https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 13:22:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927058 Wed, 18 May 2022 18:37:58 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caitcat: yes!! They catch on so fast. :)</p> <p>@karenbme: I forgot to add…a bath!!! Give her a daytime bath. You can sit by the tub and just chill and watch her play. Give her toys she doesn’t always get in the tub. Or a lollipop or a popsicle (minimal cleanup because it’s the tub!) — bonus points you can soak your own feet ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927055 Wed, 18 May 2022 08:06:45 +0000 caitcat 2927055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@togetherthroughlife: I did this often when I was pregnant with my second. I brought a some toys into our guest room and just let my daughter play while I rested. The room was pretty sparse and my daughter hardly spent time there before, so she thought it was novel/special to be in there...and it was easy to kid-proof and close us in. I rested while she played and babbled about whatever she was playing. She eventually sorted out that while we were in there, she would play more independently than when we were in other parts of the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927054 Wed, 18 May 2022 07:10:55 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a level of “guilt” (even though you didn’t use that strong a word here!) is very common when dealing with pregnancy symptoms and later on newborn days…all with a toddler who previously got all our love. I know I dealt with that! You said you’re worried that she’ll tell people at school you aren’t feeling well. Is there someone you could tell at the school that would keep it private? An adult who could know that if your daughter starts saying that, it’s definitely not about Covid? But in general I wouldn’t worry that a toddler’s hearsay would get you in trouble with Covid restrictions! I also don’t think it means you need to tell everyone before you’re ready. I think a happy medium could be found with just one trusted, professional adult!</p> <p>I really struggled with being tired in that same window. After preschool pickup but before my husband got home from work to relieve me. TV didn’t keep my kid still. One day I woke up to him crying because he had opened the fridge, opened some hot sauce, and drank it. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I had fallen asleep on the couch. I think just creating a “yes environment” and then allowing yourself to rest is perfectly fine. Maybe you both go in her room with some toys, you lay on her bed, the door is closed to keep her safe, and then you allow yourself to just rest or sleep while she plays in that “yes environment?” Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927053 Tue, 17 May 2022 20:59:14 +0000 karenbme 2927053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we tried some TV time today, and even though she sat and watched Bluey, she is very much in a questions phase and I wound up needing to watch closely so that I could answer all the questions she had 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ultimately, I just have to accept that I’m not going to be able to be available 100% of the time, but it’s so hard when we only get a few hours together on weekdays..</p> <p>@Lahela017: I haven’t tried Preggie Pops, but just ordered some from Amazon. Thanks for the rec.</p> <p>@Chuckles: Thanks! We’re still not out of the woods, but it’s getting more real.</p> <p>@winter_wonder: That’s an idea, too, there are three other families on our block with two year olds, but with the pandemic none of us have really connected or had play dates yet. I’m in the northeast where cases are high right now and I think we’re all just anxiously waiting for a vaccine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927049 Tue, 17 May 2022 10:16:59 +0000 winter_wonder 2927049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so hard ❤ could your toddler do a play date with a family friend or neighbor a few times a week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927048 Tue, 17 May 2022 09:12:37 +0000 Chuckles 2927048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any suggestions, but I wanted to say that I'm just so excited that you're still pregnant and things are going well so far! Yay and congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927047 Tue, 17 May 2022 08:08:17 +0000 LadyDi 2927047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have tips for the sickness, but screen time or TV time would have been my suggestion too. Sometimes it's just about survival and if you need 30 minutes then letting her cuddle on you while she plays a game on an ipad or watches a show it'll be fine. The same applies for the 4th trimester :)</p> <p>Re: her telling people at daycare, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Kids at that age say crazy things anyway, so I think the teachers probably don't put too much thought into their babblings about home. And even if they did it's none of their business to ask you...you could have a chronic illness or something else going on other than covid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927046 Tue, 17 May 2022 01:07:46 +0000 bhbee 2927046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry, it’s awful! My first thought was tv too. Maybe you lie down and she gets to cuddle in a little nook behind your legs and watch a favorite show for 30 min while you close your eyes. Could be a helpful routine for 3rd tri exhaustion too. </p> <p>I never had much that would help me feel better except time. And sleeping on the floor or couch while my kids played or had a show, even 20 minutes. I did find with my third heartburn was awful and making me sicker, but hopefully you don’t have that piece. </p> <p>Kids are pretty oblivious so hopefully with a little distraction she won’t say anything. Or they might assume but wouldn’t ask. </p> <p>Here’s hoping things start to improve, 8 weeks is such a hard time! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927045 Mon, 16 May 2022 20:21:49 +0000 Lahela017 2927045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, sorry your dealing with being sick. It's even worse when you have to take care of a little one too. I'd let your kiddo watch some special TV while you get some down time between work and dinner. I'm currently pregnant and have a three year old. I've definitely let go of the screen time limits I had pre-pregnancy. I don't go too crazy, but some days I just really need the break, and that's ok.</p> <p>Also, for the nausea, have you tried Preggie Pops? They are sour hard candy, and the only thing that worked for me. They only work while you are sucking on them, but it was a glorious 10-15 minute break from being sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hiding-morning-sickness-from-toddler#post-2927043 Mon, 16 May 2022 19:20:14 +0000 karenbme 2927043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m wondering if anyone has any advice on being pregnant while parenting a toddler and working full time. I’m 8 weeks along with number 2 and my morning sickness gets cumulatively worse all day. My two year old has started noticing (and crying about) the fact that I need to take 15-30 minutes to lie down most evenings between daycare pick up and dinner when my symptoms get bad. I try to graze and not let myself get too hungry, but most days I just feel exhausted and very sick by the end of my work day. Mint gum helps a little bit, but I have no luck with ginger tea or gum and carbonated beverages definitely make it worse for me. Any advice would be appreciated. </p> <p>PS- I’m also a little bit worried that my daughter is going to tell people at daycare that I’m not feeling well, which given Covid restrictions could mean that we have to choose between telling before we’re ready and keeping DD home. If it comes down to it I’d tell, but since I’ve lost 4 pregnancies in the past I’d really rather wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899274 Fri, 11 Oct 2019 09:04:45 +0000 peachykeen 2899274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tysonja: I'm sure you know this, but others might not -<br /> FASD is actually a spectrum. The vast majority of cases are not discovered until school age when the child presents with behavioral problems and/or learning difficulties. So I would take all of the "I drank a glass of wine a day during my pregnancy and my baby turned out fine" anecdotes with a grain of salt. It's just safer to abstain and something easy to prevent. Like @foodiebee: said - it just isn't worth it to me to introduce the uncertainty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899140 Thu, 10 Oct 2019 09:54:54 +0000 Shantuck 2899140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, I had a two glasses of wine my entire pregnancy (both in the 3rd trimester and I was literally measuring out the quantity in a measuring cup with oz. so I didn't accidentally overpour). With my second, I maybe had three glasses of wine my entire pregnancy starting in the second trimester. I'm now 17 weeks with my third and I've had a couple small glasses of wine after reaching the second trimester. I'll probably continue to have a small glass every few weeks. I know several people who enjoyed a weekly glass of wine throughout their entire pregnancies (each with 2 or 3 kids). I haven't been really been comfortable with drinking much in my earlier pregnancies but I guess I'm a little more lax with the third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899133 Thu, 10 Oct 2019 09:17:52 +0000 foodiebee 2899133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting to hear about the criticism of how it was handled in Expecting Better. I did not indulge, mostly because it took 3 years for me to get pregnant and I didn't need a reason to blame myself (any more than I already would) if something had happened. It wasn't worth it to me. Also, I felt crappy the entire pregnancy and didn't have any desire for even a sip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899088 Wed, 09 Oct 2019 21:18:14 +0000 Jennibenni 2899088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899086 Wed, 09 Oct 2019 19:59:49 +0000 Umbreon 2899086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took us too long to conceive so I didn't want to chance anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899081 Wed, 09 Oct 2019 18:34:21 +0000 tysonja 2899081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i chose not to, but understand why some would chose to have a glass in moderation. that said, i have fostered children and have worked with children with FASD (way more common than one might expect) and it's just not worth the risk. as others have said above, the research is inconclusive as to a safe amount. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2899022 Wed, 09 Oct 2019 08:28:12 +0000 peachykeen 2899022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I concur with everything @periwinklebee: said. I did have a few small sips of my husband's wine in the late 2nd trimester/early 3rd (we were in Italy and Portugal) but didn't feel it was worth risking more than a taste. I work in maternal child health research and the unknown dose-response that periwinklebee mentioned is exactly what my colleagues have shared with me very candidly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898935 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 13:22:55 +0000 Chuckles 2898935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't during the second trimester because I didn't feel comfortable at that point. I would be having a glass a week now that I'm almost done, but I have gestational diabetes that's been kind of hard to control, so wine is out for the next month or so still :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898927 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 12:50:38 +0000 periwinklebee 2898927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I'm the same way, after not drinking anything during pregnancy/initial bf, the very limited tolerance I had initially was gone. I definitely don't judge anyone who drinks in moderation during pregnancy, but it's not for me... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898918 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 12:00:50 +0000 bhbee 2898918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I used to work with a lot of scientists and had this exact conversation with one of them! That we just don’t know, obviously some people drink heavily and their babies are fine and some might drink a smaller amount and have an effect. </p> <p>I’m also not a big drinker so didn’t mind going cold turkey all 3 times, in fact I can barely handle one drink now a year pp, but I might hesitate more if you’re also already taking some category C medicines and just avoid the risk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898887 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 08:46:19 +0000 graceandjoy 2898887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a big drinker to begin with, so I have not for 2 pregnancies and I'm half-way through my 3rd pregnancy and do not plan to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898880 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 08:27:28 +0000 periwinklebee 2898880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the bottom line (and why many medical researchers/doctors I know weren't very happy with the treatment of the topic in expecting better) is that we don't have any evidence about the dose response function to alcohol during pregnancy. </p> <p>What I mean by this is that different people will respond differently to different doses of alcohol. Same thing with any medicine. Most people could take 6 tylenol and be great but the recommended dose is 2 because some people will have really negative side effects with more than that. We know this because there was a lot of testing, which we just don't have with alcohol. Plenty of people are fine with in it moderation during pregnancy, but some people don't metabolize it as well and then you get into concerns about whether it affects the baby. </p> <p>I personally don't drink, but I also don't drink much outside of pregnancy either so it's not much of a sacrifice. If I wanted to, I would just start out with a couple of sips, and pay careful attention to how I felt after, and go from there.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898871 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:49:45 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2898871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No.. probably not the end of the world but the doctor said don't so I didn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898869 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:48:20 +0000 Littlebit7 2898869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a glass of wine a day for most of my second and third trimester. I did all of the things you aren’t “supposed to do”. I also took care of myself, tried to eat relatively well, sometimes exercised. I have two happy and healthy kids. Maybe I’m lucky, but I also followed more of the European guidelines than US guidelines (I am in the US) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898842 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 06:14:48 +0000 wrkbrk 2898842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had some champagne at my baby shower but it was at 35 weeks! So not in the second tri but I’m quite sure it’s fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898835 Tue, 08 Oct 2019 00:35:36 +0000 Petitduck 2898835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not in 3 pregnancies. Just not my jam. I have anxiety though the roof while pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898827 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 22:11:31 +0000 thepicklemonster 2898827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a glass of wine about every other week throughout both pregnancies. Kiddos (3 and 9 months) are birth perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898825 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 22:10:19 +0000 JJ2626 2898825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes-a glass a month maybe? Then in 3rd maybe a little more-by 34 weeks i had wine like once a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898806 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 19:31:48 +0000 SweetiePie 2898806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really for first baby. 2nd baby yes. Maybe a couple times a month if out to dinner or at a party I’d have a glass of wine or a beer. And once a weak margarita that I sipped slowly over the course of 2 hours. 😬<br /> I was told as long as I didn’t feel drunk it was fine. I never even felt buzzed with any of those drinks. If I felt even the slightest hint I stopped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beerwine-second-trimester#post-2898804 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 19:11:21 +0000 pachamama 2898804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did a few times. Babes are fine. </p>