https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 04:59:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669741 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:22:21 +0000 rrachael 669741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: yes, definitely ... I'll let you watch the episode before I say more about that!</p> <p>on a positive note, the Duggars were babywearing! they had their little ones in Ergos while they were sight seeing. At least they looked like Ergos ... :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669736 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:13:04 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 669736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rrachael: lol! It's my bad...I never watch stuff on the day it comes out. I'm a rerun kind of girl.<br /> And yeah um, thank goodness her husband was there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669735 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:10:51 +0000 rrachael 669735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: sorry!! I edited my title :) agreed ... she was being quite ambitious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669722 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 23:49:16 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 669722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rrachael: first of all: can we get a "spoiler alert"?!?! Hehe I was so excited to watch this episode. I don't usually watch either...<br /> That is so sad:( I hope the baby is OK too.<br /> But side note: come on now, I couldn't go to china at 34w pregnant AND be on my feet working. I feel like that isn't a sound decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669716 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 23:33:45 +0000 cyndistar3 669716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness that is absolutely awful, I couldn't imagine having to go through all of that :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/19-kids-and-counting-episode-giving-birth-in-china#post-669695 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 23:07:27 +0000 rrachael 669695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't usually watch 19 kids and counting but I saw on a preview today that someone was going into labor on the episode ... while they're on vacation in CHina... so I had to watch it. </p> <p>It turns out one of the camera members was 34 weeks pregnant and her water broke, so it was go time. It was really interesting... but then heartbreaking!! When the baby was born, they showed her to mom then immediately took her to the NICU. Her husband then said that they wouldn't be able to see her for three days!!!! Could you imagine?? What if she was planning to breastfeed? My heart is breaking for that mom :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30385 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 13:03:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I know right?! Seeing it's almost 50% of women have miscarriages.... in 20 pregnancies 2 is 5% (10% of 50%) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30338 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:26:15 +0000 Rescuemom10 30338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others have said. Bottom line is they lost a baby. Its horrible people are saying such hurtful and horrible things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30319 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:07:30 +0000 DillonLion 30319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blushink: @MH.Abroad: I'm honestly kind of shocked that in all of those pregnancies, only two resulted in miscarriage. I wonder if that figure is higher, but they don't feel comfortable sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30310 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:02:49 +0000 mekarual 30310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also disagree with some of their choices, but having a miscarriage that late in pregnancy is so terribly sad. If a funeral is what they need to grieve their lost baby, then that is exactly what they should do.</p> <p>It makes me sick that people would make such hateful comments. Whatever happened to "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30205 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:30:40 +0000 rsp213 30205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I disagree with some of their choices, but a loss is a loss. It doesn't matter how many children you already have - the grief remains. I feel bad for them and hope they can gather strength from each other </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30189 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:10:54 +0000 katdevargas 30189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mh.abroad - wonderful response </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30187 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:09:57 +0000 katdevargas 30187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh, that's terrible. I think that they need to do what is best for them as a family to help them grieve, whether it be a funeral or something else.<br /> it makes me sad how just mean people are today, especially with the cloak of the internet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30161 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:50:24 +0000 MH.Abroad 30161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I also think that a miscarriage and funeral is something family should deal with privately, if they DO televise it I think their motivation would be ministry to other families that have been through or are going through the same experience. Everything they do with their TV show they view as ministry, and I've never seen them as spotlight hungry or attention whores.</p> <p>Simply the way they dress and carry themselves speaks volumes to me about their desire not for attention, but to be an inspiration to other families and show them that if they can handle 19, they can surely find a way to get through with their 3 (or however many)!</p> <p>I don't agree with their family planning beliefs, but I do respect them for the way they are raising their children to be responsible members of society. They don't need the TV show for livelihood like many other shows (Kate + 8, Quints by Surprise, etc), they are independently wealthy and can provide for their family on their own. They don't rely on the government for help and they spend a lot of time doing charity work and helping others. </p> <p>This is why it makes me so sad to see people attacking them online and making false claims about welfare or attention whoring, or making nasty and rude comments about the state of Michelle's uterus or vagina (which by the way, was created to bear children and is probably doing just fine). I saw a comment on the other thread here on hellobee by a woman that comes from a large family and was hurt by the (tamer) comments even here on hellobee.</p> <p>I'm glad that most of us here can put aside our personal beliefs and respect this families right to choose, and agree that our sympathy is deserved in this sad time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30143 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:28:07 +0000 yoursilverlining 30143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though I think they are completely irresponsible parents, I can’t imagine going through a miscarriage that late in a pregnancy (or at any time really) and certainly hoped this pregnancy went to full term. I hope that they do whatever will help them heal as a family, and really take the time to speak to each child and find out what would be best for the children they already have to heal and grieve. I agree with others that this will hopefully be something they do privately, and not as a TV special. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30117 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:47:05 +0000 mediagirl 30117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sad to hear that. It must be doubly hard to not only have a miscarriage but then for what seems like the entire world to know, as well. I hope they take some time for themselves, away from the cameras, to heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30115 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:45:36 +0000 MH.Abroad 30115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blushink: Just 2. This one, and then one after their first baby while she was on birth control, which led to their decision to let God control their family planning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30112 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:44:40 +0000 MH.Abroad 30112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamabolt: Oh I don't believe they called People, I think People called them after rumors surfaced (likely from the dr.'s office, unfortunately). They made a simple statement requesting privacy. I don't see that as grabbing for attention, they just need time to grieve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30109 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:43:02 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Losing a baby no matter your situation is horrible. I do think though that their situation, the risks were much higher than any other pregnancy and they new this. Clearly that doesnt make it better, but I'm sure they can look at their 19 kids and have the support they need.</p> <p>I wonder how many miscarriages shes had in the last 25 years. Any one know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30102 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:34:52 +0000 mamabolt 30102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for their loss. I don't judge them for having a funeral or doing whatever they need to grieve, but I hope they decide to do it privately. Considering they were calling People a few hours after finding out about the loss of their child, I don't have high hopes...I'm sure this will be a very special episode of 19 kids and counting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30069 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 04:04:19 +0000 MamaMoose 30069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I personally believe it was irresponsible of her to get pregnant again following the complications of her last pregnancy I was really hoping she would end up with a healthy baby this time. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a pregnancy this far in. I think given the family's closeness to God having a funeral service will probably be very meaningful for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30037 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 22:56:37 +0000 Boogs 30037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very sad. :(</p> <p>If a funeral gives the family some sort of peace and closure then I say they go ahead and do it. An old family friend did that with two of her babies and she seems really happy with the fact that she is able to pay their respects to them. She also recently had a sticky baby and is raising her to know that she is a little sister. People grieve in different ways and I think they should do whatever makes them happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30019 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 22:06:23 +0000 AmeliaBedelia 30019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is really sad for her/them. :-(</p> <p>I think the fact that people are making those comments is disgusting. What happened to "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all?" Ugh. </p> <p>No, I personally don't want 19 kids or anything of that sort, but you know what, they have managed to support their children and raise them in a loving environment all on their own, so it's not my place to judge. </p> <p>And as far as the funeral, perhaps that is best with so many siblings to consider. Maybe it would help the younger kids understand what happened, but again, that is just speculation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-30017 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 22:02:53 +0000 tequiero21 30017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was so sad to read that she lost the baby. especially since i think she was around where i am in my pregnancy.... (i read that she was due in april).</p> <p>i'm with @mrbee. i think the family needs to do what they need to do to move on. and if that's a funeral and naming the baby, i hope it gives them the closure they need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29996 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:56:00 +0000 sulli301 29996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How sad :( I will admit, I do get into that show from time to time. I think it could help bring the family closure to have a funeral, and if that is what they believe will help, then they should do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29981 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:18:58 +0000 mrs. wagon 29981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also can't imagine the loss-- especially considering the number of people in their family, it's that many people who are heartbroken. I'm sure it's tough on the kids who have seen so many new babies come, they were probably excited the same way they always get. And considering their 19th was born so premature and they probably went through so much when they weren't sure if she would make it or not... </p> <p>I agree that if a funeral would be best for their family (especially for the kids, and especially since none of them have experienced a miscarriage in the family) then they should do whatever's best for them. I personally wouldn't do it, but then again, I'm not caring for the well-being of 19 children!</p> <p>As for their life choices... I honestly think more power to them. Especially since they are debt-free, not living off the government, and seem to be a well functioning family-- which is a lot more than a lot of families in this country. They've been blessed with a miracle 19 times, when some people get zero!</p> <p>Octomom, on the other hand.... ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29979 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:09:42 +0000 chopsuey 29979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine a 2nd trimester miscarriage--so heartbreaking! I know people think the Duggars are crazy for having so many children, but I think they're awesome.<br /> They're doing it the way God intended and their children are loved and well adjusted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29976 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:04:11 +0000 Sunshine1810 29976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's really sad :o(</p> <p>I agree with Mr. Bee, each family grieves differently and if this helps them through their difficult time, then that's good for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29968 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:44:26 +0000 mrbee 29968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my, what a loss. :-(</p> <p>As for the funeral, I think whatever the family needs to heal sounds good to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/duggar-miscarriage#post-29964 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:39:39 +0000 Mrs. Armbender 29964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is horribly sad. I think that is sadder still that some people chose to make horrible comments about a grieving mother and her family. What is wrong with people? Where is their humanity? </p>