https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 16:49:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/boundaries#post-1800243 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 22:02:05 +0000 MrsRcCar 1800243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SeptMomma12: I can usually calm him down by sitting down with him in a quiet place. I talk to him about his feelings and that I understand them but when I ask him to do or not do something I mean it. I guess part if me is worried about his speech development he talks in his own language but only a handful of words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/boundaries#post-1800216 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 21:33:53 +0000 SeptMomma12 1800216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really have any advice, but I am totally in the same place with my 22 month old. We are really struggling with tantrums and just plain doing exactly what he's told not to do. And he's talking really well, so I think it has to be the age. They are learning for the first time that boundaries can be pushed and want to see how far they can take it. As for the tantrums, I find that his are much worse when he's tired - there's a huge difference in his attitude when he's home with us on the weekends and when he's exhausted at night from day care. </p> <p>I feel dumb saying this, but I really had no idea toddlers were SO hard! Love him to pieces and for every bad moment there are 10 good ones, but wow...</p> <p>ETA: I did try something tonight that worked pretty well. He went into total meltdown mode when I told him we had to go inside (after he wouldn't listen and was standing on the chairs on our porch). So I just told him I understood he was feeling mad but that when mama says we don't stand on the chairs, we don't stand on the chairs. Then I said I would be reading his favorite book and he could join me when he was ready. I sat across the room and started reading aloud. It took about 5 mins of screaming but he eventually calmed down himself and came over to finish reading the book with me. Will be trying that one again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/boundaries#post-1800208 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 21:23:15 +0000 MrsRcCar 1800208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>N is 22 months and he is just pushing boundaries like crazy! I know that it is normal but holy wow it is hard! I think part of the issue is communication. N doesn't have too many words, so I think he just can't tell me the issue. N has a lot of tantrums, which is a lot of tears. It gets to be pretty trying. He does sign and we are working on expanding his vocab but it isn't coming soon enough. </p> <p>I guess what I am getting at is, how did you handle boundaries? How do you handle tantrums? </p>