https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 01:05:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1242669 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 18:13:39 +0000 MsLipGloss 1242669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: DON'T TASE ME BRO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1242542 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 17:02:07 +0000 cascademom 1242542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: haha, lol! I have no idea why she does it with her pronunciations of words. I'm just hoping that LO doesn't pick up them. We already have to worry about her baby talking to a 15 month old during Christmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1242537 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 16:58:26 +0000 Cherrybee 1242537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: She must have stolen the H from my mum's alphabet!! She is forever dropping hers. "I'm 'ungry", "I'm going to the 'ospital" "The 'orse racing is on". AGH! Drives me crazy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1242385 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 16:00:56 +0000 wonderstruck 1242385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I totally understand! I get less argument from my husband though because I am an English major and really care about proper spelling and grammar. He, on the other hand, doesn't really care and often doesn't know the difference and trusts me on it. So with us it's generally just me saying, "That makes zero sense grammatically and it's driving me crazy, can you PLEASE day it correctly/use a different phrase?" Sometimes I'll throw in something about how I know it's weird and I'm sorry, but it's just a pet peeve of mine. </p> <p>Plus, phrases that don't make any sense it totally different than swearing. As far as the thing about word 'mean' goes, I'd probably just make more of an effort to get him to elaborate. Ask him why he thinks it's mean or how it makes him feel. I know that's basic, but I could be effective.</p> <p>My MIL says mushmellow instead of marshmallow, liberry instead of library, sirloin has an sh sound at the beginning of it...it drives me INSANE. No wonder my DH needed speech therapy when he was a kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1241758 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:22:27 +0000 cascademom 1241758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: If I mentioned MIL, he would have flipped out. I picked this battle and how I played it. For me, it's definitely the association with her. I get that. I figure less use of the phrase in the house will not have associations with her in our daily life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1241741 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:19:07 +0000 HabesBabe 1241741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, to be fair, you weren't exactly honest with him when he asked by you hated it! And it sounds like it's more of an issue you have with your MIL than what he says... I would just let it go.</p> <p>My husband teases me with words that irk me and it's all in good fun :) I canNOT help but shudder when I hear the words "panties," "regular (as in pooping)," and he sometimes farts and says "uh-oh" as a joke... I feel like he's on the verge of crapping his pants! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1241714 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:13:53 +0000 cascademom 1241714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: I confronted him about it after he said it for the millionth time this weekend. I said something to the effect of "I hate that phrase." He asked why. I just said that I hate it. It's awkward. He scolded me for saying "crap" the other day which I thought was ridiculous. I don't know where this clean language thing with him came from because we've been swearing with each other for nearly a decade. </p> <p>He has gotten better when I corrected him on the mispronunciation of "obviously." MIL adds a few "h's" in there among other letters. I noticed yesterday that he's saying it correctly again. I think it's going to be a lifetime of correcting mispronunciations picked up from MIL who admits that she can't speak eloquently. </p> <p>On the same weekend, we had the frustrating conversation about his involvement in cooking, pantry, etc. He referred to something I said as "mean." I told him not to use that phrase as well because it's juvenile. I'm convinced that he has an emotional vocabulary of a tween thanks to my MIL. So, that's what I'm up against. We'll see how much he uses that godawful phrase again. He did it right before watching Doctor Who. I was so close to walking out of the room for that one because of that stupid phrase. Don't ruin Doctor Who with images of MIL as you say her dumb phrases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1240311 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 23:03:27 +0000 wonderstruck 1240311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH has a few words or phrases he says completely incorrectly because he picked it up from MIL. Every time I either correct him or say something like that makes no sense, that's not a word, cut it out, etc. It's gotten better. I'm assuming he knows it bugs you, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1240024 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 19:36:21 +0000 sslm 1240024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just ask and tell him it bothers you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1240003 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 19:21:21 +0000 Greentea 1240003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just say, "honey, could you please not say (...)" My husband prefers really straight forward communication. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239970 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 18:42:48 +0000 MamaMoose 1239970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: um, agreed. I usually just ask my husband to do/not do things. I don't "train" him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239958 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 18:37:55 +0000 .twist. 1239958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: you have made me laugh so many times today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239948 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 18:24:43 +0000 LovelyPlum 1239948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: uh oh, I showed DH your idea, and he likes the regular reward chart idea...he says "I get a star every time I do dishes, take out the trash, take out the dog..."</p> <p>I may have created a monster. Crap ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239942 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 18:21:02 +0000 LovelyPlum 1239942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I :heart: the reverse reward chart. And you for bringing that up :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239136 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 06:43:11 +0000 dagret 1239136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: My husband has some sayings that I've asked him not to say repeatedly. I'm sure you've tried that first before asking a message board for advice. </p> <p>But have you told him specifically that it reminds you of his mom? That might help...I've found that if DH is doing something that reminds me of his mom, and I tell him that directly, he usually stops, for some reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239073 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 02:13:58 +0000 Kimberlybee 1239073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: Pinch the crap out of him at the arm. LoL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239071 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 02:13:01 +0000 Kimberlybee 1239071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: oh ok got it! Yeah that sounds really serious when you add that "mess" in there. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239069 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 02:03:59 +0000 Cherrybee 1239069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kimberlybee: I imagine its the equivalent of the UK phrase "something the crap out of something". Like "scare the crap out of her" or "beat the crap out of him"..... it means, like, do it a lot until all the poop falls out! So, to use Cascadedad's phrase, Im going to taser the mess out of my husband! Ugh, it really is uglier with the word mess, huh?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239053 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 01:27:22 +0000 Kimberlybee 1239053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: What does that mean actually? I don't think I have heard it before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239048 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 01:23:11 +0000 hellocupcake 1239048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: muahaha (: BJ chart would be awesome! :) </p> <p>My husband says a phrase I hate too and I just remind him EVERY time that I'm not a fan. He says it a lot less now (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1239003 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 00:17:09 +0000 doodlepoodle 1239003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: HAHAHAHAHA bj's would have to be in the equation first in our house ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238996 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 00:10:30 +0000 anonysquire 1238996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: OMG! I wish water worked with my cats lol!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238516 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 18:09:55 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1238516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: this. Just ask him. </p> <p>If that doesn't work, squirt him with water. Totally works on my cats. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238515 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 18:08:47 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1238515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could ask him to not say it.</p> <p>Sometimes communication works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238455 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:40:55 +0000 cmomma17 1238455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I am stealing this star chart idea for so many things!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238440 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:17:24 +0000 Ra 1238440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I :heart: you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238438 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:16:24 +0000 Cherrybee 1238438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: :happy: </p> <p>Or you could go for a reverse reward chart. Start off the month with ten stars that represent ten BJs. Every time he says the phrase, remove one. You never know, you might start to love the phrase....!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238423 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:09:33 +0000 swedishfish 1238423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: hahahaha, just a bit of a Taser! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238421 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:07:21 +0000 Cherrybee 1238421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time he says it, give him a short, sharp electric shock?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-my-husband-to-not-say-a-phrase-i-hate#post-1238411 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:02:54 +0000 cascademom 1238411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband says a phrase he picked up from MIL I hate. He says "I'm going to whatever the MESS out of something." Every time I hear it, I see MIL in my head. How do I train him not to say it? </p>