but the more it dried the more a shadow of a line appeared. I didn’t even go crossed eyed looking at it! When I was on my way to work shortly afterwards, the sunrise was more beautiful than I had seen it in a long time. I thought this was a sign that everything was going to be OK (I had an ectopic the month prior).</p> <p>The next day at 11 DPO, I tested with a FRER and sure enough there was a faint pink line. I was officially excited. I tested the next few days and the line didn’t seem to be getting a whole lot darker, but it was still early. Around this time I also started having dreams about having a miscarriage. I figured it was due to my prior loss and the fear I had going into the current pregnancy.</p> <p>I went in for a beta at 15 DPO, and it came back at 85. I was a little worried because it seemed low, but I knew that is was the doubling that mattered, not the level. I scheduled a repeat for 36 hours later.</p> <p>The day before Thanksgiving, November 23, I went for my second beta feeling pretty confident. When it came back at 116, I was devastated. The nurse was very reassuring, but considering the doubling time was 90+ hours, I did not have a good feeling. I was so worried about an ectopic that I went to the ER that night to see if they could do anything (even though I knew they couldn’t). They did another beta at my request, which came back at exactly 116 – so it hadn’t risen in 10 hours. I went home that night and cried for hours.</p> <p>Over the Thanksgiving break, I continued taking pregnancy tests which were finally getting darker. I got a glimmer of hope with each passing day and kept telling myself that since I had no bleeding and no cramping that everything was going to be fine.</p> <p>When my OB’s office opened the following Monday, I went in for another beta which came back at 500. The doubling time was around 50 hours which is well within the “normal” range. I breathed a sigh of relief but still had a nagging feeling that something was wrong. I was 5 weeks and that seemed incredibly low.</p> <p>They wanted to do another repeat in a few days, so four days later, on Thursday, I got another beta in at 905, putting my doubling time closer to 80 hours. They wanted to see me that same day for an ultrasound to rule out an ectopic.<br /> The ultrasound confirmed an intrauterine pregnancy and a very tiny gestational sac was seen. I was relieved that it wasn’t ectopic but also sad that there was barely a sac and my numbers didn’t look good. They told me to come in for another beta the next Wednesday.</p> <p>The next few days were uneventful until Tuesday, December 6. I was getting ready to take a shower before bed when I started spotting brown. My heart sunk but I was still clinging to hope. I took a shower, put a pad on and went to bed. I woke up the next morning and the pad was dry. Hope renewed. As soon as I started moving around, the spotting started again. Hope crushed.</p> <p>I went to work and slowly started bleeding red. Since it was now Wednesday and I already had a beta scheduled, I went to my OB for the blood draw and then went home. I had started having cramps and I just knew what was coming.</p> <p>Around 2, I started having actual contractions. They felt just like they did in early labor with my daughter. It was crazy to me that I was contractions. The bleeding was picking up and I just felt sick. After 15 minutes or so of contractions, I felt like I should just go to the bathroom and sit on the toilet. At this point, the blood was just pouring out so it seemed easier than changing a pad constantly. I sat down and started feeling the urge the push (crazy, right?!). I had a really strong cramp and my body pushed and the tissue came out. I was crying so hard I couldn’t breathe and just panicking because I didn’t understand why my body was doing all of this. I felt like I had no control.</p> <p>After I passed the tissue, the cramping ceased and the bleeding lessened. I had collected the tissue in a little dish and after saying goodbye, I flushed it. After another hour or so of crying and just feel like complete hell, there was a wave of relief that washed over me. All of the stress and anxiety of the past two weeks was over.</p> <p>Later that afternoon my OB’s nurse called to give me my beta results, which were 1,800. I told her that I had passed everything a few hours prior so there was no need to continue monitoring my hCG.</p> <p>This sucked so much. I really believed when I got that first positive that everything would be ok. I felt like my ectopic got my bad luck “out of the way”, which obviously wasn’t the case.</p> <p>When I had my daughter, I was induced and never progressed past a 6 because my body just wasn’t ready. I still reflect on the day I miscarried with amazement that my body knew just what to do. It was amazing and sad all at the same time. When I do get pregnant again, I now want a natural birth because that feeling was truly powerful. I find peace in knowing that the baby wasn’t healthy, and am confident that when I do give birth again, the baby will be the one I was meant to have in my arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mc-naturally-or-d-amp-c#post-2446663 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 16:34:09 +0000 HLK208 2446663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an ultrasound this morning and baby was measuring 9w 5d when I was suppose to be 11 weeks today. There was no heart beat. I was honestly too in shock to ask questions but my doctor said we could wait to see if I miscarry naturally or I could have a D&amp;C next week. For those that have MC, did it happen naturally? I feel like 9w 6d is kind of far along to choose NOT to do the D&amp;C. </p> <p>Ugh. I just kept asking "are you sure?" So, so hard. And I almost made it out of the uncertainty of the first trimester. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-besides-you-remember-your-due-date#post-2637444 Sun, 16 Oct 2016 10:04:28 +0000 nana87 2637444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The due date for the pregnancy I lost was last week, and I have to admit, it really hurt that dh didn't remember. I asked "do you know what today is?" and he guessed about 5 other things before I told him. I mean, I get it, it was an early loss, and I'm pregnant again so he's sort of forgotten about the loss...but I haven't, and it makes me feel alone all over again about it. It was such an early loss that it's easy to dismiss, but dismissing it makes me feel worse.</p> <p>I also told my mom, and she was kind of like "oh" and was quiet for a few seconds before changing the subject... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pail-support-month#post-2630846 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 09:59:43 +0000 winniebee 2630846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Month. Will you be doing anything in particular to remember a pregnancy or infant loss?</p> <p>My local hospital hosts a candle light vigil on 10/15 for anyone who has suffered a pregnancy or infant loss. My husband and I will be going and lighting a candle for our son Dylan. The hospital reads the names of all of the babies who have passed away. People share stories as well. I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to speak publicly about our loss, but hoping I might be able to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/almost-8-weeks-and-empty-sac#post-2563993 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 16:37:12 +0000 Honeygold89 2563993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to share my situation right now and what better place then HB. So I found out at 5w 5d that we would be expecting our 2nd child which was a big surprise since we were waiting to ttc until the end of May which would have made a year since our last ectopics. I have had 5 pregnancies now with only one successful one which resulted in my ds who's now 2. Monday me and do were supposed to be going to my first sonogram with hopes of seeing baby and heart beat but instead just seen a big empty sac, it measured at 6w 6d which was on track but no baby. My doctor want me to do a suction D&amp;C on Friday which I am nervous about because I've never had any kind of surgery before so it's a little scary not know what to expect afterwards. I'm almost to the point where I want to just give up on trying to have number 2 but DH want to keep trying. I would really appreciate any advice or experience with this whole thing. What is it like after the d&amp;c, how long did you wait before trying again, and how was your pregnancy afterwards? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-trimester-losses#post-2563830 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 12:59:55 +0000 winniebee 2563830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let's face it, all pregnancy losses are completely heartbreaking and horrible. But I wanted to start a thread for those of us who have suffered second and third trimester pregnancy losses (for whatever reason...unexplained, known reason or TMFR.) I haven't seen a thread like that here and don't really want to be venturing into the world of babycenter and the bump!</p> <p>Anyone here in this awful club with me want to share stories, support, concerns, and dreams? :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-support-a-friend-1#post-2551427 Wed, 18 May 2016 15:41:25 +0000 Glitter 2551427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend is currently miscarrying. I really want to help her but I'm not sure what to say or do... Can anyone who has gone through this please share what was most helpful to you during this time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-at-12-weeks#post-2491735 Fri, 11 Mar 2016 10:02:57 +0000 LuLu Mom 2491735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend confided in me that she had a miscarriage at 12 weeks last weekend. She is also our photographer and was supposed to take 1 year pictures for us so she obviously needed to cancel. My heart breaks for her, we rescheduled our pictures for next week and I want to give her a little something. What is the best thing you received? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-deal-with-a-friends-insensitive-comments#post-2423515 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 14:34:06 +0000 bluerose 2423515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After a long time reader of hellobee, I decided to join! I recently had a very long miscarriage when I was around 9 weeks pregnant. My question is about a friend's comments. She often says things that I feel are insensitive/doesn't think before she speaks. A couple recent examples: Chatting with her about her pregnancy (this was about two weeks after my miscarriage)- her anatomy scan is coming up and she desperately wants a girl (this is her second and last pregnancy, first pregnancy was a boy and was vocal about wanting a girl then too). She said that if it is a boy she will obviously love the baby but will feel like she is "mourning a loss". She also recently said (during the week of my miscarriage) that she "can't wait for this crappy month to be over".<br /> Am I being too sensitive? I know she cares about me and would never mean to upset me. I just don't know if I'm supposed to say something to her or just let it go knowing she didn't mean to upset me. I'm usually extremely honest with my close friends but with her I feel like if I say something she will just be really upset and it won't make either of us feel better. Sorry for the long post- I guess to sum it up I'm wondering how some of you handle insensitive comments while recovering from a miscarriage? Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-have-you-had#post-2403351 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 15:31:35 +0000 JoJoGirl 2403351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As we get closer to my first ultrasound this Thursday, I am having irrational fears that we're going to have another missed miscarriage like in July. Then the rational part of me says most people don't have two in a row, then the other rational part of me says how do you know that? So here we go. </p> <p>And also, &lt;3 to everyone who answers this poll. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-guilty-about-being-sad-over-losses-if-you-already-have-a-lo#post-2368205 Tue, 24 Nov 2015 12:46:43 +0000 winniebee 2368205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've now had 3 losses. That's weird to see in writing. One before LO1 and two since LO2. All early losses. I feel like I don't have a right to feel sad about the losses because I have two beautiful, healthy little boys. </p> <p>Did/does anyone else feel this way? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-a-hard-day-a-vent#post-2294025 Thu, 17 Sep 2015 17:55:40 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2294025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just found out today that the numbers are not good for this pregnancy and I will likely miscarry in the next week or so. This will be the 2nd miscarriage in a row. I had one in July</p> <p>. I told Dh this morning and he doesn't understand and still thinks there's a chance of it being OK. Which infuriates me. Also he texted me this afternoon saying he's going to mow tonight, instead of, y'know spending time with his wife. He comes home and doesn't even say anything to me while I'm cooking dinner and doing dishes. I finally finish and sit at the table with him and DD and I'm just sitting there, tearing up and crying and he has the gall to say "what's wrong?" Really!? REALLY!? Here I thought he'd bring me flowers or at least give me a hug when he got home. </p> <p>I'm so upset about this miscarriage and I feel like I haven't gotten any support from my husband. </p> <p>I don't even know what the point to this is. I just needed somewhere to vent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/multiple-miscarriages-how-did-you-press-on#post-2272651 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 11:33:03 +0000 sslm 2272651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just got news of miscarriage #3. This is the second one in a row, the first was before my beautiful daughter. </p> <p> I'm just not sure how to move on from this and keep TTC. I want to give DD a sibling so desperately but I'm not sure how much more of this I could take. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/filled-with-sadness-after-our-scan#post-2250685 Fri, 31 Jul 2015 02:24:43 +0000 Nutella 2250685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even sure what to write, I never thought I'd be posting such a sad post - but here goes.</p> <p>DH &amp; I found out we were expecting LO #2 in March 2016, over the moon and thrilled! Had minimal morning sickness and nausea which had worried me of course, because first pregnancy I had felt like death on legs for 15 weeks...but doctor assured me saying its normal to not feel symptoms until later etcetera. Anyway, 8 week dating scan was this morning &amp; before we even had time to really breathe...the doctor said 'it's not looking good unfortunately' and I immediately felt like the floor was falling away, walls closing in...and was praying it was a nightmare. But it was not, it was real - our little bean had stopped growing at 6.5 weeks and there was no heartbeat.</p> <p>I immediately thought of my own LO and just felt such huge sadness, thinking that such a precious little life had existed, but not any more. </p> <p>My husband was also in shock &amp; we were let into another room to have some time. I just cried and cried, the tears just kept coming. I think I was more nervous about it all than I realised? And was trying to convince myself that the lack of symptoms was just lucky. But oh my goodness. This is a sadness I can't even grasp. </p> <p>I'm so grateful for my own little one who was watching us with big eyes, probably wondering why his mummy &amp; daddy were crying! :crying: </p> <p>I don't know what I'm even asking here, but has anyone been through anything at this time in pregnancy? What were your next steps? I'm going to see our family doctor tomorrow to discuss options...they've already given me a referral to see the hospital to arrange a D&amp;C but I don't even know what that involves, if that's the best option for me etc. </p> <p>Any insights or experience would be great - thank you in advance for sharing. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sil-losing-baby-at-23-weeks#post-2242334 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 18:46:08 +0000 NorthStar 2242334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister in law went in for her ultrasound today and there was no heartbeat :crying: it's so terribly devastating. I would like to send them something, but not sure what. Possibly a massage for her or something to pamper herself. Any ideas?</p> <p>We are going through infertility ourselves, but they don't know yet, so I'm just unsure how much to say at this time - just that we are there for them with whatever they need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-sympathy#post-2222927 Tue, 30 Jun 2015 13:51:56 +0000 mediagirl 2222927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A close friend had a miscarriage. I'd like to recognize that and send her something to say I'm thinking of her. If you had a miscarriage, would you have appreciated something from a friend afterwards?</p> <p>I'm thinking something like an edible arrangement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tattoo-ideas#post-2207329 Sat, 13 Jun 2015 06:47:06 +0000 sslm 2207329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm thinking about getting a tattoo to represent my two miscarriages. I have always thought about getting a tattoo but have always been too chicken!</p> <p>I'm looking for ideas and also thoughts on a good place to put it. It would be something small and concealable. I was thinking maybe on my foot?</p> <p>Help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-experience-with-blighted-ovumempty-sac#post-2085436 Wed, 25 Feb 2015 16:14:03 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2085436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey ladies,</p> <p>We had what was supposed to be our dating ultrasound today. According to my last period, I would be 7w4d today. The only thing on the ultrasound was a sad little empty gestational sac. The ultrasound tech had an OB come in to take a look. She said she wants me to come in a week from today to make sure I'm not just really off on my dates. She said it looks like I'm at 5 weeks 5 days. I'm pretty sure of my o date within a day or two, and I got a BFP at 11 dpo.</p> <p>I'm feeling so defeated and sad, and being in this weird week holding pattern is going to make me crazy. Anyone else go through this? Any suggestions to get through this week of waiting? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beyond-miscarriage-support#post-1820474 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 19:34:27 +0000 simplyfelicity 1820474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, ladies. I wish we were drawn together for happier reasons but the support I have received here has been immeasurable. I thought it was be nice to have one place where we can encourage each other, rant, dream, etc. This can look like whatever we want it to.</p> <p>So that we are all up to speed, I thought we could also have a mini roll call.</p> <p>1. What is your story?</p> <p>2. How do you feel today?</p> <p>3. If you have any "next steps" what are they?</p> <p>4. Is there something else in your life you are "investing" in?</p> <p> :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-mc-over-the-holidays#post-1983152 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 09:05:41 +0000 auggiefrog 1983152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to the doctor on Thursday and my suspicions were confirmed, I was likely miscarrying at the end of my fourth/ beginning of my fifth week of pregnancy. At least it was early, and I wasn't as emotionally invested in it, but I still feel so empty right now. </p> <p>Even though my family has been very supportive, and has never been pushy or aggressive about when we are going to start having a family, I am still fearful about the 'when are you going to start a family' question. Not really from immediate family, but from others. I feel so fragile right now. For others that have gone through this, how have you dealt with this? </p> <p>Right now the only person in my life that knows about this is DH. We were waiting to tell family over Christmas. I was so excited about Christmas because of this. I'm contemplating telling my mom and sister about the MC, but I'm not sure how, or what it would accomplish. We're not really a very 'open' family. I don't like saying it out loud and right now every time I think about it too much I fall to pieces, but a text seems so crude. I hate putting this knowledge and burden on them, and I don't really want to talk about it, at least not right now, maybe I'll have healed up a little more by Christmas. I guess it would be nice to have someone else who knows to help shield me from anything, or anyone that might cause me to break apart. </p> <p>Any suggestions from other that have had to go through this would be very welcomed right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-question-for-those-who-have-miscarried#post-1951876 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 10:00:22 +0000 BlueWolverine 1951876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a really late BFP (17 DPO) and my HCG was only 20 when measured at 22 DPO. I had BFNs all the way up to 15 DPO. My doc believes I've miscarried (I had some heavy spotting) or will miscarry. I think it's still on its way, as the spotting I had was relatively light in comparison to my crazy heavy post-DD periods. If you had low HCG, how long did it take to naturally miscarry? How long did you keep getting positive pregnancy tests?</p> <p>I go back for another level on Tuesday, but I think my doc is just doing it to confirm. There's not really much hope here. I just don't know what to expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/another-loss#post-1851851 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 18:00:25 +0000 LalaLove 1851851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't believe I'm here again..earlier this week I had what I'm pretty sure was implantation cramps and bleeding. Tuesday night, twice on Wednesday, and twice on Thursday I got bfp's on frer but negatives on every digital I took. I knew it was probably another chemical pregnancy but a small part of me was still optimistic that my levels were just rising a little slow at first and I was going to get a digital bfp by the end of the week. Friday morning and today I took two more frer tests and they were completely negative. There's absolutely no line and it's as if I was never pregnant. If I didn't have my husband confirm every test I took I would honestly think I was seeing things with all of those positives! </p> <p>I'm so frustrated and just tired..Now there's no doubt in my mind that something is wrong. There's no way 4 losses in 15 months is just bad luck. As much as I was trying not to get my hopes up, I really thought next time would work out and now I can't imagine not having a miscarriage. </p> <p>I hate how normal it feels now to get a positive pregnancy test and then know it's not going to result in a baby, and then just move on and try no to think about it and be hopeful for next time. It's all just so strange. </p>