https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 13:47:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-880960 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:31:35 +0000 Mrs. Popcorn 880960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have just dealt with a nanny breakup and in a way I think it's sweet that she wants to visit your LO though I can imagine that it gets annoying if you don't care for her so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575610 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:24:09 +0000 Bao 575610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I think telling her you were busy was a good way to go about it, maybe if you keep doing that, she will get the hint? or maybe not....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575600 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:21:17 +0000 irene 575600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: That's what I replied too - "we are not available this weekend but we'll definitely be in touch when we need your help!" .... just because I am afraid if I don't reply her she will call us, and if I don't answer her call she'd just show up at our door. </p> <p>Before she left us she did mention it many times that she'd just come by and steal LO because she'd miss him so much. That's what I am afraid of - that she'd be outside, call me and say hey I am outside can I come in for a sec... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575577 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:15:50 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 575577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, tough one because she knows where you live.</p> <p>What about shifting this back to an employer-employee rlationship? "Sunday is not going to work for us. We will give you a call next time we need a date night." Then just don't reach out to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575569 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:14:58 +0000 2PeasinaPod 575569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since you don't want to burn any bridges, i would just slowly have more and more plans when she wants to try to stop by. She can't expect you to be available every weekend for her to see your LO! She may have become attached, but you don't owe her anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575559 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:11:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 575559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh man. that's a little awkward, haha. not sure what to do! the family i nannied for kept contact with me, so I didn't have to deal with that (although I would have been on the opposite side anyway, haha). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-up-with-the-nanny#post-575550 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:09:09 +0000 irene 575550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How to hint to our ex-nanny, thanks, but no thanks, in fact we really don't miss you that much..?</p> <p>We had a nanny until LO was 11.5 months old then we started daycare. While my son loves her and she loves him too (I guess) I am not crazy about her - she chats on the phone while watching him, never talk / sing/ read to him, always take him out to run errands on her own, and always having an attitude to a point I am scared to point out anything that I have an issue with. I was thrilled that she finally left us.</p> <p>I like her as a person, but not someone I'd like to work with again, if I had a choice.</p> <p>However, I guess she never really get the memo that I am not crazy about her (I didn't dare to burn any bridges when it comes to child care) ! It's been a month that she left us, and this is the 3rd time she wanted to come over and visit LO.</p> <p>The first time she wanted to bring over a photo frame of her and LO. It was very sweet. The 2nd time (last weekend) she called and say she wanted to drop by and visit LO. I let her. Then just now I got another email from her saying she wants to come by Sunday to see him!</p> <p>I mean, does she really plan to come by every weekend just to see him? How do you say no and hint to her that, thanks, but hey, actually you should stop requesting to come see us. We'd call you if we need you (or not), without being mean?</p> <p>Arghh....</p> <p>ETA: funny that she even knows that our neighbor doesn't like her (because she rubs off on their au pair on the lazy behavior). Only if she can get that hint from me too..... </p>