https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 03:20:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836725 Mon, 30 Jul 2018 05:31:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2836725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just posted a position on Care.com for a nanny. Some nannies wanted mileage reimbursement. Not quite the same as gas money, but still related to your car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836702 Sun, 29 Jul 2018 21:23:29 +0000 Anagram 2836702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@threeplusme: when we had a full time nanny (well, even now when we have a part time sitter that does after school pickup), we paid $3 more an hour when she had both girls. So if her base rate was $16, then we paid $19 for 2 kids if she had them together.</p> <p>Our full time nanny got 2 official weeks paid vacation but the contract also stipulated that any days we went out of town were also paid for her, so she ended up getting about 3.5 paid weeks a year. She once asked for another weeks vacation on top of that, and we gave her the week but unpaid. She had 5 paid sick days, and 1 week's pay holiday bonus. I think that's pretty standard in our town. Her only duties were to do the kid's laundry 1x a week during nap time. I didn't expect her to prepare food or do anything else other than really engage the kiddos and keep them busy and on schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836538 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 16:56:46 +0000 sooz 2836538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in the SF Bay Area, which is considerably more expensive. We have a nanny who takes care of my two sons and we pay her $25/hr. We've had her for 5 years going on 6.</p> <p>She doesn't drive, but takes the bus, so we do purchase an unlimited bus pass for her. Nannies that drive in our area get a stipend for gas.</p> <p>We also provide at least 2 weeks of vacation per year with one week her choice. I say at least 2 because we usually take anywhere between 3-4 weeks of vacation per year and we pay her for that time. She also gets one week of sick days which she uses for doctor/dentist appts. </p> <p>We also pay her 2 weeks pay for her Xmas bonus and also an additional 1/2 weeks pay for her birthday and random extra small bonuses/gift cards throughout the year. And, sometimes she takes the boys out to lunch or some activity and we give her extra money for that and let her keep whatever is leftover.</p> <p>We value our nanny a lot and I know we provide her more than the average, but it's really difficult to find good, reliable, trustworthy nannies and she is amazing. She's become part of our family and all of us (kids and parents) love her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836403 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 08:51:38 +0000 Sams Mom 2836403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK. so our nanny is a family friend, so kind of the same boat as you. I know we got a great deal with her, so I try to do extra when I can because we couldn't swing a lot more. </p> <p>So I'm in the midwest and not in a super large city. We pay her $150 a week. I have asked her how much more a week she would charge for another kid, it would be in the $50-$75 range. </p> <p>Because of where I work, I have a week or more off around christmas, so she gets paid for that week, and then we try to coordinate our vacation weeks, but if it doesn't work out then we take separate weeks. </p> <p>As far as pay, she claims it as income, but since she's older and already drawing social security it doesn't effect her taxes and we still get to claim the childcare credit. </p> <p>As far as food she can eat whatever at our house, but usually brings her own. Sometimes she takes our son out for a kids meal and she won't let me pay her back for it. I have memberships for her so she can take our son to the zoo and the family center, I have bought punchcards so she can take him to other facilities. </p> <p>We give her a bonus at the end of the year. and we always get her at least a $50 gift card for her birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836382 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 06:52:57 +0000 Littlebit7 2836382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d reach out to a local nanny agency for guidance. Here in nyc-ish area, pay is probably 17-22 for two kids per hour. Two weeks paid vacation (one of nanny’s choosing,<br /> One of family’s) all federal holidays and sick time (2-5 days). Bonus is typically a weeks pay. If I were you, even though it is family, I’d have a written contract. Also you’ll need to figure out a plan if your kids are sick; what happens to their kids?<br /> Outline expectations: laundry for kids only, shopping, cleaning? This could be a great arrangement for everyone, or it could ruin relationships bc significant amounts of money is involved.<br /> I typically don’t provide food but they are welcome to the fridge/pantry. They should maybe do a small stipend for gas and sundries for the kids snacks if you are at activities.<br /> You and they need to decide on or off the books. If you are off the books and hurt yourself on the job you can’t claim short term disability, etc. if you are on the books your take home might be lower and there’s more leg work for them but it’s all above board.<br /> Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836376 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 06:33:38 +0000 MrsBucky 2836376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Working for family is tricky! One thing to consider is that they might prefer to pay an employee rather than family if they are going to pay the going rate anyway. Also you may want to look into the tax law exceptions for paying family members for childcare. There may be some sort of exceptions that benefit you both without pay having to be off the books, but I’m not sure- just a thought to look into. Other things I’d consider: would you be willing to nanny for a non family member to make more money? Sometimes thinking through those types of alternatives helps me decide whether a situation works for me or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836366 Fri, 27 Jul 2018 01:13:48 +0000 lamariniere 2836366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can’t comment on salary because it varies so much by location. But I agree that you are due a raise with the added responsibility of caring for a newborn. </p> <p>We have a helper who is currently part time nannying my LOs while they are on school break. She takes them to activities or just watches them at home. She will feed them when I’m gone and is usually very good at cleaning up their messes. I pay her hourly, and I cover all expenses. Taxis when they go places (or I would cover driving expenses if she drove), food and activities while they are out, an occasional coffee for her, taxis home when she babysits late night. As per local laws, I give her paid vacation, paid sick and holiday leave and I also pay her a fixed weekly rate when we are not here (she cleans and does laundry and waters the plants when we are gone). I don’t necessarily cover food, we don’t eat the same things (different cultures), but I wouldn’t mind if she ate our food or bought a meal while watching my kids. I also give an annual bonus.</p> <p>ETA: our lady sometimes brings her daughter when she babysits in the evening. She’s a widow, so she doesn’t always have a care solution. She asked me about it when I interviewed her and of course I was fine with it. My kids love playing with her since she’s a little bit older than they are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-responsibilities-and-pay#post-2836346 Thu, 26 Jul 2018 22:06:19 +0000 threeplusme 2836346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all. Looking for some nanny advice and would love to hear from those of you who have nannies or are nannies. I nanny for my SIL. Her husband is a teacher so i work school hours and just the school calendar. Last year I watched my nephew from the age of 5 months to 14 months. My youngest was in preschool for 4 mornings 4 days a week so she was with me while i watched him when she was not in school. I was able to bring him along anywhere i went from school drop offs and pick ups to food shopping and classroom volunteering. They paid me but not what a nanny would cost in our area which i was fine with since i had my daughter with me and i had so much flexibility. As to duties beyond basic care i made his breakfast and lunch, bottles, did his laundry, cleaned up after him and did some basic shopping for him (grabbed things I'd think he'd eat and supplies for seasonal crafts.) My SIL is due in two weeks so come November when her maternity leave ends they'd like me to watch my nephew who will be 19 months and the new baby who will be 3 months old. All my kids will be in school full time as my youngest heads off to kindergarten. I feel like a significant jump in pay is warrented. I'll now be watching a toddler and an infant and i can't imagine having the flexibity i had last year. What do you think is a resonable salary and what duties do you expect a nanny to do? Pay hourly or salary? Pay for gas? On the books or off the books? Do you provide food for the nanny? Paid vacation? Any advice would be great. I don't want to undervalue myself nor do i want my SIL to feel like I'm being unresonable. Thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821995 Fri, 11 May 2018 12:22:41 +0000 alphagam84 2821995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel bad asking for what you deserve! No man would be shy about asking for what he wanted! Especially since the company approached you. Ask for 20% more and the additional PTO days you want and don't take no for an answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821985 Fri, 11 May 2018 12:01:29 +0000 jennlin821 2821985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: :heart: !!!<br /> I'm 10+ years into my career, and a dancer/actress so I've never really struggled with confidence. My DH went back to school, is new in his career and struggles a bit with imposter syndrome, so I'm always having these conversations with him. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821967 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:53:49 +0000 peaches1038 2821967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: also, I just texted this line to DH “Take yourself out of the headspace that you need to justify yourself or your requests. They need to justify to you why your requests can't be accommodated.” And he was like BOOM! That bee KNOWS IT. Hahah </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821964 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:51:03 +0000 peaches1038 2821964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@teawithpaloma: I’m going to blast that before the call!! Woot!<br /> @jennlin821: thank you! Those are fantastic ideas. I’d love any resources you have!<br /> @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: that is awesome! And a good call on keeping it separate. Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821961 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:44:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2821961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: I wouldn’t go into details, but that’s me being super sensitive about keeping work and my personal life separate. You know what you need to do get the job done; work doesn’t need to be burdened. Every time my manager asks me to go out of town he never takes my word for it when I say yes and is like go ask your DH. Finally, I had to tell him let me worry about the how and accept my yes. LOL</p> <p>@jennlin821: what she said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821960 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:44:20 +0000 jennlin821 2821960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: My husband and I just moved cross country over the summer so we did a lot of negotiating - my notes and emails are all pretty handy and I do a lot of business writing for my job, so I'm happy to help!</p> <p>Also in reference to your questions to Mrs. Lemon-Lime, you do not need to justify yourself at all. In all my research, pretty much the only time that appropriate to talk about added expenses is if you are moving for the position.<br /> Take yourself out of the headspace that you need to justify yourself or your requests. They need to justify to you why your requests can't be accommodated.<br /> Keep in mind other types of perks, such as student loan reimbursements, mortgage help, memberships, continuing education credits, etc. Or perhaps bonuses for reaching certain milestones, scheduling in a day off a month unrelated to PTO etc. think outside the box! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821957 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:35:27 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: i just replay beyonce's sorry "Sorry, I ain't sorry" when I am psyching myself out and need a boost. We are worth the damn world.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821956 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:28:39 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: yes, yes, girl, get it, get it.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821955 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:26:42 +0000 peaches1038 2821955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all so much! I LOVED the article that @teawithpaloma shared. And it’s right, I shouldn’t be sorry to get compenstated for what I’m worth. I’ve really considered everyone’s input and have decided to ask for a larger increase and a sign on bonus, as well as specific hours and increased vacation time.<br /> @gingerbebe: this is really helpful, thank you!<br /> @Mrs. Tiger: thanks! That’s awesome you got more than you asked for!<br /> @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: thank you! Do you think it’s ok to discuss how my expenses will be increasing to partly justify the $$? Of course, I will be focused on the responsibilities and how my skills and training will directly benefit the program.<br /> @jennlin821: this is amazingly helpful. Thank you so much! I’m going to wall you!<br /> @BUNBUN: I’ll check that out, thanks!<br /> @teawithpaloma: thank you! Congrats on your new job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821954 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:26:15 +0000 psw27 2821954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@teawithpaloma: This article just gave me a little boost to realize that I've gotta do something. Rut central over here! Thanks for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821953 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:25:46 +0000 psw27 2821953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! As others have said - ask for more money! A man would and why the heck shouldn't we?! I think I always feel like I need to be polite and apologetic. And I should not! They reached out to you and they want you to start, manage and administrate. That really is three jobs. I say aim for the stars and see where you land. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821952 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:21:49 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yessss!! we are literally brainwashed not to be seen as wanting money... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821947 Fri, 11 May 2018 10:03:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2821947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@teawithpaloma: love this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821944 Fri, 11 May 2018 09:57:59 +0000 bees_knees 2821944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@teawithpaloma: that article straight up gave me goosebumps </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821940 Fri, 11 May 2018 09:47:38 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/28/opinion/sunday/women-want-to-be-rich.html" rel="nofollow">https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/28/opinion/sunday/women-want-to-be-rich.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821926 Fri, 11 May 2018 08:47:02 +0000 BUNBUN 2821926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations, what a fabulous opportunity! I think the advice above is great, and if you're looking for more negotiating advice, I really like this website:<br /> <a href="http://askamanager.org" rel="nofollow">http://askamanager.org</a><br /> I would also consider including how many people, how many hours, and at what levels you would ideally like to see working under you. A friend's dream-job department started experiencing staff cut-backs after 5 years, and I wonder if the staffing would have been sustained if it had been explicit in the original contract with the department head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821919 Fri, 11 May 2018 08:10:36 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: what you said. 30% is bare minimum for me to switch positions - to do what you described, 75%-100% increase is absolutely acceptable </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821915 Fri, 11 May 2018 07:53:47 +0000 jennlin821 2821915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) You are worth it.<br /> 2) they approached you to start a new SPECIALIZED department, which includes all your current duties, plus all the administrative work that goes into it, plus the sweat equity of creating a department from scratch. That is three jobs compared to the one you are doing now.<br /> 3)This will be a bit of upheaval in your personal life</p> <p>So here is what you need to think about and decide:<br /> -Do you want the additional work? What will happen to you work/life balance?<br /> -Do you want to give up the patient facing part of your job? You will probably no longer see patients, just manage everything else.<br /> -What is the impact it will have on your personal life?<br /> -What is the impact it will have on your family?</p> <p>Definitely do research into other similar positions - I know you are pretty specialized, so be sure to compare other similar type specialty departments. If you are uncomfortable reaching out in person, perhaps try your PT school. </p> <p>Figure out exactly what you want, and an additional wish list. Decide what are your 'hard-stops', the non-negotiables. Then decide on your wish list. </p> <p>Present the whole list (say its 20 items) and be prepared to negotiate down and not move on your hard-stops. </p> <p>If you ask for 20 things, you'll get 10. If you ask for 50, you'll get 25. </p> <p>Last thing - a 20% raise is not enough. They want you to be a freaking director of a department! I would not take less than a 50% raise, and I would ask for a 100% raise, and negotiation is down to a 75% raise. However, this might be the wrong thinking. Your not getting a raise, you are changing jobs. What do department directors get paid - research that. </p> <p>I'd be willing to help you with your lists and wording your requests if you'd like! </p> <p>And CONGRATULATIONS!!! this sounds like an amazing opportunity!. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821887 Fri, 11 May 2018 05:56:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2821887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don’t feel bad for knowing and asking what you will need in order for you to say “yes.” </p> <p>Changing jobs may mean changes in your expenses at home, or work ( new clothes/ commuted), added stresses etc. Put a figure on it and ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821885 Fri, 11 May 2018 05:37:09 +0000 teawithpaloma 2821885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just changed jobs and got a 30% raise and a signing bonus. You should ask for a at least 30% more for all of those responsibilities! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821882 Fri, 11 May 2018 05:33:04 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2821882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up with a certain expectation that $X salary was plenty and when my own salary exceeded that I started feeling weird about raises, and when I changed jobs last year I asked for a modest increase (10%) and it ended up at 20% which was awesome! They offered more since I am paid through a contract so they always want to make your rate as high as the customer will accept so they can make the most off of you, I understand most positions won't be like that. </p> <p>All this to say its good you are recognizing you're undervaluing yourself, ask for what you deserve! If it's too high they will negotiate with you if they want you 😊 good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-offer-negotiations#post-2821875 Fri, 11 May 2018 01:06:11 +0000 gingerbebe 2821875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are there any comparable programs nationwide that you can compare to for salary purposes? I would to run comps on similar programs and see what those folks make. Also: Women tend to more often think of extra responsibilities and duties or even title changes as recognition for their skills and abilities that in and of itself has some kind of value. Thus they’re sometimes willing to take less money. More often men look at it in terms of it being more work and thus aggressively demand more benefits, more money, more everything. I’m obviously over generalizing but my point is, it would be an enormous amount of work to move into that position and to me, 20% higher than what you currently make seems low. I would be more interested in what someone who manages, directs, leads, or heads a<br /> Specialized PT clinic program for a major health system makes, average out the salary across a few different clinics and then ask for that. Possibly more if your area is very specialized. </p>