https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 12:47:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1243218 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 00:01:47 +0000 irene 1243218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: haha thanks for speaking up for LO :) - he is usually "lively" at 6pm too, but not like tonight. It was a bit out of the norm for us. Strangely, the time out quieted him down and he was normal afterwards. Or else I am not sure if I was able to stop him from that behavior.... and I am afraid it would become a trend if I didn't do something.... Maybe I am too harsh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1243200 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 23:38:46 +0000 pinkcupcake 1243200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: his behavior today sounds like typical toddler around 6pm ;) Are you sure it wasn't my daughter there?? Haha. From between 4-7pm, I don't expect much from my LO in terms of behavior. I don't know what it is, but there's something about the late afternoon that's like a full moon. She does what your lo does - asking for food and then rejecting it (sometimes I think she does it bc she's bored?), throwing stuff, harassing the dogs, just being a general pain in the butt. I just kinda take it as. I usually don't discipline her unless she's doing something dangerous. I feel like this is just kinda how toddlers act. I don't know, maybe I'm too lax, but I feel like I've seen some misbehaving kids and there's a difference between that and typical toddler :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1243160 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 23:09:23 +0000 irene 1243160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! You made me feel better about not doing anything about it yesterday. </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: @looch: @pinkcupcake: For us, transporting from the car to the crib for nap is a hit and miss for us with a 85-90% success rate. He would have slept if he didn't poop midway... and if I knew he didn't sleep, there is no way I'd let him out of the crib...! argh bad mommy. If he ever missed a nap (which only happened maybe 2-3 times in his life), he would usually be able to hold it pretty well until 6pm then all hell breaks lose. Not sure what happened yesterday!</p> <p>Just a little update - today at dinner (at home) he acted crazy again, just whining and being cranky for no reason (banging his spoon loudly on the plate, throwing the empty yogurt container on the floor, ask for banana and when offered one he pushed it away, screaming and overall difficult). Knowing that he napped today, I gave him a time out (not sure if he understood completely, but it seemed effective). What is going on.... I hope it is not a trend and this has to stop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1241118 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 10:56:11 +0000 pinkcupcake 1241118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In this case, sounds like your LO was just over tired. I would definitely cut him some slack! My LO (21 months) is also very well-behaved for the most part, but if she misses a nap, all hell breaks loose. I don't "discipline" her when she's overtired - I figure at that point, it's mostly my fault for not letting her sleep well :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1241111 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 10:55:10 +0000 looch 1241111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I learned the hard way that the only way my son will nap dependably is when we are home. He needs some wind down time when we get home as well.</p> <p>We went to the children's museum this weekend, we were there at 10 when they opened. We then decided to go get lunch, my son was so excited about being at a restaurant, so we were having lunch at 11:30. We were home in time for the decompression and nap time, because if he falls alseep in the car, it's not practical to continue the nap there and once the car stops moving, he's awake anyway.</p> <p>So, it's a planning issue for us, honestly! But I do wonder sometimes when he's being difficult where he came from! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1241089 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 10:50:40 +0000 mrs. wagon 1241089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is why we let them finish naps in the car (even driving around to make sure they stay asleep for 30-60 minutes)!!! Way too many moments like this so we learned our lesson ;) </p> <p>When they are sleep deprived we definitely cut them slack.. I don't think discipline would work or help in these situations for my kids (they are VERY good sleepers, so when they don't get enough sleep you can tell they are really physically suffering). We don't leave the house if this happens because I'm not willing to be "that" parent out in public. Haha. Especially now that there's two of them! ;) So yeah, we stay home a lot. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1241063 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 10:47:51 +0000 mrbee 1241063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When the kids are sleep deprived (or hungry), I cut them a lot more slack! It doesn't seem to affect their behavior once they've caught up on sleep or eating!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-moment-when-you-look-at-your-child-and-wonder-who-is-this-child#post-1241050 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 10:45:19 +0000 irene 1241050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had one of those moments yesterday.</p> <p>LO is almost 22 months. He is very well behaved and an angel most of the time. </p> <p>We went to the aquarium in the morning with my friend and his buddy (same age) and they had a blast. He passed out in the car at 1pm. He woke when we transported him to the crib, and he was pretty much quiet until around 2. I didn't check if he was asleep or not. He made noises at 2pm, and I realized he threw everything in his crib outside on the floor. There I realized he pooped, changed his diaper, but he won't go back to nap. So I thought OK, he roughly napped an hour (big mistake haha), and we went out at 3pm to the mall to get something. He was pretty much happy until then.</p> <p>And the problem happened. He was very fussy. He needed to be held, but when you hold him, he pushed you away. He just wanted to lead us to the esculator and we just kept riding up and down for 5 times. Fussed if we weren't riding the esculator. Then we realized OK we should go. He ran after me, grabbed my leg and wanted to be held. I didn't want to hold him and ask him to walk holding my hand and to one point he laid on the ground and cried. And I became that parent with an uncontrollable toddler ! :(</p> <p>He fell asleep in the car around 4:10pm (which he would never do if he had taken a proper nap), and we realized he probably didn't sleep between 1-2pm. We had to wake him at 5:15 to eat dinner, but he was also very difficult. Crying and won't sit in the high chair. When he finally sat down he won't eat. Again we became "those parents". </p> <p>I guess I would have done something (time out...etc.), but I am guessing he behaved like that because he didn't have a good nap, so I let it go. But thinking back, I am also afraid if this was a soft beginning of terrible two and if I should have done something about it (ie. time out...etc).</p> <p>What would you have done? Would you have given him time outs? Did you ever have one of these moments when you look at your baby/tod, and wonder who is this child ??? Is it true that all of us would become "that parent" at some point? Did that happen to you (even though your child is very well behaved in general)? </p>