https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 13:52:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-816981 Thu, 30 May 2013 07:58:12 +0000 kjpugs 816981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LizSmith: just came back to check in, so glad to hear it went well!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-808166 Fri, 24 May 2013 19:29:59 +0000 Torchwood 808166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And just as a follow up, the ultrasound went great! We saw the heartbeat, and it is *not* twins, which is a relief. ^_^ Thanks to everyone for the responses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-806381 Fri, 24 May 2013 04:32:42 +0000 pinkpeony921 806381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LizSmith: Congrats!! I feel the exact same way you do. My first appt. is June 3rd. It feels light years away. Best of luck today!!</p> <p>bumping this for more stories :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-803649 Thu, 23 May 2013 13:12:26 +0000 Torchwood 803649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks to everyone who replied so quickly! I really do feel better. :) Especially to hear that I'm not alone in worrying.</p> <p>And @Modern Daisy, you make a very good point. As much as I'd be upset, I would rather lose the baby now if there's something wrong. The longer it goes the harder it would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802849 Thu, 23 May 2013 09:13:00 +0000 Modern Daisy 802849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck!! I had my first US at 5 or 6 weeks because I had an IUI baby. We were able to see the heartbeat that early and the next week we could hear it. </p> <p>I know it's hard, but try your best to trust your body to do the right thing, even if it's not what you had hoped for. As sad as it would have been, I was praying for the pregnancy to end that early if anything was going to go wrong instead of later on. The good news is you can get pregnant so be happy for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802816 Thu, 23 May 2013 09:05:29 +0000 MrsLilybugg 802816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LizSmith: Congrats!!!! You are definitely not alone. I had paralyzing fear for my first three ultrasounds. ESPECIALLY my first. It took us a year to get pregnant (and I know that's nothing compared to so many others...) but the whole time I was convinced I was broken. I kept feeling after I saw the BFP that the other shoe would drop at any minute. I did not sleep the night before the u/s, and I scheduled the rest of the day off work. I want to say it was to "celebrate!", but in my heart of hearts I was CONVINCED it was to cry, because I was convinced there'd be no heartbeat. A bit of irrational, combined with stories of losses that I'd read that haunted the heck outta me. Anyway - it was at 10 weeks (the torture, they made me wait forever) and it was a tummy u/s. They let me SEE the heartbeat before they tried to HEAR it. We weren't able to "hear it" that first u/s. But based on the u/s the heartbeat visually measured strong and they weren't worried. So don't panic if they can't hear it! Sometimes based on where baby is (and how much fluff mama has around her belly, ha ha), it's hard to locate the sound. </p> <p>Good luck !! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802784 Thu, 23 May 2013 08:51:43 +0000 mrsmate 802784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone who had a previous loss, I think the best thing I can tell you is to expect the best but prepare for the worst. It is wonderful you were able to get pregnant so easily, and hopefully you will see a thriving, growing baby today. But if not, it is totally normal to have an MC and go on to have healthy pregnancies. Most moms I know have suffered at least one MC.</p> <p>With DD, I went in for my 1st u/s at 9 weeks. I don't think it was for dating or for viability, I think it was for early risk assessment. It was with an abdominal wand. With my current pregnancy, I had one at 7w1d bc it's an IUI baby. I was expecting a transvaginal but again it was with an abdominal. I got to see the heart flickering on the screen, which is really the coolest thing ever.</p> <p>I've had many TV u/s in the past year bc of fertility med monitoring, and I wouldn't say the wands my hospital used were like giant dildos at all. The ones at my hospital were about 1/2" in diameter, a little bit wider at the head. I was always handed the wand underneath a sheet to insert myself, I think it's standard procedure.</p> <p>Good luck and keep us posted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802733 Thu, 23 May 2013 08:33:37 +0000 Alivoo01 802733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a previous loss so I can totally understand your feeling of worry and anxiety. I had my first ultrasound/appointment when I was 8 weeks along, and while I couldn't hear the heartbeat, we could clearly see it palpitating. It was the most fascinating thing ever!! It was beating nice and strong. The doctor zoomed into the chest area so we could stare in amazement for a few minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802651 Thu, 23 May 2013 08:03:05 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 802651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 38 when we got pregnant on our honeymoon. Everyone said it would take a year or more and some well-meaning people said things like "well at least you know you can get pregnant even if this doesn't work out.". So I was pretty sure that the whole thing wasn't going to work out. At my first US there was a big sub chorionic, but there was also a healthy happy gummy bear. </p> <p>I know it's so normal to worry and impossible not to, but try and find a little joy in the moment too. It'll help you get through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802639 Thu, 23 May 2013 07:59:26 +0000 Bookish 802639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was terrified going into all 3 ultrasounds I've had so far. Each time I convinced myself that something was terribly wrong! The first one was at 7w, and they used a transvaginal wand, which wasn't as uncomfortable as you'd think. I was actually pretty pissed at the tech, she didn't talk to us at all, and only let us hear the heartbeat for literally a second. I wish I had spoken up and told her to turn it back on!! So, if you have a meanie tech, speak up lol! </p> <p>Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802629 Thu, 23 May 2013 07:56:53 +0000 alleyflowers 802629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know the feeling and it is so natural (the begin of a lifetime of worrying about your baby?)! I experienced some spotting after I had my positive pregnancy test... so I waited a while to make my doctor's appointment convinced I was going to miscarry. All that anxiety for nothing because I had a 100% healthy pregnancy! Good luck! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802624 Thu, 23 May 2013 07:54:55 +0000 SugarplumsMom 802624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was scared too. We were prepping for fertility treatments and months prior to my ultrasound I went in to have things checked, got a transvaginal ultrasound done and saw a blighted ovum. She didn't say anything, but kept the image way long enough that it was obvious. I got my period late that month. I was scared it would have been the same with LO. But it wasn't.</p> <p>What helped my worry is knowing that if there was something wrong, that's the reason why it wasn't meant to be. And a healthy baby is a fighter. Fx for you and your sticky, healthy little bean! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802587 Thu, 23 May 2013 07:35:40 +0000 regberadaisy 802587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LizSmith: Hearing that heartbeat for the first time is just about the most amazing thing ever. When the tech finds it you can see the sound waves on the screen, you can hear it, think like star war light sabre noise! It's such an absolutely magical moment you will remember forever. We used the voice memo function on our iPhone to record it. Now I want to go listen to it. :)</p> <p>It is completely normal to worry about not hearing it. I think all first parents worry. It actually took our tech a few times to find the heartbeat and although neither of us said anything to the other one. After the appt we said both our hearts dropped to our stomachs until we heard it.</p> <p>ETA: Mine was not a transvaginal so not all OBs do it that way. So don't freak out if yours isn't! My OB just did a regular stomach u/s. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802581 Thu, 23 May 2013 07:31:24 +0000 heffalump 802581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was convinced that I wouldn't even see a baby in my first ultrasound. I worked myself into such crazyness that I thought my two BFP's were false because I wasn't feeling symptoms yet. Of course there was a baby there, and a strong heart beat.</p> <p>Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802358 Thu, 23 May 2013 01:05:40 +0000 googly-eyes 802358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way. I was convinced it would take awhile to get pregnant, and I got pregnant the first month. Then I went in at 7-8 weeks since last period and measured 6w2d. I knew I would measure smaller than 7-8 weeks because my periods are irregular, but I still worried. Turned out they adjusted my EDD later on in the pregnancy to make me 6w6d at the time of that first ultrasound...but I always wondered until they changed it.<br /> Anyway what happens is you'll have the transvaginal ultrasound, which is internal but doesn't hurt or anything. They will check your uterus, the baby (which looks more like a blob but it's a baby in the making!) and your ovaries, etc. I didn't get to hear a hb til 11 weeks or so but I did get to see it that very first day, flickering. I was just looking at my little daughter (8 months) today and thinking that I can't believe that little blob turned into this. Until midway through my pregnancy I was so scared and at times convinced something would go wrong, but nothing ever did. It's normal though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802166 Wed, 22 May 2013 21:05:06 +0000 MamaMagpie 802166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my first ultrasound at 8 weeks, and had been telling myself things like "if there's no heartbeat and this ends, I will survive somehow" because I was just so worried and felt like I had to prepare myself.</p> <p>It was a transvaginal ultrasound, with a very small/new tech wand, and we were able to see and hear the heartbeat. The nurse practitioner measured him and changed our due date to one day earlier than I had calculated based on LMP. At 8 weeks, he just looked like a little alien or gummy bear!</p> <p>I have to say, I also freaked out about our 12 week appointment -- I thought the NP had said we'd do another ultrasound and when it turned out I'd misheard, I started having an anxiety attack because I was certain the heartbeat wouldn't be there anymore. She let me hear the heartbeat with the dopler and I calmed down (somewhat). </p> <p>From what it seems like, I think it's totally normal to get nervous about appointments! I certainly have been for every one. Now that we are past our anatomy scan, though, I might be able to relax a bit about them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802066 Wed, 22 May 2013 20:18:37 +0000 Pepper 802066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went for my first "pregnancy confirmation" ultrasound at 6 weeks 2 days. I was SO nervous (I had been spotting a lot and had a previous loss at 5 weeks a year or so prior) but there he was... a little "rice krispie treat" as the tech observed, with a little heartbeat! I cried when I saw him! His heartbeat was slow (100 BPM I believe), but she told me not to worry because she was fairly certain his heart had just started beating recently. </p> <p>Sure enough, when I had another ultrasound at 9 weeks (for more spotting issues), the heartbeat was up in the 140s. I didn't actually hear the heartbeat until 10 weeks, and I'll never forget hearing it for the first time! More tears :)</p> <p>They did transvaginal ultrasounds both times. Much easier to see anything that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802053 Wed, 22 May 2013 20:10:30 +0000 LovelyPlum 802053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any experience, because my first ultrasound won't be for a few weeks. But, I really hope the best for you!! I'm worried, too. Fingers crossed that you are worrying for nothing, and that everything works out, and you get to see the little one!</p> <p>(PS: are you due in January? If so, we'd love for you to join us here: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/january-2014-babies" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/january-2014-babies</a> ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802048 Wed, 22 May 2013 20:05:21 +0000 Ra 802048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first ultrasound was at 8 weeks. My doctor only does a vaginal wand ultrasound that early. It is a little intimidating looking (like a GIANT dildo) but wasn't uncomfortable. When the image came up on the screen I felt like Rachel from "Friends." I had no idea what I was looking at! It looked like a solar system on the screen. However, the doctor pointed out the little flicker on the screen and it was our little man's heartbeat. :) We weren't able to hear it yet though.</p> <p>I was a little worried at first because he was measuring 2 weeks smaller than he should be based on my LMP. So, the doctor had me schedule an appointment at Advanced Radiology using a better machine. The quality was a lot better and they only measured him as 6 days behind, which they said was normal. I was also able to hear the heartbeat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802041 Wed, 22 May 2013 20:03:03 +0000 wheres_c 802041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was convinced that we would have fertility issues too (I have PCOS and usually don't ovulate). I became pregnant unexpectedly.<br /> I was so scared that something would go wrong, and was afraid that I wouldn't get to see a heartbeat.<br /> I cried my eyes out when I saw it.<br /> My experience was also a transvaginal wand that they lubricated and had me insert. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802034 Wed, 22 May 2013 19:59:26 +0000 kjpugs 802034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're going to get to see your little bean! I just know it will go well for you. I had mine at 7 weeks and it was awesome. I was so sick I was sure it was twins so I was relieved to just see one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802017 Wed, 22 May 2013 19:52:46 +0000 lovehoneybee 802017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were given an unplanned dating U/S at 8 weeks on the dot because of a previous loss). They started with an abdominal wand (what they use on TV, lol). From there they could see the sac, the fetus, and a heartbeat. After several minutes of letting me and DH cry the male U/S tech told us he wanted to get closeup shots and was going to switch to a vaginal wand (the experience was very similar to getting a pap smear) and was going to have a female nurse come in. He left the room so I could get undressed from the waist down and into position. When they came back in he held the wand right up at the vaginal entrance but had me reach down and insert it (I don't know that this is standard or just my practice). From there he could get a close-up of my ovaries, as well as closer picture of the fetus. </p> <p>The whole process took 15-20 minutes, and I left with a CD of both still pictures and two short videos (&lt;10 seconds each).</p> <p>At that time he sort of looked like a gummy bear, but we could see his heart pumping, which I thought was very cool. He had the screen turned away from me for a lot of it, which I thought was super-lame, but DH could see it from his position. </p> <p>And I completely empathize with being worried about there not being a heartbeat, and I don't think it's irrational at all. I was almost in a panic by the time we got to the U/S, and both of us did cry as soon as he said there was definitely a baby in there, and showed us the heart. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802015 Wed, 22 May 2013 19:52:40 +0000 MrsF 802015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first ultrasound was at 8 weeks. It was scheduled early because I was having some bleeding. I was so scared and convinced that we were losing the baby. My grandfather was very sick at the time and I thought that I would lose them both in the same week.<br /> It was a transvaginal ultrasound (I would imagine yours will be too because it is early). It was an odd sensation but I wouldn't say it was uncomfortable. Sometimes they can't see the heartbeat so early but in our case they could! We were so relieved and left with u/s pictures in our hands and big smiles on our faces. We kept it to ourselves for a while but I was able to share it with my family including my grandfather a few weeks later. I hope that you have a great experience as well. Don't freak out if they can't hear the heartbeat but it will be great to see your baby! Keep us posted :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802010 Wed, 22 May 2013 19:48:18 +0000 Bao 802010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way as you, I was SO nervous/anxious. I did have some spotting at 7 weeks that freaked me out so I got my ultrasound a week early but everything was just fine. We got to see the heartbeat and baby looked healthy. I think it's completely normal to feel this way :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/a-little-reassurance-please#post-802001 Wed, 22 May 2013 19:40:52 +0000 Torchwood 802001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is kinda silly, but here goes. I'm 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and have my first ultrasound the next day, when we will see the heartbeat. And for some reason I'm convinced that there won't be a heartbeat. I was also *convinced* we'd have fertility issues, and got pregnant in one try (literally, since my husband was working 80 hour weeks), so I know I'm being irrational. But could some of you just tell me how your first ultrasound went, and give me some positive stories to focus on? I don't really need "oh don't worry," so much as actual experiences of what it's like. Thanks for any help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-first-ultrasound#post-444176 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 00:43:04 +0000 lovehoneybee 444176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SouthPaw: I had a sub chorionic hematoma between the placenta and uterine wall. I was told that most of the time they are either reabsorbed into your body or you have some spotting. I had neither, mine stuck around (staying the same size) at least until my anatomy scan, if not later (my last U/S was at 21 wks).</p> <p>It was recommended that I abstain from exercise besides walking, as well as sex. When they said it was still there but hadn't grown at my NT scan they scaled back those recommendations to light exercise.</p> <p>It seems pretty normal. Enjoy being off of your feet and stay away from Dr Google! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-first-ultrasound#post-444170 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 00:29:27 +0000 StbHisMrs 444170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine was at 5 weeks and was transvaginal too, all they could see was a yolk sac and they warned us of that. We went back two weeks later and saw her heartbeat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-first-ultrasound#post-443346 Tue, 11 Dec 2012 15:22:22 +0000 ladyfingers 443346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SouthPaw: Yay! I know from the extensive research I did in early pregnancy (when I spotted for 2+ weeks) that bleeding around the sac is common and usually just goes away on its own. Is it an SCH? Glad you got to see the heartbeat and take it easy for now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-first-ultrasound#post-443095 Tue, 11 Dec 2012 13:23:35 +0000 Anagram 443095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my first ultrasound last night!!!!</p> <p>I was totaly prepared for a transvaginal ultrasound, but then i got an abdominal ultrasound instead! And I'd prepped DH about the vaginal part and everything, which was not necessary after all.</p> <p>It's probably because I'm already 8 weeks, 4 days. But we saw the heartbeat, which she said looked great, and we got pictures of our little bean. I got teary-eyed (no suprise there), and basically she said everything looked great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-first-ultrasound#post-443075 Tue, 11 Dec 2012 13:08:29 +0000 Charcole2011 443075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>mine was also transvag, although they did not tell me that when I made the appointment, so like PPs I would go in expecting it anyway! I thought I was 7weeks exactly (based on LMP) but they dated me at 6w4d at the scan, and we saw but didn't hear the heartbeat. still amazing though! </p>