https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 08:07:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1982953 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 21:50:52 +0000 simplyfelicity 1982953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: That's great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1982921 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 21:11:50 +0000 avivoca 1982921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: That's wonderful news! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1982920 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 21:10:44 +0000 MrsRcCar 1982920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>***Update***<br /> Insurance is paying to fix my car! I will admit was not nice to the insurance folks but ultimately I am not sorry. :wink: I hope to get my car back Monday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977566 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 18:04:43 +0000 MrsRcCar 1977566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH took it better then I thought. He has a plan. We first will fight the insurance of they don't want to pay. The accident was severe enough to replace both car seats. So what makes them think a small electrical piece can't be broken?</p> <p>Failing insurance and appeal. FIL said he would loan us the money with 0% interest and flexible payment schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977538 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 17:24:09 +0000 fairy 1977538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ughh I hate unexpected bills, especially anything car-trouble related. :( So sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977444 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 16:34:06 +0000 coopsmama 1977444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:bummed: I'm so sorry! I hate spending money on things like that. I hope you are able to get insurance to cover the fix. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977391 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 16:07:50 +0000 autumnlove 1977391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:-( unexpected car expenses are the worst! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977341 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 15:36:05 +0000 MrsRcCar 1977341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: my BIL is great with cars but he is 3 hours away. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977328 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 15:31:00 +0000 artsyfartsy 1977328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!!! Money is always tight for us too. I know how you feel. I hope it works out for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977314 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 15:28:33 +0000 mrsjyw 1977314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs :heart: I hope insurance ends up covering the damage! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977305 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 15:24:59 +0000 simplyfelicity 1977305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! Do you have a family friend who is a mechanic? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977194 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:50:42 +0000 MrsRcCar 1977194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@teawithpaloma: We are going thru a shop not affilicated with our insurance. They are who I trust whole heartedly. This is just sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977190 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:48:38 +0000 MrsRcCar 1977190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: I am hoping they will cover it. We have had so many expenses this year. It is going up for review. Dh gets off work in like an hour I know he will be upset too. I really don't know what we are gonna do. Top my day off I have two extremely cranky kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977183 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:45:12 +0000 teawithpaloma 1977183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go to another body shop not affiliated with the insurance company and get another quote. </p> <p>Also - whenever this has happened to us sometimes a windfall comes from the strangest place. Debt is so hard but you just have to keep chugging along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977177 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:40:21 +0000 Greentea 1977177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! Do you go to a local mechanic you trust? That is so crappy! :bummed: It'll work out somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977172 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:36:24 +0000 Raindrop 1977172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gosh that's terrible!! I'm so sorry this is happening to you.</p> <p>*Big hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977171 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:35:47 +0000 avivoca 1977171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: That really sucks! However, I hope that your insurance will cover it, because a crash can impact so much more than the point of impact. When we were in our accident, it not only jammed the hatch shut, it cracked the frame all the way around and dislodged the driver's seat. We were hit on the back passenger side of the vehicle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977170 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:35:12 +0000 catlady 1977170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice at all but just hugs. That really stinks. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-could-just-cry#post-1977163 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 14:30:37 +0000 MrsRcCar 1977163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got my car back from the shop following a car accident on Black Friday. We paid out deductible and I had my car back until this past Saturday when it stopped shifting all together. I was advised to take it back to the body shop to insure that it wasn't an insurance matter. </p> <p>They called me today to tell me that it is my transmission module and that it is located on the other side of my car from the impact. It is likely that insurance will not be covering the repair and we will be on the hook for $725 plus tax. I could just cry. We can't handle the cost of the repair. I am not sure what to do and I am not sure how to break it to Dh. It feels like we will never get out of debt. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1471614 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 22:48:14 +0000 irene 1471614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: tonight, it was first he seemed to have a tummy ache and wanted to be held. I tried to hold him but I have to wash dishes. I put him on a chair so he was standing next to me. Still he was mommy mommy mommy the entire way. Not too bad. Just whining. </p> <p>Then, we went up to his room and normally he would play while I fold his laundry and set his bath water. Tonight he was holding onto my phone. Then I am not sure what happened he started whining/ crying. He really started out cranky though. Then I filmed him using my iphone and showed it back to him and I said, see, this is whining, and whining is not good. Mommy and daddy doesn't like whining. If you want something, you have to nicely ask for it. He was fine as long as he was watching something on the phone. But I had to stop at one point and he started going crazy. He kept saying "___ (his name), watch, ____, watch" and cried hysterically. I tried to tell him we'll watch more when we brush our teeth. Do you want to play with your trains? No he kept on crying repeating the same words and going crazy. I couldn't stand it so I left to set his bath water (which is right next to his room). I came back and he was still crying hysterically. I told him OK this is enough. I will count to 3 and you will have to stop, or mommy is going to leave the room. He did stop upon 2. Which I thought OK good. Then he dragged out this puzzle (which is very time consuming to put back together) indicating he wants to play. Since I didn't want to trigger him I say OK. He started taking the pieces out and I thought I'd help him. Once I touch one of the pieces he immediately screamed "mine! mine! mine!" then he broke down again. This time worse than before. Please note that I barely touched the puzzle. At that point, I was like OK I let you do it, please dissemble it; he just kept crying. I asked him, "I know you really want to do the puzzle and you want to dissemble the puzzle all by yourself, right?" No use. Nothing I say or do goes into him. He basically shut down into hysteria mode. So I left the room again (this time I did slam the door, because honestly, I was very upset and frustrated thinking this can not go on like this). I came back after 1+ minute and he was still crying. 1,2,3 wouldn't work. Nothing worked. I was upset and I put him up to the changing table (he pooped) and took his temp (he is indeed a bit warm), 102. And I dragged him to the bath. Crying most of the way till the end until I said we will do the puzzle after the bath. Do you want to? There he stopped. But I swear I said we'll do the puzzle when he was breaking down in tears in the very beginning!</p> <p>I notice there are two things I can not take. 1. Deliberately throwing food on the floor; 2. Unstoppable crying / not listening / nothing you can do to stop it. I get really upset at these two. I can take almost anything else.</p> <p>Sorry for the rambling. But I just don't know what else to do. I do not look forward to this every single night so I really hope this is a virus /phase / teething and he is not feeling well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1471506 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 21:38:50 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1471506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I'm sorry you had a tough night. </p> <p>What triggered the crying? What do you do to help him through his feelings/emotions? </p> <p>At that age distraction was still an option for us. Sometimes it was just taking her to her room, sitting on the floor with her (while she thrashed around and cried). Sometimes I would start reading a book and eventually she would get curious and come over (one her own terms when she was ready). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1471493 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 21:28:51 +0000 irene 1471493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: Yes. I know such a person too. I actually texted her last night and she gave me some pointers. In which they were ALL USELESS tonight when there was another insanely crazy crying spell. Don't get me wrong. I love my friend. Just something is up with my son.</p> <p>I think and am actually hoping that LO is coming down with something. Is that evil? Tonight he was fine until after dinner. He cried nonstop again. Like when he was a newborn with acid reflux. He cried and cried and won't listen to anything I say. He usually behaves like that when he didn't nap but according to the daycare he napped fine. At one point I had to leave the room (yes. I slammed the door because I was very frustrated). Afterwards, I measured his temperature and it was 102! There is no way he could get a temperature because he got so worked up and cried so much, right? I can not take this anymore and I am actually hoping this is a sickness. Because that means there is an end to it.</p> <p>He didn't eat very well. He didn't even eat the cake my husband made the night before (his absolute favorite). Then a few times he touched his tummy with a painful expression and I asked if he has a tummyache he said yes. Then the cry and the 102 F temperature. I gave him some tynernol.</p> <p>I really hope this somehow taper down somewhat. My baby was an angel. I don't know what happened and where he went. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1470707 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:57:49 +0000 bunnylove08 1470707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we're going into the terrible twos. DD is my first child but she is starting to become very challenging. If she doesn't get her way she starts to whine, scream and cry. She also starts to swing her arms and if you're close enough you will get hit. DD is only 16 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469808 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 13:41:28 +0000 HLK208 1469808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: each child is different though and from some parents I've talked to, the 3's were awesome. I think that depends on, not only the child, but how well the parents are equipped and how patient they are. There's this one mom who's son attends my DS's preschool and she always has a calm, respectful response to everything her son says, whether it's nice or not. I've seen him participate in the classroom and he's truly thriving. When I talk to her about parenting, she complains like the rest of us but she's very cautious of understanding her child and teaching him right from wrong without being too strict and still respecting his thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469707 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 13:18:32 +0000 irene 1469707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: Oh gosh. My legs are trembling. 2 more years till 4... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469702 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 13:17:44 +0000 irene 1469702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Thanks!! </p> <p>The thing is, one of the things we want to curb is he ALWAYS want to be held and carried around (ie. "connecting"?). If he doesnt get carried around he would burst into an unstoppable cry. I did get down and explain to him and say, we can hold hands and mommy is tired. Didn't end well. I guess I should try to reassure him more (that I love him and I am right here?) I just don't know what else I could say.</p> <p>ETA: Oh they have a book! I guess I'll check it out...</p> <p>@NovBaby1112: Don't worry, there is no set formula, maybe you already got the terrible twos and it can only get better from here :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469272 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 11:39:59 +0000 NovBaby1112 1469272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is really, really scaring me. I already feel like LO (almost 16 months) is in the terrible twos and am terrified of what's to come. She loves pushing my buttons and testing boundaries, throws horrible tantrums, and is already acting defiantly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469256 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 11:36:12 +0000 HLK208 1469256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I really like that! I just bookmarked it. </p> <p>With DS it started around 2 years, 3 months. He wasn't actually bad then, just would go through a bad week at a time. Nothing terrible. Then the 3's came and we felt like we had no control. DH and I were constantly researching how we could be better parents or trying different methods. The 4's came and nothing changed, until about 3 months in. He's much more calm now. He listens and respects us too which I thought would never happen during the 3's.</p> <p>DD is 21 months old and going through the terrible 2's already. We try to keep calm, not take it personal and keep on with what we know worked for DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469218 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 11:25:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1469218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think it does talk about how to handle the tantrum: </p> <p>For a sensitive child:<br /> - Reassure your child (I know you don't want to go to bed, but I still love you, I won't leave you, and I will be right there in my bed)<br /> - Give time to relax (don't rush bedtime, maybe extend the routine so they have time to calm down, get cuddled, etc)<br /> - Connect with them (again, read books, cuddle, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lets-talk-about-terrible-two#post-1469178 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 11:13:18 +0000 irene 1469178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Yes now he is pushing the boundaries harder than ever too. I have a relatively easy 1-2 years old which was actually very enjoyable (not saying he doesn't throw tantrums, but he does it rarely and somehow I always am able to resolve it with grace 85% of the time). Now he just throws tantrums and cries whenever something isn.t going his way it is getting old. The usual things don't work with him anymore. I actually think he is picking this behavior up from someone at school. Grr. </p>