https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 18:26:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730762 Mon, 01 May 2017 09:12:19 +0000 peaches1038 2730762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: that's super pretty!<br /> @Mrs. Microscope: love this idea! </p> <p>Thanks all! I decided to get a little garden stone with all of her grandkids names on it for their yard. They have a little area with mulch where it would look cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730686 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 20:51:39 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2730686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bake some cookies with your kid/s and send them, as well as flowers. Grandmas love stuff baked by their grandkids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730677 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:54:56 +0000 erinbaderin 2730677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send some kind of luxury food basket. Or wine? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730673 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:44:57 +0000 gotkimchi 2730673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: I have a mother in law like this so I decided to get her something to collect :silly: so I got her a pandora bracelet once and now can get charms for it for different occasions. I figure at least it's sentimental! I know you said she doesn't do jewelry but I eventually gave up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730672 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:44:23 +0000 Coral 2730672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: What about a sola wood flower centerpiece? (Confession: I am getting one from etsy for mother's day and am super excited.) Here's one I found. They will live forever and you can have them custom dyed in her favorite color. </p> [attach=7986/17/op90pz.337x600.il_570xN.1235045013_jx9r.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730667 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:40:53 +0000 youboots 2730667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about a custom gift basket with a few goodies from your area? Or a birchbox subscription </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730665 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:39:46 +0000 azjax 2730665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she like sweets? I love giving and receiving Shari's Berries for sweet lovers! What about doing the personalized label on a Yankee Candle in her favorite scent? Is she a foodie? If so, check out olive oils and tapenades from The Olive Press or the Sonomic Almost Vinegar from Sonoma Portworks. I put the almost vinegar on pancakes, fruit, in salads, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730664 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:38:07 +0000 peaches1038 2730664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: hmm $50-$100 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730663 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:37:43 +0000 peaches1038 2730663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: nope 😩 I thought of a digital photo frame that we could upload to remotely but they dont have wifi. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730661 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:36:52 +0000 Coral 2730661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: What's your budget? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730660 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:35:45 +0000 youboots 2730660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she collect anything? </p> <p>Flowers are great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730659 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:32:29 +0000 peaches1038 2730659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help me think of a gift for mil! We live about 12 hours from them and only get to see them 1-2 times per year. I already send printed pics all the time. She has no hobbies or interests other than spending time with her family, which includes DHs 2 sisters and their kids. She doesn't wear jewelry and doesn't like massages. The only thing I can think of is flowers, but I'm meh about that idea. Any genius ideas for me?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647926 Fri, 04 Nov 2016 07:59:04 +0000 FLnative12 2647926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has been surprisingly 'go with the flow' with our parenting choices with 2 exceptions. - ERF in the car seat (there is no room for his legs!) and giving DS antibiotics when he got sick. I finally lost my sh*t at her one day after lots of 'I never gave you and your sister any of this stuff' type of comments. She has since dropped it ;) My Dad says nothing other than how beautiful the kids are and how much he loves them. Being a grandpa has turned him into a big sappy mush, which cracks me up because its a totally new side of him to me.<br /> MIL has definitely had a harder time and FIL has been a LOT more vocal than I ever expected. They are both convinced the baby is always both cold and hungry. They were horrified last week when we were at DS's TBall game and I had DD outside not wrapped in a blanket. I kept answering 'she's fine' to each comment about the breeze or whatever (it was 80 degrees btw!). I finally lost it when my MIL took the burp cloth that was in the car seat and tucked it around her like a blanket. I took it off and said 'touch her! Touch her leg and her arm, she is WARM' So they stopped. The baby make any sort of noise and my FIL is all 'baby is hungry! Time to feed the baby!'. I know it all comes from a good place and they love my kids dearly but it makes me grind my teeth damn near flat.</p> <p>DH made a comment to me about just letting them make their comments and ignoring it - but I pointed out that when people (I don't care who) say over and over right in front of my that my baby is hungry and cold they are saying I am not adequately taking care of said baby, and as I clearly am taking care of my kids - it upsets me to hear otherwise. </p> <p>The ILs are also horrified at a sleep schedule and get upset that we wont bring the kids over late or that we leave in time to get home for bed time. At the same time they will make comments about how they are amazed at how much/well the kids sleep and none of their kids ever slept like that. ummmm...yeah, be there was never any sleep skills taught and my husband has a bunch of sleep related issues to show for it.<br /> Overall both sets of parents love the kids dearly and I consider my kids and us lucky to have them close by and a big part of our lives. But we still drive each other a little nuts sometimes, because you know...family :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647908 Fri, 04 Nov 2016 07:10:12 +0000 caterw 2647908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are pretty cool about listening to us- they said it's relaxing to just be grandparents and not have to come up with all the rules hahaha.</p> <p>My ILs not so much- they think I'm a "smother mother" and too controlling. MIL worked full time and she thinks I'm weird because I want to stay home with my kids. They also think I'm too strict about sugar- i caught them giving my seven month old baby a Popsicle! Safety is a concern with them too since they think the car seat straps don't need to be so tight and baby will get cold weather she doesn't have a coat on in the seat. They also gave DD a ride on the driver's seat of a lawn mower when she was reeeeeally small (like 3-4 months). We are raising our kids as liberals (and I converted their son). His mom once said "Oh my god DH! Is your wife a Democrat?" Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647829 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 23:10:09 +0000 Bernieboo 2647829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winter_wonder: yeah, I've had some issues with her and boundaries, but she lives very far away, so it's not too bad! And she's not here often enough to have much of an impact in M's habits </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647810 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 21:50:24 +0000 winter_wonder 2647810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bernieboo: that would make me ragey if someone pulled LO's hand out :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647789 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 21:15:47 +0000 Bernieboo 2647789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LML: I loved reading through this!! Thanks for resurrecting it! Haha<br /> My MIL is dead set that M must not suck her thumb or use a pacifier. She's only a month, so she can't find her thumb most of the time and I nurse on demand, so the pacifier use is pretty minimal. But it's nice when she has the hiccups or bad gas. But MIL will physically pull her hands away from her face. She was horrified when I asked her to give M a pacifier when we were driving and she was fussing.<br /> My parents are pretty good, but my dad is convinced that M is always cold ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647761 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 20:41:36 +0000 LML 2647761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry - I just realized how old this thread was. Oops. Hope it is ok that I brought it back to life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2647758 Thu, 03 Nov 2016 20:40:50 +0000 LML 2647758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, where do I start? </p> <p>- breastfeeding. My oldest had reflux and trouble sleeping as a result. My mom constantly told me it was because she was strictly breast fed. She thought formula was the magic solution to reflux and rice cereal was the only way to get a baby to sleep. She said, "You'd have trouble sleeping too if you were on an all-liquid diet." LO was about 8 weeks old at the time. Um, no. </p> <p>- not using blankets, pillows, or crib bumpers in an infant's crib. In response to any sleep issue, she would say, "Well, you don't use blankets or pillows, so..." as if that were the problem. I finally cut out an article about infant sleep safety and mailed it to her, grandma-style. She still brought it up a few times after that, and refuses to believe me that crib bumpers aren't recommended. </p> <p>- not giving my kids unlimited sugar and screen time. She said I "took all the fun out of Halloween" because I didn't let my 2 and 4 year old have unlimited access to their bags of candy. And don't even get her started on the cookies I made for them with wheat flour and honey instead of white sugar and white flour. She was aghast that I expected them to enjoy such a thing, "without any icing on it or anything?!"</p> <p>But my mom is overall very supportive, so I shouldn't complain. She just likes to voice her opinions!</p> <p>I should add that my MIL hasn't said a single word of criticism to me about my parenting, even though I know we have very different parenting styles. I definitely appreciate that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2487070 Tue, 08 Mar 2016 07:33:19 +0000 farawayyama 2487070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Raising DD in America.</p> <p>The New Zealand media does an excellent job at reporting on the negatives in US politics and culture, but not so much the positives. That combined with not being near the ocean makes it in my mothers mind an awful place to raise a child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2486455 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 14:30:59 +0000 LovelyPlum 2486455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's pretty hard to horrifying my mom. She's very laid back, though she did CIO in a way, and was not opposed to a smack on the button when we did something dangerous. She imparted her attitude on us, and I'm grateful!</p> <p>I horrified my little sisters by pumping/nursing for months, nursing in front of them, my dad, and in public, and our co-sleeping. But they like being righteously shocked, Soooo :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2486405 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 14:00:07 +0000 Mrs. D 2486405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom at first hated that I stopped heating up her bottles. But I had a system, that her sitter also did! I boiled water, let it cool to room temperature, and then when it was time for her bottle we just poured the cooled off water into the bottle and shook it. It started one day when she was fussing and I decided to show DD that her bottle wasn't ready because the pot hadn't bolied yet so I let her take the bottle, figuring she'd give it back. She didn't, and so my life became easier, lol.<br /> That I let her snack between meals, that I''m cutting sweet snacks, that I STILL water down drinks when I can.<br /> MIL- HOw long it took to Potty train, that we chose Presbyterian over Catholic, that I don't make her eat food she doesn't like or that WE as adults gave her too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/3#post-2486385 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 13:53:38 +0000 mfa_lady 2486385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: SAME re: a little bit of CIO. My MIL actually said when she babysat E once: "I mean, I just can't handle it. I can't let her cry like that in there." I'm not saying it's easy, but I know for a fact that it would have been over within five minutes. Ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2486378 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 13:50:13 +0000 mfa_lady 2486378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: She'd REALLY hate me, then! Every night in the bath, I tell DD to "Sit down on your booty!" Granted, I might have to stop that once she's a little older, but... LOLOLOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2486353 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 13:31:58 +0000 Eko 2486353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: that's hilarious! I'm surprised my mom tried that. she probably has poured holy water or something over his head while she babysat him at one point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2485454 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 00:46:54 +0000 sometimesshesings 2485454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is amazing and totally supportive of our decisions. In fact, she always compliments our parenting! </p> <p> My mom, on the other hand, has made comments about BLW (a common one, it seems!), the fact that we try to limit sweets, screen time, and too many toys, and especially that we're not raising the kids in the religion I grew up with. I think she feels like our different parenting choices are a direct criticism of her, which isn't true in most cases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2485429 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 23:35:18 +0000 QBbride 2485429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL makes all sorts of passive aggressive comments about our/my parenting 🙄</p> <p>My faves:<br /> -doesn't understand extended rear facing (my SIL flipped her kids around right at 12 months). Once she picked us up at the airport and she had installed the seat forward facing when she new full well that DS was still rear facing. I turned it back around before we started driving </p> <p>-"extended" breastfeeding (or breastfeeding at all, I think)</p> <p>-baby led weaning </p> <p>-not sleep training</p> <p>-sending DS to daycare (3x/week) while I'm on maternity leave so I can keep his spot and guarantee a spot for DD (infant spots are super hard to come by around here) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2485387 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 22:00:27 +0000 alphagam84 2485387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is horrified that we aren't having DD baptized. She said we were being selfish. And they keep trying to get us to hang a cross in our house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2485265 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 16:59:12 +0000 Rockies11 2485265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom can't stand BLW, so I just let her feed the LOs when she is around. She also finds co-sleeping mysterious - we were in our own beds in our own rooms from day 1. </p> <p>My MIL... disapproves of virtually everything that we have ever done and do. She believes there is only one way to do all things, and it is the way that she knows how to do it. She makes comments on all aspects of our parenting whenever she is around. She will not accept any instructions from us on how to do anything. Babies sleep on their stomachs, and they drink water from bottles, full stop. So I don't leave her alone with them anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-horrify-your-mom-with-your-parenting/page/2#post-2485187 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 14:22:43 +0000 Happygal 2485187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL will share the different ways she parented and follow up by saying, "But we were hippies!" I'm sure she had thoughts about us letting our daughter cry in her crib for a little bit b/c they did the family bed and she let them nurse from her whenever they wanted. She also seemed to get twitchy watching me feed my daughter when younger, saying, "She really wants to feed herself!" and asking me if she wanted a bunch of different types of food she had around. </p>