https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 23:47:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587572 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:50:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 587572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had no problem. We just said there are so few surprises in this world that we wanted the name to be one of them... sometimes we also said that we were waiting to see our girls before we 100% confirmed their names. Everyone understood for the most part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587553 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:46:17 +0000 Boheme 587553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: I don't ask people either! I have several friends who are pregnant, and I figure if they want me to know the name they'll tell me. </p> <p>My husband got me a necklace with a teeny tiny initial stamped on it for Valentine's Day but no one has noticed it or asked...and I'm careful about not wearing it around friends :)</p> <p>I guess I'm extra paranoid about it because I DID have someone who got offended early on! She asked me point blank in front of all of our friends, and I told her we weren't sharing yet and she got really huffy. Then again, she is the same person who started hassling me about whether or not I was pregnant when I was about 5 weeks along! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587522 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:40:40 +0000 LittleGBee 587522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a name picked out for such a long time before our daughter was born and we kept it just between my husband and I. We just told people (and family) that we wanted SOMETHING to be a surprise when she was born! They eventually got over it, but certainly not without some nagging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587486 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:32:24 +0000 heffalump 587486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told LO's name.... but I have a good friend who kept their LO's name a secret for a certain amount of time. First they had names in their head and they didn't want to share until they were sure, and then they didn't want to share until they told their family. I was fine with it, I didn't think it was rude at all. I was curious..... but it made it that more exciting when I actually did find out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587479 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:31:10 +0000 Dandelion 587479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seems like it's really common not to tell people what the name is going to be, so I just accept it. I actually don't ask people anymore. I just let them say something if they want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587478 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:31:09 +0000 eeh 587478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister didn't tell people what she was naming her little girl but I did happen to guess it (even though she didn't confirm I was right until after the birth). It drove me crazy not knowing but in a fun way. I would like to keep our next baby's name a secret but I highly doubt my husband can keep a secret that long and I kind of liked saying her name when referring to her because it made me feel like she was more real. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587469 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:28:57 +0000 plaidpants 587469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really didn't decide until LO was born, but we wouldn't even share our short list. I only told people names we vetoed. My dad was SO rude about one of the names I told him we had decided not to use, it really cemented my decision not to tell anyone even if we did decide. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-587442 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:25:06 +0000 T.H.O.U. 587442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with just saying "I don't know". For us, we did have names picked out, but we also had a few back up names. We didn't want people to start referring to the baby by a name until birth, and we didn't want to get any monogrammed stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586960 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 12:02:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 586960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been saying we don't know-- which is true-- we have a girl name picked out but are really up in the air on boys. I'll just say we've been talking about it but can't come up with anything, and no one has pressed it. But DH was at a work dinner the other night and people asked and he said we had some names picked out but weren't sharing-- oh wait, my wife told me not to say that, she told me I'm supposed to say we don't know! Luckily everyone got a good laugh and they weren't offended. </p> <p>The first time someone told me they weren't sharing, I wasn't offended but a little surprised at first, but then it made sense to me. After that, I'll say something like, have you guys talked about names? Are you sharing them? I've had a few people say they had ideas but weren't sharing and I totally get it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586909 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:51:33 +0000 hellobeeboston 586909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>most people understood when I told them we had a name &amp; weren't sharing it until the baby was born - you could brush it off as a superstitious thing if you feel like the person you're telling needs an excuse. most of our friends did this also, had a name, didn't share, so they got it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586855 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:42:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 586855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't even share our short list (for either sex) until after DS was born. Whenever anyone asked what we were planning on naming LO we responded with that person's name: For instance, my stepmom is Connie and my dad is Jon. When Connie would ask, I would respond "We've decided on Connie if it's a girl and Jon if it's a boy" with a wink and a smile. We'd get some good-natured eye rolling, but most people usually dropped it (except for my stepmom, but I didn't expect any different from her). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586853 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:42:04 +0000 vnvdvci 586853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is insisting to everyone that baby is going to be Hieronymus Balthazar...the horror paralyzes people enough to stop any further questions. Only works because people aren't sure whether DH is joking or not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586840 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:39:28 +0000 LazyLightning 586840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have a name yet, but when we do, we don't' intend to tell anyone. I will just keep saying we aren't sure yet. I don't feel guilt about that - it's no one's business but ours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586755 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:23:56 +0000 Happygal 586755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a pretty popular thing for my friends to do, so I expect them not to share. I think some people really want to know, and for others, it's just a set question to ask along with "when are you due, what are you having" and so on.</p> <p>One woman didn't tell me she keeping it a secret. She shared a bunch of different names with me, but she named the baby something entirely different. I don't know if that was part of her plan, or if when the baby popped out, they completely changed their minds.</p> <p>Another friend had a prepared answer. She said, "Since we know what we're having, we want to keep something as a surprise for everyone." She was really excited about that, and it made me excited, too!</p> <p>You could also say, "I don't know! Do you have any ideas?" But then people might be upset if they found out you knew all along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586741 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:21:31 +0000 purrpletulips 586741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ultimately we ended up telling people but not until very close to delivery. If people would ask I would originally say that we had c a couple options but weren't sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586649 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:10:05 +0000 loveisstrange 586649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never told anyone we were keeping it a secret, and we weren't totally. I just told people we didnt know, which we weren't for sure that we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586643 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:08:55 +0000 .twist. 586643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just tell people we have a few names and will decide when the baby is here, even thought I am pretty set on one of the names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586594 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:00:43 +0000 doodlepoodle 586594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: That's exactly why they chose to keep it a secret, so people wouldn't say anything! She said "Who is going to mock a baby name when that baby is already out?!" ;) Stick to your guns and tell people to buggar off. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586570 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:55:10 +0000 Smurfette 586570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel guilty at all telling people it is a secret. It is driving my family (not my parents) crazy. It has been super entertaining listening to people guess and them trying to gauge my reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586555 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:50:39 +0000 Bao 586555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't really offend me, I just get curious and ask because I want to know! I respect keeping it a secret though....people can be so judgmental over names! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586535 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:45:03 +0000 sslm 586535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been saying we don't know yet... It's easier that way! People haven't been bugging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586532 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:44:02 +0000 Boheme 586532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: My DH gets a big kick out of it because it drives our friends crazy, but I feel like a meanie! haha! I just know if we announce it and somebody says something rude about it it'll make me question it, and I really don't want to go down the baby name rabbit hole again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586530 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:43:26 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 586530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we've been Team Green both times, I guess people are more accepting of the fact that not only do we not know the gender but we also don't want to discuss the names we have chosen for our children. They'll find out when we know what we're having. Although I had some insistent friends ask, saying 'We won't tell anyone!' Right. No, not happening, but I love you anyways! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586529 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:43:26 +0000 Bookish 586529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain! We have a girl's name picked and I am dyinggg to tell people when they ask, but we want to wait. It does feel like some people think it's rude, and it's definitely the question I get most! But, like @babyjmama said it's our choice, and we can totally make it fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586507 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:39:55 +0000 doodlepoodle 586507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: My best friend did that with both of our Godson's. It was totally their decision and while I would have loved to have known, it wasn't my choice! :) She said by the end of her pregnancy it was actually kind of fun for her and her DH because they'd just say "Wouldn't you like to know?" and give a sly smile ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586504 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:39:08 +0000 BelugaBean 586504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has only happened once and it didn't offend me. It made me want to know more than I did before but it didn't offend me at all. I would just say we hadn't decided on a name if I was in your situation though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-feel-so-rude#post-586496 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:37:47 +0000 Boheme 586496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are keeping Baby Grizz's name under wraps until he's born. People are always asking if we have a name, and sometimes I feel so rude saying its a secret! I've even lied and said we don't know yet just to avoid the question. I just feel so guilty :)</p> <p>If you kept your baby's name a surprise, did you feel awkward telling people you weren't telling? Or if anybody has ever told you they're not announcing the name til birth, were you offended? </p>