https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 11:58:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-postpartum-family-experience#post-2855468 Wed, 07 Nov 2018 09:46:41 +0000 foodiebee 2855468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been perusing the old topics related to this on HB and am curious what the Hive would say now. My situation:</p> <p>I'm almost 9 weeks with our first after lengthy infertility and then IVF. My in-laws are out-of-this-world excited. My mom is also happy but not naturally as effusive. (Parenting wasn't her fav.) All live a full day's drive from us. I've known from before we were pregnant that my MIL wants to stay with us for some time after the birth. I've never had the guts to ask her how long (my friends and I tease that she'll never leave). Until yesterday, my mom had never spoken of coming for the birth. </p> <p>With this in mind, I broached the subject with my mom. She said she assumed she'd be there for the birth (not sure if she means in the birthing room or waiting room; need to broach that topic too!) and would stay with me at my house for a few days after. I told her that DH's mom is also planning to stay with us for a while after, so FYI that there will be a number of people in our house during this time. She said this would be stressful and I agreed that it might, but that we didn't feel like we could deny either of our moms this experience and we'd come up with a plan to help it run smoothly beforehand. She didn't argue, but the moment we hung up, she texted DH and informed him that this is a special time between a daughter and mother and he needed to tell his mom that she couldn't be there until after my mom has her turn.</p> <p>I feel like this was disrespectful on numerous levels and DH was really upset. I'm foreseeing all kinds of awkwardness and stress post-birth. What was your experience like? What did you do to make it easier and balance the desires of both sides of the family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-wanting-ils-to-visit-hospital-long-sticky-situation#post-2685548 Tue, 24 Jan 2017 08:24:17 +0000 ValentineMommy 2685548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, if you've ever read my posts about my ILs before, you know it's not a good situation. We don't outwardly argue or anything, but we are all basically like oil and water. MIL is the main offender (FIL is fine). She is rude, overbearing, and generally disrespects anything I have to say.</p> <p>To give a brief background....<br /> When I was preg with DS1, we made it clear that I wasn't sure how I would be feeling after the csection, with the pain and meds and all. I was a FTM and unsure, and just wanted to make it clear that we didn't want everyone there right away and would call when ready for visitors. I had DS1 at 10am, via scheduled csec (and they knew the schedule). We called by noon, I was feeling fine, and ready for visitors. They said they would be "right there". They live 10-15 minutes from the hospital. They showed up, unannounced, at 6:30pm (so, 6 hours later). By this point, I'm exhausted from waiting for them, and rather annoyed that they didn't tell us what was going on. Apparently, they decided to go to a restaurant with a bunch of family before coming to see the baby. Anyway, she barged in, without washing hands or even removing her coat (in Feb) and took the baby out of my arms. I was totally in shock by what was happening. DH....didn't do a damn thing, other than take pictures of them and all of this happening. Thankfully, this visit lasted less than 15 minutes, before they up and left. Never asked how I was feeling. Barely even looked at me.</p> <p>FF to DS2, two years later. We basically told them the same thing. We'd call when we were ready for visitors, etc. DS2 came early (emergency csec). I had him at 9:30 at night, and was vomiting from meds after that. I did not feel well this time. The next day, my staples were super uncomfortable and I still wasn't feeling great, which DH told IL's. They were not accepting of this answer and continually bothered him all that day off and on. At 1am that morning, I got a FB message from MIL, saying "Congratulations. We will be coming to see you and DS2. We are so proud of our little Grandson. We can't wait to see and hold him. See you soon." to which I wrote back that I still wasn't feeling well or up for visitors and we would let them know asap when I was feeling better. Well, that chance never came, cause they showed up, unannounced, at 9am. I was literally standing, in my hospital gown, bleeding on the floor when they showed up (tmi, sorry). I had been dealing with pp bleeding issues, still wasn't feeling well, and in pain. They walked right into the room, as I attempted to hobble into the bed and cover myself up (I am super modest). DH, again, just let this all happen, because he feels stuck in the middle and can't say no to them. I was so livid that a "situation" had happened a second time with them and DH did nothing to stop it....we ended up getting in an argument in the hospital room after they left. It was awful. DH is now in therapy learning how to deal with his family and these situations, for whatever that's worth.</p> <p>So....if you made it through.....here we are. Pregnant with #3....and DREADING a repeat of any of this. This is probably our last baby. I just don't want any of this drama. DH and I talked about it a little bit, but I feel like it's almost not worth it, because when it comes down to it, he's going to cave to whatever they say or want to do. I'm honestly thinking of asking the hospital to just not let them in. I don't mind having visitors, but the situation has just become hostile and makes me so anxious. I just want ONE birth experience that isn't overshadowed by their BS. </p> <p>Any advice or tips? Am I being too harsh? I just want some peaceful time with my newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-telling-you-what-time-they-can-visit#post-2789274 Thu, 30 Nov 2017 07:46:04 +0000 MsBAM 2789274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello,</p> <p>This is just a vent. Anyone else find it irritating when people tell you what time they can come visit? I’m the one with the baby. So pretty sure you should ask what time is good for me and stick to it. Well this person asked but then pretty much changed the time a few days later to a time that was convenient for them....</p> <p>So annoying when you try to plan visitors around LO’s naps and you BF to sleep for naps...oh well LO’s naps aren’t changing that day. </p> <p>Maybe I’m overreacting but I find it frustrating... I also hate when visitors are late or overstay their welcome.... anyone else feel the same? Thanks for listening :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drama-and-grandkids#post-2784682 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 23:10:32 +0000 periwinklebee 2784682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did the birth of your LO cause family drama? Did it eventually get better? I want to hear your stories, just looking to have someone to vent with. I feel like I'm the calm, rational one and the arrival of our LO (first grandchild on both sides) is bringing up all the insecurities and frustrations that my mom and MIL have with us. </p> <p>My mom has less than a week of vacation leave and has decided she must be there for the birth of her grandchild and she must hold the baby during her visit. When I very politely pointed out that she should come when she wants but babies often arrive late and she would be more guaranteed to hold the baby if she came a couple of weeks after the due date, she told me that she couldn't believe I didn't want her to be there for the birth of my baby and has refused to talk to me since. My dad says that I arrived on my due date, my brother arrived on his due date, and therefore babies arrive on their due dates. I am just picturing her being here when I'm 40 weeks pregnant upset the entire time that she cannot hold her grandchild when I don't have the energy to deal with it. I know in reality she's just frustrated that she doesn't live closer to us, which is understandable, but ugh...</p> <p>My MIL meanwhile is annoyed that we have not bought a larger house - she has very strong views that she should stay with us when she visits. Um, sorry, my husband is making a major career move in a month - when I'll be 8+ months pregnant - I'm in the middle of a promotion review at work that's not at all guaranteed, and we have to prepare for the baby. Moving house has to wait. MIL slept on our floor when she came a month ago, at her absolute insistence, and has now told my husband she'll sleep on the floor again when the baby comes (but there's now a crib and glider where she was sleeping on the floor). It is not a financial issue on her end, and we'd gladly pay for her to stay somewhere comfortable nearby. Putting my foot down on this one... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/timing-of-big-sister-visiting-baby-after-birth#post-2731431 Tue, 02 May 2017 15:01:09 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2731431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm having a repeat csec this Thurs and my MIL is coming to take care of DD while we're in the hospital. There's a little bit of an issue with timing though. My surgery is scheduled for 1130, my Dr said I'd be in recovery for a couple hours and suggested that DD visit at 3pm. The issue is that my MIL also needs to pick up her other grandkids from daycare that day (at 430) for my Sis in law because she has a late conference. The traffic in my city is awful and can easily be an hour from the hospital we'll be at and the daycare. I guess my question is how long was the first visit with big siblings at the hospital? I feel like an hour (at most) isn't long enough and we'll all feel rushed and won't be able to enjoy our time together as a family. Should I tell my MIL to wait until first thing Friday morning? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-not-allow-hospital-visits#post-2730071 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 17:56:52 +0000 DesertDreams88 2730071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, I didn't allow anyone to come to the hospital. Luckily, I had only 2 people ask, and no family in state (except my mom, who I asked to come help with labor). My memories of the hospital are lots of topless time, bathroom trips, soreness, happy crying, meds, trying to sleep whenever I could, etc. NOT things I associate with visitors!</p> <p>I plan to stick to this rule if I have a 2nd baby, but now that my ILs are in town and I'll be missing my LO1, I know it we will have some sort of a visit. But I probably will want it to be limited!</p> <p>Just curious if any of you forbade visitors? What about Baby #2, if you had one? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-plans-on-out-of-town-guests#post-2730014 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 15:19:52 +0000 Bibliolove 2730014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm looking for advice or to know if I'm just being an anxious over-reactor. </p> <p>I'm expecting to go on maternity leave for my first at the end of September. My parents want to fly in and visit in October, which is fine. I'm a little nervous though because I don't know what I will be like, what baby will be like, or anything at all really. The airport is an hour round-trip, so I'm hoping my husband would be able to pick them up and drop them off. </p> <p>Anyway, now my sister, her husband, and their baby want to visit a few weeks after that. I'm leaning towards asking if they could come in the spring (they don't want to visit once it gets colder---later on in my leave). I just don't really want to entertain a second time, get beds ready, food set, etc. My mom I know would understand and help out, and it's not like my sister wouldn't but it's her husband and new baby there too, and she would be busy taking care of their baby. Plus I love my sister, but she can be very overbearing and domineering. I'm expecting to be a little vulnerable at that point. She was quite put off when I wasn't overly enthusiastic about their plans. Am I just being too sensitive about the future? </p> <p>What are your experiences with family visiting from out of town during your leave? Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-not-visiting-new-baby-cross-country#post-2663986 Sun, 11 Dec 2016 21:11:17 +0000 thepicklemonster 2663986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry this is long. DH and I are upset and not sure whether we are overreacting. I wanted to get some thoughts and maybe just vent. We live in California and DH has two older sisters and a brother, all of whom live on the East Coast. His sisters each have 2 kids, three in college and one is a senior in HS. Basically, the issue is: we had our first child in October and neither of DH's sisters have come to visit or even offered/asked when they could come. (The brother has to come nearby for work in February, so he is coming to us for a day just to meet the baby.) We are not super super close with any of them, but DH went to visit within a couple months of all of his nieces/nephews being born (I was not around back then) and he is generally a good uncle, he sends cards for all the niece/nephews' birthdays and hannukah, and we make sure to visit them at least once a year. We don't understand why they haven't visited and we are really hurt. I get that it's across the country but they can all easily afford it and it just seems so weird that they haven't even asked about visiting and seem to expect us to bring our newborn to them. By contrast, my own sister (who also lives back east) came to visit over a long weekend when the baby was a couple weeks old. She actually has two small children but managed to leave them with her husband and come see her nephew, so we don't understand why DH's sisters seemingly don't care to come see him. </p> <p>Are we missing something? Are we being overly sensitive? If you have siblings who live far away, would you make an effort to go visit when they have a baby? If no, why not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-choose-when-would-you-prefer-out-of-town-postpartum-visitors-to-come#post-2664192 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 12:44:37 +0000 nana87 2664192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you had a choice, when would you want family to visit postpartum if you didn't think they'd be particularly helpful?</p> <p>My mil hasn't asked yet when she can visit after lo2 is born, but we're about to go visit her in a couple weeks and I know the conversation is going to come up!</p> <p>With lo1, I was induced early, and we asked mil to come up to help us with our dogs. This was somehow taken as an invitation for dh's whole family to come visit--she + his ailing father (who has since passed away) and sil were all there to meet lo1 basically immediately after birth. They didn't stay long, and did take our dogs with them for a couple weeks which was helpful, but it was really overwhelming. Like, we were waiting around all day to be discharged from the hospital and they were texting dh constantly to ask what our plans were. And we live in a small apartment, so once we were home, it was really cramped and I was very emotional and felt weird nursing in front of them, etc. My parents were there too, and extremely helpful, but it was just lots of people. </p> <p>This time around will be different--for one, it's only mil who will visit, presumably (we aren't speaking to sil for unrelated reasons...). Second, my parents are lined up to take care of lo1 and the dogs this time. I know they will be helpful since they were last time and are with lo1 now, etc. We may have a postpartum doula as well as someone we know offered. Mil wouldn't be helpful with the logistical things that we will need, like help with dog walks or daycare pickup/drop off since we're in a city and she's uncomfortable walking or taking public transportation, which are how we commute with lo1. My initial thinking is maybe to ask her to wait for at least 2 weeks, I think that's around when we started getting the hang on things last time and settled into somewhat of a routine...But last time I know she was jealous and sad about my parents' involvement, so I'm not looking forward to the conversation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662719 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 09:44:11 +0000 snowjewelz 2662719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently just throwing around options for when I go to give birth. Ideally, if I don't have to be at the hospital for long for labor (I'd love to go in and give birth the same day!). I'm wondering if it's worth DD1 coming to the hospital (once, twice?) or it's just easier to see her when I go home? I'm mostly concern that once she sees me she won't want to leave! She just turned 2 and is 1000% mommy's girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-was-your-favorite-food-someone-brought-you-as-a-new-mom#post-2625226 Thu, 22 Sep 2016 08:55:54 +0000 mediagirl 2625226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My next door neighbor is pregnant and should have her baby soon. I don't know her or her husband that well as we just moved in but when she has the baby, I would like to take her a meal or some snacks. I remember my favorite "brought" meal was a warm dinner I didn't have to do anything for. </p> <p>What was your favorite postpartum food gift? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meal-trainstaking-food-to-new-moms#post-2556492 Wed, 25 May 2016 16:22:14 +0000 mediagirl 2556492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let's say your friend just had a baby. Mom is on maternity leave, dad is on 2 weeks of paternity leave. Grandma is visiting for 2 weeks after the baby is born, as well - staying with the new family. Do you take food over after grandma leaves or do you take food when grandma is there and make enough for all 3 of them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-to-deal-with-mil-and-dh#post-2543870 Sun, 08 May 2016 09:49:49 +0000 Autumnmama79 2543870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm looking for some help. Baby was born 2 days ago. MIL has been to the hospital twice. I have not enjoyed either of her visits and yesterday I was silently becoming enraged while she was here. She barely acknowledges that I'm the one who in fact had the baby, she barely acknowledges me when she arrives or departs, she does not ask how I'm doing following my c section, she does not try to converse with me. </p> <p>What she does do however is spend her visits criticizing the things we are doing with/ for baby. For example: he should be wearing clothes, he should have his circ done at this time, she doesnt like the name and has started calling baby by his middle name, he should be sleeping in the basinette, he should be doing this and that and blah blah blah. </p> <p>Talking to her is not an option. Last night I told DH it's not very nice for her to be criticizing everything we are doing, he said no she's not. Where do I go from here? Besides to the nurses station to let them know I am not accepting visitors today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-unexpected-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2541318 Wed, 04 May 2016 15:47:00 +0000 Alba4 2541318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, no, any surprises? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-need-more-or-less-help-w2-pp#post-2503039 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:23:08 +0000 runnerd 2503039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With #1, DH took off 2 weeks, and he WAH full-time so he was still there after that. I had visitors, but none specifically for PP help. (Besides in-laws being in and out and doing little things since they lived 5min away). I didn't want any help either.</p> <p>For #2, DH will take 2 weeks off, but now he WOH FT. We are pulling #1 from daycare to save money since they have agreed to hold his spot. So I will be completely alone with both kids vs. he was still around last time and I just had the one baby.</p> <p>Am I going to lose my mind and be begging anyone who will to come help? I know my MIL would at drop of a hat but we live 2 hours away now, so it would mean she would probably stay a week at a time, and we are friendly, but not friends so that sounds like too much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-post-partum-visitor-ever#post-2503481 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 15:57:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2503481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my second son by c section a week ago. Today my friend came to visit. She brought a present for the new baby and one for big brother, which was very sweet, but also lunch (fancy sandwich ingredients which she then assembled) AND a quiche for dinner. It was AMAZING! She has set a new standard for visitors, and totally schooled me on what to do next time I visit a new mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-a-baby-holder#post-2500561 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 15:51:23 +0000 erinbaderin 2500561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So while I was in the hospital for my c section, my parents stayed with my 2 year old, and I'm very grateful (guilt compels me to lead with this). Since we got home on Thursday, though, they've come over every day for at least an hour, usually more like 3, and they just sit and hold the baby while I clean up, make dinner for the toddler, etc. My dad always makes himself a rye and Coke and leaves the bottle, empty can, and glass on the counter. My mom has a pop or tea and the same, I have to put away the dishes. I had some internal bleeding and am supposed to be taking it easy, and I feel like they are only interested in being grandparents. The last straw today was when they came in, I was napping on the couch with the baby. I realized what time it was, and said that my husband and toddler would be home from gymnastics soon and I should think about lunch, and my mom said "Do you need a baby holder?" I need a tidy-upper, a garbage taker outer, a lunch maker, a dinner bringer, and a grocery shopper, but I have three separate baby items in my immediate eyeline that could serve as a baby holder!</p> <p>Next weekend is Easter and I tried to say that it would be too much for us, but my mom said "no no, we'll make dinner and just bring it over." Then today she said that they would do that (although she has an attitude about it) "but we can at least use your oven to keep things warm, right? And I'll make the salad here." And I realized that it's going to me more of the same - even without cooking we're going to need all our dishes clean, and then to set the table, and clean up after, and portion out leftovers, and host people for several hours which means every time I want to nurse I have to go upstairs, which sometimes means abandoning a toddler who is cuddling me on the couch. </p> <p>Anyway, this turned into a big rant but I guess my questions are does anybody else have this problem where visitors are just extra work? And how can I get out of Easter? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-like-having-visitors#post-2480106 Tue, 01 Mar 2016 13:55:53 +0000 sslm 2480106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is only 3 but I can't remember how I felt when she was a newborn... And we went home from the hospital 3 hours after she was born. We had family visit right away and I think our first non-family visitors came on day 5 or 6. </p> <p>My friend just had her baby and I don't want to annoy her but I do want to visit and see the new baby!! </p> <p>Did you like having visitors in the early days? Did you prefer visitors at home or in the hospital? How often would be too much texting? haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-out-cooler-amp-sign-for-visitors-bringing-food#post-2480674 Tue, 01 Mar 2016 20:14:17 +0000 Happygal 2480674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two people I know have done this--when you sign up to bring them a meal, they let you know that if they're resting, there will be a sign on the door and you can leave a meal for them in a cooler. Anyone else seen this/done it? </p> <p>While arranging for people to stop by postpartum was stressful at times, I still wouldn't feel right doing this (even though it is somewhat appealing). At a minimum, I wanted to say thank you to friends for the meal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-was-your-older-lo-at-the-hospital-for-birth-of-sibs#post-2479648 Tue, 01 Mar 2016 10:18:37 +0000 Applesandbananas 2479648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did they just make a quick visit? I'm likely going to have a RCS, which will probably come with a 3-4 day stay. I'm wondering how much he should visit. </p> <p>How much did your older LO visit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-lot-of-visitors#post-2449834 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 19:19:13 +0000 Bao 2449834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With LO1 we had, what I thought, was way too many visitors. It was one after another from when she was born for a good few weeks. With LO2 we had no visitors in the hospital, and very few at home. We learned our lesson the first time...rest, bonding and adapting to a family of 4 was most important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thank-yous-for-postpartum-meal-train#post-2452103 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 15:44:24 +0000 DesertDreams88 2452103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have had or will have about 10 people bringing us meals for the 2-3 weeks postpartum.... Should I be writing thank you cards for this? Is that an expectation? I mean, theoretically I could... but the thought of writing them out, looking up addresses, writing &amp; stamping the envelopes..... just sounds tiring. I totally will, though, if it's an etiquette thing. When they visit, they usually stay for an hour or so and I thank them in person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/worried-about-germy-visitors#post-2450361 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 00:08:01 +0000 DesertDreams88 2450361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our friends just came to visit and drop off a meal because we had LO 9 days ago. They stayed for dinner which was originally fine with us, and they brought their 3 kids, which was expected. Evryone washed their hands and didn't hold the baby anyway. The two 6 year olds were fine but about halfway through the visit, their 3 year old let out this horrible phlegmy cough and didn't cover his mouth. He was about 6 ft away from LO, who was sleeping in my arms, tucked towards my chest. I cringed inside and spent the rest of the visit holding LO away from the toddler but inside the same (large) room. At the end of the visit, the toddler coughed again still with phlegm but less loudly/long. Other than these 2 coughs he acted like his normal energetic self.</p> <p>After they left, I immediately went to the nursery (other end of the house) shut the door and nursed on demand off and on for 2 hours while DH sanitized all surfaces and sprayed a bit of disinfectant in the air (all doors closed). Now we're holed up in our bedroom for the next 16 hours (we have our 2wk peds visit tmrw) and I'll be nursing on demand for the immunity.</p> <p>Please tell me I've done what I can and that most likely it's not a big deal... personal experiences welcome, like if LO1 had a cold when your LO2 was a newborn etc....(!!) </p> <p>I was trying to stay calm and rationalize the entire time. I have anxiety about losing this LO after 1.5 years of inferility and loss; and even minor situition can trigger worry spells that I look back on and recognize as overblown, maybe... it's just so hard to know in the moment! Often I downplay a situation, then freak out afterward, wondering why I allowed the "risk." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-and-illness#post-2412163 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 05:52:33 +0000 brady80 2412163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL has been sick for over a week with the flu and pneumonia. She posted on Facebook on Monday that she was still recovering. I had a baby on Tuesday and she wants to come visit this weekend. I'm inclined to say she needs to be symptom free for two weeks before she comes to visit? She should stay away for now, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/visitors-after-baby-no-2#post-2407557 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 07:21:18 +0000 Legowife 2407557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always a bit controversial but this weighs on my mind a lot. We have a 2 year old and are ttc number 2. It was complicated when she was born as we are living in Europe away from both sets of grandparents. We fought a lot about visitors. But we had the first two weeks just the three of us before any visitors. Now that we are thinking of adding to our family I'm curious how others are managing family visits when they already have a kid at home (especially if your visitors are also coming from out of town for 2 weeks). What can I learn about what to do and what to avoid. Especially if the visits also coincide with thanksgiving or Christmas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/siblings-visiting-hospital-for-winter-baby#post-2364881 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 12:51:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 2364881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you had a winter / cold and flu season baby, we're older siblings allowed to come visit? I asked about that this morning and my midwife said it depends on the flu season (I am due mid December). Curious how often kids are banned from visiting.</p> <p>(I don't blame them for having this policy, btw. I'd rather all the moms and babies stay healthy, I just also really want my 2 year old to be able to meet her sister at the hospital if possible). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-did-you-have-visit-after-birth#post-2352830 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 15:48:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 2352830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first she was in NICU so we restricted it to immediate family &amp; a few very close friends. We didn't want to risk exposure to any illness. With DD2 we gabe birth over a weekend so we had quite a few visitors probably around 30, but I loved it, it helped make the time go by fast of a c-section stay (3 days.) how many did you have? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-lot-of-pp-visitors#post-2343964 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 10:05:26 +0000 Bao 2343964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first LO we had an insane amount of visitors, both in the hospital and at home, it was really overwhelming. With LO2 we only had LO1 visit in the hospital and it was my mom and sister who brought her. At home we had just a handful of visitors over the course of the first few weeks home. Which was kind of nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-temporary-live-in-help-after-the-baby-came#post-2218482 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 13:47:10 +0000 BSB 2218482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL mentioned to the DH that since she is selling her house, she has the opportunity to fly out and help with the babies when they arrive (if we want her to). </p> <p>DH and I thought we would only have a few visitors for a few days. If MIL comes, it might be for a month or two. </p> <p>It's great that she offered but I think I will need some time to decide. (If her house gets sold, I think that's when we'll have to really decide.)</p> <p>Pre-baby, I always thought it would be nice to have a good month without visitors so we can bond with 1 baby. Now that we are pregnant with twins, it changes things.</p> <p>Did you have temporary live-in help? I'm sure it is helpful but was there anything you regretted? MIL and I have had a history of drama in the past so I think that's why I'm hesitant but our relationship is much better now. (Though, I wonder if living across the country from her was part of it.) But I can see us getting on each other's nerves after a week or two. </p>