https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 16:47:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2883082 Fri, 03 May 2019 07:18:47 +0000 erinbaderin 2883082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepaperbutterfly: Not to threadjack, but can you give me a little bit more information about your tricks for regularity? My youngest son has had issues with constipation his whole life and now that he's pretty well potty trained I'd like to wean him off the Restoralax and swap it out with something more natural. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2883064 Fri, 03 May 2019 03:43:31 +0000 thepaperbutterfly 2883064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did the Oh Crap! method of potty training. What she recommends if there is regression is to go back to being naked from the waist down. She related an anecdote of a 3 year old who was having about 1 accident per day, so she advised the mom to go back to being naked from the waist down, and after one day of going commando, he mastered potty training. We trained our daughter at about 25 months. It's been about 2 to 3 months and she rarely has an accident even when we are out in public. But we did put her in a pull-up for the first month or two whenever we went out, but we told her it was just for accidents. Now she just wears a pull-up for bedtime. </p> <p>You can certainly stop and try again in 2-3 months. However, if you want to give it another go I would definitely recommend reading Oh Crap! You don't have to follow the methodology, but it gives some good insight into child psychology. We also used a little potty (and still are using) so that we could get her on the potty fast if she had an accident. </p> <p>We didn't give any treats for peeing, but we did give a Dum Dum for pooping. She has had really bad issues with constipation. We finally got a bowel regimen to keep her regular, but pooping was traumatic for her. So we would give her a Dum Dum for pooping in the potty. In retrospect, I don't think the treat really helped her. Now we are trying to stop the treat thing when she poops, which is a bit difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2883047 Thu, 02 May 2019 22:36:35 +0000 MountainBaby 2883047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: hmm, that's an interesting idea. It needs to be something not so abstract since she's still little. I was thinking of higher value treat (like m&amp;m instead of fruit loop) but I like the idea of a non-tangible reward a lot. I'll have to brainstorm.</p> <p>@maddyz: yeah, I'm thinking about backing off the panties dry for a treat rule. You're right that I should celebrate any success. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882930 Thu, 02 May 2019 11:52:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2882930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there anything else you can think of to tie positive potty-ing to beside fruit loops?</p> <p>My son is potty trained but doesn’t like to go to the potty. He had nighttime accidents two days in a row recently and I made waking up dry a condition of watching TV in the morning. Third morning still wet and I stuck to my guns on the morning TV. Last evening he decided to use the bathroom shortly after getting tucked in where as he usually just goes once in the evening after school. Then, this morning (day 4) he was giddy telling me he was dry and ready to watch TV. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882901 Thu, 02 May 2019 08:45:56 +0000 maddyz 2882901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are doing just fine. I would try to take her to the potty more often and maybe try no undies at home. That really helped my boys remember to go to the potty. I would also keep a little potty close to where she is playing so she can get there quickly. At this point, you are still the one in charge of making success possible. It might help to get a treat for any pee in the potty because that is a win, even if there was a little leak beforehand. I found that concentrating on what's working and not worrying about the misses worked best for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882682 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 18:15:55 +0000 Mrsbells 2882682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MountainBaby: Each child learns at their own pace and as others have said regression is a normal part of it. We have a 2.5 year old that is in pull ups. Some days he is great and other days not so much. We are avoiding putting too much pressure because that usually just makes it worse </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882681 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 18:13:20 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2882681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: I always thought it was a perfect name for them :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882680 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 18:11:59 +0000 hitchhiker 2882680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: dramatic flushers! I'm going to incorporate that into my regular vocabulary. They are dramatic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882673 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 17:03:48 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2882673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownepiano: @MountainBaby: I agree, O was trained at about 27 months, but only recently started initiating dependably. Mostly dependably. She still has accidents a couple times a month. </p> <p>@hitchhiker: Oh, those damn auto flush toilets. O used to call them "dramatic flushers" because she couldn't remember the word "automatic." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882667 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 16:29:57 +0000 brownepiano 2882667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Regression is normal when the novelty wears off. DS has been potty training since 26 months and is now almost 3. He's got pooping down (finally) but I STILL have to remind him to go pee. He rarely initiates. I figure it will come in time and just work regular peeing into our routine for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882665 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:45:47 +0000 hitchhiker 2882665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: yes, this! Or worry that the bathroom will have autoflush toilets or scary hand dryers. Diapers are so easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882660 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:18:02 +0000 crazydoglady 2882660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MountainBaby: My son was nearly 3.5 when he potty trained. We had two previous false starts and lots of lots of tears from us all. I bought this kit called The Tot on the Pot from kickstarter (also on amazon now) and it was the best 50 bucks I have ever spent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882658 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:13:53 +0000 erinbaderin 2882658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others - when I said we did it last weekend I should have added that my son just turned 3. Honestly I kind of prefer diapers - it’s so much easier than constantly having to know where the nearest bathroom is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882643 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 14:00:56 +0000 KT326 2882643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MountainBaby: If it makes you feel better, we had 3 false starts potty training my oldest. We started at 27 months but he just wasn't ready. It wasn't until a couple months past 3 that it finally clicked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882626 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 13:03:02 +0000 MountainBaby 2882626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChitownRo: @hitchhiker: @bakingdoodle: Thanks for the opposite perspective. My husband is leaning that way too. I think we'll try for one more week and if it's not clicking go to pull ups full time for a few months. It's hard to admit defeat, but you all are right that it shouldn't have to be this frustrating. I can't even imagine potty training with 0 accidents, seems like a fantasy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882622 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 12:48:48 +0000 ChitownRo 2882622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Echoing the PPs, we weren’t in a hurry to potty train. We did it at 33 months for both big kids. Then did the 3 day method. Super smooth, no accidents with my DS, definitely more road bumps/accidents with my DD but still not too stressful overall </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882621 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 12:29:38 +0000 hitchhiker 2882621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bakingdoodle: I agree. I waited with both of my kids until they were ready (which I define as able to tell me that they need to go to the bathroom), and it was SO EASY. With my oldest that was at 2.75 and my youngest it was just recently at 3 and a few months. Both were pooped trained first - they stopped pooping in their diapers several months before they were able to express that they needed to pee. </p> <p>So if you have the ability/willingness to wait, I recommend it. In my experience, potty training does not need to be a frustrating process, but you have to be patient. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882615 Tue, 30 Apr 2019 12:06:05 +0000 bakingdoodle 2882615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am in the minority. I believe that there's no rush until the kid is 4??. I had set a mental date that my daughter had to be potty trained by because I wanted to get rid of the diaper genie. (that was supposed to be 1 month before she turned 3. She wasn't ready. She was starting to understand the pee but she always pooped in the diaper. At daycare, they would only bring her if she asked so she was wearing pullups. I don't have the patience to deal with 12 accidents a day (I bow to you). So I just consistently just told her it's yucky and that she would get a chocolate if she pooped (and also her brother and her cousins would get some). That got her more motivated and somehow, around 2 months later than my date, she was fully trained but I only took the diaper out just a week shy of Christmas. So she was potty trained at 38 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882550 Mon, 29 Apr 2019 17:38:50 +0000 MountainBaby 2882550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I think I'll try this. She loves her underwear and loves to talk about how she needs to keep Marshall and Sky dry or whatever (which I was hoping would be good motivation) but it's clearly not working anymore. </p> <p>@castilrm: ugh, yeah. I did a bootcamp style the first 3 days (slightly different than OCPT, starting with underwear) and I hated being cooped up like that for days, but it may need to be. Hopefully 3 terrible days will get us over this weeks long hump. She still acts excited every time she picks out a fruit loop, but you're right, maybe she needs something bigger. I don't think she's ready for a sticker chart yet, so maybe m&amp;ms are the way to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882549 Mon, 29 Apr 2019 17:20:50 +0000 castilrm 2882549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It may help to do a “boot camp” style long weekend in which she’s pants and underwear free. Guzzle juices or water (whatever will tempt her to drink more than usual) so she needs to pee frequently. Have a potty in whatever room she’s in so she feels inclined and reminded to use it when she feels the urge. If she’s trying to hold it, then actively taking her to use the potty. Rewards (maybe higher value than fruit loops, like an MnM?) each successful potty. This is what helped reinforce it for my older one. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882543 Mon, 29 Apr 2019 16:46:57 +0000 erinbaderin 2882543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I am certainly no expert, and I just trained my younger son last week and he still has the occasional accident, but people here recommended the Oh Crap method and it really worked for us. I think specifically the no-pants thing made sense to my son, and the author’s argument that at first, underpants and a diaper don’t seem substantially different to a kid made sense to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dead-end-help#post-2882530 Mon, 29 Apr 2019 15:39:50 +0000 MountainBaby 2882530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I'm at a dead end for potty training my daughter (28 months). I need a fresh perspective and some new techniques, because what I'm trying clearly isn't working. We've been at this for almost 2 months and she's very inconsistent with some weeks doing great and other weeks awful. A few notes - she does awesome at her daycare (10 hours a week) - she's only had 2 accidents there the whole time! She is mostly poop trained, only a few accidents, but pee feels not even close. She does better when we're out of the house instead of relaxing at home, even though I prompt her frequently at home. This seems so backwards from other toddlers I know that I don't know what to do! Any tips appreciated! </p> <p>Before starting - she understood what the potty was for, and would ask to use it periodically which we encouraged. Mainly for pee, but occasionally poop too. She 100% seemed ready</p> <p>Week 1 - We switched to underwear for everything except nap and night. She caught on quickly, didn't stop accidents in time, but clearly understood what was happening and would exclaim "uh oh!" and tell me as they were happening, made quick progress. We rewarded all potty action with a fruit loop. </p> <p>Week 2 - Awesome, scattered accidents here and there, but overall good and started telling me when she needed to go before hand. I thought I had this made, lol</p> <p>Week 3 - she ended up in the hospital for a few days and we had to revert back to diapers since she was connected to so many monitors and pumped full of IV fluid.</p> <p>Week 4 - back home, went straight back to underwear and regressed. Lots of accidents and often no acknowledgment that they had happened, but understandable considering circumstances. Gradually improved, down to one or 2 accidents a day by the end.</p> <p>Week 5 - She got it! doing awesome, we had family visiting and we went all over town, big excursions, etc and very few problems, only a few accidents in total all week! She still wouldn't tell us beforehand like she used too, but I thought we finally were back on track</p> <p>Week 6 - the day after family leaves she had 12 accidents in one day. 12. The next few days were more like 3 each, but clearly we lost our progress and I don't know what else to try. </p> <p>As of now we:<br /> -If panties are dry, get 1 fruit loop for pee, 2 for poo, but none if panties are wet<br /> -I remind her periodically to go, I've given up on her telling me for the moment<br /> -she has to help clean up the mess<br /> -pull-ups for night and nap</p> <p>I really don't want to give up and go back to diapers because she clearly understands what's going on and I still think she's ready. But at the same time, we're going on a plane flight in 2 weeks and I'd really like to get her back on track before then. </p>