https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 12 Jun 2026 11:23:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unusual-toddler-behaviour#post-2242090 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 15:13:13 +0000 Mae 2242090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about it, I bet it is just a phase! Fiona will often do this to my husband, especially if she knows that I am handing her off and then leaving. It isn't that she doesn't want to be with him, it's that she doesn't want me to go. But then yesterday my husband got home from work and she ran over and hugged him for-ev-er and when he left the room to change out of work clothes and I grabbed her she cried. My husband was like "what did you do to her today!?" lol but really I think sometimes she just has a hard time with change. Like WE are deciding when she gets passed off and maybe she wasn't done with the person holding her yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unusual-toddler-behaviour#post-2242074 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 14:58:11 +0000 littlejoy 2242074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO started to get a lot more independent at that age ... she's a firecracker now (18 months). I wonder if this is a normal developmental milestone, that feels a little more personal since it's coinciding with the end of nursing? Hugs to you!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unusual-toddler-behaviour#post-2241416 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 02:53:07 +0000 Glitter 2241416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Myicitygirl: yes he comfort nursed A LOT. He calms down easily with distraction with a toy or snack but the initial wails for the previous holder are pretty desperate sometimes when he gets into my hands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unusual-toddler-behaviour#post-2241413 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 02:11:57 +0000 Myicitygirl 2241413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does/did he root or seem to want to nurse? Did he use to comfort nurse? When he cries after you take him, what calms him down?</p> <p>My son is 14 months and while we are still breastfeeding, we are going much longer between feedings and sometimes I am distracted or busy when he wants to nurse and he will get upset (similar to a tantrum) and start to cry. And I have noticed he is more attached to his father lately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unusual-toddler-behaviour#post-2241411 Tue, 21 Jul 2015 01:43:27 +0000 Glitter 2241411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 14 months old. Since we stopped breastfeeding cold turkey about 2-3 weeks ago (may or may not be related to abrupt weaning) he seems to have lost a lot of his attachment to me :sad: </p> <p>Sometimes he cries if SIL or DH pass him to me. This never ever happened before as I was always his *favourite*. </p> <p>Has anyone else experienced this? Is it a phase?Or a developmental milestone of sorts? I feel hurt about it but should I? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/attachment-at-21-months#post-1580669 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 11:19:22 +0000 MoonMoon 1580669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds cute and a little quirky! My LO is a lot younger, though, so I don't have insight, but it sounds pretty benign to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/attachment-at-21-months#post-1580516 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 10:40:43 +0000 Sunshine710 1580516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS is 21 months and has started carrying around his sweater or jacket for the entire day. He sleeps with a lovie and I've tried to bring it out of the crib for him to hold but he wants nothing to do with it and prefers that it stay in bed, which I'm okay with! Just been trying to contemplate if I should continue to let DS carry around his jacket. It's almost summer after all and I'm sure it will turn into something else. For example last week he asked to take his pants off so he could hold them. Just trying to understand the behavior and if I should try to find a stuffed animal or something instead but thus far, he's truly into the jackets... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-493624 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 11:51:52 +0000 brownie 493624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to school this morning and he didn't cry. I don't know what was different but he fussed a little and just did it. It was amazing. I did leave an old ID card with my picture on it if he needs it today for some reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490997 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 11:38:33 +0000 brownie 490997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a funny but related note, he had no problem with Santa at all. He willingingly went to and got pictures with Santa multiple times this Christmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490778 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:35:03 +0000 brownie 490778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: We could try it. Mornings aren't too bad until we actually get to school. We do the same thing every morning. I stop the car, I get him out, he puts on his backpack. We go into the big kids side and I sign him in, I take him potty, he washes his hands, I take him to the toddler side. At some point between parking and walking to the toddler side he just flips a switch and starts crying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490691 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:04:49 +0000 mrbee 490691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Mrs. Jacks wrote a great post about kids who have trouble sequencing events in the morning... could something like this behavior chart help maybe?</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/cracking-the-code-on-toddler-tantrums/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/cracking-the-code-on-toddler-tantrums/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490676 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:00:55 +0000 brownie 490676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: No lovey. He just attached to a christmas present (fur real puppy) but that is new. Our current plan is stickers from snapfish with a picture of mommy and daddy. See if that helps.</p> <p>@TheHistoryOfUs: He plays just fine on his own at home and daycare's house. He loves having us play with him but gladly goes off. Caveat if we put him in independent playtime he doesn't always take that well. But he's getting better with it imposed on him. When we have friends kids over he is all over the playing with them. </p> <p>After the first few days, they say he has a hard time transitioning at preschool. So during an activity he calms down and then when they go to the next activity they don't. But I'm not too sure. The ladies there when I pick him up aren't the ones I drop him off with (lunch/nap time). So I don't always get the information I want.</p> <p>He is a high-needs child so I don't know if that changes the approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490543 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 09:05:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 490543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not an expert on this, but will try to maybe give any perspective. </p> <p>It sounds like maybe he doesn't know what to do when on his own. Does he play well independently while at home? Or is someone always sitting with him playing with him? I know when my daughter started the new toddler classroom at 15 months, she was kinda lost in the room and therefore would just kinda sit and cry. It took her time to learn how to play (play food in the kitchen area, books on the bookshelf, etc) but also be brave/willing/independent enough to go try those things by herself. </p> <p>How does he do during activities at preschool? If a teacher is engaging activity such as circle time or reading is he ok? </p> <p>Also, when I drop my daughter off the only thing that saves us is bringing a banana. She happily waves goodbye and gives me a kiss as long as I leave her sitting there eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490515 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 08:50:10 +0000 mrbee 490515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Does he have a lovey of some kind?</p> <p>Charlie never had a lovey, but when he first went to daycare he would sit in his stroller when he missed us. He did that for quite a while in the mornings. It really helped him cope with the transition!</p> <p>We also gave him some pictures of his family, but not sure how much that helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490324 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 00:44:01 +0000 sarac 490324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really struggle with this as well. I'm a pretty serious attachment parent, and I'm proud of the bond that my daughter has with me and my husband. But wow, it would be so nice to be able to leave her at a gym daycare. She's just gotten ok with being left with my mother, and my mother in law can manage too. We have one other friend who can baby sit. We're trying out a new one tomorrow night, and I expect it to be awful.</p> <p>So, yeah, I've got nothing but commiseration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490283 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:48:03 +0000 brownie 490283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: One of the kids is a friends kid who we see every week. But even that doesn't seem to help him. One of the boys in his class really likes him. Every morning he comes by to say hi as I bring him in. Not smothering just to say hi it's really cute. My kid just has no desire to have anything to do with them.</p> <p>Daycare's son (5 year old) has gone to the gym daycare with him and that doesn't help either. He didn't cry the entire 30 minutes, but he would get distracted and then start crying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490270 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:38:27 +0000 mrbee 490270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does he have any friends at the preschool?</p> <p>I really wish we had had playdates with other kids from Charlie's daycare before he started there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490265 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:34:37 +0000 brownie 490265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 20 months old (almost 21 months old). He has a babysitter he sees daily while I work. We have followed many attachment parenting things such as co-bedding, extended breastfeeding, and baby wearing. It has worked wonderfully as my child is extremely attached me (even though I work full time). </p> <p>So, our problem is that he is extremely anxious when we leave him. He has no problem going to daycare but we started preschool in October and he STILL cries every time we leave. Today he cried as soon as I pulled into the parking lot. I don't think there is anything wrong with preschool. They aren't hurting him and I know they are treating him well. </p> <p>We have started taking him to the daycare at the gym. He won't stop crying for 30 minutes with them. </p> <p>Please give me suggestions to help him. What can we do to make him feel safer in these places? </p>