https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 05:40:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prenatal-diagnosis-questions-to-be-asking-doctors#post-2924921 Tue, 14 Sep 2021 13:06:02 +0000 periwinklebee 2924921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much for sharing and so happy to hear your LO is doing well!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prenatal-diagnosis-questions-to-be-asking-doctors#post-2924916 Mon, 13 Sep 2021 20:00:19 +0000 Clementine12 2924916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some of you might remember my son was diagnosed in-utero with Agenesis of Corpus Callosum - he is just shy of 3 months and is doing really well. I am clearing out some notes and came across my list of questions to ask at our meeting with the fetal health team that I thought might be worth sharing for people facing prenatal diagnoses. I am trying not to include anything too specific to his diagnosis,, but we did know there was a problem with his brain before the meeting (we thought hydrocephalus at the time). </p> <p>Feel free to chime in if you have anything to add.</p> <p>What can we expect labor/delivery to be like? Will he need intervention right after birth? Is a vaginal birth still advisable? Do you forsee NICU time? Are we ok to still deliver @ out hospital (what level of NICU?) w/ my current doctor?</p> <p>Is his condition currently stable? What followup care will I need during this pregnancy for this condition? Is there anything I should be on the lookout for? What would indicate a problem that needs reporting and who would I be reporting it to?</p> <p>What activities should I be doing or avoiding at this time? Is there a point in which it is safer for baby to come out than be in? Is there anything I need to avoid during labor (drugs, etc)?</p> <p>What treatment options are available? When would they begin? Does early diagnosis/treatment change outcome?</p> <p>What does the follow-up care look like? What tests will be done and when will they be done?</p> <p>What can we expect for his quality of life? What sort of appointment schedule will he be on? What doctors would he need to see regularly?</p> <p>What therapies/services do you anticipate he will need in childhood and beyond? What delays should we expect or be on the lookout for?</p> <p>What therapies/services do you anticipate he will need in childhood and beyond? What delays should we expect or be on the lookout for?</p> <p>Who will be coordinating his care among the multiple clinics he will be a patient of? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913847 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:57:05 +0000 Becky 2913847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d wear a mask anywhere you have to go out of the house for sure (not like on a walk, but the store, doctor’s, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913846 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:55:41 +0000 JennyPenny 2913846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've worn a homemade mask to appointments the past 2 weeks and have been really surprised that I've been the only one there to do so. DH said that he sees more masks at the grocery store but certainly not everyone is doing it. No one at my OB office said anything one way or the other about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913844 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:26:39 +0000 SweetCaroline 2913844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My county only has 17 positives. I will absolutely be wearing a mask to my next appointment. One of my friends did her glucose test and she picked up the glucose in advance so that she could drink and walk into the office just in time to get her blood drawn. I didn't even sit down in the waiting room last time, no way I would want to sit there for an hour, especially in a family med office. We are also screened at the building entrance, given a mask if we don't have one and required to use hand sanitizer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913843 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:24:24 +0000 josina 2913843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had to go a couple times (not to an OB)... I didn't wear a mask but do have one just in case. They will take your temp and ask questions before letting you in the door. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913841 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:23:32 +0000 BUNBUN 2913841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, here's my experience from Texas. My county currently has 250 confirmed cases, but we are one county away from Houston. These policies have been in place for 3-4 weeks now, from back when we had less than `100 confirmed cases in my county.<br /> My OB office is closed to all routine patients - only emergency and OB patients are being seen.<br /> You are asked screening questions at the door of the building and your temperature is taken, then you are given a wrist band indicating that you have been screened (this building is directly connected to the hospital, so I believe that is why).<br /> In the office, all staff is wearing masks. There is no sign-in (so no pen to touch) and all of the chairs are spaced 6' apart. All doors (except door to practice and bathroom door) were opened for me, so I didn't touch anything inside the practice except the bathroom door. I then washed my hands and used a paper towel to reopen that door.</p> <p>I also wore a (home made) mask and here's why:<br /> 1. anyone can be a carrier and not know it. My godmother contracted Covid (and later died) from a seemingly healthy family member with no known risk factors.<br /> 2. social norms! If I wear a mask, it makes everyone else feel better about wearing masks, and it's other people wearing masks that will end up protecting me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913840 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:20:46 +0000 JCCovi 2913840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my glucose test last week and I hadn’t received instructions but I wore a mask anyway. When I got there they were requiring all patients to wear masks. So I would definitely bring one just in case! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/masks-at-doctor-visits#post-2913839 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:11:52 +0000 codeitall 2913839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got the lovely glucose test tomorrow. My county has less than 300 positives and I didn't get any instructions from my office (it is a family medicine, so not just OB) other than call before coming if I have any symptoms. Have you worn masks for your OB visits? What are other doctor offices doing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909673 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 16:38:53 +0000 cat620 2909673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I declined them with both pregnancies, because I didn't see the point and thought they were slightly uncomfortable. Even if they tell you how dilated and effaced you are, that can change overnight or stay the same for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909657 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 14:04:18 +0000 DesertDreams88 2909657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of believe my cervical check at 39 weeks was one factor for me going into labor... I was only 1cm, not effaced at all, previous baby was induced at 41+1, so OB &amp; I didn't think at all that I was near labor. Cervical check at 4:30pm, nursed toddler around 6:30pm, water broke at 6:45pm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909654 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 12:52:13 +0000 Clementine12 2909654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: I had one check in my first pregnancy (at 39isb weeks, fingertip dialated but went inti labor 2 days later) and none with my second until I got to the hospital at 7 cms in (very) active labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909635 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 07:25:09 +0000 Petitduck 2909635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All my kids were with a midwife and they don’t do checks if you don’t want them (or if there is some reason to) and they typically don’t even suggest until 39 or 40 weeks. I wouldn’t want one before 39 weeks, not because I’m afraid of them breaking my water, just because I feel like it’s totally unnecessary. In 3 pregnancies I had 8 stretch and sweeps and no accidental water breakage. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909629 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 20:01:17 +0000 Mama Bird 2909629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally declined, with all three kids. It's not like these checks give any really useful info in most cases. It wasn't a big deal. The only check I had was when I was 40 weeks with my third and wanted to know if she's got any plans to come out. Totally useless check, because I was told there are zero signs of labor, and she was born six hours later :silly: OK, maybe not totally useless, now I'm wondering if the check made my water break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909628 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 19:25:40 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2909628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first was with a midwife and she didn’t do them, though he was born at 35 weeks due to PPROM. Our second was with an OB and also not offered. Membrane sweeps were offered twice at the very end so I believe DW did them at the 39 week appt and the 40 week. He was born at 40+4 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909617 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 16:23:29 +0000 ElbieKay 2909617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest was born on 41+4 so I got them after my due date in order to keep a pulse on the situation.</p> <p>My twins were induced on 37+2 so I got checked before the induction because it affected whether or not they needed start with a cervical ripener versus just going straight to pitocin. I was already at 2 so we just started on pit.</p> <p>In general I would decline them unless / until I felt the information would inform my decision making. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909612 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 15:34:10 +0000 Kemma 2909612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s not routinely offered in New Zealand and as somebody that was over 40 weeks and walking around at 4-5 dilated for four days I don’t really feel like there’s any benefit to doing them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909608 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 14:00:37 +0000 Becky 2909608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: I would probably elect to get checked prior to the induction so you can better plan what type of induction. Like maybe your cervix and position are super favorable and you can get a foley bulb placed instead of pitocin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909607 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 13:59:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 2909607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My midwife practice didn’t do them routinely until 40 weeks, but would if I requested it starting at 38 I think. I have both babies almost on my due date so I never had a check until I was checking into the hospital in active labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909605 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 13:43:22 +0000 Anagram 2909605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: my practice has a policy of not checking before 38 weeks. I had my first at 38.5 weeks so I’d had one check. </p> <p>2nd pregnancy, I was only 36 weeks when I requested a check—I’d been having intense prodromal labor and had a week long work training and just wanted to know if anything was happening. At 36 weeks I was 2 cm dilated. At 37 weeks I was 3.5cm dilated and I did indeed go into labor at that work training and barely made it to the hospital in time to push—it was scary since I thought for a few minutes I’d be giving birth alone in my car. So in my case, I requested but was kind of told it didn’t necessarily mean anything, but The next morning after the appointment, I went to work and went into labor and went 0-baby in 2 hours time and had to drive myself home (almost 1 hour) in active, painful labor. I should have taken the 3.5 cm thing more seriously and stayed close to home I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909602 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 12:32:52 +0000 LemonJack 2909602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would decline them. My doctor is like @Sams Mom and doesn’t check unless it’s requested. With my first two she checked me starting at 39 weeks and I was never dilated at all. My body seems to only start dilating when I’m in labor. This time I didn’t bother asking her to check me, and I went into labor on my own at 39 + 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909601 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 12:28:53 +0000 bhbee 2909601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: yes last visit before the induction would be a good idea I think - that’s what I did, my ob has always understood me saying no before that visit. I had my induction on a convenient day during the 39th week also and it was super easy. </p> <p>Honestly for a third baby I think you still might even be able to decline it if you want because the induction is not likely to be difficult to start like sometimes happens for first time moms, so you could even ask exactly what they will do with the information before they do the check and make sure it seems useful. In my case I think it helped decide whether to use a cervical ripener in addition to pitocin or breaking water (I ended up with cytotec that didn’t do anything and then just had my water broken). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909600 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 12:17:42 +0000 Shantuck 2909600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: The plan is to induce during the 39th week for me if labor doesn't happen sooner. Since I just turned 40, my risk of having a stillborn birth is much higher than it previously was. If you do cervical checks prior to induction, I'm assuming that is something you would do much much closer to the actual induction, right? Presumably lots could change in 3 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909599 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 12:05:53 +0000 bhbee 2909599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes you can definitely say no! I even said no in labor once when I knew it was too soon to check again. I had zero checks with my first two kids until well into labor. </p> <p>The one time they are informative pre labor I think is if you are being induced. I did have one for that reason at 38w with my third, because we were planning likely induction and a check can indicate how favorable you are and what approach they might take. Doesn’t sound like that’s likely an issue for you anyway and a third baby induction is usually simple anyway! Other than that, no purpose I can see except to mess with your head! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909597 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:50:50 +0000 Becky 2909597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last time my practice offered checks at I think 39 weeks, but was very clear you could deny them. My previous practice did it routinely but they were not a good practice. It has never been predictive for me so if I can help myself I’ll refuse them this time. With my last pregnancy I had a check on Monday, I was 2cm (so nothing), not effaced, and a posterior cervix. I had the baby Wednesday and the first thing the midwife said when she walked in was “Really?!”<br /> because she hadn’t expected me to go for a few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909596 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:50:29 +0000 Tionn3 2909596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never had any cervical checks. I think the cervical checks are kind of useless unless you're actively having contractions or are leaking fluid. When I went to my OB at 37 weeks she didn't offer, and I didn't ask. However, she did tell me that I was already engaged and wouldn't be surprised if I didn't make it to 39 weeks. My water broke at 38w2d and that is how my labor started, so I guess she was right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909594 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:43:37 +0000 MrsSCB 2909594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't, because I'm nosy and wanted to know what was going on in there, even knowing that it didn't mean much :silly: But I feel like I'm in the minority! I also didn't find them that uncomfortable, so I can see why you would decline if you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909593 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:41:27 +0000 skiierchck99 2909593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t think my doctor planned to check until 40 weeks but I only made it to 39. I would probably decline until then if I thought they might do it earlier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909590 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:25:06 +0000 skinnycow 2909590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine doesn’t check unless you ask. I was never checked with my first (had her at 38+5) but did request checks and 39 and 40 weeks with my second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-decline-cervical-checks#post-2909589 Tue, 04 Feb 2020 11:22:12 +0000 Sams Mom 2909589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: mine is fairly young (36/37 I think), and he's all for the you could walk around dilated forever and a day or go 0-10 within hours. </p> <p>I don't think your doctor should challenge you if you decline it. </p>