https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 03:53:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1579281 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 08:58:07 +0000 gracecat 1579281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a super hard time adjusting as well. I didn't feel like things got easier until just after she turned a year old. It's still hard but much more manageable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1579166 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 23:39:23 +0000 twoofeverything 1579166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On hard days/weeks, I literally have to remind myself that I'm somebody's mother and to get my act together! Usually happens when the monitor goes off at 5am and I'm mid-dream, sitting alone on a quiet beach with a drink in my hand... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578982 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 18:52:17 +0000 PixieStix 1578982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Brannonsmama: I've had the same feelings, hun. My son is only a month old and I've had all the panicked feelings and doubts. It's nice to have this site to know we're all not alone in our journey through parenthood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578935 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 17:19:26 +0000 Brannonsmama 1578935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys. I guess its all part of the journey and best to take it one day at a time. Still, right now im not sure I could do it again. Maybe that sentiment will change eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578852 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 15:26:57 +0000 PixieStix 1578852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad to see all you moms confirming the same feelings I've been having. It really is a roller coaster of emotions. I constantly find myself either wanting to cuddle my baby really close or needing a break from him.. and then comes the guilt. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578631 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 11:18:21 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1578631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, it took me until 18 months to feel like I had the hang of it... And could find myself again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578586 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 10:33:58 +0000 Espion 1578586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Brannonsmama: I didn't feel halfway in "control" until he started sleeping through the night. And that is different for every baby. :/ I feel ya, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578583 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 10:31:36 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1578583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At six months I had accepted my fate, lol....somewhere between eight months and ten months I really started having fun! I always loved him, but my attachment grew exponentially around the 1 year mark. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578497 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 09:00:53 +0000 lamariniere 1578497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I was shell shocked until about 4-5 months. Then the reality hit. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578413 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 07:21:29 +0000 daniellemybelle 1578413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am with you! I have good days &amp; bad days. LO has been busy since day one so I get that too.... It can make you insane. The hardest thing is feeling like you never get a break or have your own life/identity... At least for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578377 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 05:29:09 +0000 luckypenny 1578377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>L is my second baby and at almost two weeks old I feel like a first time mom all over again. Hang in there :heart; </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578372 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 05:05:55 +0000 Pumuckl 1578372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it gets easier. Months 4-6 are considered the honeymooning period. Its where the bond between baby and mum establishes. So you only just started into that phase :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578302 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 23:32:19 +0000 googly-eyes 1578302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, YES it does get better! Much!</p> <p>I think I started feeling more like my normal self around six months. And once LO turned one and started walking, using a cup instead of bottles, etc., I was even more back to normal. When they are sttn it is also a big plus. And different people handle different stages better, naturally. I have had a much easier time with my toddler than I did with her when she was a baby, while others struggle with the whining and tantrums but do the newborn stage with ease. Babies are different and moms are different so I find that when you take the pressure of expectations based on others away, it becomes much easier to enjoy your little one. But again, that's my experience. :) </p> <p>But the most important part is yes, it gets easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578301 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 23:30:57 +0000 lady grey 1578301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, just keep teling yourself "this too shall pass", its always changing. Weather you are experiencing a fun phase or a challenging one...it will change. 4 months was super hard for us because my LO had a horrible sleep regression. He also seemed to get more mellow and easy going arounf 5/6 months. Now he is almost one and I am missing my tiny baby. He seems like a big boy already! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1578276 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 22:46:38 +0000 Grace 1578276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt that LO got much easier by 6.5 months, but I still don't feel used to being a mom yet (she's 7.5 months now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1577842 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 15:37:40 +0000 Dandelion 1577842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha...my oldest is 6 years old and I still wonder at times how I got here, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1577810 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 15:21:20 +0000 blackbird 1577810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honey, I still have weird days where I'm like, "is this kid mine? For reals?" </p> <p>And yes, it does get much easier. After mine was about 6 months old and STTN, it's really been great, aside from some random sickness and teething issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-used-to-being-a-mom#post-1577784 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 15:08:04 +0000 Brannonsmama 1577784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long did it take you to feel like a "Mother"? My bebe is 4.5 months old and I am still adjusting. He is currently going through his 19th wonder week of fussiness and its like starting all over again every time. I desperately love him but feel so helpless when he goes through these fussy periods. Any advice? It does get easier right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-562436 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 16:06:24 +0000 winniebee 562436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: Early bedtime is ROUGH. The earliest we can do it is 7 p.m. since I don't get home from work until 6. I wish we could do it even earlier, but alas, my son ends up with a 4 hr stretch before bed. Probably around 6 months he could stretch it to 2.5 hours and then 3 hours and then around 8 months 4 hours. It will get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-562428 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 16:01:06 +0000 lilyann 562428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I think you are right about the earlier bedtime. I just miss him so much during the day, it's hard for me to put him down so early. Plus DH already has a hard time getting to see him at all but if it is what's best, then I need to do it for him! I completely agree about the 2 hour max wake time, I just need to make his daycare understand that as well. Thanks!</p> <p>@Sammyfab: He isn't rolling yet, and they swaddle his arms at daycare but he was doing so well with being unswaddled at night that I don't want to start again. I just wish we could see improvement with that rash. He only started taking a paci at night within the past month (when he got his first virus/cold), he isn't very attached to it at all so I don't think that is the problem but I will try to limit the use to see if it helps! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-562357 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 15:26:24 +0000 Sammyfab 562357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry sleep has been so rough! I agree with @winniebee about skipping the late nap and opting for an earlier bedtime. If he's awake between 4 and 7 then that's a long time for him to be awake and it could be making him overtired. I also agree that if he is rolling then you shouldn't re-swaddle. I can imagine that the rash would be bothering him and making it difficult to sleep comfortably so I'd get a second opinion if possible!</p> <p>Lastly, do you feel like part of why he's waking so often is because he needs you to put the paci back in? If so, I'd see if you can help him back to sleep without it (you can try shh-pat or pick up/put down). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-562338 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 15:14:40 +0000 winniebee 562338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not sure about the rash....but 4 months is rough in the sleep department. my biggest suggestion would be to start an earlier bedtime (instead of a 5 p.m. nap) and go no longer than 2 hrs between awake stretches. at that age, my son could really only stay awake 2 hours before bed. i think you are right to not swaddle him anymore....especially if he can roll. you don't want to have to swaddle wean him again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-562330 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 15:10:30 +0000 lilyann 562330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I think I might swaddle him tonight and see how the rash is in the morning since he won't be able to rub it. I'm sure some of the fussiness has to do with the 4 month sleep regression, growth spurt, etc. Thanks for repsonding and listening to my rant! </p> <p>@stiffaknee: Thanks for the advice! Going to try the swaddle tonight for sure. Thanks for letting me vent and listening! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-561643 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 10:00:53 +0000 stiffaknee 561643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter went through a phase at around 4 months...She would have complete and total meltdowns during the day (she slept well at night, though we didn't stop swaddling her until she was 5 1/2 months and rolling from back to stomach)...it was so bad I went to my pediatrician in tears-I didn't know what to do! We changed her to a hypoallergenic formula, put her on reflux medication and nothing helped. I read every book, googled every symptom, cried, googled some more....Eventually I just accepted that I had a "spirited" baby and did my best to be patient with her and with myself. But it did get better and you just have to remind yourself of that. </p> <p>If it were me, I would start swaddling him again. At least then you can get a good nights sleep and he wont be able to rub his face (and that might help the rash too!). My DD has a rash on her cheeks (as well as a little dermatitis) and my pediatrician said its pretty normal...</p> <p>Theres something about 4 months...growth spurt, wonder week, whatever you want to call it...that was probably the toughest phase for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-561594 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 09:44:27 +0000 mamimami 561594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really know what to tell you but I feel for you! I had a night like this over the weekend and I wanted to die. Also, my 4 month old had rashes on her face and body. I though it was heat rash but the doctor said she had a staph rash on her face and roseola on her body. Holy crap! So, if I were you I'd get the rash checked out with a dermatologist or another pedi. Maybe he's scratching his eyes and face because the rash is itchy?</p> <p>Remember 4 months is also a big developmental time so he could be about to do something (roll over, sit, etc.) and if so, when that happens his sleep will get better again :)</p> <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rash-fussiness-horrible-sleephelp#post-561586 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 09:39:28 +0000 lilyann 561586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even know where to start so I am sorry if this is long/all over the place, I just need advice. (LO is 4 months old/almost 20 weeks)</p> <p>For the past week or so my LO's sleep has been pretty bad, 4-5 wakeups vs. his normal 2. He used to not take a paci, but now he will so I am not feeding him at each wakeup. LO is not swaddled anymore and can put himself to sleep most of the time. He tends to take pretty good naps at daycare so I don't think he is overtired from that.<br /> Example from last night:<br /> 4:30pm: pretty fussy after daycare<br /> 5pm: wouldn't go down for a nap even though he was tired<br /> 6pm: started bedtime routine since things were not improving<br /> 7pm: in crib, sucking on his paci and stiring quite a bit<br /> 8pm-10pm: stiring/restless but eyes closed<br /> 10:30 pm: crying, fed and put back down<br /> 11:30 pm: crying, put in paci<br /> 2:30am: crying, fed and put back down<br /> 3:00am: crying, put in paci<br /> 5:30am:crying, fed and put back down<br /> 6:00am: up for the day to get ready for daycare</p> <p>He has also developed a horrible red bumpy rash on his face that feels very rough, he's had it for almost two weeks. I put coconut oil and aquaphor on it every night with no improvement. I mentioned it at his 4 month appt and his doc said it looked like just a "normal" rash...very helpful, UGH.</p> <p>One more thing, I swaddle weaned at the end of last month and he seemed to be doing great with it (loves to suck on his hands-possibly teething) but lately he has been rubbing the crap out of his face/eyes and scratching himself even though I keep his nails as short as I can. Should I put him back in a swaddle?</p> <p>This FTM is exhausted and not sure what to do....Please help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fussing-at-the-breast#post-27401 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 13:09:20 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 27401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to me. The Nursing strike. But unfortunately in my case it name came back. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fussing-at-the-breast#post-27393 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 12:40:59 +0000 ohapostrophe 27393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just reading some really great info about breastfeeding troubles ~4 months and thought it might be helpful: <a href="http://mostgladly.typepad.com/cj/2007/09/its-my-party-an.html" rel="nofollow">http://mostgladly.typepad.com/cj/2007/09/its-my-party-an.html</a></p> <p>I remember Finn doing that around that age...chances are it is NOT your supply. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fussing-at-the-breast#post-27378 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 12:03:04 +0000 mekarual 27378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 12 week old does this every once in a while, and it's usually because she needs to be burped. Sometimes is she's extremely fussy and just won't calm down because she has a lot of gas in her tummy, I give her Mylicon drops. That gets her to burp and calm down so we can continue nursing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fussing-at-the-breast#post-27323 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 08:42:06 +0000 redboots 27323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: what a coincidence. My lo just got his 4 month shots as well (we went in a little late). </p>