https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 18:18:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage-1#post-2916666 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 11:01:03 +0000 Shybee23 2916666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a miscarriage in December. I got pregnant again quickly, which I’m very grateful for, but I cannot shake the feeling that I am just waiting for something to go horribly wrong. I keep thinking each milestone will make me feel a little better - making it past the week I miscarried, getting to 2nd trimester, etc. - but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I had my 20 week ultrasound last week and everything looks good, and I know that should make me feel better, but it doesn’t. I know it’s irrational but I feel like I just KNOW something will go wrong, and I’m pretty sure my family thinks I am crazy. </p> <p>I’m seeing a therapist, I’m on anxiety meds (predating pregnancy), I’m using the Expectful meditation app every day...I am just starting to think maybe I would relax til I’m holding her. I wasn’t anxious at all when I was pregnant with my son. Just looking for advice or confirmation I’m not crazy I guess. Thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-prenatal-appt-after-miscarriage#post-2898121 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 12:11:09 +0000 SweetCaroline 2898121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When did you have your first prenatal appointment, after you experienced a loss in previous pregnancies? Post D&amp;C, my doctor said she would be happy to see me whenever, to ease anxiety. However, the receptionist booked me at 10 weeks despite my request to be on the earlier side. </p> <p>I've just had the one loss. Last time I found out at 9 weeks that the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. I don't want to wait that long again, just trying to gauge what might be common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anxiety-and-pregnancy#post-2886882 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 20:20:07 +0000 jaguar 2886882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So.... I'm pregnant with #3, another IVF miracle baby. We had a rocky start to this pregnancy, with not so great hcg rises, lowish progesterone, supplements, and several terrifying bouts of bleeding/clotting/gushes, so getting through each day at a time has been a struggle.</p> <p>I'm 9 weeks now, and I feel super anxious. We're getting to the point where I've had a missed miscarriage before, I'm doing NIPT testing in the next few weeks, and I'm so scared to be excited and confident for this baby - I just keep waiting for bad news.</p> <p>How did you pass the time/try to de-stress during the scary first trimester? I feel like so much is riding on this baby that the pressure is on... I remember feeling anxious during my last pregnancy too (after multiple losses) but this one is just next level scary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-stay-sane-in-the-first-trimester-after-loss#post-2882388 Sun, 28 Apr 2019 16:38:53 +0000 karenbme 2882388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some background, I lost three pregnancies in Nov 2017, May 2018, and Oct 2018. I fell pregnant again in March and am currently 9+3. My first loss was a missed miscarriage that we discovered at 9 weeks and the other two were ectopic discovered at ~6 weeks, all were cause unknown and assumed to be genetic. Neither DH or I have any living children. </p> <p>I had 3 early ultrasounds, the most recent of which was last Monday at 8+4, and they all showed the baby to be right on track, although the heart rate was a bit high at the last visit. But now I’m on the normal visit schedule and I won’t have another check in until late May. I’m already worrying that things are going wrong because my nausea has gotten noticeably better this weekend. I googled and there are lots of women on the internet who started to see diminishing symptoms around 9 weeks, but I still worry that with all the problems we’ve had my symptoms going away mean problems. </p> <p>So my question for all of you is what worked to reduce first trimester anxiety? I try to set aside some time every night before I fall asleep to send love to the baby, and I’m focusing on taking care of myself to take care of them, but I’m still just worried sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-on-coping-with-new-pregnancy-after-losses#post-2850849 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 07:24:21 +0000 MrsJBeeG 2850849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay sweet HB ladies - I need some help. I’m definitely not coping with an unexpected pregnancy after two back to back early losses. I consider myself a resilient person as I’ve always coped well with difficult situations and been able to find the good in it. </p> <p>At moments I’m cautiously hopeful and cautiously excited over being pregnant. And to avoid confusion - a baby is very much wanted by myself and DH - we just decided to stop actively trying after the second loss for me to heal emotionally. </p> <p>But right now as I struggle early morning with intermittent cramps (and admittedly mild nausea and sore boobs) I had the panicked thought - why did I tell anyone (just told my boss yesterday as I had to as I’m in the military and he would know soon anyways and he was super excited for me) because I’m going to miscarry this baby too. It’s not like me but I really felt like I was having an anxiety attack over another loss. </p> <p>Any coping strategies? I could really use them. I have a friend who would tell me it’s not helping me by being so worried but the reality is I can’t shut my brain off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-loss-support-thread-1#post-2643094 Thu, 27 Oct 2016 08:04:09 +0000 winniebee 2643094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Starting a new thread for anyone who might need extra support through a pregnancy after loss (no matter when the loss was). Anyone interested in joining? </p> <p>How Far Along Currently:</p> <p>EDD:</p> <p>Loss History:</p> <p>Next Milestone:</p> <p>Current Fears: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-to-do-cvs-or-amniocentesis#post-2750401 Wed, 21 Jun 2017 14:47:45 +0000 periwinklebee 2750401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My OB recommended that we might want to do cvs or amniocentesis because of a previous pregnancy loss that resulted from a genetic abnormality. After that loss, I met with the genetic counselor, who told me that our particular abnormality (triploidy plus a deletion of one chromosome 10) was a random event and did not increase our chances of future loss. They checked for translocations, genetic abnormalities that can be inherited, and didn't find any. The OB said in contrast that having a previous loss due to a genetic abnormality increases your risk of future genetic abnormalities and we should weight the benefits and costs of invasive testing. </p> <p>Has anyone else received a similar recommendation? Nearly all miscarriages are caused by genetic abnormalities, so this logic would seem to suggest that anyone with a miscarriage should consider cvs or amniocentesis in future pregnancies, but I don't know if that's the standard recommendation. I'm going to do NIPT, but it only tests for trisomies 13, 18, and 21 and the doctor suggested considering invasive testing as well since it can look for many other conditions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/home-doppler-1#post-2731904 Wed, 03 May 2017 14:16:41 +0000 endymion4 2731904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone use a home doppler? how often is it okay to use one? After multiple losses, every pain, stretch, loss of symptoms, etc, has my anxiety sky high. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/were-you-excited-to-be-pregnant-after-prior-losses#post-2730812 Mon, 01 May 2017 10:20:55 +0000 mrskansas 2730812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When you were pregnant after experiencing a loss(es), did you allow yourself to be excited? If not, how did you feel? How did you deal with all the emotions?</p> <p>As there is every month, there is a chance I could be pregnant. I've had three confirmed losses in the past 7 months and keep telling myself that this month isn't it, next month will be "my" month, etc. I don't know if that's intuition talking or just my fear of being pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-announce-your-pregnancy-after-loss-on-social-media#post-2696684 Sun, 12 Feb 2017 21:13:35 +0000 winniebee 2696684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my pregnancies with DS1 and DS2, I announced on social media after our anatomy scans. With DS3, I was planning to do the same but then we lost him at 18 weeks. I did announce on social media that we had a third son and he was born sleeping with a few details, and I'm glad that I did that.</p> <p> I haven't said anything on social media about our new son. I passed my anatomy scan with flying colors and am 20 wks tomorrow, but still am not sure I want to put it all out there. I feel so vulnerable even at this point....but at the same time feel guilty that I'm not celebrating this pregnancy. </p> <p>Did you announce your pregnancy after loss on social media? Were you happy that you did? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heartbeat-at-11-weeks-give-me-hope#post-2629480 Thu, 29 Sep 2016 18:02:06 +0000 bubblegum 2629480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby and thrilled but at today's appt, they couldn't find a heartbeat. He said it was due to the position of my uterus and I have an ultrasound scheduled for Monday. Can anyone share some positive stories of the same experience? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prometrium-just-in-case#post-2625071 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 20:57:58 +0000 Iced Tea 2625071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The nurse at my midwives' office prescribed me Progesterone 100 mg (oral) following a blood test we did yesterday (8 or 9 DPO). They said my hcg and progesterone were both appropriate for this point in the pregnancy. However, since I've had three miscarriages before, they felt "it couldn't hurt, and might be beneficial" to prescribe progesterone just in case. </p> <p>Now I'm reading the side effects, and I'm concerned about taking this "just in case". It talks about increased risks of breast cancer and discussing use with your doctor if you have a family history; there is a strong history of breast cancer in my family (my mom died of it in her mid 40s). It's in my charts but I doubt the nurse checked.</p> <p>A search on HB shows everyone reporting breast tenderness and nausea. This also worries me since I'm still breastfeeding my daughter and had debilitating nausea when pregnant with her. </p> <p>If I could just try it, then discontinue, then it wouldn't be a big deal. But the nurse said I would have to remain on it for 12 weeks. So now I'm torn about starting it at all. </p> <p>I'd love to hear from any of you ladies who took it, or who decided not to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616332 Mon, 05 Sep 2016 23:43:58 +0000 littleblessings 2616332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel ridiculous but I don't feel like I belong in a loss board or anything. After all my loss was just a chemical pregnancy. Although I am almost 8 weeks pregnant I am finding it hard to celebrate this pregnancy. I am so fearful of another loss and find myself grieving at night when I'm the only one awake. I feel bad that I can't celebrate this rainbow the way i should but I didn't think I would still be grieving once I got pregnant again. When did you finally feel able to celebrate a pregnancy after you experienced a loss? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd3rd-tri-loss-mamas-in-subsequent-pregnancies#post-2584147 Mon, 11 Jul 2016 12:33:14 +0000 MaryM 2584147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I looked back and the last pregnancy after loss board fizzled several months ago, so I didn't want to revive that one. </p> <p>And I'm finding that pregnancy after a 2nd tri loss is VERY different than pregnancy after an early MC. </p> <p>Anyone else want to commiserate (or offer advice if you've survived this!)?</p> <p>I had a *really* tough weekend. There was a Mass for our daughter yesterday, so I was already in a funk about missing her and grieving her. </p> <p>Then I told my brother's kids I'm pregnant. As soon as I told her, my 9 year old niece looked me in the eye and with a straight face said, "Do you promise?" (cue tears)</p> <p>I feel guilty when get too sad about Gigi because I know I need to cherish this time with the new baby. But I feel guilty if I get too happy about the new baby, because I still miss and grieve for Gigi. </p> <p>I'm hesitant to tell some people, because I know they'll expect me to be all excited and over the moon...but they can't possibly understand how incredibly scary and anxiety-inducing pregnancy is for me now. </p> <p>But I also want to tell everyone ASAP because I want them to know this baby exists no matter the outcome. I feel bad that most people only knew about Gigi for a couple weeks before she died. </p> <p>Anyone else in this situation need to commiserate? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnant-after-loss-chat#post-2435192 Sun, 24 Jan 2016 14:08:31 +0000 Litebrite 2435192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there are a few of us who are currently knocked up after experience a loss. Anyone want to chat about how it is going? My thoughts have been ranging from neutral to pessimistic.</p> <p>How is everyone getting through it? I suspect I need to just take it one day at a time until my first u/s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnant-after-a-loss#post-1890631 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 15:25:33 +0000 Jess1483 1890631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello all-</p> <p>I see that there's a "pregnant after loss" gold thread, but some of us on the "Beyond Miscarriage Support" thread thought having a newer and non-gold thread available for support throughout pregnancies. So here it is!</p> <p>So:</p> <p>Your story:<br /> Due Date:<br /> LO #:<br /> How are you coping with pregnancy after a loss:<br /> Is your doctor recommending different care after a loss:<br /> Something interesting about you: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-reassure-me-1st-tri-fears#post-2392258 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 12:46:48 +0000 runnerd 2392258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just need some good Hellobee people to say "it's going to be ok" even if you don't believe it!!!</p> <p>Background: 8wk miscarriage, followed by DS, then another 8 wk miscarriage when we started TTC #2 this summer.</p> <p>I'm now about 13 weeks pregnant with #2, and every scan (I've had 4) the baby has looked perfect. Of course fears are hard to overcome after loss. What has complicated things is that I had a truly terrifying bleeding incident at 9.5 weeks, where I bleed through my clothes while running and passed two 3 inch blood clots. There was no explanation for it from doctors, just to take it easy. I had a follow up at 11.5 weeks where everything looked good still, but I am so scared that something could have gone wrong since then - the unknown of why I had that bleeding is making my mind run crazy.</p> <p>I am at my breaking point. I have an appt Monday where they will use a Doppler, but I am losing it and feel like I can't go another day so tried to book an elective ultrasound for this weekend and tried 4 places and can't get in anywhere. </p> <p> :crying: I've resisted writing these frantic worry posts but I am just having such awful anxiety today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/charting-a-pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-2394935 Sun, 20 Dec 2015 09:49:53 +0000 LCTBQE 2394935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies, would love some advice from the experienced charters out there. I am pregnant the cycle immediately following a miscarriage (my second in 5 months), and I'm worried about my temps not rising enough. I do think my coverline is a little artificially high because of the m/c, but it seems like the numbers should be climbing up to 98.5+ range, but instead they're hovering lower. I was terrified the day it dipped below the coverline. However, my betas were normal and my progesterone level, according to my OB, is "through the roof". But I'm scared that my temps were higher last week than now.</p> <p>Would you be worried? And, did you stop charting after confirming your pregnancy? I guess the bigger question here is: when to stop micro-managing when you are a type-A, freaked-out train wreck? :happy: Tell me what you did! </p> [attach=6423/15/nznvv5.600x283.useee.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confusing-hcg-behaviour#post-2277368 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 04:24:31 +0000 sslm 2277368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So last Saturday(3w4d) and Monday(3w6d) I got HCG results back and they were 46 and 55 respectively. My doctor told me to still have hope, but as a lot of you know I just knew it was miscarriage #3. She had me repeat my bloodwork, but the earliest I could was Saturday (4w4d). She called me last night (best doctor ever) to say she had really good news and my HCG was up to 1000 (and change). </p> <p>The only reasonable explanation I can think of is the lab made a typo and the 55 was wrong? Maybe it should've been 155? </p> <p>I'm so confused and wary of being happy about this... Are there terrible things that could cause this? Help!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-of-another-loss#post-2370654 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 14:38:32 +0000 struggleisreal 2370654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Thanksgiving, everyone. I just realized when I found out about my new pregnancy on Nov 24, that it was exactly 1 year since I had found out about another pregnancy that ended up being a chemical pregnancy. It was right before Thanksgiving, and I spent the holiday so excited to be pregnant....only to lose it a week later. So now I'm pregnant, and it's Thanksgiving, and I'm so worried it will again be a loss -- for no other reason than I had that loss and another in the last year. Crazy déjà vu. I get to have blood work on Monday and will take it from there. I just wish I could relax and enjoy being pregnant today.</p> <p>Thanks for reading. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sogot-a-this-morning#post-2368570 Tue, 24 Nov 2015 16:57:45 +0000 struggleisreal 2368570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much for sending suggestions after my last post (<a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-me-handle-infertility-in-everyday-life" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-me-handle-infertility-in-everyday-life</a>). Since then, my HCG levels dropped to 0, all blood work came back normal, dye test (HSG) showed no blockage in the tubes, Dr gave the "all clear." So we TTC this month. I really thought I was out because I started taking tests around what I thought was 9-10 DPO and have kept getting negatives....UNTIL TODAY.</p> <p>This morning, I took two different tests (expired Internet cheapie and a good FRER). Both came back positive! (I'm guessing I ovulated later this cycle than I thought I did -- no temping or OPKs -- and that's why the later +.)</p> <p>SO....I contacted my Dr who said she'd order blood tests for next week and an early u/s in 2-3 weeks if the tests look good.</p> <p>I'm so nervous to get too attached or excited for fear of another chemical or ectopic. The betas were a nightmare last time. Not sure how to feel about being pregnant now after going through 2 losses in the last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260412 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 22:22:00 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2260412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been petite and very thin. As in 5'3" and 93lbs.. I am *that* tiny Asian girl.</p> <p>My first two pregnancies ended in miscarriage. people around me even before I got pregnant advised me to gain weight before having kids but honestly it is just very hard for me to gain weight and I eat really well!</p> <p>We saw an RE after my second miscarriage who basically suggested I take progesterone for my next pregnancy.</p> <p>Meanwhile all the older Asian ladies around me suggested bedrest for the next pregnancy.</p> <p>So when I got pregnant the third time I took progesterone and I was on bedrest for the first trimester... And my son was born healthy and strong 5 days early.</p> <p>After my son was born I totally went back to my 93lb self even though I was really hoping after giving birth I would be a bit heavier!</p> <p>Now I am pregnant again and I took progesterone and was on a modified bed rest (as much rest as possible with a young toddler...)</p> <p>I passed my 12 week mark but I was wondering- do I need to be this careful every pregnancy??? I know western doctors will say no, but Im curious to know the perspective of eastern and Asian medicine folks..</p> <p>We do want a third maybe even fourth child so if you or anyone you know has gone through anything similar I would love to hear... Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-take-progesterone#post-2217367 Wed, 24 Jun 2015 14:39:49 +0000 DesertDreams88 2217367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on oral progesterone up through 12 weeks due to a previous loss and PCOS. I thought 12 weeks was the unquestioned standard, but then I saw some posts here and there with other timelines... what did your doctor recommend? What did you end up doing? Did you wean yourself off over a period of time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnant-after-miscarriage#post-2203426 Tue, 09 Jun 2015 20:08:18 +0000 Ms Sunshine 2203426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Everyone- Im new to hellobee. My pregnancy journey has been a long one. Had a previous miscarriage last year and after several rounds of fertility treatment, I am now pregnant. Feeling very anxious and looking for some hopeful stories. My symptoms are minimal but am just hoping that is because it is very early on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgot-to-do-progesterone-this-morning#post-2162008 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 10:53:17 +0000 travellingbee 2162008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agh! I forgot to do my crinone (progesterone) this morning? Do you think it can wait until after work or should I try to run home at lunch to do it? Stupid pregnancy brain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-some-positive-stories-about-very-light-tests#post-2153466 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 06:18:47 +0000 travellingbee 2153466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 11dpo, and as you might have seen on the other thread, here's my test. I got a faint BFP yesterday and today's is more clear for sure, but with two miscarriages behind me, I'm terribly nervous. (My CP I didn't get a line until 13dpo and my early miscarriage that never doubled right was darker than this at this point so I am feeling a little hopeless!!) So if you can humor me.... Tell me about your successful squinter!!!</p> <p>[attach=3175/15/nn9bfw.553x600.image.jpg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-been-following-our-story#post-2101254 Mon, 09 Mar 2015 18:37:01 +0000 Torchwood 2101254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our anatomy scan today, and I feel like I can finally breathe! LO's brain (and everything else) looks totally normal. There is some minor concern about a couple of small spots on the placenta that look like they're not working well, but it's just something to monitor, from what she said, not anything scary. As long as LO's growth doesn't fall behind (she's a little ahead right now!), no worries. So while part of me is just wondering why I can't have a 100% normal pregnancy (?!?!), I am so, so relieved. And kind of freaking out; we're actually having a baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1989695 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 10:20:14 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1989695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have spent the last couple of days on one heck of a roller coaster...part of it hormonal, part of it due to a very stressful week at work (which I managed like a champ), and part of it due to gnawing anxiety. </p> <p>It comes...it goes. I'm not compulsively DOING anything, though I am ruminating obsessively about this pregnancy, symptom-spotting (I also handle HCG like a champ, so symptoms are mild), and fretting...and then trying to calm the %#*! down because I know that's not doing any good. </p> <p>I'm 5 weeks 6 days today and feeling somewhat petrified about my ultrasound next week...part of me thinks "6 days is such a long time...just relax until then" and then part of me thinks that's really soon and I need to "be prepared."</p> <p>I've had lots of ultrasounds, no big deal there...but my last two obstetric ultrasounds (detecting a missed m/c where there had been a heartbeat a few weeks earlier and an empty sac after IVF) really rocked my world. :sad: </p> <p>So far, I've had a HPT where I thought "gosh, that's a much lighter line than I've seen before" and two betas, both of which were on the lower side (I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything) but doubling well within the 72-hour window that is supposedly normal. I'm just way more nervous with this pregnancy than I've EVER been before...and am feeling like a bit of a basket case.</p> <p>If, God forbid, we have another loss, DH and I have agreed that I will definitely seek counseling before we decide our next steps. Heck, if this pregnancy is "it," I may need counseling anyway!</p> <p>I thought about putting this in the Mental Health section...but it's awfully specific.</p> <p>Doesn't anyone have any recommendations for how to be less crazy, under the circumstances? This pregnancy needs optimism and hope...I'm sadly just not there yet. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974460 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:24:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first, we announced to our families at around 7 weeks (Mother's Day was too good to pass up)...just before our good ultrasound...and a few weeks before our bad one (missed m/c). That one also stung because it got around at work that I was pregnant...but of course not everyone got the update.</p> <p>Last time, we were going to wait until the end of the first tri...but wound up telling folks (close friends, family) when it turned out to be a blighted ovum. :sad: And (unfortunately?) a few people, including my in-laws, had already guessed by then, even though it was early (6.5 weeks), because a) they knew we were doing IVF and b) .... "glowing," I guess?</p> <p>This time, I'm not sure. I'm tired of secrecy...on the other hand, I'm worried that my mother and mother-in-law may not adequately temper their enthusiasm, even though they know what we've been going through. I'm kind of a wreck right now-- hopeful, but it's SO early....</p> <p>What did/would you do?</p> <p>ETA: I do have a few girlfriends who I did/will tell after that first (or second?) good beta... </p>