https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 04:09:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-with-toddlers#post-2918899 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 14:55:41 +0000 agold 2918899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to hear from anyone who is cosleeping with toddlers. This is something I never wanted to do, and yet, here I am. I went to painful efforts to get my 4 yo to be an amazing sleeper. Tried the same with my now 2.5 year old and she has never been a good sleeper. And I just don't have it in me to battle with her anymore. About 2 months ago, they both now end up in my bed during the night. Big girl still goes to be easy, but she's in a toddler bed and 50% of the nights, she walks into my room around 500 am, if at all. Little one is still a crap sleeper. I've had to drop her naps in order to be able to put her to sleep in her crib. I then have a anywhere from 2 hours to 5 hours before she wakes up crying at which point I now bring her to my bed. She sleeps fine, except she sleeps like a moving helicopter. And she loves to kick us in the back when she's half asleep. Now, if big girl is also in the bed, big girl whines. This is all a mixture of so sweet, kind of funny, and maddening. This feels crazy. But I basically just give up at this point.</p> <p>Is this how cosleeping goes with anyone who is doing it with toddlers? I'd love to hear your experiences! Also, please tell me what size bed you have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/adult-pillow-vs-toddler-pillow#post-2918508 Sat, 22 Aug 2020 13:54:55 +0000 meadow 2918508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious..... I know some people start with an adult pillow off the bat and some people buy smaller/toddler pillows.</p> <p>When were you comfortable with your child sleeping in their own bed with an adult pillow?</p> <p>(I'm debating if my kids are ready based on neck angle not anything like SIDS) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wind-down-tips-for-toddlers#post-2918217 Wed, 12 Aug 2020 23:33:20 +0000 nwm 2918217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we're reforming bedtime around here in a number of respects and so we have an opportunity to incorporate new aspects into our routine. our main challenge is that (1) due to rearranging for WFH purposes, all our 3 kids are sleeping in the same room and (2) the 4.5 year old is tired at bedtime, the 9 month old is tired, the 2 year old is absolutely bouncing off the walls, and we can't leave her to CIO/put herself to sleep because she wakes the baby. we already wake her up from her afternoon nap but i know we need to do it even earlier. but i'm also looking for suggestions we could incorporate into our bedtime routine that both the 4.5 year old and 2 year old could do that would help them calm themselves a little. we already do shower, jammies, books, lullabies. there is plenty of nagging involved already so i'm looking for something they might actually enjoy, or a fun low-key quiet task i can assign them? would love to hear any creative solutions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/24-month-old-sleep-help#post-2917709 Mon, 27 Jul 2020 12:26:12 +0000 bhbee 2917709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you had sleep trouble around this age, did anything help? How long did it last?</p> <p>I think it’s a phase ... maybe teeth related ... although she has never been a great sleeper, it’s been terrible lately nap and night. She is sometimes on a great schedule but of course pandemic times aren’t helpful. She definitely doesn’t have high sleep needs and I’ve debated dropping her nap to every other day. We live in Texas so it’s hard to get enough outdoor exercise time in summer and we’re trapped in a small house due to Covid the rest of the time. I know more exercise would probably help. There’s really no end in sight to any of that, since big kids will start school virtually. </p> <p>Maybe I just need reassurance this too shall pass ... our AC has been broken for a few days and everyone is a (literal) hot mess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-amount-for-15-month-old#post-2916739 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 09:44:56 +0000 Umbreon 2916739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is almost 15 months old. I started weaning him from middle of the night feeds about 5 days ago and it's gone way better than I expected. </p> <p>He goes down around 8 - cant seem to get him down earlier than that. But hes been waking up around 6:30. I dont know if it's because I stopped feeding him in the night.. he still wakes up around 3ish but fusses for a few min and goes back to sleep. It's getting better with each night... I vaguely remember hearing him last night.</p> <p>He still has two naps a day. Ranging from 30 min to 1 hour each. He usually doesnt sleep more than 2 hours total during the day. </p> <p>Should he be sleeping more over night? I wonder if the sun is waking him up. We could black out the windows better. Should we move him to one nap? </p> <p>He doesnt fight the naps during the day but maybe we should try to switch to one nap? Or is the amount of time he is sleeping okay? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-unzipping-sleep-sack#post-2911191 Thu, 05 Mar 2020 13:14:08 +0000 JJ2626 2911191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 year old just figured out how to unzip her sleep sack and I’m freaking out. She is a great sleeper and I’m terrified this will change all that. She is waking up earlier when she unzips. We had the woolino but since the zipper is on the size and easier to unzip we switched to baby dee dee but she can unzip that too. What should we do? I’ve heard about it putting it backward but isn’t that uncomfortable? Are there any brands that are harder to unzip? She moves a ton in her crib so no way would she keep a blanket on her plus I feel like the sleep sack keeps her from climbing out so I’d like her to stay in if possible. Would love any tips and tricks! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-help-4#post-2909924 Mon, 10 Feb 2020 17:54:54 +0000 agold 2909924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need some help. I'm at a loss. My 21 month old DD2 is a terrible sleeper. Always has been. Very few good nights ever. She does better sometimes, and then long stretches of terrible. She's almost 2! I have a good routine. My 3.5 year old is an amazing sleeper. My husband and I are good sleepers who love sleep. Why does baby #2 sleep terribly? She has laryngomalacia so I don't like to let her cry it out for too long (i've tried but she will scream for an hour straight and her breathing takes a long time to recover). </p> <p>Has anyone had any luck with sleep training a 2 y.o..? Did anyone's child just sometime start sleeping better? I feel like hiring a sleep couch but hate to spend the money on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-end-of-naps#post-2910284 Sun, 16 Feb 2020 14:12:58 +0000 meadow 2910284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did naps go away for you?</p> <p>Were your kids completely content napping one day and the next week completely done?</p> <p>Did you ease off in any way? Did they shrink down below 1.5 hours?</p> <p>My kids (3.5 yo) were completely fine napping before Christmas....sometimes would put themselves down without any reminders - sometimes after 20-30 minutes I would go in and tell them to go to sleep, sit in the corner to ensure they stayed in their beds, and they'd go to sleep.</p> <p>Those were for 2 hour naps on the regular.</p> <p>This weekend and last weekend my kids are literally jumping in their beds and screaming NO at me, spitting at me, and calling me bad names.</p> <p>It is enraging and DH wants to drop naps all together. I have a hard time believing this is biologically the right time - I expected that we'd wean down to 1 hour or smaller naps before ditching completely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tips-for-3yo-and-6yo-sharing-a-room#post-2907380 Wed, 01 Jan 2020 21:57:37 +0000 Hypatia 2907380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m dying here. Either the older one eggs the younger one on, or the younger one provokes the older one so she can’t nod off. We don’t have anywhere else for them to sleep, so sharing a room is non-negotiable with our new living situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/15-month-sleep-sos#post-2905002 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 22:07:32 +0000 ALV91711 2905002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help! I’m at my wits end. DS2 has never been a great sleeper but in the last month things have gone downhill and this week even worse. </p> <p>About a month ago he got a cold for two weeks then a week later a tooth. Now he has more teeth coming in, he only has 3. He went from waking 1-2 times a night to the last few night waking every couple hours. </p> <p>I know his mouth is sore and I’ve tried Tylenol before bed or when he wakes up but that hasn’t seemed to help. </p> <p>The other night I decided we’d do cio with checks but he cried/screamed on &amp; off for 3 hours! I’m so exhausted. </p> <p>He already goes to bed early (6-6:30) and has about a two hour nap. He’s up for the day around 5:30. </p> <p>I don’t know what to do. Any advice or just commiseration would help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-get-a-preschooler-to-sleep-in#post-2902168 Tue, 12 Nov 2019 08:25:19 +0000 pachamama 2902168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daylight savings screwed up our schedule so my 3y10m son is now waking an hour early. He wakes at 5:30am. If he naps, he doesn't fall asleep til 8:45/9pm so we usually skip them so he can fall asleep at 8/8:15. Haven't had much luck moving bedtime earlier. He is soooo tired all the time. Should I invest in a Hatch? He is absolutely not the type of kid who will "play in his room" quietly til we get up. Probably hopeless but wondering if there's any way we can get him to sleep in longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/warm-sleepwearsleep-sack-for-toddler#post-2900687 Fri, 25 Oct 2019 22:33:32 +0000 bees_knees 2900687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’re renovating our home (nothing like starting a major remodel project when you’re 34 weeks pregnant with your 4th baby 😅) We are taking out the boiler system and installing a furnace, so there’s going to be about 2 week period where our toddler’s (21 mo) room won’t have a direct heat source, aside from leaving the door open and hoping some drifts in there haha. Unfortunately, we’re apparently having an early winter and the high temps are in the 30s right now 🙄 A space heater isn’t an option because of old wiring (which will also be getting taken care of!). Ideas on how to warmly dress DS overnight? He won’t keep a blanket on...I’m thinking footie pajamas and a heavy sleep sack? Maybe a onesie underneath the pajamas? Worst case scenario we can move him into a pack and play in a different room, but it’d obviously be ideal if he could stay in his crib! </p> <p>TLDR: how should I dress my 21 month old for cold night time temps? Recommendations for a heavy (2.5 tog?) sleep sack appreciated :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-failing-at-bedtime-and-i-need-help#post-2898153 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:08:51 +0000 justjules 2898153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS (3 almost 4) and DD (2.5) share a bedroom (Kura bunkbed). Bedtime is a disaster. Like sh*t show. Here is our routine </p> <p>Eat dinner (5:30)<br /> Play 6;00-6:30<br /> PJs<br /> Brush teeth<br /> Books (around 3) in dim room<br /> 7:00 Light out, sound machine on, I sing a few songs </p> <p>The trouble is they don't fall asleep. We have to sit in the room and basically yell at them.for an hour until they fall asleep. They giggle, rile.each other up, want to get out of bed etc. It's so bad. I don't know how to make it better. I dread bedtime. I hate yelling but I don't know what else to do. Taking away things seems to abstract at night. I'm at such a loss. Help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleepsackswearable-blankets-for-toddlers#post-2897327 Thu, 19 Sep 2019 14:47:30 +0000 periwinklebee 2897327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 20 month old is 99% for height and still has not really caught on how to use a blanket. He also overheats really easily. We were using the Halo cotton and muslim sleepsacks, but he's pretty much outgrown them. We inherited some woolino ones as hand me downs, which I know are supposed to be really nice, but he overheated really badly in them. Any suggestions for a sleepsack or wearable blanket that will fit a large 2 year old, and will provide some warmth for winter without being too heavy? I think there was a post on toddler sleepsacks a few months ago, but for some reason I can't find it now.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-year-old-waking-up-multiple-times-at-night#post-2896272 Sat, 07 Sep 2019 09:35:16 +0000 bubbletrouble 2896272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3 year old is waking multiple times at night. It started about two months ago but I cant take it anymore! </p> <p>He sleeps with my older son (6) in a trundle bed and slept just fine until recently. He wakes up around 11 PM and comes into our room asking for his blanket. We take him back to his room, put his blanket on and go back to our room. Around 3 AM he wakes up again and at 4 AM again. He is up at 6 AM for the day and wakes his brother up.</p> <p>He takes one nap from 1:30-3:00 PM. We start our bedtime routine around 7 PM (books, songs, hugs and kisses). Once we put him to bed, he takes a while to settle down delaying bedtime by saying he is hot, cold, wants water, etc. He ends up going to bed by 8:30 PM.</p> <p>I feel that he is not getting enough sleep with the multiple wakeups at night and early wakeups in the morning and could also be affecting his brother's sleep. They have a sound machine and an ok to wake clock.</p> <p>I've never had any issues with sleep with his brother, but this one is more needy and clingy. </p> <p>Any suggestions?? Help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-sack-for-2-3-year-old#post-2890431 Tue, 09 Jul 2019 09:06:48 +0000 peachykeen 2890431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone have recommendations for sleep sacks past the 18-24m range? DD2 still fits in her 24m Hudson baby muslin sacks but I'm trying to buy ahead for winter. DD1 stopped using sleep sacks before she turned 2 so I don't have any experience with bigger ones. Looking into the Halo footed ones, but I also know she used to lose her socks in bed every night so not sure how effective these are (we do cotton 2-piece PJ sets due to eczema).</p> <p>Any recs? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-to-toddler-bed-transition-2#post-2892133 Wed, 24 Jul 2019 12:51:50 +0000 meadow 2892133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am absolutely terrified.....but on Saturday afternoon my DH and I are going to convert the twins' cribs into toddler beds. (DD and DS are 3yo)</p> <p>There are 8 million variables and so many things are going to go wrong.....how long will they goof off at night..... are naps going to be completely over in 3 days even though I know developmentally the kids still need them? Just so many thoughts...</p> <p>My question for HB is this.....(yes, I know this sounds silly, but I just need to crowd source this one....)</p> <p>Did you "unveil" the bed at bedtime or before?<br /> [I mean nothing fancy by this ... like literally, should I walk them into the room before dinner and show them... or wait until teeth are brushed/PJs on and we walk in for bedtime story....]</p> <p>Part of me thinks it would be good to digest the change before the bedtime routine and part of me thinks it will give them time to play and think of their new bed as a play space.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-year-sleep-regression#post-2892603 Sun, 28 Jul 2019 21:56:21 +0000 LemonJack 2892603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anybody dealt with the two year sleep regression? Our older daughter never went through it, but our younger daughter definitely is. She went through a brutal regression at 18 months too, so I shouldn’t be surprised.</p> <p>Both naps and nighttime sleep are affected. Her naps were usually 2.5-3 hours, and are now about 1-1.5 hours max. That’s not the big issue though. GOING to sleep is a nightmare for both naps and bedtime. She wants us to rock her or hold her hand for every nap and nighttime, and will cry, scream, and carry on resisting sleep if we don’t do that. Even us sitting in the chair in her room doesn’t appease her. She wants us to sit next to her crib and touch her. Bedtime is a hour and a half ordeal. Once she’s asleep, she’s generally sleeping okay.</p> <p>She just got her last molars in last week, so that’s not it. She does have a lot of changes going on - a huge verbal spurt, and she’s also showing a lot of interest in potty training.</p> <p>If anyone else went through this, did anything help? How long did it last? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-drop-laying-down-with-your-preschooler-at-bedtime#post-2888350 Thu, 20 Jun 2019 21:02:40 +0000 lady baltimore 2888350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 3.5. We moved her out of a crib last fall, and dropped the pacifier right after her third birthday, both with little fanfare. Over the winter sometime, the bad habit of laying down with her while she fell asleep crept up on us. The current bedtime routine is brushing teeth, using the toilet, changing into pajamas, reading two books, one story/chat with each parent who is home (usually both of us, but sometimes only one), and then whoever went second telling a story lays down with her until she falls asleep. Some nights she passes out fairly quickly, but other times it seems to take FOREVER for her to fall asleep, and the parent's presence is clearly a stimulation/distraction.</p> <p>I am so ready to drop the cuddling-to-sleep, but I am not sure which strategy to use. I know that I have to start being firmer about obvious stalling techniques (I have definitely been letting some things slide for the sake of not escalating late at night, but I am now on summer break and ready to dig in), but I don't know whether to go with bribery, gradual change, cold turkey, etc.</p> <p>If you have weaned your preschooler off of having a parent in the room until they fall asleep, what worked for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-vacation-long-sry#post-2885612 Sat, 25 May 2019 14:45:27 +0000 meadow 2885612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO. My twin 3 year olds are still in their cribs. They also still nap. ...Yes, I know I am lucky.</p> <p>This summer we anticipate doing the crib to toddler bed transition --- sometime AFTER our vacation the last week of June.</p> <p>Here is where I am nervous. I don't know how to get them to nap/sleep while on vacation. I think at this point they are too old for pack-n-plays. They 100% could climb out - they haven't demonstrated this to me.....but I know it is a likely fact.</p> <p>At home, nap and bedtime is hit or miss. There are days where they lay down and are asleep before their 15 minute music ends. And other days where falling asleep takes 2 hours and involves all sorts of antics from singing/talking to each other/playing catch with their stuffed animals/stripping off their clothes or pjs/removing all animals/blankets from their crib to form a mountain between their cribs/retrieving said items... etc.</p> <p>I am not really comfortable with that level of activity in a room alone in their pack-n-plays.</p> <p>Also - they have ALWAYS slept in the same room with the exception of the days only one has gone to daycare due to illness of their twin.</p> <p>The rental we are staying in has 3 bedrooms. My parents will be in one. One bedroom (that they shared last summer) has a bunk bed with a full mattress on the bottom bunk. The other bedroom has a queen mattress on a normal bed frame.</p> <p>The option I am mulling around with right now is that we split the twins between my husband and I and each take one child to co-sleep for the week with.</p> <p>- drawback would be introducing co-sleeping as an option since it really hasn't been a thing for them...worried what they would expect when we return home.</p> <p>-drawback would be that I would effectively have to nap with them instead of having some chill time of my own since they have never slept in a bed before. I would also have to go to bedtime with them instead of hanging out with my extended family.</p> <p>Another option would be to bring the pack-n-plays and put them in separate rooms for nap &amp; bedtime. This worries me because I don't know how they will react to being apart like that. However, being in a pack-n-play I wouldn't have to stay in bed thru nap/bedtime. I would stay within earshot as they fell asleep to make sure they aren't being unsafe, but I think the antics will be less without their partner in crime....</p> <p>-drawback would be that I only own one audio monitor - and I would imagine we would have static/feedback issues with setting up a second monitor in such a small space?</p> <p>WWYD? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/two-and-a-half-year-old-sleep-regression-help#post-2867189 Thu, 17 Jan 2019 14:52:48 +0000 agold 2867189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two and a half year old (28 months, to be exact) has been an amazing napper and night time sleeper. Suddenly, five days ago, she became a terrible sleeper! Like a switch went off and she fights nap and bed time sleep. Cries and doesn't want to lay down. She wants to come to my bed, which I have never let her do and she's never known it to be an option. She simply won't go to sleep!! I used to put her down by 8 pm and have a wonderful evening to myself. Am I forever doomed, or are there any sleep training tricks? She's too old to leave to cry it out. (I tried this one night and she was screaming and her room shares a wall with little sissy's room..) She says "I thought I lost you, mommy." Is this all caused by watching Finding Nemo last weekend? (We never watch movies.. this was the first). I am going to try sleeping on the floor in her room all night. Is this a bad idea? Any thoughts are greatly appreciated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-pre-schooler-sleep-issue-cutenot-cute#post-2881272 Thu, 18 Apr 2019 08:09:17 +0000 Anagram 2881272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My girls share a room, and they have bunk beds. My 3.5 year old has woken up at some point and come to our bed basically every single night since she was 18 months old and moved into a bed. We have never tried to change the behavior because we all get more sleep that way (she used to just walk to our room and ninja her way into bed and we would keep sleeping). Since she starts out the night in her own bed, and naps in her bed, we've never experienced the downsides of co-sleeping, like where parents feel like they have to go to bed at the same time as their kids or whatever.</p> <p>However, recently she was starting to wake up earlier and earlier and ask to go to our bed, even if we were still awake. So I decided it was time to work on getting her to stay in her own bed. So the last 2 weeks, we've talked up staying in her own bed a lot and offered a reward. We also talked about the "Sleep fairy" and how the sleep fairy will come and give a small token if kids stay in their bed all night. Well, this has resulted in DD2 waking in the night and screaming for us, instead of coming to us. Sometimes 3-4 times a night. Since she shared a room with DD1, sometimes she wakes her up when she screams for us. So now we're all getting less sleep and it's worse than before. But we have persevered.</p> <p>We have talked a lot about only calling for mommy/daddy in an emergency (have to throw up, have to pee), and not for little things like wants us to hand us her water (it's right next to her bed) or wants us to put her covers back on (she can pull them up herself). </p> <p>So this brings us to our latest phase--DD2 seems to have understood not calling for mommy and daddy unless it's an emergency--but this has morphed into her calling for DD1 and asking HER to come to her bed because she's scared.</p> <p>At first I thought this was cute (I found DD1 sleeping on the bottom bunk with DD2 this morning), but after hearing what transpire in the night, I think it's less cute. Apparently DD2 woke DD1 up in the night and said she's scared and asked her to come sleep with her. So DD1 crawled down and got in bed with her, but then DD2 kept talking and moving around, until DD1 threatened to tell on her or go back up to her bunk if DD2 didn't go to sleep and stop talking.</p> <p>DD1 is only 5.5 years old! She's a mature personality, but I don't expect her to lose sleep to parent DD2 in the night. The crazy thing is, we live in a very small place and I've been sleeping with both doors open, so I can hear DD2 if she wakes up--and I didn't hear any of this. Normally, I can hear them if they so much as cough. So I feel bad for DD1, but I gotta tell you....me and DH had a full night's sleep IN THE SAME BED WITH NO OTHER LITTLES, so that's pretty huge, haha.</p> <p>Anyway, should I press on and hope this is a stage and that eventually DD2 will stay in her bed by herself? Should I go back to telling her she should come get us if she needs something, and not to disturb DD1? Or tell her to call for us (which sometimes wakes up DD1 as well?) Just let them work it out, as long as we aren't disturbed? haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-dropping-napsbedtimeearly-wakeups#post-2871824 Wed, 13 Feb 2019 15:01:59 +0000 MrsADS 2871824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, my 3.5 yo is napping less and less frequently these days, which is fine, but I'm having a hard time figuring out bedtime/wakeup/etc. On no-nap days, he is a WRECK by 4/5pm and I usually put him to bed about 6:30-7pm and he is asleep basically before I walk out of the room. And that time from 4pm to bedtime is pretty miserable for all of his - nonstop crying, tantrums, he tells me he wants to go to sleep, etc. (I could probably put him to bed at 5:30, honestly!)</p> <p>He sleeps through the night but wakes up very early, usually before 6am. Which I guess 7pm-5:30am or so isn't too bad, but 10.5 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period is clearly not enough for him, because often with these early wake ups, he is very cranky in the mornings (still tired). He will be okay for like an hour and then start melting down.</p> <p>I have tried to push bedtime later, but he still wakes up early and it just prolongs the evening misery. Really, he needs a short nap, but I can't force him to sleep. </p> <p>Any ideas? I don't mind the early bedtime, but the 5:30 wake ups are pretty rough, plus I think he would feel better if he slept even an hour later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-help-35-yo#post-2871502 Tue, 12 Feb 2019 00:39:53 +0000 Portboston 2871502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 3.5 and has always been a poor sleeper. He stopped napping at home around 3. Still naps at school but not much (they say he sometimes sleeps for maybe a half hour). He recently started refusing to go to bed. Hours and hours of resisting. My husband and I have tried taking away privileges, toys, etc. we’ve tried bribing him with toys. Nothing works. We have no issue sitting in his room until he falls asleep but if we do that he wakes up in the middle of the night calling for us. We’ve tried moving his bedtime later, earlier...nothing works. We are at our whits end. Any suggestions? Commiseration? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-regression-and-a-cold#post-2866212 Fri, 11 Jan 2019 21:51:30 +0000 cake2017 2866212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO in the last 4 days has had awful sleep patterns. He use to STTN but now is waking up between 9-10pm crying and 430am-530am. He also has a cold and/or teething. Bedtime is 630pm and he used to sleep all the way until 630am-7am. Naps use to be 1.5-2.5 hours now 45mins. I don’t know what to do. I went in last night and patted him but now it’s like he wants that every night. Suggestions? TIA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-sleep-dilemma#post-2861223 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:32:01 +0000 Becky 2861223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2.5 year old has never been a great sleeper. For the past several weeks it has really escalated and she tries to come into our bed multiple times every night. Once she's there she sleeps fairly well, but co-sleeping isn't a good fit for us because I have to be up before 5am most mornings, and 5:45am at the latest to be able to do chores and exercise before work. If I make her go back into her bed she sometimes falls asleep immediately, and other times wants me to tickle her back (helps her fall asleep). She always comes back into our room though. The last 2 nights I slept downstairs so my husband could try to tackle it (she prefers me) but he is terrible at night and ended up letting her sleep in the bed. CIO isn't a great option because she shares a room with her sister (5 y/o). We could separate them but I don't know if that's the right solution as it seems like most of this stems from being lonely (also, I have to do bedtime solo every night and also all the laundry so having them share a room is immensely helpful).</p> <p>I'm at my whits and end looking for any advice. Our doctor suggested melatonin, but I've read it doesn't help kids stay asleep (which is our problem--staying asleep). Any suggestions are greatly appreciated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/15mo-takes-forever-to-fall-asleep#post-2860457 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 21:34:32 +0000 annem1990 2860457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t know what we’re doing wrong...<br /> DS has been taking 1-2 hours to go to sleep at night. He’s not at all upset. The opposite actually. He can be super fussy, but as soon as he’s in his bed he’s a happy camper. He just talks to himself. The only thing in the bed with him is his pacifier.<br /> Schedule:<br /> 7am(ish) - Wakeup<br /> 12-2 - Nap<br /> 7pm - Bedtime</p> <p>He barely makes it to his nap. Whenever I put him down for nap he’s asleep within 5mins. We’ve tried pushing bedtime to 8pm and he still is up chatting for a long time and still woke up at 7am. </p> <p>He’s not upset by any means. I just feel bad letting him lay there. But I feel like extended bedtime doesn’t work either :bummed: Is this normal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/music-at-bedtime#post-2857233 Fri, 16 Nov 2018 22:38:13 +0000 lady baltimore 2857233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your LO listens to music while falling asleep, what do you use to play it? I am thinking that music may help DD, almost 3, with staying in her bed at bedtime, but I am not sure what is the best way to supply it. I am pretty old school, so my first thought is to get her a small CD player and burn some soothing songs on to a CD, but I know that there are higher tech options available. What do you use? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dropping-crib-mattress-to-the-floor#post-2855676 Thu, 08 Nov 2018 05:16:22 +0000 meadow 2855676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any tips/tricks from someone who dropped their crib mattress to the floor as an in between stage before converting to a toddler bed?</p> <p>We have hardwood floors, so I think we would need to put some sort of area carpet below the cribs so that they don't slide (they have felt feet) if the kids have a tantrum and kick the walls of the crib.</p> <p>I tried pushing the mattress under the crib from outside and it was too tight (which I think is a good thing. So I imagine I'd need 2 people - one to lift the crib and one to slide the mattress under whenever we change sheets....right?</p> <p>TIA! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-bedtime-with-my-3-year-old-is-becoming-an-absolute-nightmare#post-2846229 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 21:28:28 +0000 buttermilk 2846229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry for length!</p> <p>Looking for advice. I am struggling. My daughter is 3yo and has always been a good sleeper. We moved her to a toddler bed when she was 2yo with no real issues. Around 2.5 yo bedtime started getting a bit dicey and has consistently gone downhill to the point where I'm about to lose it. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and really worried about what happens when we bring a new baby home and continue to deal with this bedtime/nighttime drama. There are two issues here: bedtime stalling/constantly chasing after us when we leave her room and coming into our bed in the MOTN.</p> <p>About 3-4 months ago we started letting her come into our bed in the middle of the night. I resisted at first but with all the pregnancy sleep issues, it was just easier to let her crawl in our bed and go back to sleep. I knew I'd need to put an end to it before the new baby comes, and so I put a stop to it about a week ago. I set her up with a chart and a sticker system. She gets a sticker for every night she stays in her bed and when she gets 10 stickers I'll get her a toy. We have an OK to Wake clock that I set to turn green at 5:30 at which point she's allowed to come in our bed and sleep/snuggle for the last hour until we all wake up. It's been going okayyyy, and I think we're slowly making progress. She still wakes up around 11:30PM, 5PM and sometimes 2PM but I've been consistent and put her back in her bed every time. The wake-ups have gradually been getting shorter and less dramatic. Hoping that works itself out and she eventually stops doing it. </p> <p>My main struggle is with bedtime. We all get home at 6pm, eat dinner, spend some time together, and then start bedtime routine at 8pm. She's asleep between 8:30-9:00pm on average. Bedtime gradually started getting later and later over the past couple months. DH and I were splitting up the routine. I would read 2 books, he would sing 2 songs, then lights out. Except then she started wanting "one more hug, one more kiss" from me after he sang her songs. Basically whoever wasn't around, that's who she wanted another hug from. "I want water, I have to pee again, I'm sweaty, My blankets not working..." All the usual toddler bedtime stalling tactics. But in the past month it's gotten so much worse. Also about a week ago I decided DH and I should stop splitting up the routine and do everything together so that she can stop splitting us up and manipulating us. I think that's been a good idea. But every night when it's time to leave her room, she turns into complete hysterics. The "one more hug, one more kiss" is absolutely endless. Everytime I turn round from hugging her, she wants another one. She asks me to snuggle her, rub her head, etc. I've tried talking her into snuggling a stuffed animal, an extra pillow, etc but she refuses and says she needs "a person snuggling her." Every time we leave her room and say goodnight she runs after us begging about how much she needs us. Some nights I have more patience than others. Sometimes she pushes me to the edge more quickly. She wants me, she wants her dad. I'm so confused about what to do. I've tried being firm, sometimes I yell, sometimes I indulge her more. About 60% of the time lately it turns into this huge dramatic tantrum/meltdown/mess. Tonight was particularly brutal. She had a total freak out, begging for her dad (after he'd already given a million hugs) and was kicking and screaming and telling me she doesn't love me, bad mommy, etc. :(</p> <p>She goes to daycare 4 days a week, and she still naps 1-3pm there. I asked the teachers last week and they said it's no drama at nap time. Over the past 6 weeks nap time on the 3 days she is home has gotten increasingly less common and I'd say we're on Week 3 now of not even trying to get her to nap on the weekends. But she shows no signs of needing one. Doesn't melt down, everything's totally fine. She can hang all day! And bedtime on the days she doesn't nap is SO MUCH EASIER. She's usually asleep by the time we finish singing to her and the drama doesn't happen. My gut is that she's dropping the nap but not completely yet, and that she still needs it during the week. But it's during the week that we struggle with bedtime. We wake up at 6:45/7am each morning. Most 3YO I know go to bed much earlier than she does. I honestly don't know what the issue is. Is she going to bed too late? Should she stop napping during the week? Is this all related to separation anxiety or new baby coming? She's genuinely thrilled for the new baby and hasn't expressed any concerns to me about it. I'm worried I'm making everything worse with the drama at night. She's hysterical when I get firm with her, but I also don't want to give in too much to her relentless requests. I have no idea what to do. </p>