https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:02:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034849 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 00:44:01 +0000 mrskc 2034849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Currently I handle DD (5 months) and DH handles DS. It ends up being staggered tho because DD has been going to bed around 8 and DS around 8:30-9. </p> <p>@regberadaisy: I'm looking forward to them bathing together too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034847 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 00:36:36 +0000 meganmp 2034847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always together, but they're the same age. Dinner, bath, all oftheir routine is together. It took me forever until I felt totally confident to do it on my own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034801 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 23:06:19 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 2034801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually together. I switch up who goes first depending on when DS2 (14 months) took his afternoon nap and whether DS1 (3.5) napped at all.</p> <p>Tonight, DS2 was up at 3:30 so I put him down at 7:30. I had gotten DS1 into his pajamas and everything already since he didn't nap today, and put him down right after DS2. Sometimes if DS2 naps later (4:30 or so) and DS1 didn't nap, I will actually put DS1 in bed first. Which is kind of hard since DS2 crawls all over us and ticks off DS1 ;-)</p> <p>When DS2 goes to one nap I would imagine he'll almost always go down first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034702 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 21:45:51 +0000 winniebee 2034702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2.5 year old is in bed at 8</p> <p>6w old as soon after as he will have it. Some nights it's 845 some nights 10. I'm in bed right after! I can't wait til he goes to bed around the same time. Though I'm guessing baby will always be a little later like 830 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034696 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 21:42:30 +0000 luckypenny 2034696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD2 (10 months) goes to sleep first at 6pm. I have to do her bath in the afternoon because there is no time after picking her older sister DD1 (almost 3) up from preschool. </p> <p>DD1 goes to sleep around 8:30. I'd like it be earlier because she is so tired but DH doesn't come home until 7:15 and that gets her really worked up and they play a lot before bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034675 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 21:23:40 +0000 MamaBehr 2034675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do baths for the boys (12 months old and almost 3 year old) and shower for my daughter (almost 5 year old) at seven. The baby goes up to bed right away with me. My husband brings up our other son as soon as he done with bath (so double bedtime at about 7:15) and then DD is in bed by 7:45. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034551 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 20:16:16 +0000 kodybear 2034551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: only for a couple min. We put him in a summer infant bath sling so he's still reclined. It definitely has saved time (and water) having them together! And dd likes to "help" wash baby (aka dump water on him) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034529 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:56:32 +0000 blackbird 2034529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Deer: oldies unite! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034528 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:55:50 +0000 regberadaisy 2034528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kodybear: is ds sitting up? Just wondering logistically how it works For them to bathe together?<br /> I'm looking forward to the day my girls can bathe together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034524 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:54:02 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2034524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: yeah nights when my husbands gone I'm glad it's staggeted for sure!</p> <p>@Mamaof2: yeah it sounds like when one kiddo's still napping it's hard to have them on the same bedtime schedule!</p> <p>@autumnlove: that sounds perfect! Like that they're together but you get some alone moments too :)</p> <p>@Mamasig: I didn't think about them having different sleep needs! Jeez why don't kids come standardized? ;)</p> <p>@swurlygurl: that sounds like some good teamwork! Yeah I think my motivation for having them go to bed around the same time is so we get our evenings back, I miss them!</p> <p>@PinkElephant: sounds like a good routine! I wish there was a 10 minute warning chime for when you're approaching that optimal sleep windiw, feel like I miss it too!</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: wow! Pretty awesome to still get a nap at 4! My neice is 7, sleeps like a rock, and can still take a good long nap every day if you let her. Since Lucy took FOREVER to transition to one nap I hope we hang onto it for awhile!</p> <p>@blackbird: me too! These days it's 8:30 and I'm like, "it's really late, need to get in bed!"</p> <p>@kodybear: love that routine! Hoping for something similar soon :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034502 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:29:40 +0000 blackbird 2034502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: It's the only way I get 8 hours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034496 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:27:11 +0000 kodybear 2034496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 2 year old (dd) and a 5.5 month old (ds). right now we bathe them together, then i do story time with my oldest (sometimes the baby hangs around and listens depending on if dh can watch him or not), put the oldest down around 730, then i give baby his bottle and hes down around 750. we started this when ds was maybe 4 months? before that the baby would take a bath, bottle, and go down after dd went down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034490 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:25:35 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2034490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: What I would give for a 9:30 bedtime! I can never sleep that early, and if I try, all I do is toss and turn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034484 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:18:03 +0000 blackbird 2034484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I feel so lame. Your 4 year old has a later bedtime than me LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2034481 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 19:15:02 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2034481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our bedtimes have always been staggered. DS (2) sleeps at 7:30-8ish, and DD (4) sleeps at 9:30 pm. I can see them having the same bedtime one day if DD ever decides to drop her nap, but by then I wonder if DS will need a later bedtime!</p> <p>I like the staggered bedtimes and don't mind though bc after DS sleeps we get 1:1 time with DD. They still get dinner and baths at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033927 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 13:56:32 +0000 PinkElephant 2033927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 2.5 yrs and 8 months. They bathe and eat together, then after a story LO1 brushes her teeth and goes to bed while LO2 stays up. We've been doing this since LO2 was about 4 months old. It's really nice because often my hubby isn't home from work yet when the first part of the routine is happening. </p> <p>I will say though that this has resulted in LO2 being up pretty late, so I may have to start putting her to bed with her sister soon. When I wait til after we've eaten (the adults), I think I miss a window. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033574 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 10:36:01 +0000 swurlygurl 2033574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 years and 4.5 months:</p> <p>L and K both start bedtime around 7ish. DH does L's routine (milk, jammies, teeth, book, singing, asleep) while I do K's (diaper, swaddle, milk, asleep). K's takes longer, so DH is done and comes downstairs while I'm working on finishing getting K to sleep. We start at 7 and are usually done by 8. </p> <p>I gotta say that I like having them go to sleep at the same time so DH and I can have our evenings together and unwind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033507 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 10:02:20 +0000 Mamasig 2033507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boys are 20 months apart (8 months and 2 yrs). I do bath time at the same time. First it was baby and then big brother but now they are together. Little brother goes to bed 1st (generally between 7:30 and 8:30) and then it's big brothers turn. But big brother does not require a lot of sleep so he ends up falling asleep between 9 and 10 usually. I try for earlier but it never works. Since their sleep needs are different I don't think they will have the same bedtimes for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033502 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 09:59:44 +0000 autumnlove 2033502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>About the same. I bathe the girls together and get them ready for bed at the same time. I put down LO 2 and then I put down LO 1.....usually 5-15 min difference. LO 1 likes to tell me about her day when I put her down! LO 1 is 3 and LO 2 is almost 21 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033499 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 09:58:37 +0000 Mamaof2 2033499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are 4 and 6 and maybe for a year or so around age 3 and 5 did they have the same bedtime routine. But now we are back to separate and I much prefer it! DD stills nap so she doesn't go to bed until 8:30- 9pm and DS is in school and exhausted by the end of the day - he goes upstairs at 7:30 and asleep by 8pm.</p> <p>DD will play in the playroom or read books in her bedroom while I get DS to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033458 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 09:36:42 +0000 regberadaisy 2033458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually wished they were more staggered. But ideally DD 2 wants to be asleep when we're putting big sister in bed. Which isn't possible the nights DH works till 9. It basically makes for a very fussy baby that screams off and on through me making dinner, bathing big sister and putting her down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-stagger-bedtimes-or-do-them-together#post-2033437 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 09:27:28 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2033437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now our oldest is 2 and goes to bed first, usually tucked in for the night by 6:45 PM. Our 3 month old's schedule is still pretty up in the air, but she generally goes to sleep a bit later in the evening. </p> <p>Though the staggered bedtimes allows us to focus on one child at a time, I'm looking forward to the day that we can give them a bath together, all read some stories, and then tuck them both in for the night. </p> <p>What does your bedtime routine look like with 2+ kids? If you do their bedtimes together how old were they when you started? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-771290 Thu, 09 May 2013 17:48:37 +0000 Andrea 771290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I read that, but most people have two parents around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-771284 Thu, 09 May 2013 17:46:41 +0000 mrbee 771284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: You're tough!!</p> <p>Theres some more accounts of bedtime for two on the blog!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/30/establishing-a-bedtime-routine-for-two-kids/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/30/establishing-a-bedtime-routine-for-two-kids/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-771276 Thu, 09 May 2013 17:43:05 +0000 Andrea 771276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: woot! you'll be fine!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-771237 Thu, 09 May 2013 17:25:59 +0000 Rubies 771237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so nervous about this - I will have a 2year old and a new born in October and...OMG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-771228 Thu, 09 May 2013 17:22:09 +0000 Andrea 771228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Oooh lucky that your DH switched jobs and is now home! Glad I'm not the only one to use a show, if needed. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-770843 Thu, 09 May 2013 15:15:39 +0000 Honeybee 770843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Lol, yes, it gets easier with age! :) Actually, my husband switched jobs so I rarely have to put both kids down by myself anymore, only when he's on a business trip. What I do now (both for bedtime and for naptime) is get both kids ready together (baths, pjs, etc...) and put DD in her room with some entertainment (books, stuffed animals, maybe the Nookto watch a show on Netflix if she's particularly wound up). I tell her that I will be right back to check on her. Then I go put DS to bed, which only takes maybe 10 minutes at this point. Once he's in bed, I go back in and spend a little time with her reading, telling stories, etc... then she gets her books, animals, etc... back to play with quietly in bed until she falls asleep. It took a while to get in this routine, but now she knows what to expect and it's pretty smooth, most of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-770126 Thu, 09 May 2013 12:41:01 +0000 Andrea 770126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Revisiting this thread ....</p> <p>@Honeybee: I assume you've worked out a good system by now. :-)</p> <p>Now I have two and I do bedtime by myself almost every night. It's really easy when I park my 3 y.o. in front of the TV! It depends on her mood. Sometimes she'll be good and play quietly in the nursery while I put my 4 month old down. If she's too hyper, then I have to get her outta there and TV time it is. I have the baby go to sleep at 5:30 and then I do dinner, bath, and bedtime with my 3 y.o. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-with-more-than-one#post-118104 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:29:29 +0000 amy 118104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do this on most night by myself with 2 as my husband works late or is on call at the hospital overnight. They are 2 and 3.5 so its pretty easy at this point. I bathe them together and they take turns on who get to get out first. I lotion, diaper and put them in the pjs right in the bathroom and then the its the others turn, the one who is done can go and play in the guest bedroom which has a their play kitchen in it. When they are both done we go into my daughter room (3.5yr) and sit on the bed and read 2 stories (they each pick out one) and then I sing a few songs then leave her to goto sleep and then I put my son down for the night. It definitely got easier once my son was 18 months. </p> <p>When he was younger I would bathe my son first and have my daughter help me to keep her entertained. Then when he was all dressed i would put him down in a pack and play with some toys right out side the bathroom door so he could still see us and then give my daughter a bath. When she was done i would then bring them both to her room and read a story and put her off then i would put my son down. I would always put my daughter to sleep first because she's just easier. </p>