https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 05:15:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916792 Wed, 24 Jun 2020 04:56:47 +0000 pachamama 2916792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shybee23: I could have written this. I'm so sorry for your loss- miscarriages are so hard. I was an absolute mess when I was pregnant with my son after my MC, waiting for the shoe to drop. I was even googling "how much does anxiety hurt a fetus" because it was so bad.<br /> One technique from my therapist was acceptance- "well, I am super anxious because I lost a baby before and I'm pregnant. Of course I'm anxious. This is normal" It made me feel way better about it- to just accept of course I was nervous for good reason.<br /> I have also read that you really suffered some traumatic stuff- its PTSD that sort of hijacks your brain after loss and I think some people don't understand the residual impact of that.<br /> So give yourself some grace. I liked to stay busy, mediate, exercise, talk to friends and family, and just basically understand it was normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916780 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 19:12:52 +0000 Shybee23 2916780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. Helps to know I’m not crazy, or alone in feeling this way (though I wouldn’t wish for anyone else to go through this). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916735 Mon, 22 Jun 2020 22:03:34 +0000 ALV91711 2916735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama. Sorry that you have to go through this. I had a loss and then was almost a year later when I got pregnant with DS2. I didn’t ever enjoy the pregnancy the same as when I had DS1. Always waiting/wondering if something was going to happen. </p> <p>Take care of yourself and hopefully you can enjoy your pregnancy even a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916692 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 18:13:59 +0000 dc yoga bee 2916692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry for your loss. I too got pregnant a month after a miscarriage and had infertility with both children. I definitely was more detached from the pregnancy and it was high risk. I also had severe hyperemesis worse than with my daughter and had it with the miscarriage in between and felt like I couldn’t catch a break. I ended up being induced at 37 weeks with pre-eclampsia again and ended up having heart complications that landed me back in the hospital 5 days postpartum. Baby boy is 16 months now and was totally worth the stress and heartache. I hope you have an uneventful and healthy pregnancy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916691 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 17:52:26 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2916691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shybee23: My daughter was born at 37 weeks and I was a terrified mess the entire time. I sobbed when I heard her cry after she was born because I was just so relieved. I am so sorry for your loss, but know you are experiencing totally normal feelings :( Praying the rest of your pregnancy is as peaceful as it can be &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916689 Sun, 21 Jun 2020 15:40:26 +0000 Shybee23 2916689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much. It helped to read this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916671 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 14:24:46 +0000 msmilkshake 2916671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, I’m sorry for your loss and congratulations on being pregnant again. I don’t think you are crazy! I’m at 39 weeks with my pregnancy after loss and I have yet to totally shake that feeling that something is going to go wrong. Also, I think it’s worth noting that we are also pregnant in a very high anxiety time in the world! I have also found therapy and mindfulness so helpful, but I also just try to give myself the grace to know that my feelings are my feelings but/and I’m pregnant with a healthy baby and I’m taking it one day at a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916666 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 11:01:03 +0000 Shybee23 2916666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a miscarriage in December. I got pregnant again quickly, which I’m very grateful for, but I cannot shake the feeling that I am just waiting for something to go horribly wrong. I keep thinking each milestone will make me feel a little better - making it past the week I miscarried, getting to 2nd trimester, etc. - but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I had my 20 week ultrasound last week and everything looks good, and I know that should make me feel better, but it doesn’t. I know it’s irrational but I feel like I just KNOW something will go wrong, and I’m pretty sure my family thinks I am crazy. </p> <p>I’m seeing a therapist, I’m on anxiety meds (predating pregnancy), I’m using the Expectful meditation app every day...I am just starting to think maybe I would relax til I’m holding her. I wasn’t anxious at all when I was pregnant with my son. Just looking for advice or confirmation I’m not crazy I guess. Thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898695 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 21:01:11 +0000 nwm 2898695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: yay, so glad you had a great appt! and, that you are feeling crappy :silly: :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898668 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 18:06:18 +0000 karenbme 2898668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: Happy to hear it went well! And you’re right, one step at a time, but definitely a good first step. 😃🤞🌈 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898666 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 18:00:41 +0000 bees_knees 2898666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: happy to hear you had a great appointment! ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898664 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 17:48:56 +0000 SweetCaroline 2898664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: @karenbme: Thanks for checking in. Our appointment was great, I will never forget the moment we saw the heartbeat, such a stark comparison to the ultrasounds we had during the last pregnancy. Watching the heart beat in baby's little chest, amazing.</p> <p>I'm just shy of 8 weeks so obviously plenty of room for things to go sideways. However, we made it past the point of our last loss so that's something to celebrate. Also cause to celebrate...the copious nausea :silly: as I did not have that during our last, non-viable pregnancy. </p> <p>Thanks again for checking in. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898621 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 12:34:50 +0000 yellowbeach 2898621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg so mortified as I just realized this ended up on @SweetCaroline's post. So so so so so sorry!!!!! Moved to POAS. Sorry again! Eeeek. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898617 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:56:13 +0000 yellowbeach 2898617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898614 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:44:22 +0000 yellowbeach 2898614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Yes, 3 untested embies. Going to be a ball of nerves up until the NIPT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898613 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:39:05 +0000 crazydoglady 2898613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: 3 embies, right?!?! I'm so hopeful!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898612 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:22:30 +0000 yellowbeach 2898612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: No trigger this cycle. I think this is real. I’m in shock. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898611 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:11:44 +0000 crazydoglady 2898611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: Also thinking of you and hoping you had a reassuring appointment. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898610 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:10:45 +0000 crazydoglady 2898610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: Whoa! There's no way that's the trigger, right?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898609 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 11:05:19 +0000 yellowbeach 2898609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898608 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 10:35:07 +0000 yellowbeach 2898608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes like @KarenBME I’m also wondering how your appointment went :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898596 Sun, 06 Oct 2019 07:09:29 +0000 karenbme 2898596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: How did the appointment go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898590 Sat, 05 Oct 2019 22:40:28 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2898590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: Yay! Sending positive vibes for your first appointment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898312 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 22:53:15 +0000 karenbme 2898312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: That’s great! Fingers crossed you see a good strong heartbeat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898287 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 14:54:41 +0000 bhbee 2898287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: great work getting it changed and so much :goodluck: for a good appointment!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898266 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 11:44:19 +0000 SweetCaroline 2898266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I talked to the OB nurse and she said a) They changed the first appointment so that the ultrasound is first and b) I could come in on Thursday!</p> <p>Thanks to those who pushed me to advocate for myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898144 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 16:48:27 +0000 karenbme 2898144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: It is annoying that they do it that way. I had the same experience as @bhbee: where because they knew I was anxious they did the us first. Even if you wait for the appointment it couldn’t hurt to check in with the nurses and see if they’re willing to flip it for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898141 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 16:06:29 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2898141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After 5 losses, my OB booked me for my first ultrasound at 7.5 weeks! It really helped to not have to wait so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898134 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 14:21:35 +0000 BUNBUN 2898134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the same boat! I just had a MC at 9 weeks that stopped developing at 5 weeks. Now I've got a positive hpt that I'm scared to believe. I'm delaying going in for a blood test until I'm past the 5 week mark! My OB practice won't do an ultrasound before 8 weeks either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898133 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 14:21:07 +0000 bhbee 2898133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: that is really annoying they do it that way! That was another place my ob helped me this time, she just looked right away before talking about anything else. </p>