https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 03:25:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2799522 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:37:45 +0000 chesamine 2799522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Mermaid: I heard some type of study that was conducted that showed an average of 78-times to have to "try" before conceiving. I was shocked! BUT, that's an average so it could be much less but much more. Just like what I said to ALV91711, God has plans for our families. It will happen but yes, it is super frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2799520 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:33:36 +0000 chesamine 2799520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: Thank you for the words of encouragement! It's good to know I'm not alone.</p> <p>They always say it is when you stop trying when it happens. I'm pulling for you guys. But God has his plans for your family, and I'm sure for mine too. We don't see it right now but we hope to see it soon. There are lots of perks being a family of three. One thing for sure is that it's easy to ask somebody to look after just one child. Also, hugs are double for DD for us since he's the only one. So super perk there! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2796782 Sat, 13 Jan 2018 12:16:35 +0000 Ms.Mermaid 2796782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are just starting out but after conceiving our LO on the first try I’m feeling really discouraged that our first cycles weren’t successful and worrying we are in for a long haul. I would have liked to have a second when my LO turned 3 but life stuff kept that from happening. I am thinking we will try for maybe a year and then decide we are done but I will be really bummed to get rid of our baby gear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2795702 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 00:32:06 +0000 ALV91711 2795702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's such a tough decision. Around when DS was 3 is when DH and I felt we were ready to add to our family. DS will be 5 in March and it is still just him. After almost 2 years we are almost done with trying and have talked about the great things about being a family of 3. </p> <p>Putting away/giving away the baby stuff is hard. </p> <p>No advice, just know you aren't alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2795669 Mon, 08 Jan 2018 17:42:51 +0000 chesamine 2795669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope everybody had a great time over the holidays and HAPPY 2018!</p> <p>Wow! I have not been on any of the boards since LO was born. This community has helped me a lot when we initially were TTC for our son. Now, baby fever has set in BIG TIME. </p> <p>LO is now 4yrs old and 2 mos. DH and I have talked to each other about having another one and when that would be. DH answered me at that time and said, "Now!" :grin: I would like to say it has probably been about a year now, or maybe a little less. </p> <p>I've had several "maybes" after being late for 4 days (at the most). But just like before, if I was late a certain month, rest assure I would be early the following. I'm in that frustrating stage again and I don't like it. A friend who is also currently TTC35+ said, "Who knew it was THIS hard to get pregnant after being told our lives to be careful about being pregnant?" I know right?! WHO KNEW!!! </p> <p>After over a year, DH and I tried out the SoftCup when TTC for LO and maybe within a couple of months, we got our BFP. I was so excited and even gave the rest of the cups in the box to a friend of mine. Within a couple of months, that friend also conceived using the SoftCups. This time around, we've started using them right away, but haven't been successful. It's a different type of frustration. It makes me think and ask myself, "Should we just not try or do we keep trying? We have LO right now; we should be happy with that." And yes, we are happy with LO. But both DH and I have several siblings and thought having a sibling for LO would be good/nice.</p> <p>I was folding laundry last night and noticed that LO still had 2T-3T clothes. So I had to fold them away and box them up ready for donation. I started to get REALLY emotional and every piece of clothing I folded reminded me of the little things LO did while wearing it; whether it was just running around the house or reaching a milestone. So the frustration kicked into high gear for sure as I thought to myself, "Aww wouldn't it be nice to have another one?" But sometimes I do think perhaps not; especially when I think of the stress and sleepless nights when LO is sick. I had pretty bad post-partum anxiety and thought, if I'm freaking out at the mere sound of a cough or a sight of runny nose; what business do I have having another one and would I be able to even handle it?</p> <p>Ugh, so many emotions!!! I hope I'm not the only TTC mom going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reccomend-your-favorite-diaper-bag#post-2114434 Thu, 19 Mar 2015 12:17:31 +0000 cheert16 2114434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I am an overpacker too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reccomend-your-favorite-diaper-bag#post-2114332 Thu, 19 Mar 2015 11:29:21 +0000 sorrycharlie 2114332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a skip hop duo double or whatever - the double stroller one - and its big but I really like it. I'm an overpacker, and esp with two little kids, I can fit everything inside AND zip it :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reccomend-your-favorite-diaper-bag#post-2114327 Thu, 19 Mar 2015 11:26:44 +0000 tinyperson 2114327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like my Lug Tuk Tuk! I bought it for a flight last year, and now use it as my work bag too - saves me from transferring things back and forth, and it's big enough for my laptop and files. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reccomend-your-favorite-diaper-bag#post-2114298 Thu, 19 Mar 2015 11:12:59 +0000 cheert16 2114298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am looking for a new diaper bag and am having trouble finding something I love! I had/have a Kate Spade diaper bag right now that I bought for LO#1 (see picture below)- I like the style and size but it keeps breaking!! The darn strap keeps coming off- I have had it fixed twice and now I am just ready for something else! I also have a backpack that we use as a diaper bag- but that normally stays at daycare- and honestly I like a cross-body style better! This would be for both LO#1 (boy- 2) and LO#2 (girl- 3 months)</p> <p>What is your favorite diaper bag? Recommendations on what not to get? I am carrying around a broken diaper bag and its driving me crazy... looking to order something asap! </p> [attach=2545/15/nlgvpn.246x205.diaper-bag.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1807009 Sat, 09 Aug 2014 11:53:51 +0000 duchessdina 1807009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I might try waking up after 4 hours and see if I can fall back asleep after that. I struggle with sleeping during the day and sometimes have a hard time falling back asleep after I wake to go to the bathroom. Maybe if I get a routine it will work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1806971 Sat, 09 Aug 2014 10:49:44 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1806971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Back when I use to attempt to chart I worked 3 nights a week and off 4 so I was constantly switching. Honestly it was hard and I never got the hang of it so I eventually gave up.</p> <p>I ended up going by CM and OPK more than anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1805017 Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:54:36 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1805017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@duchessdina: I work 3 overnight shifts a week and just made sure to temp after sleeping 4 hours. It worked out fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1802166 Wed, 06 Aug 2014 20:45:11 +0000 duchessdina 1802166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The mornings are very consistent, it's the nights that I struggle to keep consistent. I just seem to vary too much with my waking times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1801648 Wed, 06 Aug 2014 15:52:28 +0000 Willow 1801648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was on a rotating shift for a few months, while charting (but to avoid). I don't have any great advice... temping was difficult, but I tried to do it consistently as possible. Like take my temp at the same time for all the days doing the evening shift, and then all the days working the morning shift would be taken at the same time. So my chart didn't look very good, but I began to see the patterns.</p> <p>I also tried to pay extra attention to the other signs, like CM, to figure out when I was ovulating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1801517 Wed, 06 Aug 2014 14:44:56 +0000 cmomma17 1801517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>bumping for you! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/temping-working-night-shift#post-1797159 Mon, 04 Aug 2014 10:24:54 +0000 duchessdina 1797159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm ttc baby #2 and I work weekend nights. My Temps are all over the place due to my waking timespecially being different depending on how I sleep. Anyone have any advice on temping when working a rotating shift? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491592 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:58:20 +0000 Weagle 1491592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted at least two years apart, but we would be fine if they were closer together. We didn't have any goals to meet before trying, so we just went with it. Overall, I think there's always a reason to go for it and always a reason to wait. I'm 13 weeks along with #2, and I question being ready some days! Sometimes you just have to decide and what will be will be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491589 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:58:14 +0000 Chillybear 1491589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: I also think my husband will be ready before i am. he likes the idea of 3 years between our kids</p> <p>@char54: I struggle with the emotion that i love my daughter so much that i kinda want her to my focus for a while longer before adding to the dynamic</p> <p>@Mamasig: The 9 years between my brother and I were tough too. while i'm sure it was nice for my mom to have me as a helper, My brother and i didnt have the best relationship because i was more of an authority figure than a peer. </p> <p>@autumnlove: Financially i think we're still stretching to accommodate our first, but once that starts to even out and we're a little more comfortable the decision might seem more feasible. </p> <p>@septca: I agree that age is also a factor. I'll turn thirty this year and i would like 3 before i get into my late 30s. (hubs isnt sold on #3 but said we'll see)</p> <p>@Andrea: I asked my SIL why so close (2 under 2) right after i had my lo... i believe my exact words were "why would you want to do this again" and she claims she completely forgets labor and the newborn phase.... is this some weird survival mechanism?</p> <p>@Mrs. M: at this point i work full time. I would love to have my first in public school to avoid double day care costs or be able to stay home with them by the time we have 2 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491496 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:39:59 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1491496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had talked about a 2 year gap, but when my first LO was nearing his first birthday I had a really strong feeling that he needed a playmate. To be honest, being pregnant with a toddler was really, really hard, but now that the baby turned one, the kids are already playing together and it's so much fun. I don't feel the need to entertain them as much and overall it has made parenting more enjoyable for me.<br /> Now I'm actually at an impasse, because we know we want another but I don't know when. Hopefully I will "just know" like last time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491452 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:25:21 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1491452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always knew we wanted the kids around 2 years apart. I started getting baby fever when LO #1 was just 6 months (crazy I know, but she was STTN already, we were on a great, predictable schedule, and the baby weight was gone), but logically we knew we should probably wait because we didn't want 2 under 2... so we allowed ourselves to enjoy several more months of quiet predictability, and for my body to fully recover... and started trying again when LO #1 was 16 months.</p> <p>We would've started trying at 14 months (so they'd be exactly two years apart), but I wanted to avoid an end of the year baby.</p> <p>Another thing that factored into our decision was my job. I needed to make sure that I had been at my job at least a year before I got pregnant again so that I could qualify for all the maternity leave benefits.</p> <p>My in-laws are also around to help right now, so it made more sense for us to have kids closer together because who knows where they'll be years from now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491438 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:20:14 +0000 Mrs. M 1491438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always imagined having kids somewhat close in age. We also based our decision partly on my future work situation. I am a SAHM now but will most likely go back to work when kids are in school. Since they won't have a large gap, it will be more of a clear cut choice for when I should go back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491420 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:14:43 +0000 Andrea 1491420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never wanted 2 under 2. Just no desire to go through everything so quickly again. We always talked about a 2-3 year age gap and that is what we got. It's still a small enough age gap where the girls can be close and play well together. And maybe there isn't so much jealousy because DD1 was older when we had DD2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491324 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:54:52 +0000 septca 1491324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always hoped to have our kids 2-3 years apart, but when we had trouble TTC and I was diagnosed with endometriosis, my doctor recommended that we have our kids close together - she said that AF would stay away while I was BFing and that we should just start TTC again when it returned... well, AF came back at 7 weeks pp, so that obviously wasn't happening. :wink: I stopped BCP at about 10 months pp because it wasn't helping my endo pain and I was ready to TTC again. Cycle #4 now and still trying... if I was KU this cycle, baby and DD would be 22 months apart. Ideally, I'd like a 22-28 month gap. We think we may want 3 kids and I am not getting any younger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491307 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:51:42 +0000 autumnlove 1491307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted them close in age and we felt ready financially so we started talking about it seriously at 4 months PP. We wanted to wait until LO turned one but we got pregnant around 7 months PP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491294 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:25 +0000 Mamasig 1491294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My siblings and I are far apart in age - 9 years in between me and my sister and four years in between me and my brother. I didn't want that for my kids. My 1st two will be 20 months apart and if we have a third, I don't want them to be more than 3 years apart. My DH and his siblings are all very close in age - 4 kids in 5-6 years and he loved it. I also wanted to get the baby part over with - I was 33 when I had my first so my age is a factor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491292 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:12 +0000 Charm54 1491292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought I wanted them 2 years apart but now that LO is 6mo old I don't think I'll be ready next fall to TTC again. I'm thinking maybe 3 years between LOs now .., though I might change my mind again once the fall rolls around </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491291 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:49:06 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1491291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was ready when Liam was like 4 months old and I was NOT. It took us a year to conceive Liam, though, so we knew we wanted to start trying earlier rather than later because we didn't know how long it would take and we did want kids close in age. We started trying when Liam was 14 months old, got pregnant right away, and the due date was 2 days before his 2nd birthday. Then, we lost the pregnancy at 9 weeks and have been TTC ever since (7 months and counting). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-did-you-know-it-was-time-for-2#post-1491279 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:45:53 +0000 Chillybear 1491279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is only just going to be 6 months old and i know that we're probably a couple years away for trying for number 2. A lot of my friends are about to join the 2 under 2 club in the next couple months and i'm just wondering how you knew you were ready to add to the family or if you had certain goals you wanted to attain first. Was it more of wanted X number of years between kids?</p> <p>For me and my family dynamic i dont think i could do a infant and toddler at the same time. I also dont think we could afford 2 in daycare. Ideally, we'd probably need to move to a larger house unless the kids shared a bedroom and I'd need a bigger car. and in a if we won the lottery situation I would love to stay home with the next one. My husband and his brother are only 3 years apart while me and my brother are 9. </p> <p>What was your thought process? </p>