https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 02:36:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893587 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 12:04:26 +0000 Ajsmommy 2893587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not pick. I always just wanted a healthy baby... and I have one of each so I don't know how I'd pick anyway!!! </p> <p>I'll even go so far as to admit that prior to having kids I always thought I'd be a good "boy mom" whatever that meant. I love sports and outdoorsy stuff so I always envisioned having 2 boys. I had DD first and Let me tell you the beauty and love and sunshine she brings to me every day!!!!!! She is a true blessing and I can't imagine having only boys now that I have my DD. But I wouldn't have known that had I chosen to have all boys... :wink: </p> <p>I know our friends did...and it's kind of weird to know they picked. Not sure why... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893585 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 11:34:59 +0000 LAZB 2893585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: nope, this is my first ivf round </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893584 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 11:34:07 +0000 LindsayInNY 2893584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: Did you do IVF with your first 2? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893580 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 11:25:17 +0000 SouthernGothamCityMama 2893580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got a boy and a girl now and am pregnant with a second boy. I think we're done, and we didn't do IVF, but if....we were to have a 4th and if.... I could choose, I think I'd opt for another girl. Only b/c I love the idea of everyone growing up with both a same-sex sibling and 2 opposite sex siblings. (With the caveat that I truly believe that given the very young age of my children, I actually don't yet know for certain their gender yet, only their biological anatomical sex, and so only time will tell, if I actually have boy-girl-boy.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893579 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 11:20:44 +0000 LAZB 2893579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I’m glad you bumped this thread!<br /> We are doing ivf now, and have one of each at home. I really want another girl, but ultimately we decided we wouldn’t choose which sex to put in. It turns out that all of our embryos are girls though, so it worked out great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-could-select-gender-would-you/page/2#post-2893572 Mon, 05 Aug 2019 10:42:28 +0000 LindsayInNY 2893572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is fascinating. With 2 girls now, I would consider it for a 3rd if I needed IVF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sneak-peak#post-2863769 Fri, 28 Dec 2018 01:04:31 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2863769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: Thanks for the tag! And for being so helpful when this all went down, of course. :heart: </p> <p>Don't get me started on my hatred for Sneak Peek. :meh: But since you asked.....</p> <p>(tl;dr: I should have trusted the two highly trained technicians who did my ultrasounds instead of Sneak Peek.)</p> <p>I had NIPT done for both pregnancies, and with my son we found out the sex over the phone when the Geneticist called to tell us our risks (thankfully low and he is fine). For my daughter's pregnancy, I opted out of the sex of the baby on the NIPT form for a number of reasons I won't get into, but we did have the ultrasound tech seal it in an envelope at our 14-week NT scan, as well as our anatomy scan at 20. Both said girl. Long story short, I was stupid and couldn't believe it (this was the first girl after three boy cousins so pretty exciting for our family), and I thought it'd be fun to try Sneak Peek. At 20 weeks along, it should have been very easy for them to determine the sex of the baby at that stage of the pregnancy. The first sample was so hard to collect it looked like Dexter Morgan's kill room in my bathroom. After sending that back and waiting for ages, I was told it was a bad sample and I needed to do it again. Did a second sample (my poor fingers), followed the instructions to a T, and got a "Congratulations! It's a boy!" email a few days later. When I sent in the ultrasound of her non-boy parts, I was told I needed to submit a birth certificate as "evidence." In July my daughter was born, and I sent in the hospital birth certificate (you know, the temp one that even insurance happily accepts). Nope, not good enough for Sneak Peek. I had to get my daughter's official birth certificate scanned and sent to them for my money to be refunded. For me it was a lot of stress, honestly, and I wish I'd never done it.</p> <p>Like @MamaBear87: said, unless you're in a no-male household, I'm guessing contamination is pretty common. I hear that Sneak Peek actually has a few labs now that will draw the blood out of your arm, so at the very least I'd consider doing that to eliminate contamination. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sneak-peak#post-2863693 Thu, 27 Dec 2018 11:30:21 +0000 MamaBear87 2863693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd call your insurance and see if they cover nipt. You can do that at 10 weeks, it's 99% accurate and you don't have to squeeze blood out of your own finger </p> <p>The possibility of contamination is quite high if you live with any males and do the sneak peak </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sneak-peak#post-2863677 Thu, 27 Dec 2018 08:34:11 +0000 LBee 2863677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chicalgobee did and it was wrong.</p> <p>She had to send in her DD’s birth certificate to get the refund which I thought was a little crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sneak-peak#post-2863674 Thu, 27 Dec 2018 08:00:45 +0000 cyoung 2863674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone use Sneak Peak? Apparently they have really gotta good compared to back when they first started. I ordered it cause they said its 99.6 percent accurate and if its wrong they give you a full refund. I ordered it as a birthday present for myself. I figured it would be fun to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817799 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 19:23:26 +0000 Calibee 2817799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a *really* hard time when I found out baby number two was a boy. I’m a girl. My daughter is a girl. What the heck do you do with a boy?</p> <p>Now I can’t imagine it any other way. He’s only nine months old but he’s totally my little buddy. And the most laid back, easiest baby there ever was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817744 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 00:24:41 +0000 gingerbebe 2817744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two boys. 3.5 and just shy of 2. They are as different as can be, but they are both high energy, they are rough and tumble, they love wrestling each other, they ROAR, they come home covered in sand and snot, and they’re just hilarious. My youngest only wants mama to put him to sleep and he could be running around like a wild animal shouting and yelling, but as soon as the lights are off, he calms right now and snuggles into my shoulder while I sing him songs. DS1 is a chatterbox and makes up hilariously complicated stories, loves to sing constantly, and he’s emotional. But he loves fiercely and does things with his whole heart. Love my boys. Given all the crap in the world today, I feel privileged to be able to raise boys who I hope will end up good strong honorable men. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817743 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 00:11:36 +0000 DesertDreams88 2817743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids are kids. All boys are different, all girls are different. I have 3 mama friends that have boys, all my son's age. All of them are different from each other - one is an advanced talker, one screeches and babbles, two are average. One is soft and cuddly and sweet, one is raring to go 24/7, the other two change depending on the day. Two of them still nurse past age 2, two of them - nope. One of them is picky, one of them is ravenous, one of them LOVES veggies, the other loves his favorites. They all love their mama and their daddy. Some love cars, some love books, some love their toy kitchen, some love music. Some are more obedient than others, but I imagine that will change. I honestly don't understand attributing anything about my son to his biological sex, other than his penis. </p> <p>All this to say, you will love your son just as much as your daughter, and some things will be different because he's different, and some things will be the same.... because he's yours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817742 Sat, 21 Apr 2018 23:04:14 +0000 peaches1038 2817742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE being a boy mama. My guy is 2.5 and he’s just the coolest little dude around. He’s so snuggly and loving and funny and clever. He’s not super wild and is pretty cautious in new situations. He’s very much an observer, but when he feels comfortable, watch out! He loves to be a “helper” and wants to be involved in everything. He cooks with my husband in his learning tower and can dump and stir ingredients and crack eggs! He loves to help me clean and has his own broom. He loves trucks and trains and dinosaurs. I know more about construction vehicles than I ever thought possible. He also loves building and drawing. I told him I liked a drawing he was working on and he goes “I’m working really hard mama!” He is just hilarious and so sweet. I had a splinter today and DH was helping me get it out and DS came over and put his hand under my chin and said “it’s ok mama, daddy gentle. Here, hold my hand” and then he kissed my booboo after it was out. 😍😍😍😍 he is a mamas boy for sure and while it’s sometimes exhausting to be the “preferred” parent, I LOVE it. Boys are awesome 💙💙💙 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817729 Sat, 21 Apr 2018 21:11:36 +0000 themrsgoff 2817729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: THIS. I did not have an immediate bond with DS, I think because for me it's hard to feel bonded to someone without knowing them at all. Obviously I felt him move for 9 months, but it's a different story on the outside as you learn the ins and outs of their little personalities and needs. Of course I loved him immediately, but that bond... it took a while. But it definitely came. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817728 Sat, 21 Apr 2018 21:09:40 +0000 themrsgoff 2817728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS is 18 months and just THE best. So full of energy, so determined, absolutely smitten with tractors and airplanes, loves animals. He's going non-stop all day and knows exactly what he wants, which is usually food and to be running around at full-speed outside. He's just so full of LIFE. But then, he's also down for cuddling to read books at night, watch an episode of Chuggington, and he still wakes up sometimes at night and needs to be nursed/cuddled back to sleep. Just a really, really fun combination of vivaciousness and tenderness. Current 13 wks with LO2 and I don't know if I would be more excited for a girl just to experience that, or for another boy because I KNOW how wonderful they are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817559 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 15:15:08 +0000 periwinklebee 2817559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3 month LO is such a social little guy who *loves* to smile at anyone who pays attention to him. This morning he was giving me a huge smile and I started laughing, and then he started laughing too. Absolutely melts my heart :grin: :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817541 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 14:28:32 +0000 buttermilk 2817541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Loving ALL of this!! :heart: :grin: :boy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817536 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 13:21:22 +0000 pachamama 2817536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: samesies about the truck shows :grin: . Do you get butterflies when you see a big machines bc you know how much he would love it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817535 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 13:20:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2817535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a dd who is 4 and ds who is 1. DS is the best! He's ALL boy.. he's LOUD, he's so so determined, he climbs everything, he's SOOOO fast, he is very demanding and he's very fast to let you know when he's not happy or you're not doing what he wants you to do. He's also the cutest little cuddler ever.. sometimes he just needs to be held to be close to you or he'll rest his cheek on my cheek (omg I die!!)... he tries to be like his big sister and he's sooo soo helpful. He is a LOT different from my daughter and I'm not sure if that's bc he's a boy or bc he's #2... but he's so fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817534 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 13:20:25 +0000 pachamama 2817534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@buttermilk: oh my lord in heaven I love my son more every day. I will say we had a SLOW start. I did not feel a strong connection to him for MONTHS- partly because he didn't look a thing like me and partly because I had some pretty severe PPD. So don't have expectations and don't compare your relationship to that of you and your daughter. I think as moms we are so pressured to FEEL certain ways that when we feel something unexpected or unpleasant (in my case, not a ton of affection for my son) it can be pretty horrifying.<br /> What is life like with a boy? Oh man they are active! My son is 2 now and freaking loves machines. This morning I played hooky from work and we literally drove around my town scoping out bulldozers, cranes, wood chippers, saws, etc. He had a blast and I get butterflies every time I see a digger. I love having a son even though it took a long time to connect with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817520 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 12:17:02 +0000 codeitall 2817520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had several younger brothers. So even though I was team green, I was 95% sure my first was a boy, and I was right!</p> <p>DS is super affectionate, loving to give spontaneous hugs and kisses and a big fan of cuddles before bedtime. He is a great helper with his baby sister. We're training her to walk between us and he wanted to come hold her hand as she practiced walking. :heart: My heart melted. And no, she is not more stable holding his hand hahaha.</p> <p>He's really into building towers and buildings and finding unconventional ways to ferry collections of toys around. The IKEA shape sorter can in fact hold all the letter blocks and barely balance on the back of the tractor that came with the barn! He loves puzzles, airplanes, dinosaurs, and dirt, but won't come close to see any worms!</p> <p>He's very picky about his clothes and his favorite color is green. I buy him cute green dinosaur shirts but the green stripes are still his favorite.</p> <p>I love my boy and hope I get another one sometime :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817498 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 10:33:45 +0000 looch 2817498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having a son has opened up a world that I didn't know existed. He's into vehicles, so because of him, I've been to car, boat and motorcycle shows and I know pretty much every Monster Jam truck out there. I also know about trick shots and I can sing the music to SpongeBob the Musical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817475 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 09:46:20 +0000 crazydoglady 2817475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have experience with a daughter yet (she's still cooking,) but being a boy mama is such a gift. My son is 2.75 and is "mama obsessed," and oh so snuggly. He likes to help me and has this fierce love for me...I hope it lasts forever! I'm sure having a daughter will be equally amazing, but having a boy? Also 😍. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817432 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 06:16:45 +0000 wrkbrk 2817432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Same! Uh oh then mama. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817431 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 06:11:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2817431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a boy, my only child. His second word after “uh-oh” was “mama.” He’s my little bestie. What makes him special is what makes him endearing. “Hug Auggie” turned into “huggie” and that request is used exclusively with me. He identifies sounds like planes and motorcycle and loves party music with daddy. He’s curious and playful. We say Cheers when we have drinks- started as a motivator to drink water. He’s very good about including people. One time my mom and him were rolling balls back and forth and after a few times he rolled a ball to me so I could have a turn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817428 Fri, 20 Apr 2018 02:34:45 +0000 Littlebit7 2817428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had a boy and my daughter is the same age as your daughter. It has been so fun. My daughter is a firecracker. Loves dirt, cars, trucks etc. this boy is so sweet, cuddly and chill. I’m excited to see how their personalities play out! She ADORES him by the way. Like is obsessed and is SO sweet and gentle (and she isn’t really a gentle child by nature). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817412 Thu, 19 Apr 2018 23:05:17 +0000 skipra 2817412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my kids and they just happen to be boys. Kids are kids and you will fall in love with them when they are too little to have any gender differences. Mine like trucks and trains but also dancing and singing and all things pink. They have big emotions and feelings just like girls. They like soccer and football and gymnastics and yoga. Try not to get hung up on the sex because you will love him anyway and have no idea what his personality will be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817407 Thu, 19 Apr 2018 21:52:45 +0000 buttermilk 2817407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies, really helping me imagine and get excited for my little baby boyfriend! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/calling-all-boy-mamas#post-2817402 Thu, 19 Apr 2018 21:00:56 +0000 jhd 2817402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@buttermilk: and congrats on your boy btw!! </p>