https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 18:13:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758889 Fri, 03 May 2013 00:52:11 +0000 SAHM0811 758889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've let go two nannies. They were both pretty upset even though we gave them at minimum 1 month's notice and a month's severance pay. What helped to ease things more was that I offered to help them find other families afterwards by posting their availability to my local mom's group listserv. The notice and severance pay were nice it seemed, but their biggest worry, I think, was how and when they'd find another job afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758681 Thu, 02 May 2013 21:49:56 +0000 Andrea 758681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have the same paranoia. No way would I want someone taking care of my child after I've given them notice. I just fired a nanny recently (mainly for poor performance reasons). We called her at home and told her not to come back and mailed her a severance check. She was happy about the money. I would think the bigger concern is loss of wages rather than notice period so if you pay severance then that should be fine. </p> <p>@Honeybee: that is terrible about leaving DD out in the car!!!</p> <p>@irene: I've fired several nannies! Maybe I'm just really bad at picking them! Maybe I am too picky. Who knows ... glad I do not need one anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758588 Thu, 02 May 2013 21:02:19 +0000 Honeybee 758588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Ah, gotcha. We had some performance issues with our nanny, but I fired her on the spot the day I came home from lunch to find her in the house and DD out in the car. :/ The nanny said she just left DD in the car for a few minutes because she was sleeping and she (the nanny) wanted to put the dogs out before bringing her inside. But it was winter, and her car was turned off and unlocked; there was no way we could know how long DD was actually out there before I pulled up. Plus, the nanny admitted she had done the same thing multiple times before and didn't think it was a big deal. So I told her she was no longer needed and that we'd send her a check for the rest of the month's wages. Pretty much the most awful feeling in the world when I saw DD in that car without anyone around.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758557 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:50:02 +0000 irene 758557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: No we didn't... our deal was we needed a nanny between 4-12 months because the daycare I liked doesn't have availability until he was 1 year old. So I tolerated the last months because I didn't think anyone would take a job for only a few months. If it were a long-term job? Heck I'd have fired her before LO turned 10 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758547 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:47:37 +0000 Honeybee 758547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Did you fire your nanny, as well? We only had a nanny from the time our oldest was 3 months to... 7 months, I guess. She's now almost 3, so that feels like a long time ago! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-758539 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:45:23 +0000 irene 758539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Now I want to hear your story of why you fired your nanny. I was wondering why no one ever had any problems with their nanny but me!</p> <p>For us we gave her MONTHS OF NOTICE. I gave her flying review until she landed her job. Then she became quite difficult. It bothered me tremendously but I guess to her she thinks she is doing a great job (including not doing what was told, rolling her eyes whenever I asked her to do something, chatting on the phone on a bluetooth headset all day, laying on the guest bed while LO was napping, skyping her sister with my ipad, taking LO to watch a 3D cartoon movie at the aquarium when he was just 10 months old). It literally traumatize me that I do not want to see her face around my son ever again (even though she was quite nice in offering to coming to visit, I didn't let her). </p> <p>If I were you, I'd give her 1 week notice and give her 3-4 weeks of extra pay..... if you liked her. If not, give her 1 week notice and 2 extra weeks of pay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-nanny-go#post-159768 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:32:31 +0000 eeh 159768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would give her the option. Call her in and explain the situation and tell her she can either continue working for 2 weeks or be done then and there with 2 weeks pay. My guess is that she would take the 2 weeks pay and be done because it would give her time to be actively looking for a new job while still getting paid. Of course make sure you have alternative arrangements for if she decides to take the money and walk (you or your husband can be home, mom or mil can watch LO, etc.). </p> <p>I do agree that she's not very likely to change her quality of care in the next 2 weeks because she's probably very dependent on you as a reference. </p>