https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 06:55:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1864998 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 16:44:23 +0000 illumina 1864998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Because we had no other way of getting her to go to sleep and staying asleep! She had to learn to do it alone and she WAS ready because it took one day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1863345 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 14:49:28 +0000 ctownmacaron 1863345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! I updated my profile, so I have a different username. @mae I just responded to your post- this is hard!! @gotkimchi I love TT! That is my go to blog. I'm trying to use the swing for nights, but my LO is too smart! I think my hubby wants to do extinction, but I want to try Ferber first. @Leah I totally hear you! I'm so worried about his nighttime consumption as well, but we can't go on like this. He eats plenty during the day, but I'm so scared that he is going to cry so much because he used to eating all of the time. I want to still give him two feeds at night when we sleep train. Best of luck to you! @blackbird, yes I think it is probably more like whether or not mom and dad are ready. @meredithnyc that is so reassuring to hear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1863233 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 14:00:24 +0000 BabyTsMom 1863233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: @Foodnerd81: crossing my fingers that LO doesn't have the regression either!! (Or that it's manageable....)!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862348 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 20:33:31 +0000 immabeetoo 1862348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: I have read that multiple times on the boards actually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862346 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 20:30:20 +0000 ShootingStar 1862346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kept waiting for his sleep to get better. At 4 months his sleep was ok-ish for a few nights and then it got worse and worse. He was also really sick from 4m-6m. One day when he was 6m he had finally gotten healthy and DH put him down to sleep and 30 minutes later he was crying. We knew he was just fine and mad that he was awake, so we let him cry it out. We kept up with it and eventually got 11-12 hour stretches with no wake ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862314 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 19:52:01 +0000 Foodnerd81 1862314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: you wrote exactly what I was going to. We wanted to wait until 4 months but at 3.5 we hit our breaking point- nursing to sleep stopped working and we were bouncing her for an hour or more toget her to sleep only to have her wake up shortly after. I was losing my mind. We we figured, if she is going to cry either way, she may as well be crying in her crib where she needs to sleep. It sucked the first couple of nights but got so so much better. It felt so young but I still feel confident that it's what we all needed at the time. </p> <p>@meredithNYC: we had a tiny blip of a 4 month regression. Nothing like what ive read about. </p> <p>We only sleep trained for falling asleep and to a lesser extent, motn wake ups before midnight. After that I just nursed her bck to sleep whenever she woke up, but se quickly feel into a one or two wake ups a night pattern, dropped down to one, then STTN on her own at 9 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862308 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 19:48:27 +0000 catlady 1862308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are probably not the norm, but we basically had to try twice. The first time, I was ready, but she was not. She was about 4 months old and it took only one night for me to see that it wasn't working. We waited a month and tried again, and the difference was night and day. The first time we tried, she just kept waking up over and over again (even more than usual) and crying, and even though we were doing checks, it was breaking my heart. The next time we tried, it took her maybe 20 min to fall asleep the first time, but she woke fewer times that night, and by night 3, she was sleeping like a totally different baby. She didn't STTN until she was older, but after we trained, she only woke when she needed to nurse, and she went back to sleep immediately.</p> <p>Good luck to you! I know it's so tough to be that sleep deprived. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862289 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 19:24:37 +0000 meredithNYC 1862289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyTsMom: we also sleep trained at 3.5 months and our LO never hit the 4 month regression, so hopefully you will have the same luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862285 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 19:20:51 +0000 PrincessBaby 1862285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the only way to tell if your LO is ready is if you have hit your breaking point! It sounds like you have, so then it has to be bad enough, i.e. your LO is ready.</p> <p>We did it at 7 months, and we would have done it sooner but we had a crazy two-part move and I didn't think it would be fair to do it in the middle of all that change. I was definitely at my breaking point and having such a hard time functioning.</p> <p>I think you really have to be at your wits end to be able to carry it out. It's not easy. Your guts will be wrenched out listening to your LO cry. But it works GREAT and usually FAST. But you have to be at a miserable point in order to really carry it out. If you're not at breaking point already, then you won't be able to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862206 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 18:06:20 +0000 BabyTsMom 1862206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained pretty early, 3.5 months. The reasons are twofold. First, I was trying to wait till 4 months, simply because I thought he'd be ready to self soothe by then and we'd wean from the swaddle at the same time. But about a week before we actually started, he started busting out of the swaddle so we experimented with taking one arm out and he did fine. Secondly, though this wasn't really your question, like @Blackbird, *I* was so ready. We were getting to a point of taking an hour to put him down, so one night when he was particularly resistant to going down, we just looked at each other and said we'd might as well start training now, since the difference between 3.5 and 4 months wasn't much.<br /> My LO is still only 4 months so I don't know what's going to happen if he has the regression but I'm hoping it won't be as bad as it could be??? We also only trained for going to bed. I'm still getting up 1-2x to nurse but he goes down right after feeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862189 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 17:54:09 +0000 immabeetoo 1862189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also we only sleep trained for going to bed. His wake ups stayed the same - 1 for a while then 2 for a short while and then none at 9'months. He was in his own crib/room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862185 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 17:51:31 +0000 blackbird 1862185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 5.5 months, *I* was ready. I was done. She was obviously ready, though, because after a week, she was STTN every night </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862176 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 17:39:15 +0000 immabeetoo 1862176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He could roll on his own and suck his thumb for comfort. He was old enough that I was confident in discerning cries for dirty diapers vs just being over tired. He was old enough to not have issues with trapped gas or spit up. For us that was 5.5 months and we did no cry sleep solution with great results.</p> <p>We never co slept but from what I've heard, simply putting LO in their own room might help a lot. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862161 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 17:16:16 +0000 Orchid 1862161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cdkelly: I'm in a similar situation. LO's sleep got sooo bad (after sleep training for bedtime only) that he'd go to bed on his own but wake up 30minutes after! In desperation I started to co-sleep after 2nd/3rd wake-up. He is nursing a lot in the night and really that's the only thing that makes me fearful about sleep training again. I am willing to feed twice at night, but wonders just how much of his daily calorieshe's come to expect at night. I am thinking of renting one of those scales to monitor his intake in the day. My husband thinks this is overkill and that we should just sleep train.</p> <p>That said, I can't offer advice, but certainly wish the best for you!!! If you can't sleep, you can't be a good mommy, so I hope it works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862107 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 15:15:17 +0000 gotkimchi 1862107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We trained at 5.5 mo because I couldn't take it anymore. I was up all night, working full time and all aspects of my life were suffering. I think babies are adaptable and lo prob would have been fine at anytime but I needed to be at the end of my rope to commit to it. We friend gentler methods but nothing worked. It was surprisingly easy and much worse in my head. We did full extinction and had 30 min crying day 1, then 20, then 0</p> <p>Eta I read everything on troublesometots many times and that helped me so much </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862087 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 14:58:24 +0000 Mae 1862087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure because we're currently debating when/if to start this too. Our LO is 4mo and used to be an amazing sleeper until a month ago when it all fell to shit. I think she is going through some stuff (4 mo regression and/or wonder week and/or teething) so I was going to give her another month to see if she snaps out of it on her own before taking drastic measures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-your-lo-was-ready-for-sleep-training#post-1862058 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 14:20:00 +0000 cdkelly 1862058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that this is a sensitive subject, but I am planning on sleep training with the Ferber method at around four months (he is 12 wks now). I currently bedshare and it is not working at all. My LO has been nursing almost hourly for the last two weeks and I'm sleep deprived and having to work full-time. I want to wait until at least four months because he is probably going through a growth spurt now and he is starting daycare full time next week. He seems to be ahead as far as reaching milestones and I think he has the ability to self-soothe, but I was wondering when and how you decided your LO was ready. Also, any bedsharing to nursery success stories? Any issues with sleep training and then going through the 4 month sleep regression? I wish I could wait until six months, but I'm getting so tired and depressed. Thanks for the advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-mamas#post-550855 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 16:07:38 +0000 rachiecakes 550855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: DS didn't sleep through the night until after her turned 9 months old. He was breastfed throughout the night, was refusing bottles during the day while I was at work. It was great cosleeping, we both got as much rest as we could.<br /> Now at 13 months DS falls asleep on his own (weaned around 11 months). Every so often he'll wake up at 4/5am. I usually just bring him to bed with me so he's comforted and again, we both get a bit more sleep before I head out to work. </p> <p>I honestly can't imagine him sleeping in his own bed early on. I would've been up and walking around the house to nurse every 2/3 hours and then trying to fall back asleep and be at work at 8am?? Would never ever happen. I probably would've lost my job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-mamas#post-550427 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:29:28 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 550427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-bed (still do most of the time) with our first daughter. Cons:<br /> -The milk machine is right there, so they don't really sleep through the night that well.<br /> -It's hard to get them out of your bed once you start<br /> -Safety, against AAP recommendations.<br /> Pro:<br /> -Incredible bonding<br /> -Easy breast feeding<br /> -Easier for mama to get sleep in those times when baby wakes 4 times a night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-mamas#post-550324 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:48:00 +0000 Clementine 550324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>PROs<br /> It's been great for bonding and super convenient for night time nursing sessions.</p> <p>CONs<br /> Sometimes I wonder if my LO is too dependent on skin to skin contact to stay asleep. He seems to know the minute I bring him back to his crib and wakes up. Also If I ever need to get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, you need to either wake up your SO or put him in his crib in case they may fall off the bed. Sometimes, bringing them back to the crib, at least for me, caused him to wake up.</p> <p>Earlier on, he would sleep in crib then I would bring him back later to nurse and we'd wake up together. Now he refuses to be in his crib and basically cosleeps with us exclusively. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-mamas#post-550315 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:45:26 +0000 oliviaoblivia 550315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-bed with LO on my chest sleeping while I read from 9-12 then she goes in the co-sleeper after her midnight feed. She stays in the co-sleeper before and after her 3am feed until she wakes for the day at 8:30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-mamas#post-550304 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:40:08 +0000 littlebittyhouse 550304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>CoSleeping/bed sharing mamas - Lots of questions and would love to hear about your real life experience!</p> <p>Pros/Cons of cosleeping for you? Where do your babies fall asleep? If they fall asleep in their crib, at what point do you bring them in with you?</p> <p>We are currently cosleeping for part of the night. LO goes to sleep in his crib but comes in with us around 11pm. We are trying to decide if we want to make more of an effort to get him spending the night in his crib or continue to cosleep. LO is 7mo old and nis nursing 3ish times per night. </p>