https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 13:19:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-walking-toe-in#post-2928363 Thu, 21 Sep 2023 08:05:18 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2928363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: I’m not a medical professional so I can of course only speak anecdotally, but I remember my PT saying that when we face different “deformities” or abnormalities in our anatomy, we tend to just find ways to cope. So sticking her butt out may be the way she has found to maintain balance. For me, it was shifting weight between sides. And swinging my legs outward and around.</p> <p>The diagnosis came from the PT herself, by doing version tests (where they use an angle and measure how far you can bend your joints in every direction, basically) and showing us how far off my measurements were from the norm. She referred me to an ortho who was helpful in confirming the diagnosis, but ultimately all she could do besides that was prescribe meds for pain management. She offered to do saline injections to help with pain but I declined that at the time. Physical therapy is my number one tip. Find a good PT and stick with it! :) They did do X-rays, MRI, CT scans over the years, too, but I’m baffled because somehow the actual diagnosis still got ignored until the PT. Hopefully this won’t be the case for you guys but I hope it’s helpful sharing my experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-walking-toe-in#post-2928362 Wed, 20 Sep 2023 15:08:12 +0000 agold 2928362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@togetherthroughlife: Thank you so much for your response. I actually can't find very much about this. I am taking her to her regular doctor tomorrow and a specialist thereafter. Thank you so very much for sharing your experience. Please tell me how you were finally diagnosed? Was it an xray or anything else? Also, did you walk with your butt out? I see this in my daughter and wonder if that is indicative of the same condition you had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-walking-toe-in#post-2928361 Wed, 20 Sep 2023 14:59:22 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2928361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@agold: Hey there! Hopefully this can be of some help to you. I was “pigeon-toed” for my entire childhood and my parents were always told I would grow out of it. I had a lot of pain, especially knee pain, around your daughter’s age and onward. Ever since I was a baby and my parents first brought it up to my doctor, they were told it was normal and I would grow out of it.</p> <p>Fast forward to high school. Chronic pain, still “pigeon toed,” clumsy…nothing had ever improved. I FINALLY found a miracle worker. A great physical therapist who actually looked into everything for me. I was diagnosed with bilateral femoral anteversion. Basically, my hip joints are turned inward and therefore both femurs are “tilted” inward. This therapist essentially taught me how to walk (I swung my legs around before) and helped me manage my pain.</p> <p>The treatment for femoral anteversion is supposed to happen during infancy, ideally. They do a femoral osteotomy (don’t google if you feel squeamish) - basically they saw the femur in half and rotate it and reattach. Looong recovery. By the time I got my diagnosis I was almost 16 and too old to treat with that kind of intense surgery. It’s better for kids.</p> <p>Physical therapy, pain management, and learning to live within my limits helped. </p> <p>If you have any others questions feel free to ask! Good for you for seeking this out for your daughter. If your ped brushes it off, ask for a referral to orthopedics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-walking-toe-in#post-2928360 Sun, 17 Sep 2023 14:04:39 +0000 agold 2928360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Just coming back to this post. My little girl is now 7 and I just again am really noticing a significant pigeon toed walk. :crying: I’m so sad for her. Taking her for well check appointment this week and I’m bringing this up and bringing a video to show the doctor. Anyone with experience this in older kids? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927391 Mon, 15 Aug 2022 09:00:04 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: Aw man. :( You’re probably right! Poor kiddos! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927390 Mon, 15 Aug 2022 00:28:06 +0000 Umbreon 2927390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So toddler was fine after that but I just woke up to my 1 year old who vomited in the crib. Ugh. I hope it's short lived for her too. But I.guess it is some kind of bug. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927388 Sun, 14 Aug 2022 22:00:10 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: Ahh, my gut feeling is that it was the tomatoes! They’re so acidic. Especially fresh from the backyard garden (my fave!!!) it may have upset his stomach right before bed. Glad he is better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927383 Sat, 13 Aug 2022 07:45:22 +0000 JJ2626 2927383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This exact thing just happened to my 4 year old. She was completely fine the next day and never felt sick again. I assumed it was something she ate. We tried to give bland foods after but she really wanted real food so by dinner we let her eat normal. Kids tummies are weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927381 Fri, 12 Aug 2022 12:09:49 +0000 Umbreon 2927381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@togetherthroughlife: @MACSUNSHINE: thanks for the replies! Right before bed we were outside and he was eating tomatoes from the garden. Maybe something didnt sit right that he ate. </p> <p>We were also at the beach a few days ago and afterwards I read there was an ecoli advisory so I worry it could be that, but I'm hoping if it were that he would not be acting normal today.</p> <p>Hopefully it was just the one off and he continues to be well! It definitely was not fun last night! I felt so bad for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927378 Fri, 12 Aug 2022 11:49:25 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, poor kiddo! Sorry you’re dealing with that. There’s a first time for everything!</p> <p>If he has no other symptoms it could have been something he ate, reflux, sinus/allergies, congestion…it’s hard to know with toddlers because they can’t tell you! When my kid was a toddler he puked at night several times over the years that we have no explanations for.</p> <p>Good food choices - I would continue to do no milk, only water (or even Gatorade or Pedialyte to get those electrolytes back). Bananas, apples, toast, dry cheerios, rice, applesauce, crackers…all that should be fine. I usually like to do that bland diet for 24 hours after the puke to make sure I’m in the clear with the kids. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927377 Fri, 12 Aug 2022 11:29:15 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2927377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I am sorry, sounds like he is doing ok. I would continue hydrate and keep the foods bland. It very well could have been something he ate and not a bug since there are no other symptoms.</p> <p>Kids, particularly toddlers, are tricky! Fingers crossed you are through the worst of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-about-toddler-vomiting#post-2927375 Fri, 12 Aug 2022 09:23:26 +0000 Umbreon 2927375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My toddler vomited 3 times last night, seemed like it took the 3 times to completely empty his stomach. He did not have a fever and had been normal all day.</p> <p>This morning he has been fine. He woke up at 6:30 and had half a piece of toast with water. Then a couple hours later had some cheerios (no milk) and water. So far he seems fine, it's now 9:30.</p> <p>Is it possible this was a one off? Maybe he ate something that didnt agree with him? Or could he start throwing up again? Do toddlers usually have other symptoms if it's a bug?</p> <p>This is my first time dealing with vomiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927329 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 12:40:35 +0000 karenbme 2927329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lahela017: thanks for this context. The room we stay in at my parents has a double and twin bunk beds and she was so interested in sleeping in the bunk beds last time so fingers crossed she’ll be happy about it this time.</p> <p>@nwm: We’ve been thinking about shortening nap, but she’s skipped it a few times recently and no one is happy/bed time is usually worse when that happens so we’re a little gun shy 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927320 Mon, 01 Aug 2022 14:43:57 +0000 nwm 2927320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we have found when this has happened to our kids we generally needed to shorten or remove their nap, and they would immediately have a much easier time going to bed at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927316 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 14:14:59 +0000 Lahela017 2927316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: ugh, I'm sorry you're struggling with this. Sleep issues are no fun at all, especially when you are worried about bringing a new little into the picture soon. </p> <p>Just wanted to say not to worry too much if the twin bed doesn't work at Grandma and Grandpa's house. We did the same thing as you. When my daughter was about to turn 3 we tried the twin at my parents' house since she was too big for the pack and play she used to use there. Well, it was a total disaster and she ended up in the pack and play in the middle of the night. One month later though, back at home, we transitioned her to a twin bed because I wanted her out of the crib before little brother came, and she did totally fantastic. Couldn't have imagined it any better. It sounds like she might be ready for a twin bed since she's trying to climb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927315 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 13:02:44 +0000 karenbme 2927315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies. Last night she tried to climb out of her crib and got scared half way and lost it. I found her sitting on the top rail screaming, and we snuggled together in the recliner in her room for another 2 hours until she fell asleep, so idk if it’s fear after all. We weren’t planning to move her to a toddler bed yet, but maybe that would help. It would certainly make laying down with her easier. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’re going to try her in a twin with a bed rail when we visit my parents next weekend and see if it helps at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927314 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 07:17:44 +0000 bhbee 2927314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it’s probably not the answer you want but physical contact worked really well for us, if your husband can do it. It’s still the best way to get our almost 4 year old to sleep quickly (usually a hand/arm but sometimes we lie down) and even my 7 year old falls asleep faster if he has a hand to hold. But I do think it depends on how much your child craves physical touch. Our middle (the 7 year old) has always needed a lot of touch for comfort. When he had troubling settling his body around age 2 we would actually lie down with him and throw an arm or leg over part of him and that just spoke to his system (maybe like a weighted blanket?) vs it taking hours. I think especially with new baby changes coming, it makes sense to need physical security during the transition to sleep. No one size fits all though, just throwing it out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927313 Sat, 30 Jul 2022 08:20:10 +0000 Umbreon 2927313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really have advice... we went through this as well. It lasted like 2-3 months. We tried a variety of things... eventually it got better and now bedtime is easy. I dont expect it will last though haha</p> <p>It was super hard during those few months though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927312 Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:53:32 +0000 LemonJack 2927312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of our kids have gone through this phase at around 2-3. I know with our older two it was clearly fear around the dark and noises they would hear in the house or outside. We ended up having my DH take over bedtime at that age, and he would lie down with them until they fell asleep. Same as with you, we were expecting another baby each time, so I wasn’t a part of bedtime because we wanted things to remain consistent for them when the baby arrived.</p> <p>I know some people are opposed to lying down with them, but we don’t mind, and they have always tended to fall asleep super quickly (and stay asleep afterward). When we aren’t around for bedtime they adjust just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927311 Fri, 29 Jul 2022 19:44:46 +0000 karenbme 2927311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 1/2 year old has recently started resisting bedtime—crying because she doesn’t want to be in her beds, wants one of us in her room for hours, just will not fall asleep sometimes until 10 or 10:30 and then is exhausted and cranky all day. She’s in a particularly fearful phase, where lots of things that used to be fine are suddenly scary and I’m a little concerned that she’s afraid of the dark or something but isn’t saying it. I feel awful telling my screaming child that she needs to fall asleep by herself, but I also know that when #2 comes in a few months we won’t be able to be 100% responsive only to her, so I don’t want to set that precedent either. </p> <p>I guess I’m just looking for support or strategies to get her to sleep. We got new Bluey and Bingo plushies that go in her crib and that fixed it for one night. It’s so hard though to hear her cry about how she wants me and have to hold the boundary. 😭😭😭 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927089 Sat, 28 May 2022 13:41:34 +0000 Chuckles 2927089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: I hadn't thought about it, but I think having them stay at the table a little longer makes sense for some kids. If my son knows that he's doing something fun after a meal, he'll say that he's finished really quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927088 Sat, 28 May 2022 12:26:25 +0000 Umbreon 2927088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This actually went a bit better this week. I've been trying to put one food that I know he will like and we also told him he has to sit at the table until either he finishes or we all finish.</p> <p>Glad to know this is normal... sure is frustrating though. Thank you for the tips everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927073 Mon, 23 May 2022 14:11:35 +0000 jennlin821 2927073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've had great success with the philosophy:</p> <p>Parents decide what and when to eat.<br /> Kids decide how much.</p> <p>I always make sure there is one thing that I know my DD likes. For example this week we are having grilled tofu, grilled peppers, corn on the cob, and sweet potato. I know that she likes sweet potatoes and I made sure to leave some peppers raw for her because she doesn't like them cooked. She can eat as much or the sweet potato and peppers as she wants. We don't force her to eat one bite of anything, just offer the other things. She will occasionally try and like, or try and dislike the other things. She also has fruit for dessert, but can eat it with dinner - as long as she understands that the only fruit she's going to get. </p> <p>We've been doing this for about 3 years, just around when she went from eating everything enthusiastically to only wanting pb&amp;j at every meal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927072 Mon, 23 May 2022 08:40:32 +0000 hilary 2927072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are now older (9, 7, 7) but this is such a frustrating phase and even now sometimes they go through a kick of loving something then refuse going forward (normally just when I get used to incorporating it or thinking it's an easy go to meal). We also try to make sure there's at least one thing on the table that they like (and often this is sliced up cucumbers) and then serve what we serve. Two things that help us that don't necessarily add extra work..<br /> 1) keep some elements separate for more picky kids - like meatballs are on the side so kids who like red sauce can add that vs kids who don't like red sauce can have buttered noodles and a couple meatballs on the side, or keep some plan cooked meat on the side and then add the teriyaki sauce to the rest because not all of my kids like flavor apparently<br /> 2) Serve family style and ask them to put the food on their plate. For some reason my kids eat more if they serve themselves and I just ask for them to try a tiny bit of each of the main elements and if that's a single noodle ok, they tried. </p> <p>Our pediatrician once told us that 1 our of every 3 (foods/meals/days) was a good thing to aim for in food.<br /> Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927069 Sat, 21 May 2022 19:04:25 +0000 Chuckles 2927069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If everything else is pretty typical (no concerns about major sensory issues and weight gain/growth is fine), I wouldn't worry at all. Kids' growth also slows at points and they genuinely need less food than seems possible. If he's eating large amounts of foods at snacks, I would decide whether you're fine with those being his main meals or whether you want to cut him off after a small snack so that he'll be hungry for other meals. And I really like most of Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibility at meals - <a href="https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/" rel="nofollow">https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/</a></p> <p>All of this is so normal! Kids are learning what they can control and how to express preferences and opinions. But, at least for me, it's so hard to accept because I feel like there's this ingrained feeling that I'm not doing a good job as a parent if they aren't eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927065 Sat, 21 May 2022 14:58:42 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2927065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would suggest following FeedingLittles on Instagram! They are a feeding therapist / dietician combo and they are amazing! They have the best way of explaining things like this and coming up with creative solutions. They actually have paid courses that you can get on their website but in my opinion they offer SO much free content on Instagram that is a wonderful resource. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927064 Sat, 21 May 2022 13:30:38 +0000 karenbme 2927064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They definitely are about control right now and want to choose what, how much and how, so don’t get too down about him asserting himself. Our approach is very similar to BHbee’s. Incorporate at least 1 favorite food into each meal and just serve what we serve. Have you thought about letting him help with small parts of meals? Something like stirring or sprinkling could help him feel more in control of different foods that you make (and might consider more nutritious). Also giving DD a choice of pieces “which chicken do you want?” rather than “here’s your chicken.” Has been a successful strategy for us for foods she doesn’t like, too.</p> <p>Ultimately, though, as others have said, don’t worry. Your LO is not going to starve himself or become malnourished. Our pediatrician literally told us that nothing but white foods for six month or a year isn’t going to do any long term damage. So unless your doctor is worried know he’s probably fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927063 Sat, 21 May 2022 09:22:00 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2927063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, 100% I would cut the snacks out. Kids won’t starve themselves. Even my most stubborn will sometimes skip a meal because he “doesn’t like it,”, but eventually he gives in and will eat! All kids go through these phases so it’s totally normal. And from someone that has older kids (11,9,6,2), it’s easier if you set the precedent when they are young. The kid that I was most “strict” with as a preschooler is the least picky now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927062 Sat, 21 May 2022 08:17:32 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2927062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m in the same exact boat with my 2.5 year old twins. I would just ride it out. I wouldn’t cut snacks. I’m sure he’s getting plenty of nutrition from what he does eat throughout the day. It’s so so frustrating, but I’m sure it’s a phase. I keep offering the same meals and snacks, but I do make sure there are 3 hours in between snacks and meals, otherwise they are too full to eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-refuses-to-eat-at-meal-times#post-2927061 Fri, 20 May 2022 20:27:22 +0000 bhbee 2927061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is pretty normal, but very frustrating! 3 is all about control so he may be testing it. Ride it out, yes. Give one thing you’re pretty sure he’ll eat at every meal and then serve what you want to serve is what we do. We don’t limit produce so that’s always an option. If that’s a banana (or 4 bananas) at every meal, ok. He’ll be fine! Sometimes I will serve things to their liking (like cut a certain way) and sometimes not. Do what makes in manageable for you. My middle child is not very food motivated and we have just learned to let it ride. He eats what he needs but it may not be every meal for sure. </p> <p>hugs because it’s hard :heart: </p>