https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 01:37:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711983 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 11:08:25 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2711983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: Also, we cut WAY back on social commitments right now. We do a lot of things just as our little family "pod". It gives us a lot of family time on the weekends that we aren't spending time with other people or going places. Yes it sucks giving up travel for a while right now, but having weekends to just spend with the kids while they are little is worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711967 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 10:50:01 +0000 Becky 2711967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for all of these responses--you're definitely making my husband's suggestion that we can figure out working with 3 when they're little seem more realistic. I know I don't remember hanging out with my parents when I was 3, but I do remember not having much time with them when I could actually remember. It's so hard when you want to be there during the baby stages, but they won't remember it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711957 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 10:37:05 +0000 Nutella 2711957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: I definitely understand your issue and often battle same decisions over here. I think it would be amazing to have that time with your kids at the school years...I never had any after school time with my parents &amp; literally some of my best memories/ones that stuck from those years were the few days I did get to see them before the usual evening time madness. I'll be reassessing our situation soon too since working full time just isn't really conducive to me making the most with my LO and future LO on the way :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711906 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:43:13 +0000 kayla0416 2711906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not me, but my mom. She went part time when we were 13, 11, 8, and 4 (I'm the oldest), and went back full-time about 3-4 years later. She loved it, and it seemed like a good time to have her around more. We were all in a ton of activities that probably wouldn't have worked out as easily if we didn't have a driver. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711902 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:36:48 +0000 bushelandapeck 2711902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: not me as I work part time already, but my SIL started staying home about 2 years ago when her kids were 12 &amp; 15. She said that they needed her a lot more as they got older for reasons mentioned above (games, homework, social/emotional needs) and she's SO happy that she did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711897 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:23:56 +0000 Cole 2711897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was the plan of a woman I nannied for. In her mind some of the big benefits were not needing after school care, not needing to do the "boring" camp in town because it was the only one with good hours for working parents, going on field trips etc. Her field also lends itself to working at home sometimes so she was looking forward to not needing a huge network of backup care providers. All in all it seemed like a good plan for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711895 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:23:01 +0000 bookwormmama 2711895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So not my personal experience, but my ex-step mother worked when her daughter was young (she was a single mom for a lot of those years), up until she was in middle school I believe. She told me she loved that she was at home (she did administrative stuff for the business they owned) when her daughter got home from school throughout middle school and high school. It was different from what a lot of people did, but it was great for her because she felt like they bonded a lot during that after school time...a time she normally wouldn't have been home if she was working a 9-5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711893 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 08:18:43 +0000 Becky 2711893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks @T.H.O.U. I was kind of thinking the same about them needing me more later emotionally and as a chauffer and cheer leader. It would also be nice to have more time off when we can do things like go on family vacations everyone will remember. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711877 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 07:50:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2711877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup.. Over here. </p> <p>I have 5.5, 2.5 and 6months. </p> <p>Its tough but honestly I enjoy working and we both bring in more than what daycare costs. Also part of the reason it works is because we both have low demand stable 40 hour a week jobs. </p> <p>I actually hope that when they are older I can go part time. I figure thats when they emotionally will need me more. They will remember if I was there for their basketball game. Right now they wont remember if I went to their daycare St. Patricks day party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-kids-while-working-full-time-now-but-not-later#post-2711864 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 07:34:37 +0000 Becky 2711864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My girls are 3.5 and almost 1. We are considering having a third when the baby is 3 or 3.5. The challenge is we both work full time, and I am only 3 years into my 10 year loan forgiveness program. I really don't want to work full time with 3 children, and wish I could spend more time home with my children now. My husband always says that after my loans are forgiven I can work part-time. That would mean that I could start working part time when my children were 10.5, 8, and 4-5. This is the opposite of what I think most people do, which is to work part time when they're little and then go back to work.</p> <p>Does anyone have experience working full time with 3? I work 40 hours and my husband would be working 40-50 by that time (closer to 60 right now). And does anyone have experience working full time when they're little and part time later when they're in school? </p>