https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 09:05:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897303 Thu, 19 Sep 2019 10:49:16 +0000 peaches1038 2897303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cornucopia8: thank you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897269 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 22:46:10 +0000 cornucopia8 2897269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BTW - here's another we found by accident: My Friend Maggie! <a href="https://www.amazon.com/My-Friend-Maggie-Hannah-Harrison/dp/0525429166" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/My-Friend-Maggie-Hannah-Harrison/dp/0525429166</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897017 Mon, 16 Sep 2019 10:35:20 +0000 peaches1038 2897017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cornucopia8: I am totally going to get that book for his classroom!! Thank you for the awesome suggestions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897015 Mon, 16 Sep 2019 10:29:37 +0000 peaches1038 2897015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChitownRo: perfect! I reserved it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897014 Mon, 16 Sep 2019 10:29:25 +0000 peaches1038 2897014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: thank you!! We talk through situations pretty consistently, but drawing might make it more “concrete”. I know this is all normal but it hurts my mama heart :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2897013 Mon, 16 Sep 2019 10:27:36 +0000 peaches1038 2897013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: thank you! I reserved it at the library! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2896983 Sun, 15 Sep 2019 22:11:56 +0000 cornucopia8 2896983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having a similar problem with my 4.5 year old, except it's my daughter who's the bossy one or excluding others. We loved reading:</p> <p>The Big Umbrella<br /> A Sick Day for Amos McGee<br /> Strictly No Elephants</p> <p>Also - our preschool reads Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids - as a school. It's a simple way for preschoolers to navigate social relationships. If a friend is being mean, my daughter will say that person is being a "bucket dipper" and the teacher will reinforce that as well. They have "buckets" at school and get little presents like erasers or stickers for being "bucket fillers" and if they're "bucket dippers," they lose those treats. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2896949 Sun, 15 Sep 2019 06:51:50 +0000 ChitownRo 2896949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3118349-one" rel="nofollow">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3118349-one</a><br /> Fits the situation perfectly </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2896948 Sun, 15 Sep 2019 06:25:36 +0000 wrkbrk 2896948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: Knowing H, maybe you could sit with him and ask him to draw some scenarios and how he would react in each one? That might reinforce the appropriate behaviors. For example, he draws the kid snatching a toy and then himself saying, maybe we should play later, and walking away to find a book?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2896945 Sat, 14 Sep 2019 23:26:57 +0000 MamaCate 2896945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: if you like llama llama there is a “llama llama and the bully goat”. I think it does a good job of balancing the need to stand up for yourself with the idea of second chances with friends who need to work on making better choices. The bully goat is mean but it feels realistic and then there’s some resolution. That is the first one that came to mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friend-issues-book-suggestions#post-2896944 Sat, 14 Sep 2019 22:11:42 +0000 peaches1038 2896944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions for picture books about standing up for yourself, what real friendship looks like, etc for the preschool crowd.<br /> Long story short, my almost 4 year old is telling me that a “friend” at school is dictating who my son can play with and how he plays, telling on him for things he didn’t do and telling him he’s wrong about things that are true. He’s my first child so I’m guessing this is pretty normal and his teachers are already keeping a closer eye on them. I just don’t know what else to say to him other than suggesting he take a break from this friend/walking away/saying Stop,etc/ getting a teacher. He wants to be his friend so badly and I want to support him in navigating this imbalance into a successful and appropriate friendship, if possible. But I also don’t want my kid to be steamrolled. Anyway, books have always been very helpful for us so any suggestions would be great! Other non-book suggestions welcome too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557836 Fri, 27 May 2016 05:35:07 +0000 ElbieKay 2557836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of my parents' friends when I was growing up were connected through my younger sister's friends. I never really enjoyed family socializing because I almost never had a real friend to hang out with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557604 Thu, 26 May 2016 18:58:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 2557604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The baby is only 5 months now but so far my first by a long shot. When I had my first and knew I would be staying home, I made a huge effort to meet and become friends with people in the same situation. I made an amazing group of friends at a mommy and me type class when all our (first) babies were 6 weeks old and we have stayed friends- these babies turn 3 this summer. And I've met people at various activities that we do with the toddler. </p> <p>Second baby- no way could I go to a class like that for the baby- pay a babysitter? Bring my crazy toddler? So the baby just gets toted along to the big kid activities. And as luck would have it most of my mom friends from my first had second babies within a few months of each other so all the babies will have friends their own age too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557537 Thu, 26 May 2016 17:46:55 +0000 autumnlove 2557537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely have more parent friends through my First child but I am starting to meet more friend's from LO 2's activities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557530 Thu, 26 May 2016 17:43:34 +0000 birdofafeather 2557530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Older because she needs activities and let's be honest, babies don't need anything, it's just for mom. So all my mom friends are people I knew before with kids, who now have kids the same as my oldest and most of them also have another kiddo around the age of the baby. I'm sure that will ebb and flow when they get in school! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557392 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:46:31 +0000 shabang 2557392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Aw, that's great! I would love a kick ass group of parent friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557359 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:17:43 +0000 Mommy Finger 2557359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shannon: I see what you're saying. I really think it all depends. To give you an example from my mom, I'm the 3rd of 4 kids and I think my mom has made various friends though all of her kids. In fact, I think her closest friends might be those she met when my little brother was growing up and going through sports. So it depends on who you click with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557309 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:38:20 +0000 skipra 2557309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly oldest although some have kids in between my kids' ages. And most actually have 2 kids as well. We have a playgroup for my younger son too and I feel like I just haven't connected as much with those moms, especially the ones who just have one kid the same age as my younger boy. Makes me wonder what will happen for my third...will we not really have any close friends? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557294 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:26:41 +0000 sunny 2557294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have made a few new friends since having my second LO but I find that I have a lot less in common with them since most are FTMs and I am not. I did recently meet a mom who has an older child around the same age as LO1 and we we hit it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557287 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:20:44 +0000 Truth Bombs 2557287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have an amazing friend group from our daycare. Our kids are all 3.5 now and have been together since they were babies. We hang out together all the time. Tomorrow actually day care is closed for teacher training and we are all getting together in the afternoon for the kids to play and the mommies to drink wine. So, I haven't really made friends with the parents of my younger LO, just because I already have such a kick ass group of parent friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557282 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:17:32 +0000 shabang 2557282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: Makes sense. Mine are still young, and I keep hearing when we get involved in sports and activities, that leads to friendships. But I was just wondering if it's more with the older child's friends because they get to that stage sooner and then there's no time for anything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2557130 Thu, 26 May 2016 12:54:35 +0000 Mommy Finger 2557130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say oldest for now since I have a preschooler so I've become friends with the parents of his friends when we do playdates. The baby is too young for me to start meeting people through him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-friends-and-multiple-kids#post-2556883 Thu, 26 May 2016 10:03:18 +0000 shabang 2556883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're friends with parents of your child's classmates and you have more than one child, do they tend to be more the parents of your oldest child or your youngest? Or is there another variable like number of kids? I've noticed since we had a second that I seem to have more in common with the parents of my first child than the first time parents of my second. Maybe because we were all first time parents together and had lots of kid-focused questions/discussions, but this time around my attitude is more "hey, whatever works..." What's been your experience? Is it a mix? Does it change with time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446541 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 15:31:47 +0000 Golden 2446541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. Every birthday for my SIL and BIL. Gah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446518 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 15:16:03 +0000 Mrs D 2446518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have but in more of a "they were trying to not exclude me" type of way. DH has two friends who wives I do not particularly care for (and they feel the same about me). One of them had a girls night and was inviting all the other ones that I do get along with - I appreciated that although we dont get along she tried not to exclude me.</p> <p>Clearly not the case here...I'd either not go and politely decline(probably the right thing to do - or what my mother would tell me to do) or be snarky and go, eat, drink, me merry snoop and not buy a thing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446455 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 14:37:18 +0000 BandDmommy 2446455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Yes, and she has done it a few times. I try to play it off but it's awkward. I have no idea what I did to annoy her either. Oh well... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446448 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 14:32:44 +0000 Ajsmommy 2446448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: that's crazyyyyyy!!! LOL.. you even used her name??? and she was looking at you.. wow! You should def not go to that party! And if I ever ran into her again I'd ask her why she would even invite me!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446435 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 14:22:54 +0000 BandDmommy 2446435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I said "hello, how are you doing x" she looked at me gave me dirty look and turned her back to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446363 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 13:50:48 +0000 Ajsmommy 2446363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has not happened to me and I certainly would not go. I'm just wondering though about when you say "she blatantly ignores me even when I talk to her". when and how does this occur?? </p> <p>I'm actually asking b/c I had a neighbor accuse me of doing this and it is something I would never do. I wouldn't blatantly ignore someone. So I am wondering if in her mind it happened but maybe it was like I was walking into my house with toddler and groceries and she said something and I didn't hear her?? So it appeared I was ignoring her and she thought it was blatant or intentional but really wasn't??? </p> <p>IDK.. just wondering your circumstances...</p> <p>ETA: since then I've made cookies for all of our neighbors but excluded her... :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-been-invited-to-a-party-by-someone-who-doesnt-care-for-you#post-2446321 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 13:22:26 +0000 BandDmommy 2446321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: hahahahaha </p>