https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 16:26:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919231 Thu, 24 Sep 2020 13:54:20 +0000 agold 2919231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: We decided to get my older girl her big girl bed. She's got a small 10x12 room, so the biggest we can do in there is a full size. Probably going with a full size day bed and our plan is for one parent to sleep in there either with big girl, or just by ourselves(!!). I hope its me that sleeps in there! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919174 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 13:57:25 +0000 graceandjoy 2919174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: we decided to go for it figuring we can use the bed for someone at some point. Back then we didn’t get a bunk bed. So now we can def use this for #3 at some point in time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919173 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 13:37:42 +0000 agold 2919173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: Oh my goodness. You went all out with this. And it looks as good as possible. But it makes sense and is probably cheaper than buying an entirely different bed. We have a cal king and I'm wondering about the extra 4" from a regular king and if it would be worth it for the full expense of new mattress, bedframe and sheets. That's great your kids will now sleep in bunk beds. Good for your and congratulations on #3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919171 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 13:01:23 +0000 graceandjoy 2919171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: So they moved out b/c we were expecting #3 and I planned (and did/am) bed sharing with #3 so they went into their own room with a bunk bed and my husband sleeps next to them on a mattress haha!</p> <p>I really just a combo of a twin XL frame plus mattress that add up to the same height as my king bed, and got a similar looking headboard. Similar bedding so it doesn't look that crazy. My middle used to kinda sleep in the crack/gap of the 2 beds but she didn't seem to care at all. </p> <p>There is def potential for ALL the kids to be in bed with us once #3 is a little older! </p> [attach=9772/20/qh2nec.600x450.IMG_7831.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919169 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 12:53:25 +0000 agold 2919169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: How did it end? And can you please send a picture of what your room looked like with an extra bed next to it? :silly: That would really solve most of our problems because I find that my girls and I sleep fine when my husband isn't there. Did you get a matching comforter cover and sheets for the extra bed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919161 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 09:54:12 +0000 graceandjoy 2919161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I slept with my now 5.5 and 3.5 year till before they turned 5 and 3. We did king bed plus I put another twin XL right next to it so we have a super big bed. My oldest doesn't move around that much; my middle does but I love/loved co-sleeping b/c we could all sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919015 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 20:01:25 +0000 ALV91711 2919015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: He eventually just stopped. He was crawling in usually between 4-5am and it was easier to let him sleep in our bed then struggle to get him back. By about 4.5 he stopped waking up in the night and just slept in his room. </p> <p>If DH is away he likes to sleep in our bed. And sometimes he will just come sleep on our floor but it only lasts a night or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2919006 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 13:47:13 +0000 agold 2919006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Thanks for making me laugh. Good perspective. </p> <p>@Shybee23: The cot sounds like a decent solution.Best of luck when your little one comes!</p> <p>@wrkbrk: I love when the older kids can start to reason. I am going to try that with a new bed for big girl. And yes, I don't mind when she comes in during the "later" early morning hours. </p> <p>@ALV91711: How did it eventually stop with your older boy?</p> <p>@josina: yes, this all started because my 2 year old is a struggle to get to sleep. The problem is, my kids go to bed much earlier than I go to bed. I like to have the couple evening hours to myself to clean the house, fold laundry, watch a show, work, drink wine, anything, etc. I stopped my 2.5 year olds naps, even though she needs them. If she sleeps even for 5 minutes at anytime in the day, I cannot put her down at night. This is truly so crazy. It's nice your bed goes up against the wall. I would really like that set up and maybe I will think about doing something like that. Because i have to have both of my kids in the middle, except for the nights dad's working. Those nights work best because we three girls all spread out. </p> <p>@Mommy Finger: Sounds like you are exactly right where I am headed in a few years. Oy vey. Best of luck!! I hope that desk can get taken out soon and you can put a mattress on the ground there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918927 Fri, 11 Sep 2020 09:07:01 +0000 Mommy Finger 2918927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a king too and upgraded with DS2 was born as he liked to cosleep. DS1 never wanted to cosleep until he saw baby brother did. :)</p> <p>Now they are almost 8 and 5 and generally good sleepers. That being said, the 8 yo is a ninja and usually ends up in our bed each night. We don't usually notice it as he comes in quietly at some point b/c of a bad dream goes to sleep. It started more regularly in March when everything went down and I wasn't going to say anything b/c there was enough change in the world. I do think it affects his sleep b/c he could probably wake up later but DH and I get up early for work outs and work. </p> <p>The really issue happens when DS2 climbs in bed with us b/c he's more of an active sleeper and will wake everyone up. And then the two of them will fight. </p> <p>I've toyed with putting a mattress on the floor and telling them to sleep there if they come in but we don't have that much room now that DH had to put his desk in our bedroom to WFH. I'm going with the this won't last forever mantra and it's not horrible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918926 Fri, 11 Sep 2020 08:13:01 +0000 josina 2918926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a 5-1/2 year old and 2-1/2 year old who both end up in our king bed at some point during the night. DS (older) will easily go to bed in his own twin, but is usually in ours by midnight. DD is a struggle most nights to get to sleep, sometimes we give up and she goes to bed with us, sometimes she falls asleep in her toddler bed and doesn't come in till 5 am if at all.</p> <p>It is what it is for now. Most nights we don't even notice them come in so it's not worth the fight for us. </p> <p>DH gets the far left of the bed, I'm in the middle, then DD, then DS (then wall). It works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918923 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 23:15:08 +0000 ALV91711 2918923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 is 7 and would probably sleep in our bed if we let him. </p> <p>We have a queen and when he was younger he’d usually end up in our bed at some point. It eventually stopped. </p> <p>DS2 is 2 and hasn’t slept in our bed yet but is a crappy sleeper and I’m sure it will happen at some point. Probably once’s he’s out of the crib. </p> <p>You got to do what works for your family. For us getting sleep is important and walking a toddler back to their bed a gazilliin times isn’t worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918921 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 20:40:39 +0000 wrkbrk 2918921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: I agree! American sleep culture is so weird. It’s the outlier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918920 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 20:39:44 +0000 wrkbrk 2918920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: Our son is 4 and has never been a good sleeper. We incentivize him to stay in his own bed now for 6/7 nights by promising “family night” on Fridays where he gets to watch a movie and sleep in our bed. It’s working so far. He also wakes between 5:00-5:30 and comes down into our bed to sleep with us until we all get up at 6:00 most mornings but we don’t mind that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918915 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 19:25:13 +0000 Shybee23 2918915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 2.5 year old sleeps in our bed. He was a great sleeper as a baby until the 5-6 month mark - we tried every solution we read about to get him back on track, with no luck. Around the 1 year mark, the lack of sleep was seriously affecting everyone's mental health and we just started bringing him into the bed as soon as he woke up during the night. Now, we just put him to sleep in our bed. His pediatrician was pretty encouraging about it - he said it'll probably be a rough transition once we decide to move him but he promises DS won't go off to college a co-sleeper and said we should do what's best for our family right now. </p> <p>It has honestly made a huge difference - we all sleep so much better and I don't see us changing it up anytime soon. That said, having him in the bed doesn't bother either of us - we both work long hours so the extra snuggle time kind of feels like a bonus, and so far he doesn't kick or do anything particularly disruptive. </p> <p>We're expecting another little one in a few months and we'll see how it goes from there - she'll be in the crib in our room (and we won't bring her in our bed at all until at least 1 year), so not sure if her night wakings will affect DS but we'll jump off that bridge when we come to it. I will say, we just got a king bed and while it is lovely, DS still curls up against one of us like a little barnacle no matter how big the bed is :) I am currently sleeping with a pregnancy pillow which kind of gives me a nice little barrier when I feel like I need my own space, maybe you could try that if DD is keeping you awake. I've also heard of some people having better luck putting a cot or little mattress on the floor so kiddo is close but not disrupting you - not sure if your DDs would go for that. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918912 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 18:30:35 +0000 pachamama 2918912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sort of feel like nature intended kids to sleep with their parents 😆. I know it is so annoying but only a few more years....? Fwiw, my 2 sons never, everrrrrr sleep with me and it makes me so sad. I wish I had kid cuddles before they grow up and hate me 😩 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918911 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 18:11:44 +0000 winter_wonder 2918911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We take turns co-sleeping with our 4 year old in her bed (double). She has always been a terrible sleeper. I couldn't take all of the night waking with have a super long commute and having to function at work. If we had to do it over again, it would be nice to have a King in our room and jist sleep as a family, but our 1930s house has tiny bedrooms! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918910 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 18:07:58 +0000 agold 2918910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: @bhbee: @pastemoo: Thanks for responding, all. We have a Cal King. It is certainly past its useful life, but still feels totally fine to us so I, too, feel bad getting a new King. But I think we really need the few extra inches on the sides since I'm also with one knee or one arm off the side of my bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918907 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 17:45:50 +0000 pastemoo 2918907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: I am currently cosleeping with my 4 year old. Both kids, 8 and 4, will come in for nightmares etc. I'm ok with it. So long as everyone is comfortable/has enough room, if it works for you then it works for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918903 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 16:42:18 +0000 bhbee 2918903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes king bed! We try not to cosleep but it’s happened a lot with 2 year old lately. Even in the king bed sometimes one of us leaves from the kicking! I never wanted a king (dh pushed for it when we moved here) but now I see its value! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918902 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 16:01:31 +0000 jhd 2918902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just upgraded to a king size bed this week and I wish we had done it sooner. It felt wasteful to me before because we had a perfectly good queen size bed. I finally just realized that our six year old may not grow out of his middle of the night wakings for a while and for my health I need to get better sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918899 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 14:55:41 +0000 agold 2918899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to hear from anyone who is cosleeping with toddlers. This is something I never wanted to do, and yet, here I am. I went to painful efforts to get my 4 yo to be an amazing sleeper. Tried the same with my now 2.5 year old and she has never been a good sleeper. And I just don't have it in me to battle with her anymore. About 2 months ago, they both now end up in my bed during the night. Big girl still goes to be easy, but she's in a toddler bed and 50% of the nights, she walks into my room around 500 am, if at all. Little one is still a crap sleeper. I've had to drop her naps in order to be able to put her to sleep in her crib. I then have a anywhere from 2 hours to 5 hours before she wakes up crying at which point I now bring her to my bed. She sleeps fine, except she sleeps like a moving helicopter. And she loves to kick us in the back when she's half asleep. Now, if big girl is also in the bed, big girl whines. This is all a mixture of so sweet, kind of funny, and maddening. This feels crazy. But I basically just give up at this point.</p> <p>Is this how cosleeping goes with anyone who is doing it with toddlers? I'd love to hear your experiences! Also, please tell me what size bed you have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918622 Thu, 27 Aug 2020 10:12:31 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2918622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We initially had a kid pillow but my kid rarely slept on it and when she was 3 or so we just got a thinner adult pillow. Now we have thicker ones (she's 7) and she still rarely sleeps on a pillow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918615 Wed, 26 Aug 2020 19:06:06 +0000 Mommy Finger 2918615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never did kid pillows. We always bought the cheap (thin) pillows from Ikea. I learned the hard way that you should never wash them as they explode in the washing machine. Considering they're like $2 each, it was fine to toss them if they got ralphed on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918591 Wed, 26 Aug 2020 06:20:10 +0000 meadow 2918591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is so fun seeing the different ranges! Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918586 Wed, 26 Aug 2020 01:31:11 +0000 ALV91711 2918586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS1 just started using a pillow in the last few months. We’d offered many times but he never wanted one. He may have tried a few nights here or there but never cared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918532 Mon, 24 Aug 2020 13:25:53 +0000 Petitduck 2918532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My three year old has a thinner adult pillow and my 5 year old has two very thin throw pillows and used to use a toddler pillow because she complained her neck hurt whenever we tried thicker pillows. I feel like it’s all personal preference for your kiddies </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918527 Mon, 24 Aug 2020 08:56:17 +0000 graceandjoy 2918527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forget the ages, but I've never bought kid pillows; always just given flat (aka old) adult pillows </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918521 Sun, 23 Aug 2020 20:29:12 +0000 meadow 2918521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: @greencraftycello: cool!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918519 Sun, 23 Aug 2020 15:53:12 +0000 greencraftycello 2918519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Transitioned our oldest from the crib recently because baby was outgrowing the Moses basket. She was 22 months (23 months now) and does fine with an adult pillow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918509 Sat, 22 Aug 2020 13:59:37 +0000 catgirl 2918509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD started using a pillow just before four. It was an adult size pillow but it was really thin. We had offered a toddler pillow at three but she had zero interest. </p>