https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:46:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2730442 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 07:32:54 +0000 charlotte 2730442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto all the new clothes suggestions, even just a few basics you feel great in would help - bra if needed, jeans, a few tops, etc. </p> <p>And for the workouts I am a big fan of small changes to start - especially when you're tired and busy. I love the 7 minute workout app--- it's effective and short and needs no equipment. Start with that every day and then, if you can, pick 3-4 days per week to do a couple rounds of it + a walk or jog and before you know it working out will be a part of your schedule! I put my run days on my google calendar like apppointments now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2730354 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 14:47:31 +0000 birdofafeather 2730354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I feel like the buying clothes that fit me is the right way to go for me! I might be the same weight but the pounds moved around so buying clothes that fit this body makes me feel good instead feeling bad that I don't fit into jeans from 8 years ago! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2730353 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 14:42:07 +0000 Cherrybee 2730353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lipstick. A fabulous hair cut/colour and lipstick. Every day, no exceptions. I have lost 3 stone since having my youngest daughter (she's 12 months) but I'm still much bigger than I would like to be and my tummy is huge (still looks pregnant).... I've started wearing bright lipstick and it just gives me the confidence to say "yeah, well I've had two babies so I'm gonna have a tummy, but I'm still fabulous". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2730282 Fri, 28 Apr 2017 12:34:17 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2730282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: good luck with therapy! Hope it is helpful for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2730102 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 18:53:52 +0000 pachamama 2730102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used exercise as my anti depressant (prob should have just taken the colony my doctor eagerly prescribed me) so I bounced back physically BUT mentally I am not the same. I'm a snippy, negative asshole a lot of the time.<br /> What worked for me is consistent morning workouts. I lay my stuff out the night before and go to the gym before the baby is up. All day I feel great and I have my workout out of the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729929 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 13:14:05 +0000 cascademom 2729929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm almost 2 years postpartum and still struggling with us. We moved out to the burbs when LO #2 was 6 months old. Add stresses of husband losing his job (got a new one last August), commute, LO #2 feeding issues, tons of both kids sickness, and depression, losing weight has been impossible. I keep trying WW, but failing lately. I'm hoping that once I start therapy, my head will get on straight and could be motivated to lose the weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729905 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:41:41 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2729905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: I'm almost there....which is bad because my BMI is really a little too high. But I feel like those last few pounds I am constantly yo yoing to maintain and it makes me insane and obsessed with every minute of my time and every bite I put in my mouth, and I don't want to live like that anymore. I'm tired of researching paleo vs. vegan vs. primal etc. I just try to eat a balanced diet and meditate through the rough spots. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729902 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:38:00 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2729902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time around was just a mess. I basically didn't get back into eating healthy, etc., until LO was 15 months. By then breastfeeding had taken most of the weight off but my lifestyle was sedentary. I did paleo to take off the last few pounds. Back to pre baby weight but not back to "not TTC" weight, which feels like a million years ago.</p> <p>Second time around I remember around two or three months feeling frustrated because I had supply issues and didn't want to test myself by being too active. That was really hard. I actually went to Old Navy and just bought clothes for the "new" me. I took all sorts of pictures of myself because it was summer and I didn't want to lose a whole summer to body weight issues. That ended up being a really wonderful summer for our family and I'm glad I got out there in spite of being pretty heavy and limited by having had a baby. That fall, I did calorie trackers focusing mostly on low carb/low processed foods and lost all the weight. I signed up for a 5k just to challenge myself, but didn't do any particular weight loss plan. Just focused on my eating.</p> <p>I feel like my set point is about 10 lbs above my "ideal" weight....so honestly even though I feel "back to normal," my normal is just different from what it used to be. I used to dream of 130, fight for 140. Now I dream of 140, and my body just seems to stay at 150 without much work on my part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729889 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:28:21 +0000 catlady 2729889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is an ongoing struggle with me. I probably would have told you when I was maybe a year post-partum with LO1 that I felt ok (I certainly looked fine, as I was super thin from an elimination diet). But in retrospect, I didn't fully feel like "me" until I weaned and then took some steps towards having exercise be an actual habit that I enjoyed as opposed to just doing workouts every so often when I felt too guilty. And then I got pregnant again less than 3 months later and it all started again. I'm currently 5 months post-partum and doing better at body acceptance because I am simply too tired with two kids (one not sleeping) to do anything.</p> <p>It is stupid but something that really helped was that I did a little shopping spree on the last day of my maternity leave and spent a super long time trying on a million things and found a small set of new clothes that are really flattering on the "new me". I'm still almost 15 pounds above where I normally like to be and not sure I will ever get back there, but I think I might be ok with that. I'm certainly not overweight so the extra weight loss would really just be for vanity and maybe I am finally old enough to stop caring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729875 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:13:42 +0000 looch 2729875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need to exercise to get my cholesterol under control, so I do it for that, more than vanity, but I do find that I have to address what the actual issues are in order to be successful.</p> <p>For me, the problem is actually going to the gym. I can't be trusted to actually get there, so I solved the problem by purchasing an inexpensive spin bike and putting that in my basement.</p> <p>I then tackled eating. I have always eaten healthy foods, but not in the right portions, so I measured and it has made a difference.</p> <p>Lastly, I buy clothes to fit my size. This was really difficult for me to accept, but I am wearing what fits and I know I look better, which makes me feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729874 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:09:42 +0000 avivoca 2729874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I did Orange Theory for awhile but I recently had to quit (because daycare is $$$ and I needed the money elsewhere). I might buy a few free weights and use them or try to do bodyweight exercises. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729843 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 11:29:58 +0000 Portboston 2729843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes gym. I try to take the body pump classes but I'll also do my own thing. I follow a few Instagram fitness ladies who show great workouts. It's super motivating!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729836 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 11:17:27 +0000 pastemoo 2729836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@danda: Sleep. I miss sleep. You are so right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729835 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 11:16:36 +0000 pastemoo 2729835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: @avivoca: How did you get back into weight lifting? Gym or some kind of home equipment? I need this. This is where I am, flabby, but "lost the weight."<br /> @Smurfette: Thank you.<br /> @autumnleaves: Yes, I can't do it first thing in the morning because DD wakes up if I so much as twitch, and then she screams, so DH cannot handle it. And once they are in bed, I'm totally checked out. Ugh.<br /> @mrskansas: &lt;3<br /> @PawPrints: I wish I could be there. I just feel so .... weak and limited. I used to run and be strong. I defined myself as strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729831 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 11:08:29 +0000 PawPrints 2729831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I embraced radical body acceptance. :) </p> <p>Sure I know I would feel better if I exercised more, and I will get back in the habit eventually, but I'm never going to diet again because life is too short for that misery. I'm at a very healthy weight and I literally do not care if my belly squishes over the top of my bikini bottoms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729826 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 11:04:12 +0000 autumnleaves 2729826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I am finding it harder the second time around. I stopped pumping 2 months ago and that helps but I still feel flabby and don't have the time to exercise and get into the shape I was in before. DH is in the same boat too. I am hoping we feel like our old selves in the next couple of years.<br /> We don't have a support system to watch the kids while we work out and it's a struggle to get out multiple times a week before they are up to exercise. After they are in bed I don't have the energy to exercise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729795 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 10:35:47 +0000 Mrsbells 2729795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: With DD I just happened to get back to my oldself without much work. With DD I am not nearly 8 months post and weight wise I feel ok but my belly needs work. I try to do sit ups and leg lifts but honestly dont do it consistently enough to see any real results. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729713 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:25:50 +0000 Mamaof2 2729713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I know you want to change things right now but thought I would share that my second child was 3 before I started feeling like my old self again. Be kind to yourself :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729708 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:20:33 +0000 Smurfette 2729708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: It's so hard. Everyone keeps telling me to give myself time, I just had a baby, etc. But mentally I don't know how much I can handle. I already have so much on my plate. I did get a new haircut and that is helping. I started Weight Watchers, but I have to walk a fine line, so my supply doesn't get affected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729707 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:19:17 +0000 mrskansas 2729707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would suggest some small, short-term things you can do to help yourself feel better, like getting your hair trimmed or buying a few flattering tops. I noticed when I did small things like that it motivated me more to work on my long term goals, such as eating better or working out. I also had more confidence and was just happier overall.</p> <p>Don't be too hard on yourself though. You've had 2 babies and losing the actual weight is hard - so that's great! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729704 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:18:12 +0000 avivoca 2729704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Same. I was starting to get confident again and BOOM I'm pregnant. I know I'll get back there, but it's so hard to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729696 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:11:06 +0000 Smurfette 2729696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm struggling with this now. But I know I won't feel like myself till I can wean her. Honestly I would have already but she has a dairy intolerance and the formula is so expensive. I still have 24lbs of baby weight to lose, 37 total for my goal. Not fitting into most of my clothes really sucks. The lack of sleep definitely doesn't help (LO is 16 weeks). </p> <p>I lost 36 lbs in 2015, so I was finally feeling great about myself and feeling comfortable in my own skin again when I got pregnant again. I just want/need to get back there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729695 Thu, 27 Apr 2017 08:00:26 +0000 Portboston 2729695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: agreed. </p> <p>I lost the weight almost immediately but did not feel like my old self or start exercising until I completely weaned at 11 months pp. I was a flabby version of myself until very recently when I started lifting. It's so difficult to get motivated when you're sleep deprived and exhausted from taking care of babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729636 Wed, 26 Apr 2017 21:38:28 +0000 avivoca 2729636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly things didn't change much for me until i weaned. I am at pre-A weight but I am still so flabby and I have 20 pounds to go until I get to pre-H weight. It took weaning and weight lifting in addition to cardio for me to see any kind of difference in my body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729621 Wed, 26 Apr 2017 20:49:16 +0000 danda 2729621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two kiddos, ages 3.5 and 1.5. With both I went to Weight Watchers and lost the baby weight by about 4 months postpartum. Breastfeeding helped a ton in my case but I was overeating and not losing without the Weight Watchers framework to help me realize what. I needed to do. From a fitness perspective...I'm just now starting to really do better, as the days are warmer and it is light out longer so I'm able to go running post-kid bedtime, which is the most effective fitness routine for me. Finally I feel the most "like me" in any case after going back to work...and even more like me when the kids started sleeping through the night. I like my job and I care deeply about my career, so I couldn't feel normal without re entering the workplace. Sleep deprivation was awful though, so it was MUCH improved once kids were reliable in STTN. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729616 Wed, 26 Apr 2017 20:26:03 +0000 Eko 2729616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I had my son my workouts changed quite a bit and I could not do group classes like I loved doing. I look at it as there are always changes you have to make when being a parent and it doesn't mean that you have to give up on the things you love, but that you have to do what you love in a different way. Instead of going to the gym I do group classes at home. I also joined an online weight loss group that helps motivate people to reach their physical goals. Lastly, I noticed that I am stronger in some areas once I became a mom then before, such as my eating drastically improved and my arms are the strongest they have ever been. Sometimes it also comes down to just doing something about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-and-transitioning-back-to-myself-whoever-that-is#post-2729610 Wed, 26 Apr 2017 19:47:13 +0000 pastemoo 2729610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What kind of things do you do to return to yourself?</p> <p>I remember 9 months or so postpartum with my son was one of the very few times someone asked me if I was pregnant because clearly it couldn't be anything else (I'm a small person) --- and now I'm 10 months postpartum from my daughter (almost 5 years after my son) and it is happening again. My poor belly and all the skin just accomodate any old thing --glass of water, dinner, whatever.</p> <p>I don't remember what I did last time to get comfortable with my body again, and I don't remember what kinds of workouts I did. I know I am slacking. I lost the baby weight but I am definitely deconditioned and nowhere near the semi-fit person I used to be.</p> <p>Is it something about having a baby? Or .... how do I get back to being myself, and tying the darn sneakers and getting in a workout? And feeling like "me." And either fixing my belly issues or at least not giving a care to what someone else might think about it.</p> <p>What was your experience over the first year or years, and remembering the "you" that you were before baby, and how much of that you that you want to recapture? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-if-you-suspected-an-eating-disorder/page/2#post-2304455 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:29:20 +0000 HabesBabe 2304455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: "I went to one of my co-workers to ask if she'd noticed the smell and she says that she hasn't. I told her that I believe it was the one blonde girl that works there..."</p> <p>I interpreted that as gossiping/talking about her. In either case, I'm glad that you weren't thinking of confronting her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-if-you-suspected-an-eating-disorder/page/2#post-2304419 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 16:19:03 +0000 .twist. 2304419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: No one is gossiping about it. I mentioned the smell of puke to another co-worker, found out the girl I'm thinking of is a fitness trainer and, along with everything else I have noticed, I have put the pieces together myself. It was literally a comment in passing. Not to mention, again, I do not even work in the same office as this woman. We are in completely separate entities. I just want it to be clear that no one is gossiping or talking about her. </p> <p>Thank you all for your suggestions and advice. I will keep it all in mind as I would like to be as sensitive to this issue as possible. I also keep seeing people telling me to not confront her, like I maybe mentioned that I would?! haha It was never my plan to confront her, only an option in the poll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-if-you-suspected-an-eating-disorder/page/2#post-2302952 Sat, 26 Sep 2015 13:11:48 +0000 Madison43 2302952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: agree completely. </p> <p>As for her leaving "evidence" in the bathroom, our toilets at work are terrible. No matter how many times you flush, if you look in the toilet a few minutes later, there is always shredded up toilet paper floating there, so it's possible she thinks she's cleaning up after herself. As for the smell, it's a bathroom, so yeah.... </p>