https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 21:32:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2812276 Tue, 27 Mar 2018 12:57:25 +0000 Mrsbells 2812276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: so sorry this happened! Did you get any answers as to why it happened? both my little ones have experience fever related seizures that are terrifying to witness. Its not the same as your situation since they are able to keep breathing through the seizure but we didnt know that the first time and panicked. I dont have any good advice other than that it does take time. I hope you can get to the bottom of what triggered that so it never happens again </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2812260 Tue, 27 Mar 2018 12:07:47 +0000 Adira 2812260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: Congratulations!! &lt;3 Fingers crossed you have no more health scares going forward. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2812241 Tue, 27 Mar 2018 11:35:28 +0000 yellowbeach 2812241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to check in and give an update for everyone who was kind enough to offer their prayers, thoughts and advice. We've gone about 4 weeks now with no additional incidents. We still don't know what this event was, but are thankful that she's happy and healthy.</p> <p>We were also surprised with a :bfp: without the help of IVF like we needed with her. So I'm considering us lucky and blessed, and moving forward with cautious optimism. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806877 Thu, 01 Mar 2018 10:02:53 +0000 Mama Bird 2806877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: hugs! This all sounds so traumatic, don't be hard on yourself if you need help, that is a lot to handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806874 Thu, 01 Mar 2018 09:59:34 +0000 Ajsmommy 2806874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: so sorry you had to go through this! I can't imagine! </p> <p>Our DS was air lifted, sedated and intubated at 10 days old and we were in the hospital for 8 days. It was traumatizing and it took time to get over. I'll admit I probably check in on him too much like @Bluemasonjar: just mentioned and I am paranoid about him getting sick. But talking about it and sharing his story helps me. I literally just wrote a post about it bc it happened one year ago. others might not care but it makes me feel better somehow.</p> <p>Hugs to you and your DD, I hope she remains event free!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806871 Thu, 01 Mar 2018 09:54:00 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2806871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: It is hard to relive traumatic events and people have good intentions but it is ok to say that it is too soon for you to share the details at this time.</p> <p>My DS had a stroke last year due to a heart infection at 18 months and we ended up at the ER 2 nights in a row before anyone figured out what was happening. Then before we knew it he was being airlifted to another hospital. It all started when we found him having trouble breathing in his crib so every night I check on him a few times before I go to bed and it took awhile before I stopped waking up and checking his breathing throughout the night. A year later we are still finding little things that trigger feelings of anxiety but talking about it helps.</p> <p>Sending hugs! Getting back to a regular routine was a huge help to us. Hoping that you find some comfort soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806839 Wed, 28 Feb 2018 23:46:09 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2806839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: That sounds like such a tough situation AND a tough job. I don't have really any advice but I think if it were me I'd keep the option of seeing a professional on the table and just see how I handled it for a little bit and see what I needed... take care of yourself! So sorry for your scare but glad she is ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806830 Wed, 28 Feb 2018 21:24:52 +0000 MrsBucky 2806830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: ugh all of that sounds so traumatic. I’m glad you have good supports. Keep taking care of yourself and don’t hesitate to tell people that talking about it is too hard. I still feel that way a year later. People will get it. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806825 Wed, 28 Feb 2018 21:12:25 +0000 yellowbeach 2806825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. We’ve had an uneventful run since leaving the hospital Friday. She has spent 3 days in daycare this week (hard on me, but she loves it). I’ve been talking about it with my DH and two best friends, but I work in the Emergency Department where we were seen on Thursday, so everyone is aware, concerned and asking me about it. They mean well, but today during my 10 hour shift I had no less that 15 people ask me for a detailed story on what happened. I don’t mind sharing bc it’s a learning opportunity, but at some point it’s a bit traumatic to run through it over and over again. </p> <p>Today I took care of a young woman whose heart stopped. We did CPR, got her back and then lost her again about 5 times over the course of 4 hrs. Ultimately she didn’t make it, which just reminded me how close I was to losing my LO. </p> <p>I love my job but sometimes it’s just too freakin intense. It’s been a rough week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806193 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 22:10:46 +0000 youboots 2806193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry this happened. I highly recommend an angel care monitor for naps/ nighttime sleep. It monitors micro movements and goes off when it does not sense anything (which would always happen when I got DD out of her crib and forgot to turn it off).</p> <p>I’d get trained in CPR if you are not already to empower you at home. Unfortunately my daughter has choked several times, once she started turning blue DH was able to dislodge the item, so I’m glad we had the class recently even though we were both certified in the past.</p> <p>I also see a therapist 1x a month and I feel it helps me manage my stress and anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806171 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 19:27:32 +0000 MenagerieMama 2806171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. That is horrible. I’m so sorry! What a terrifying experience. I would check with your EAP benefits (I think that’s what it’s called?) for a couple counseling sessions just to give yourself some structure to cope. And I know it seems impossible but see if your program can give you a few days off to just snuggle your LO and soak her in for a little longer before going back! Oye. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806139 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 08:41:59 +0000 justjules 2806139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just stoping to say I am so sorry this happened to you guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806137 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 08:37:04 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2806137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry you had to go through this. Also wanted to echo other posters and say to not be afraid to see a therapist to help you process the event and get some coping strategies for the future. DS spent 8 days in the hospital last year for pneumonia and I had a lot of difficulty after we were discharged. I was hyper focused on his health, the what if’s, etc for a long time. I saw a therapist to talk through it and gain some strategies to cope which was very helpful. I’m an anxious person in general but have heard that it’s not uncommon for people to have trouble coping after these events, even when everything turns out to be ok. Also, time has helped too so know it will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806132 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 07:00:32 +0000 MrsBucky 2806132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: I second finding a therapist. After my son had a traumatic accident that landed us in the ER and then an ambulance transfer to the children’s hospital, I was really grateful I had just started therapy. It also finally got my husband to start also. The what if and, for me, survivors guilt (this could have ended so badly, why we were so lucky for him to be ok, and other kids aren’t?) has been tough to work through. My husband still gets chocked up when we talk about it almost a year later. Therapy really does help a lot to have a safe space to go there in your head so you’re not having to deal with it all the time. I’m so grateful she is ok and your daycare knew just what to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806130 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 06:40:51 +0000 SweetCaroline 2806130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh mama. I am so sorry. I would find therapy for myself. You're so strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806128 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 06:24:33 +0000 gotkimchi 2806128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: this happened to a dear friend of mine on Christmas Day with her 2yo. She was with him and saw that it was a seizure, he stopped breathing and turned blue and she preformed cpr until 911 came. I think talking about it helped and also time, i still think she’s one of the strongest people I know because i would be in therapy and on anxiety meds.</p> <p>Edit - also wanted to add that she slept with him for a while after and wouldn’t let him have blankets and when he was finally back in his own room she was up checking on him during the night - so she just did her best to cope until she felt safe with the situation </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806126 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 01:33:55 +0000 agold 2806126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: I"m so sorry this happened to you and your darling girl. Hugs to you both. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806124 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 01:17:32 +0000 irene 2806124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: We talked to the pediatrician about it, and apparently it is not uncommon, or I should say, they have seen other kids like that. The pediatrician said while it was scary it was not life threatening and they *usually* come back on their own (yikes). We have talked about what we could do with the pediatrician. Other than talking DS's ear off that when he cried he got to remember to breathe, every time when we noticed he started holding his breath and turning purple, we would calmly chant to him, breathe, breathe, don't forget to breathe. If we were able to get access to water, we'd splash cold water on his face as a shock element to knock him out and distract him from whatever that was so upsetting. It all seemed to be working most of the time. Besides, to be honest, it did happen quite a few more times that he'd pass out, he always come back by himself so I wasn't as scared anymore. Eventually he grew out of it. </p> <p>My husband has Thalassemia (minor) and DS unfortunately inherited that too, so we suspected it was his blood that couldn't carry enough oxygen that caused the pass out. We did blood tests and his iron was low. At one point we had some iron supplements prescribed by the doc. I read more things saying that Thalassemia patients' blood does look like it has a deficiency in iron when in fact, it is not and there is no need / not helpful to give them iron supplements. There I stopped. I think I started giving him more iron-fortified cereal instead, and the problem slowly got corrected. Not sure if he actually outgrew it or it was the cereal.</p> <p>I have to say though, whenever these kind of things happen with DS (One time I thought he rolled down onto a train track when we were riding a moving train (the ones at a park), as he was chasing his water bottle that rolled down the tracks. Long story), I always snaps into this eery calm mode, almost like an out of body experience and I treat the issue objectively without any emotions. I am not like that at all normally. It is truly bizarre. </p> <p>I hope you guys figure it out soon! I think once you figure out what it is, and armed with a lot of "tools" on how to deal with it, you will be able to cope and deal with it a lot calmer. I am relieved to hear that you yourself is an Emergency physician! Your LO is in good hands. Sending healing thoughts to both baby and you!</p> <p>ETA: I just remembered, and also want to share with you something that a friend of mine shared with me. She is a single mom and she shares DS's time with her ex husband. They had their fair share of physical challenges and hurdles to go through (sleep apnea when her DS was a baby, and now he's bigger, he had a surgery to have his tonsils removed), and her ex husband has his own issues and makes bad choices in general. We chatted and I asked her how did she stay sane. She said, after tons of therapy she learned the concept of catch and release. You gotta release your control, and let the universe to raise your child a bit. I know it is very "new age", but what she said stuck with me. Whenever I am freaking out at a certain situation, I learned to release the need to control and worry about the situation, especially when my worry has no effects on the outcome. I hope this helps a little in terms of how you feel at the moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806122 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 23:54:47 +0000 PinkElephant 2806122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: So sorry you went through this. The way you're feeling is totally understandable and normal.</p> <p>My middle daughter had an instance of suspected (but never diagnosed) meningitis that we nearly missed - I'm so thankful that our nanny at the time spotted the purple mottled "stained glass" pattern on her legs, which is a sign of sepsis. We went to the pediatrician, who sent us straight to the ER, where DD2 was admitted to the PICU immediately for a spinal tap and host of other tests. We had no idea throughout the ordeal whether or not DD2 would be ok, and actually to this day never had a positive identification of exactly what was wrong. Her discharge papers say "gastroenteritis", which seems like a ridiculous diagnosis for the actual symptoms she was experiencing (and the fact that she coded multiple times during her stay) - so I can relate to the underlying feeling of "now what"? and waiting for the other shoe to drop that comes from not having any real diagnosis/outcome from a serious medical episode. It's so frustrating and scary.</p> <p>But basically I wanted to tell you that once we got her home from the PICU, talking to people about what had happened helped, as did making sure all her caregivers had a VERY solid emergency plan in place for what to do if a similar incident were to occur again. I felt the things you're describing feeling now for awhile (my big hang-up was "What would we have told DD1, who was just 2 at the time", but it gradually went away - so much so that I can tell you that by the time she was one, I was able to let her stay with family while I traveled out of the country, and I wasn't worried in the least about "something awful" happening...and now, at 3.5, I honestly never even think about it, to the point that when giving her medical history recently, I nearly forgot to mention it when asked about hospitalizations (she was in the PICU for about a week!)</p> <p>ETA: This same child also broke her arm this past summer....and while a broken bone is much less serious than the other things we're talking about, there was still a feeling of waiting for "next time" any time she was doing an activity similar to what she was doing when she broke her arm. That incident is about 7-8 months behind us now, and I don't worry seriously anymore. Again, it (unfortunately) just took time to get that pit of of my stomach/the thoughts out of my head. I think that's just natural. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806121 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 23:30:11 +0000 yellowbeach 2806121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Fortunately I'm an Emergency Physician, so I'm well versed in CPR, however having had to do it on people I know in the past, it's a totally different ball game when it's someone you know and love. </p> <p>That breath holding spell sounds super scary - how did you not fear a repeat every time he started crying? Today I've been worrying a lot about "next time," which of course I hope never comes, but feel like I need to be prepared for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806120 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 23:23:44 +0000 irene 2806120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: oh no, that's terrible. You went through something incredible and big hugs to you. I am very glad she is fine, and I hope they figure out what is going on before something happens again... (hopefully not). In the meantime, brush up your CPR skills...! Thank God for daycare teachers for knowing what to do.</p> <p>I had little episodes here and there that were 1000 times less serious than yours. DS used to have a period which he would cry, hold his breath until he turned purple and pass out. One of the first times was food trucks at a park. He didn't get what he wanted, he cried and turned purple. Next thing you know he rolled his eyes and became limp. I was eerily calm at the moment and tried to remember what to do. I laid him on a flat solid ground and thank God, without me having to tried anything he was back in 2-3 seconds but it felt more like 10. </p> <p>Then just a few weeks ago, school called in the morning and said DS slipped on a leaky water bottle and fell on the ground head first. There is a goose egg bump on the back of his head and he was very upset. Two different teachers called me. The first one said "the nurse said there is no reason to worry....... OR you can come pick him up". He repeated that three times lol. The second one is our class teacher. She said he didn't want to get a donut (it was 100th day of school and they had morning treats), which was odd for him, and he didn't want to write his journal, which was also very unusual. She said as a mother to a mother, she would recommend me to pick him up and take him to the doctor as that was what she would do if it were her. At that moment, his life literally flashed before my eyes. I picked him up and ran to the doc's. He turned out really ok (as the nurse had said), thank God, but it was scary. I can't even imagine how scary it was for you...... big hugs again.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806118 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 22:46:22 +0000 yellowbeach 2806118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: We think she may have had a seizure. They did a 9 hour EEG to look for any seizure activity, but she didn't have any events while hooked up to the machine. They won't start you on any seizure medicine unless they actually capture an event, so we just get to wait until if/when we have the next episode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806117 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 22:41:29 +0000 crazydoglady 2806117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh. I cannot even imagine how terrifying that must have been. I agree that getting help is totally warranted...I know I would need to. I am so so glad that your daycare provider knew what to do and that she has made a complete recovery. Hugs, mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806116 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 22:30:13 +0000 oskarsmommy 2806116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>how terrifying - I am so sorry you went through this. Can I ask, why did she stop breathing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806115 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 22:24:35 +0000 ALV91711 2806115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs. Glad she is ok. I can't even imagine how scary that would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806110 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:50:57 +0000 Littlebit7 2806110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy shit that’s terrifying. If it were me I’d find someone to talk to about the ordeal and help you move forward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806109 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:40:09 +0000 Foodnerd81 2806109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so scary! Thank god your daycare providers knew just what to do. big hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806106 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:26:50 +0000 Silva 2806106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is really scary. I'm so sorry.<br /> This may sound extreme, but you could consider finding a therapist who is certified in EMDR, and scheduling a few sessions. It is a highly effective technique for helping our brains process traumatic experiences. When its performed shortly after an acute traumatic event it is particularly effective. You could probably see full results in just a few sessions, and it can help avoid long term symptoms of PTSD. <a href="http://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/" rel="nofollow">http://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806105 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:22:10 +0000 starchild 2806105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so scary. No advice, just hugs. Glad she's ok! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recovering-from-cpr-on-my-lo#post-2806104 Sat, 24 Feb 2018 21:17:48 +0000 yellowbeach 2806104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hive,</p> <p>On Thursday at 11:38 am I got the call from daycare that no mom ever wants to get - my only LO (12 mo) had stopped breathing, turned blue and required CPR. They were able to revive her with 2 minutes of CPR, and she's essentially made a full recovery. We spent the night in the hospital getting an MRI, EEG, EKG and a crap ton of lab work which was all negative. </p> <p>I was pretty ok yesterday, but today has been really rough. I keep looking at her and my mind flashes to her in a coffin, thoughts of us planning her funeral instead of enjoying the petting zoo today... </p> <p>I know this is a pretty extreme scenario, but I was wondering if anyone has any experience going through something like this, and could share some insight into how you cope and move on.</p> <p>Thanks :heart: </p> <p>(my LO on her 1st birthday 2 weeks ago) </p> [attach=7491/18/p4op1o.600x570.27912834_10155572924274545_566324593493736186_o.jpg]