https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:36:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-956702 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 14:00:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 956702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I understand that it is developmental but in this case the amount of times the child has been bitten while being shadowed was of concern to me. I guess my issue was with the daycare more than the child, as they were supposed to be shadowing it shouldn't have happened again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-956669 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 13:51:35 +0000 littlek 956669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: you can not punish of expel a child at this age. They do not know what they are doing. They are not biting to be mean, it's developmental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-921514 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:32:11 +0000 littlek 921514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: As a parent of a child who has biten (he is 13 months old now). It is a stage and trust me as bad as you feel about your child getting bitten the parents of the other child feel awful as well. The hard thing is usually the child that is biting does not display the behavior at home so there is not much a parent can do. What has worked with my son is shadowing and redirection. You can't really "discipline" a child at this age because they aren't biting to be viscious. I'm sorry your daughter got bitten and I hope things get better. I'm sure it will, at this age, everything is a stage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-921458 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:13:19 +0000 LulaBee 921458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Thanks for the advice, and for the hope! I know it will pass, I'm just ready for that to be now! And I also hope it doesn't turn her into a biter... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-921446 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:10:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 921446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: Good luck, that really is a sick feeling when that happens. </p> <p>One thing that helped me, was actually making sure the director was involved so that they could help address the staffing issues. I actually asked them to respond to those questions in writing so that I had copies of their responses. </p> <p>In the end, I will say that as quickly as the situation came, it also left and we have been bite free for some time now. And in even better news, it didn't turn my child into a biter which was another one of my fears! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-921360 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:48:33 +0000 LulaBee 921360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She got one bite on Monday, one on Tuesday, and 4 yesterday! The teachers are now taking drastic actions and have met with the offending kid's family. My daughter doesn't seem too bothered by the actual bites, but I know that she cries when they happen. I'm just sick over it all, and my heart is broken. I'm hoping things get better, and I'm going there at lunch today to nurse her and assess the situation. </p> <p>I did print out those questions to use when talking to the teacher, however she answered most of them on her own. She seems to think it's because DD is new in class, and the other kids are jealous that she is getting attention from the teachers (she cries a lot because she's overwhelmed and not used to daycare yet). They are bringing additional staff in to do diaper changes, etc. so that the main teachers can watch children more closely, and assigning one teacher to my daughter all day to watch her. </p> <p>We shall see what happens.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-921324 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:41:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 921324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: I'm sorry I didn't get back to this. How have things been? </p> <p>Honestly, bites happen at this age and its tough to deal with but they do just happen. Even if a teacher is sitting there with a child in their lap and another next to them, there can be a bite. Its kinda like when they start getting mobile. You can be sitting right there and just not be quick enough to catch them from bumping their head. </p> <p>You can see the questions above I started using to get more clarity about the situation. Until it becomes an ongoing issue, I wouldn't worry too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-915582 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 12:22:56 +0000 LulaBee 915582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter started daycare last week in the toddler 1 room- all kids are 12+ months, DD is 11 months.<br /> She got bit yesterday on the arm and it left a mark. I was upset, but have heard that it's "normal" at that age. Well her teacher texted me this morning and said she has been bitten again. I'm just so upset about it! I plan on talking with them when I pick her up today, and asking what they are doing to correct it (the teacher has assured me they are handling it, but how?). It's only her 5th day today and I just feel so bad for her because going to daycare has been such a hard transition already. Changing rooms/daycare isn't an option at all, nor is changing her hours. I'm not really sure what to do, I'm just feeling.... frustrated, angry, and sad for my baby. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-322404 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 12:54:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 322404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: How are things going? Any more incidents? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-312323 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 04:21:57 +0000 Rosie Girl 312323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would drop in randomly drop in. I would also ask if maybe your LO could be put in a different class for awhile until this other child stops biting! </p> <p>When I worked at a daycare, we had one boy who ALWAYS bit! It was so horrible and would happen so fast. You can always be watching him with other kids around, so try to understand that. We tried different techniques to keep him from biting kids, like giving him objects to bite, or talking him through events that triggered biting (anger, frustration, etc). maybe ask the teachers if they could or are doing those things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-312320 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 04:17:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 312320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: I'm sorry this is happening.<br /> First of all twice in a month is honestly not that bad. I think for me it was good to have better understanding around each instance. It also helped to know if there was a certain time of day or activity that triggered it. Kids will bite over toys etc. for our problem biter, I think it was teething and some guidance needed to help him grow out of it. I would ask that they assign a teacher to shadow the biter for a few days and see If they can stop some bites. </p> <p>Honestly two bites in a month is not bad but I understand you wanting to address the situation before it gets out of hand. It's hard to thinks out our little ones being hurt but I know we would go through more pain and tears getting used to a new center at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-311849 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:49:06 +0000 plaidpants 311849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I am dealing with a biter in my LO's class at daycare right now and I was wondering how this situation turned out! My LO was bitten by the same child twice in a month (the second time was today) and I don't know what to do. </p> <p>I really liked the center, but I just don't feel like she's safe. Did the biter just eventually grow out of it and stop biting your LO? Did you end up taking her out of the program? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232564 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:52:30 +0000 T.H.O.U. 232564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Thats a good idea to drop in and make sure they are properly shadowing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232532 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:32:29 +0000 regberadaisy 232532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I was googling about this just now and saw the same issue on another forum. Have you considered dropping in on the class unannounced to watch? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232530 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:31:42 +0000 Honeybee 232530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, there's a kid who's... let's call him "overbearing"... at DD's daycare. He's 6 months younger than DD and is just really enamoured with her; he's always trying to hug her/hold her hand/etc... DD learned early on to tell him no and walk away, but sometimes he still persists and they have to shadow him. When our provider shadows him, the advances completely stop. I think, if they were truley shadowing him, there shouldn't be any more incidences. </p> <p>I would also ask if this child has been biting others or just your DD, and if the parents have been notified of every incident, as well. Alkso, if the parents have been given information/direction of how to reduce biting, anbd what the center plans to do if these incidents continue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232529 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:31:33 +0000 brownie 232529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: This was my personal fear with daycare centers. I'm sorry but that is just too many bites. They may be within arms reach, but they aren't paying attention to the situation. And yes, it is a developmental stage, but your rights end when your fist hits my nose. </p> <p>I know they can't give you the kids name (security, privacy or whatever). But they should give you a plan of attack for preventing this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232511 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:23:05 +0000 regberadaisy 232511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: is this a accredited center? I would threaten to report them if they don't solve this issue ASAP or give you the name of the child so that you can have a face to face with the parent.<br /> I'm trying to think from the perspective of if I was the parent of the biter and it IS a developmental thing.<br /> Do you know if they have let the parents of the biter know?</p> <p>Are they breaking skin?</p> <p>@jessiejo17: you're right, I feel like the day care is not doing enough to prevent this from happening if they don't feel it's a reason to expel this child from daycare. They need to at the very least add another teacher to the room if "shadowing" is not solving the problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232510 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:23:01 +0000 LuLu Mom 232510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I would defeintely sit down with the director of the daycare and see what else can be done to protect your child. The other child needs to be punished/removed/ect. in order to stop this behavior, as well as the parents of the other child involved. 7 times is WAY too many in my book, 1-2 understandable, but how is a kid that is being shadowed being able to get close to your LO that many times?? Not OK in my book! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232508 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:21:31 +0000 dookie32 232508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG I'm so sorry you are having to deal with that. I don't know a lot about the biting stage but I thought when people talked about it they meant like hands/arms- not face and head! That's horrifying. Is this normal? Honestly I think if it was my child doing this (God help me), I think I would have to take him out myself. I couldn't go to work every day knowing my kid was hurting others like that. It's a shame these parents don't feel the same way- they have to know right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232505 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:20:31 +0000 T.H.O.U. 232505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: @Honeybee: We had a meeting last week and there have been 2 bites since then (down from earlier in the week, but still happening). I just sent an email asking for the following details around any incident that occurs: </p> <p>What time did the incident occur?<br /> Where did the incident occur (what room, where at in the room)?<br /> What was the staff/student ratio in the room at the time?<br /> Where was/were the teacher(s) at the time of the incident (diaper station, kitchen, on the floor near the children, checking in/out a student, etc)<br /> How long did it take for the teachers to break up the incident?<br /> Without sharing any names, was this incident from "Biter A" that has been a problem, or another random student?<br /> Any other additional details surrounding the incident, did my LO do anything to provoke the attack, was there a toy or food involved, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232503 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 13:18:27 +0000 Honeybee 232503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>7 bites is kind of ridiculous. I agree with @regberadaisy: that you should request a meeting with the director (and potentially the parents?) to address this situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232444 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 12:50:45 +0000 regberadaisy 232444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: Yikes - poor LO.<br /> If I were you I would go into the center and have a face to face meeting with the owner and head teacher. Biting is unacceptable, especially seven. I don't care if it's a developmental thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-232437 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 12:47:39 +0000 T.H.O.U. 232437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been told that under the age of 2 they consider it a developmental thing and do not expel children from the center. They do not discipline at this age, but redirection. </p> <p>They are shadowing this child (as of bite number 5 or so). He has to be within an arms reach of the teacher at all times. He is biting other kids, but seems to target my child and goes for her head. </p> <p>I am going to send an email asking for more details surrounding each situation but at what point can I ask that they move her, or expel him, or put a special teacher on him at all times? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231851 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 08:07:17 +0000 Grace 231851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend who works in a daycare and she said a lot of kids go through a biting phase (and my friend is often the victim). She said that it generally lasts a week. I would find out what kind of plans they have to stop the biting child (timeouts etc). Put the onus on them because shadowing is obviously not enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231841 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 07:58:50 +0000 Andrea 231841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is he only picking on your LO? They should keep them separated, if that is the case (but in a small class this will be hard). There was also a problem child in DD's class and he had a shadow for a while. However, she was only bitten by him once...not 7 times. I think that would be unacceptable to any parent if their child was bitten that many times. It's also hard to teach a child not to bite because they may not be biting anyone at home so the parents can't even teach him not to do it. Maybe he is picking on her because she is little. Do you feel like she is ready for the 12-18 month group? Maybe she should go back to the younger group for a while? If not, I would tell daycare that they must do a better job in keeping this boy away from your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231835 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 07:48:58 +0000 MrsTiz 231835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my sister was little, she was a biter, so my mom went with her to daycare for the day and when she bit another little girl my mom went over and bit my sister right where she had bit the girl. She stopped doing it haha.<br /> If you know the child that is doing it, maybe you can talk to his mother? In a nice/joking way, like "Boy, Joseph sure has some teeth on him! Either that or DD must be so sweet he can't keep away from her!" So she knows that it is a problem for you, and can teach him to not bite? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231831 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 07:46:45 +0000 Mrsbells 231831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow thats crazy, I would be furious if this happened more than once.SEVEN bites? And they are just shadowing this kid? No way! I would definitely complain and make sure my kid gets NO more bites. The daycare should tell his parents that unless he stops biting he cant come there anymore or something... I know that sounds extreme but I seriously cant deal with someone biting my LO's sweet face and body multiple times </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231830 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 07:46:31 +0000 MamaMoose 231830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes. I guess my first question is at what point does this problem child get removed from the day care. Why should you feel like you have to leave when your child isn't the problem. I would also want more information on how this issue is beig addressed with the problem child's parents and what they are doing to change things. Your day care has a responsibility to keep your daughter safe and a liability if she is hurt under their care so they should be taking this more seriously in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biting-at-daycare#post-231826 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 07:41:02 +0000 T.H.O.U. 231826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been dealing with a biter in LO's class at daycare. She is 11 months old but has moved up to the classroom with 12-18 month old kids. There are only 8 kids in the class and they keep a 1:4 ratio at minimum. </p> <p>In the past 6 days she has had 7 bites. Apparently there is a problem child who is picking on my LO. For some reason he's going after her head (and one time her face). </p> <p>I just don't know what else I can do. They are "shadowing" the child, meaning he always has to be within an arms reach of a teacher, but that's not always good enough because bites are still happening. </p> <p>They cannot tell me the name of the child, but I asked if they could tell me if an incident was from the "problem" child or just a random incident from another kid. </p> <p>Do you think there is anything else I can do? I really would like to keep her at this daycare (hours and location). </p>