https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 20:11:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979280 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 18:24:43 +0000 avivoca 979280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I am so sorry about all of this. I had to restrict access to my FB for certain people because of snarkiness. Why can't family be nice? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979199 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:58:03 +0000 artsyfartsy 979199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: lol sadly we all avoid her as much as possible. All because of the same reason. We feel to bad to cut her out of our lives completely. Plus you have those rare, nice moments where you get a genuine response and enjoy her company.</p> <p>Rare. But there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979192 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:54:58 +0000 deactivated_account 979192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: Maybe its time to start avoiding Granny! Oh no... I'm a bad one to give advise on this. I'm an advocate for cutting people out of my life. Sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979189 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:52:20 +0000 artsyfartsy 979189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tinyperson: I know right? Both of us have a huge family, full time jobs, a dog, friends, soon to be baby, and stuff to do! We don't have time to be people pleasers. People don't understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979182 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:50:18 +0000 artsyfartsy 979182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: I ignore it as much as possible. And she won't take no for an answer about the babysitting without saying we purposefully don't want her to watch the child out of spite. Which is not true. But anymore it's turning into spite!!</p> <p>It's not all on Facebook. Every time I see/talk to her it's the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979165 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:44:01 +0000 tinyperson 979165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time we see my grandparents at church, the only thing I hear from them (spoken to LO not me) is "when are you coming to see us? We never get to see you." Sigh. We try to get up there, but LO goes to bed early and I don't drive, so can't go on weekdays. Saturdays are really our only family days and our only real day to get things done. Sundays are busy with church and her schedule is disrupted, so we need to go home for a nap after. I wish they understood! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979119 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 17:22:51 +0000 deactivated_account 979119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also second the thought of ditching Facebook. I have never had one for so many reasons. But FB allows people to say lame things like your grandmother is saying. Can you just ignore her? And as for her watching your LO, I would wait until you absolutely need to say something, and then just be kind of upfront, like "Hey granny, we have other plans in mind for LO's babysitting. Thanks, though." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-979053 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 16:55:59 +0000 rawrasaur 979053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*sigh* my grandmother is the same way. Every time I spend time with her I leave with hurt feelings. Now that my LO is here, she wants to see us all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978897 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:50:12 +0000 citymouse 978897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think some Grandma's specialize in passive-aggression. :-/ I think those comments on FB are super inappropriate. Something like would personally spur me to say something to her about it. I know everyone is different though!! So sorry you and your family is experiencing that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978872 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:39:15 +0000 cascademom 978872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: You could limit her access to your profile. Put her on a restricted list. Make it impossible for her to comment on your FB page. My MIL has very little access to my profile for a variety of reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978861 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:36:01 +0000 artsyfartsy 978861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I really like using it to keep up with family and friends...but that is sounding better and better everyday! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978854 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:35:11 +0000 Bookish 978854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hah! Love the pic...it's exactly how I feel about my mom the majority of the time. I hate passive aggressive BS. I ended up having to defriend her on FB because she would try to start fights based on my posts. Why does family have to be so aggravating!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978840 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:31:04 +0000 MsLipGloss 978840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: Would you consider ditching FB? This is the exact reason why I don't *do* FB! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978837 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:29:42 +0000 artsyfartsy 978837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I took her off my newsfeed but that doesn't stop her from commenting on everything. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978834 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:29:20 +0000 artsyfartsy 978834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When she told me about the crib thing, I tried to be genuinely appreciative (I was at first) but make it VERY clear I may want to purchase my own. We had already picked a set we liked. But she wouldn't have it. Ugh!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978832 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:29:03 +0000 cascademom 978832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ick, I'm sorry that she's so awful about that. FB passive aggressiveness is the worst. Ignore her for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978817 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:25:44 +0000 MsLipGloss 978817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All.the.time. When it is really ridic, I just call them out on it. Because I don't care how old you are, BS is still BS! I have found that the more they *get away* with it, the more they do it. I try my hardest to diffuse with kindness, but I diffuse when I can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-aggressive-family-members#post-978802 Wed, 31 Jul 2013 15:23:30 +0000 artsyfartsy 978802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone else have one of those family members that just makes snide, passive aggressive comments all the time?</p> <p>My grandmother hasn't let it go that my sister didn't choose her to watch her daughter when she went back to work. Instead of driving 20 minutes (literally) out of the way to my grandmothers house, she chose a close family friend who has a babysitting service for a really good rate close to her house.<br /> She constantly makes comments on FACEBOOK like "Waiting on baby (name) to come over. Got a whole nursery made up and she's all that's missing."<br /> "Bought (baby) some new toys. All that's missing is (baby). Wish (sister) would bring her over every now and then."</p> <p>Then, now that I'm pregnant, she makes comments like "Oh, you don't want to buy any bedding from a store. I'll make it for you."<br /> "I have a crib already so you don't have to buy one. You can use the color for whatever gender and buy matching furniture later." Not the fact that I don't appreciate the offer but she WONT accept the fact that I may want to buy my own!!</p> <p>And she keeps reminding me that she is expecting me to let her watch my child when I go back to work. Um no. Lets just say she watched us as children and I would rather not put my child through the same thing.</p> <p>I've just had one comment to many and needed to vent. I love my grandma but GEEZ. Maybe if she just came out and politely asked instead of making rude comments we would come around more!! We always go visit at least once a month. Anyone else in a similar situation?</p> <p>I just feel like this:</p> <p>[attach=3847/13/mqthz7.299x168.image.jpg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-862760 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 11:14:50 +0000 jh524 862760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: well said.<br /> My mom has been asking me just about everyday if something is happening. She says hurry up slow baby.....i haven't even reached my due date, chill out!!!! Just don't let comments affect you :) it will be over before you know it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-862710 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 11:00:05 +0000 Lindsay05 862710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is/was SO annoying! I eventually just turned my phone off. I think people got the point! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-862698 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 10:55:48 +0000 Vegmama 862698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a FB status update is appropriate. To tell everyone you're so excited about baby, and you'll share news once you're ready. It's also a great time to add that you know everyone else is excited, and again, you'll share when there's news to share. Best of luck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861632 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 16:43:40 +0000 sea_bass 861632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Darling: I don't know. It doesn't really bother me to be honest. I try to take it in the spirit it was meant. Imagine if no one asked about your pregnancy... I think I would be pretty hurt from the lack of interest. </p> <p>I think if you start to let stuff bother you, everything really will bother you. And pregnancy is long enough as it is, without being pissed off at the world. </p> <p>Probably not what you want to hear, but just my thoughts. </p> <p>It will all be over soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861626 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 16:38:23 +0000 tinypiglet 861626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am right there with you, @darling. I'm due on Tuesday and everyone is constantly asking if there's any news. I always think "don't you think I'd have told you by now if there were news?!" </p> <p>But this is my favorite: <a href="http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com" rel="nofollow">http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861503 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 14:32:12 +0000 Foodnerd81 861503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Darling: Lol at lazy baby! My sister has already started answering every call from me thinking I'm in labor-- I'm not due for over a month! And she went 10 days past her due date so she knows exactly what it's like. I think it's OK to tell people to stop asking and remind them that you will let them know in due time when baby is on it's way. Or you could just be a teeny bit obnoxious and post every morning on facebook: Before you ask, no baby yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861456 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:47:53 +0000 swedishfish 861456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Darling: hahaha, lazy baby! That's funny. Reminds me of needy baby, greedy baby from The Big Bang Theory. I think the babies are just comfortable where they are! Or they're trying to spare their moms from the pain of labor - what sweet babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861452 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:45:06 +0000 runsyellowlites 861452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd turn off your wall &amp; just not take calls/texts you don't need! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861449 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:44:33 +0000 Darling 861449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: haha ...Yes I've started a few phone calls that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861447 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:42:05 +0000 Darling 861447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Hopefully we will both be laboring soon! I feel like I'm being judged, especially by friends who labored early. Like my baby is being lazy or something. Geez! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861446 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:39:25 +0000 Boheme 861446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ended up deactivating my Facebook account for two weeks and didn't answer any texts. I couldn't deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/endless-due-date-pestering#post-861444 Sun, 16 Jun 2013 13:38:49 +0000 swedishfish 861444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Join us on the June board to commiserate! </p>