https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:57:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916158 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 06:10:02 +0000 Pumuckl 2916158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: They have luckily all been at least half decent sleepers. The twins were in NICU a little while and on a schedule that helped with sleep :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916048 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:59:32 +0000 Mrs. K 2916048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: that’s really part of the motivator for more kids closer together is the fact that they will *hopefully* grow up being close and be each other’s biggest supporters!! Can’t believe you ended up with twins! Massive bravo for you surviving!! 🤣 I hope they are at least good little sleepers for you!! ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916047 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:56:52 +0000 Mrs. K 2916047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: oh my gosh you’re totally right I didn’t even think of the night wakings!! 😱 yikes... I was lucky enough that my oldest was sleeping through the night when I got pregnant it’s a little one now but she is still not sleeping through the night consistently. I am hoping that as she is a few months older that she will eventually start to STTN more consistently! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916046 Fri, 29 May 2020 21:55:24 +0000 Mrs. K 2916046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: thank you for the advice! It was fun to stumble across this thread while I’ve been pondering this decision and being able to hear your perspective on things now. It does seem like people’s experience is all over the place and it sounds like a lot of it depends on temperament of the kids on whether or not it makes things harder or easier. Honestly the thought of going out with three kids sounds like such a feat! 😂 I have a hard time wanting to go out with two because I still don’t trust that my 2.5 yo son will stay close by and be safe, but I think I also need to just let go and try. Well, if I ever end up with a BFP I’ll hop back on here and share! Many thanks! 🥰 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916009 Fri, 29 May 2020 03:11:15 +0000 Pumuckl 2916009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: so we were the same and on the fence if we should go for no. 3 or not. One thing I was personally sure was that I didn’t want to be pregnant while still nursing again which is why LO1 and LO2 are 21m apart and LO2 and LO3&amp;LO4 (turned out to be twins) are 24.5 (or would have been 25.5 months but preemies) apart. We love the spacing and ours are each other’s biggest supporters. Now that they are older it’s been a really cool thing especially during lockdown that they play so well together. Says the mum whose kids are currently playing in the living room while she sits in the kitchen and enjoys some HB and a cup of coffee. So while there are definitely hard days we definitely don’t regret going for no. 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916008 Fri, 29 May 2020 02:45:59 +0000 Petitduck 2916008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I love the 2 year age gap and think it’s perfect. There are 22 months between my first two and 24 between baby #2 and #3. I’d love to have a 4th, but my hubby is over babies. But if we did I’d want the same age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916007 Fri, 29 May 2020 00:13:35 +0000 bees_knees 2916007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: haha! Nope, no more babies here, we have always said 4 :) </p> <p>And yes I should have mentioned that I have rockstar sleepers so the sleep thing wasn’t as much of a factor in oir decision. All of my kids had been sleeping through the night 99% of the time by the time I got pregnant with the next. </p> <p>@Ms. RV: Hope those little dudes start sleeping better for you sooner rather than later! And hope all is well with everything else, too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2916002 Thu, 28 May 2020 19:37:39 +0000 Ms. RV 2916002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I totally didn't see the dates at first and was all confused! </p> <p>@Mrs. K: DD was two months shy of 3 when I had DS1 and DS1 was 9 months when I got pregnant with DS2. DS2 is now six months, DS1 23 months and DH and I sleep in separate rooms because neither boy reliably sleeps through the night. There are nights when both are up twice and DH and I would get zero sleep if we both woke up four times. The boys are super, super close already and that is so awesome, but night wakings require strategy... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2915996 Thu, 28 May 2020 15:19:49 +0000 bees_knees 2915996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. K: My thoughts remain: give me all the babies. All of them. ;)</p> <p>So we have a 2y3m gap between DS1 and DS2, then 19 mo between DS2 and DS3, then 22 mo between DS3 and DD. </p> <p>The transition from 2 to 3 was definitely our most difficult--not sure if it's because of the small age gap, or because we went from man-to-man to zone defense, or because of DS3's personality (he was def our hardest baby). BUT it must not have been that bad, because we chose to have a 22 mo gap between #3 and #4 and it has been seriously so easy. And that's with us going through a major renovation at the same time! (Seriously. Our house was in pieces when DD was born. Kind of hilarious when I think back on it).</p> <p>Anyways, I think this advice was given earlier on this thread too--for me, it helped to think of the very specific logistics of everything. When we go to the grocery store--how will I get my kids from the car to the cart? Etc. I still remember the first time I had all 3 out in public by myself and I felt like superwoman :silly: </p> <p>For us, I think a 2ish year gap is perfect! GL deciding on going for a 3rd--you don't have to decide today, and remember it's ok to change your mind from day to day! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spacing-of-baby-2-amp-3-are-we-insane/page/2#post-2915992 Thu, 28 May 2020 14:46:21 +0000 Mrs. K 2915992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I know this post is originally from some time back but I stumbled across it and saw that you now have 4- congrats! I have two littles and on the fence about a third. Lo1 is 2 yr 8 mo and Lo2 is 9 months. If we were to have another I want to wait until she is at least a year but I feel like our hands are so full already! What are your thoughts now that you’re on the other side of this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781157 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 13:08:54 +0000 mamabolt 2781157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>7 months, a MC, then 2 more months. A year total from when we started trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781153 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 12:21:00 +0000 Salty 2781153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeatlesFan629: same timing here. I was 36 when LO2 was born, so that probably didn't help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781097 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 21:06:34 +0000 JennyPenny 2781097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant with DS1 first cycle and started panicking when it didn't happen as easily the 2nd time. But I got pregnant the 2nd cycle so the worry was for naught. Good luck! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781053 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 14:33:23 +0000 mrskansas 2781053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best advice would just be to lower your expectations and not freak out. There are so many things that have to work perfectly to conceive so if it takes some time that doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong.<br /> Good luck :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781046 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 14:24:56 +0000 bushelandapeck 2781046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First 3 times I was pregnant it happened the first try. This time is took 3 months. I used ovulation predictor kits each time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781044 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 14:19:29 +0000 pinkcupcake 2781044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not first month but only took 3 Months to get + with #1.<br /> #2 took a long, long 2 years, 1 month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781028 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 13:23:33 +0000 MamaBear87 2781028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Trying to chill out and not worry. Lol my husband thinks I'm crazy. He's all jazzed for more than one month trying 😝 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2781011 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 12:35:58 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2781011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First try for DS<br /> For the second, first try but miscarried. After cleared to try again got pregnant second month.<br /> For third, first try but miscarried. Tried again this month and I'm the TWW. </p> <p>ETA I voted 4-6 months because for DD we started trying in May and it was October by the time a pregnancy stuck. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780993 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 11:49:00 +0000 petitenoisette 2780993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try not to worry - I got pregnant the first try with my first LO and so when that didn't happen the first month trying the second time I was worried. But it only took one more month and I'm 21 weeks with #2. It's hard not to freak out about things pretty outside our control but in all I've personally been very fortunate to get and stay pregnant easily. I hope the same for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780992 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 11:41:49 +0000 travellingbee 2780992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, technically I got pregnant on cycle #5 and 6 when trying for number 2 but I lost both early on. I didn't get a prgnancy that stuck until month 10 and it required intervention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780965 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 10:06:22 +0000 Shantuck 2780965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: That's great you don't have that working agaisnt you. I think that was the biggest reason for my struggles (but in the end it worked out). Don't get discouraged! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780962 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 09:58:42 +0000 MamaBear87 2780962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the input ladies! Trying to temper my hopes in case it takes us awhile </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780959 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 09:57:47 +0000 MamaBear87 2780959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: I'm only 30 so fingers crossed I'm not yet running into age issues </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780955 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 09:49:11 +0000 Shantuck 2780955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 was conceived first cycle (when I was 31) and LO2 was conceived in the 14th cycle (after two intervening losses when I was 36). I'm not sure how old you are but an RE I saw in connection with a postpartum issue I had said that he wasn't surprised at all that LO2 took around a year as that is fairly normal at 35 or later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780941 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 09:16:32 +0000 Pollywog 2780941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 4 for 4 in terms of getting pregnant on my first cycle (but 2 losses) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780928 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 08:18:48 +0000 Ajsmommy 2780928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>12+ months, had infertility interventions, gave up, then finally got bfp naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780922 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 08:09:45 +0000 BeatlesFan629 2780922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant on the first cycle of NTNP with DD. I got pregnant again on the first cycle of my second pregnancy but then that ended in an early MC. Then it took 7 months before I got pregnant with DS </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780920 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 07:46:49 +0000 skinnycow 2780920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant on the first cycle trying with DD. This time around it took 4 cycles. Still pretty fast but I naively thought I would get pregnant immediately again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780911 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 06:13:12 +0000 peachykeen 2780911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant 3rd cycle but lost that one with early miscarriage. Ultimately conceived DD2 on the fifth cycle. However, I know our timing was horrible on the 1st cycle so it's probably more like 2nd/4th cycles if you don't count that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-conceived-1-on-1st-cycle#post-2780906 Fri, 20 Oct 2017 00:26:54 +0000 oskarsmommy 2780906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>first - pregnant first shot<br /> second - pregnant first shot, then BO/miscarriage. Benched for 3 months, then got pregnant the 2nd month we really tried. </p>