https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 19:17:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-sprinkle-for-a-second-baby#post-2781713 Tue, 24 Oct 2017 11:43:14 +0000 snowjewelz 2781713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For DD2, I had the shower/sprinkle at 34 weeks; I gave birth at 37 weeks. But the timing was more for my sister who hosted. She's away at school so it was the only weekend she could do. But I honestly didn't care much either way since I was having same gender, same month baby so I didn't need much.</p> <p>With DD1 I had her shower 7 weeks before she was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-sprinkle-for-a-second-baby#post-2781225 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 08:33:47 +0000 Truth Bombs 2781225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our circle we usually do them about 2 months ahead of the due date so around 32 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-sprinkle-for-a-second-baby#post-2781217 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 07:14:44 +0000 Boopers 2781217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sprinkle was at 32 weeks mostly because that was the best weekend to have it due to other commitments. I felt plenty pregnant and it gave us enough time to put the few small items we got away before the baby came. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-sprinkle-for-a-second-baby#post-2781216 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 07:05:25 +0000 Jennibenni 2781216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn’t have anything for LO2, but my shower for LO1 was at 31 weeks and I thought it was a great time! It was before I got huge and uncomfortable so I felt more “glowingly pregnant” than like a walrus. It also gave me plenty of time to wash, set up, shop, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-had-a-sprinkle-for-a-second-baby#post-2781191 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 19:43:08 +0000 Bernieboo 2781191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you had a sprinkle for a second (or third or fourth...) baby, when did you have it? With my first, my baby shower was at about 34/35 weeks and then I had her at 37 weeks. I would have loved a bit more time in between to get stuff washed and shop for what we still needed. When did you have your sprinkle? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322486 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 13:16:58 +0000 blackbird 322486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, my mom offered to throw me one. Does that count? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322479 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 13:15:02 +0000 mole 322479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's still really early! We live far away from my immediate and extended family (~2000 miles), so we just found out that we will have a shower when we visit them all over Thanksgiving. I'll be about 26 weeks, so it definitely will be on the early side of things. That's just the only time that everyone will be together. </p> <p>Other people here have mentioned throwing us a shower, but we are not expecting anything! If it happens, it will be a fun bonus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322406 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 12:55:08 +0000 birdofafeather 322406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with @Arden as I had friends ask about a local shower (my SILs are throwing me a shower where DH and i are from, about 3 hours away) and i said that i didn't think i would have one here and then two of them offered to throw one! it was very sweet.</p> <p>i don't think it's weird for family to throw a baby shower (obviously as my SILs, MIL, mom and sis are throwing one!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322351 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 12:27:17 +0000 shopaholic 322351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers - Aww... sorry about your mom. {HUGS}<br /> ITA - I mean, your bridesmaids would be your closest friends to you right? I've heard about the Emily Post thing too - but then my sister is one of my closest, if not closest, person. No one would think anything of her hosting it I'm sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322330 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 12:18:58 +0000 ladyfingers 322330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: Not sure if it's a "supposed to," but I only got married last year and all my bridesmaids are still my closest friends, so they're the most likely (well, the only) candidates for throwing me one! Maybe that's why it's a common assumption, because they're your best friends. I have heard it's considered "Emily Post wrong" for your mom to throw you a shower because she's your immediate family so it looks like the family is asking for gifts. But I've seen it done, so it's fine in my book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322322 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 12:16:34 +0000 ladyfingers 322322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Yeah it would be so easy if there was family! Unfortunately for me, I'm an only child (so is DH) and my mom passed away 6 years ago, and I'm not close with any aunts. I think things like this just bring up for me how sad I am that I don't have more family around for stuff like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322261 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:44:49 +0000 shopaholic 322261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387 - One would hope so! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322228 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:35:29 +0000 immabeetoo 322228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic I definitely think its regional, we've moved and there are a few showers here that were thrown by parents/siblings! I would think if you threw showers for your bridesmaids they're return the favor.. or at least I'd hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322213 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:31:38 +0000 immabeetoo 322213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo Yep I hear that! My family is so spread out, along with my friends, I don't have to worry about it either way. We're the first among friends to have kids too.. I'll be in the same boat once they do- I don't know how you'd throw a shower and plan it from several states away :) I'd definitely think you'll hear more about showers as you get further along, and I hope you have someone throw you a lovely one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322214 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:31:38 +0000 shopaholic 322214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387 - I've heard about the family thing, but if anyone knows me and my sister, they would be shocked if my sister DIDN'T plan or at least plan most of my baby shower! :) So I don't think anyone would think it was weird or inappropriate. And she was one of my bridesmaids. I just thought it was funny that the BMs were "supposed" to plan it, because I bet my BMs didn't know that! (Although I did throw 2 of my BMs their baby showers).</p> <p>@chopsuey - Wow! That's nerve-wracking (or did you know someone was going to plan it?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322191 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:25:26 +0000 tororojo 322191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I kind of feel the same about immediate family throwing showers (mom/sister), but I think it's fine if aunts/cousins throw one. I would feel weird if my mom planned my shower and would want her to be a guest, not a planner! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322165 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:18:49 +0000 chopsuey 322165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had mine at 37 weeks.. It didn't get planned until I was 34-35 weeks along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322162 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 11:18:29 +0000 immabeetoo 322162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic I think a lot of people wait until you find out gender/are in the third tri to throw showers! And yes, I've heard that about bridesmaids, and always thought family didn't throw showers for babies or brides but from reading online I think maybe it is a regional thing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322106 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:58:53 +0000 shopaholic 322106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's still early and people haven't really thought about it? I know my sister was telling my BFF at lunch that she was going to throw my shower at her house (and I would assume by 2 BFF's would also pitch in), and BFF said, "Oh, it's still so early, that's so far away." I'm 17 weeks, so I really don't think anyone is thinking about a shower until after Christmas at least.</p> <p>P.S. Someone just told me a couple weeks ago that your Bridesmaids are supposed to throw your shower. Anyone else ever hear that before? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322088 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:50:18 +0000 immabeetoo 322088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, same here. I simply said I haven't heard about anyone having one. No one offered, we're all spread out, so whoever wants to send things.. will send them on their own I guess :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322086 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:49:34 +0000 pinkcupcake 322086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF offered to throw me a shower when I was about 4 months but then I didn't hear anything until I was maybe 7 months? I was kinda worried but she pulled through and planned a lovely shower about 5 wks before I was due. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322081 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:48:03 +0000 Jumpingjacks 322081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also in the same boat. Several people have asked me about a shower, but no one has offered to throw one. I'm 25 weeks. I'm not terribly bothered if no one throws me one, but it is awkward when people ask and don't offer. AND friends have actually said to me: oh, I'm sure your mom will throw you one. My mom has said to me: I'm sure your friends will throw you one. So I don't think it's going to happen. I wish they would stop bringing it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322079 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:46:15 +0000 autumnlove 322079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, I was due in December and my friend told me she wanted to throw a shower for us when she stayed with us in the summer. She planned a nice November shower! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322068 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:41:03 +0000 Adira 322068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the same boat as you - 18 weeks and no peep from friends or family about throwing me a shower. I really hope that I get one, but I'm trying to be patient and not bring it up so that if people want to throw me one, they can offer without being pressured by me.</p> <p>I'm with @Arden though - saying something like "I haven't heard anything about one yet, but I'll let you know the details if someone throws one!" is a great idea! I think I'll use something like that if I run into this. I'm also hoping that after my anatomy scan next week and we find out the gender, people might get more excited and start thinking shower! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322067 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:40:11 +0000 ladyfingers 322067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm kind of stressed out about this also. I have a few close friends who have mentioned having a shower or asked me who's doing my shower and I just keep referring them to one another, but they're all really busy so I'm worried that I won't be having one lol. Which is awful -- I shouldn't even assume we're having one. I just know I'll feel bad if nobody plans me one. I'm 22 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322060 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:36:57 +0000 Shutterbug 322060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's probably a little early, but are you sure that no one is throwing you a surprise one? If not, I agree with Arden about saying you haven't heard anything yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322058 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:35:19 +0000 Arden 322058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When people say something about coming, I would just say "Well, I haven't heard anything yet about one, but I'll sure let you know if someone throws me one!" Maybe they'll volunteer themselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322056 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:33:53 +0000 SleepyMonkey 322056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have my first shower until I was 35 weeks...and they weren't planned until I was probably 30 weeks. One was a surprise and the other two were just late in getting things planned. So maybe there is something already in the works and you just don't know about it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-asking-about-my-showerthat-doesnt-exist#post-322016 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:19:56 +0000 tororojo 322016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Several times in the past week, people have mentioned my baby shower and how they'd like to come, I will get lots of stuff, etc, but no one has offered to throw me a shower! So I feel awkward responding and just kind of nod/say thanks, yeah, sounds great! I don't enjoy showers but wonder if I'll be really sad if no one throws one. Maybe someone will offer after we find out the gender this week? </p> <p>At what point in your pregnancy did people start planning your shower/ask you about throwing one? I am 19 weeks along and I don't know if that's still too early or if I should assume that I won't be showered! </p>