https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 07:43:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2818459 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 19:18:11 +0000 lamariniere 2818459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with others about intent. If it’s just for fun/play at home, why not? I’m not sure what age I’ll let my DD (or DS?) wear makeup to school. I remember wearing it in 8th grade, and it was one of those everyone else was doing it things and it was very light, like powder and one of those Clinique almost lipsticks. </p> <p>@looch: it’s not quite the same thing, but I often paint DS’s toenails (his request). A few weeks ago we were at the playground and I heard an older boy ask him why he was wearing it and if he was a girl. Honestly, I was so proud when my son just said “I like it” and didn’t get embarrassed or ashamed, and we’ve repainted his toes since. If he wants to wear makeup someday, I’ll let him (within reason, just like DD). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2818399 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:04:11 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2818399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have let our 5+ year old wear it for special occasions. Just like putting on sparkly shoes or a shoe with a heel. I obviously apply it for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2818225 Tue, 24 Apr 2018 13:35:16 +0000 ValentineMommy 2818225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dahlia: Totally agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817996 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 14:22:02 +0000 Rocker2014 2817996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such an interesting question that I can't believe I haven't thought about before. I'm really into statement makeup looks (think bright red lips or "unicorn" eyeshadow - not together, lol) and wear interesting looks a lot of the time on weekends or when going out, and get so much enjoyment out of creating the effects. It's fun for me, not because I feel like I need it or are trying to look sexy. I don't think I'd have an issue if she's expressing an interest - even now at age 3, she likes to kiss my lips and say "I have lipstick like mama!". I really like the suggestion of "time and place" for different makeup looks - I wear makeup daily but when I'm going to work it is very obviously different than my look for weekends or going out. I think I'll be more intentional about conversations about that starting now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817990 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 13:54:53 +0000 Dahlia 2817990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think intention is more important to age for me. If DD wants to wear makeup because it's fun, or to express herself, or because it's like art for her, then I'll be okay with it. I'm not okay with young girls wearing makeup to look sexy or because they don't feel pretty without it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817980 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 13:29:06 +0000 josina 2817980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Oh yes, Seventeen magazine - I'm pretty sure that's how I learned. :)<br /> @catgirl: That's a good way to put it, that certain outfits aren't appropriate for school, so certain make-up shouldn't be either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817955 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 12:24:30 +0000 catgirl 2817955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure what age we will decide it's okay. But we plan to approach makeup and clothing in a similar way - try not to ban things but focus on when certain things are appropriate. Much like a sequin crop top isn't appropriate for school, heavy makeup isn't either. So things like a BB/CC cream, mascara, light lipgloss would be fine for school starting in middle school, I think. Though I hardly wear makeup I fully believe it can be a really fun way to express yourself. I also think banning it doesn't prevent them from wearing it. My youngest sister wasn't allowed to wear makeup until high school but she put it on almost everyday at school starting in 7th grade and would wash her face when she got home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817949 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 12:16:08 +0000 looch 2817949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started wearing eyeliner (purple, natch) in 6th grade, so I would be okay with it at that age, assuming I had a daughter. My mom wore basically no make up, but I read a ton of magazines, so that is how I was influenced and wanted to experiment. I look at it as an extension of clothing. I do it for me, no one else.</p> <p>I honestly don't know how I would handle my son asking to wear it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817944 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 12:10:35 +0000 MrsSCB 2817944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I think that's a good approach, I don't see what the big deal is if it's just for fun. If my son sees me putting on makeup and wants to play with it, I'd let him, too. </p> <p>I think I started wearing some light makeup in middle school. It wasn't because I was unhappy with how I looked or anything, I just liked it. I still think makeup is fun :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817943 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 12:01:06 +0000 bhbee 2817943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I was allowed to wear light natural makeup in middle school and it seems reasonable to me. Our family all has really dark under eyes so concealer was probably pretty early and I think maybe mascara and colored lip balm. I had been exposed to makeup from ballet stage makeup so that might have hastened it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817939 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 11:56:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2817939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Middle school and even with that I would place limits on products and colors and she would have to demonstrate she could take care of her skin. Honestly, my mom’s skin care routine and rules around removing make up is probably why I don’t wear it much to this day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817933 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 11:50:02 +0000 Hypatia 2817933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>16. I see that as a coming of age in so many respects. Makeup is something women wear, and a 16 year old is a young woman in my eyes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817925 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 11:38:38 +0000 Mamaof2 2817925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not sure - maybe middle school? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817921 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 11:30:35 +0000 avivoca 2817921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably 13/14 if they want to. DD1 is already obsessed with lip gloss and nail polish and she's 4.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817903 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 10:41:52 +0000 Sams Mom 2817903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm not a girl mom at the moment, so I'm not sure what I would do... Probably 13/14ish? Depends on how much and like others have said why she thinks she needs it. My 2 sisters and I weren't allowed to wear makeup until we were 16; but then again we weren't allowed to do a lot of things until we were 16. I don't wear makeup daily either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817880 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 09:40:48 +0000 meredithNYC 2817880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would be okay with a very basic amount -- like cc cream, lip gloss, mascara from about 11/12 or so? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817878 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 09:34:33 +0000 Truth Bombs 2817878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We recently went to Disney World and my 5 year old got a make over at the boutique. They gave her a pallet with eyeshadows and lip glosses to take home and every now and then she asks if she can put on some of her make up. I let her do it whenever she asks. It's her face and it's not hurting her or anyone else. She does it because she thinks it's fun... not because she thinks she "needs" it to look pretty. If it ever did feel like that I would have some frank discussions with her about how she's beautiful just as she is and she should never feel like she "has" to wear make up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817876 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 09:30:44 +0000 josina 2817876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started letting my step-daughter wear make-up in jr high (6th grade), with some bb cream and light/natural eye shadows/ eye-liner. She's a freshman now and still keeps it pretty basic, because that's what she prefers.</p> <p>A friend of mine has a 3rd grader who is obsessed with you-tube tutorial videos, so wears some pretty obvious make-up most days, including to school. Lipstick, eyeliner, smokey-eye, mascara.<br /> My first thought is no way would I allow that, but then again, what does it hurt if it's something she really likes to do? I'm torn, but I don't think I would ever encourage it or even introduce that much make-up at such a young age. I do wear make-up daily, but it's pretty basic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-los-wear-make-up#post-2817875 Mon, 23 Apr 2018 09:29:22 +0000 josina 2817875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spin off of another post, </p> <p>When will you let your LO's wear make-up? In or out of the house? Will you discourage it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441390 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 16:07:40 +0000 AprilFool 1441390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Is your husband my husband? I would of written the exact same post word for word. Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441388 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 16:06:17 +0000 .twist. 1441388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: OMG! Haha when DH is annoyed with me, I totally go wash the dishes because I know it will make him happy. LOL</p> <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I really like his method too! I would be okay with that approach. </p> <p>@pui: ugh, I hear you on not fully discussing the situation. That happens to us all the time. I wish we could talk it out to make sure it doesn't happen again but by the time he's cooled off, I'm over it, albeit, still a little annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441346 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:48:18 +0000 pui 1441346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I don't know when I developed the ability, lol, but I can just sort of tell when he's not angry anymore. The tension is just gone.</p> <p>And I'm with you, I like to get things sorted out to feel better and it kind of bothers me sometimes that DH needs space. A lot of times we never even fully discuss whatever we were arguing about, but since it's not often important stuff I guess it doesn't matter. It was a little hard for me to get used to, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441343 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:47:20 +0000 Littlebit 1441343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He apologizes as soon as I start ugly-crying usually. Ha! I mean, I don't cry in a fight often..so it's not like I purposely use it against him. I'm the one who needs time and space. He wants to keep hashing until we're ok again. Whereas even though he's said 'sorry' I still need some time by myself to cool off. We have gotten into bigger fights because he won't leave me alone sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441332 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:43:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1441332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He DOESN'T ever say sorry. He will just fix it. For example, if we argued over the fact that he throws his clothes on the floor right after I cleaned, then he will wait until the argument is over, think about it a little, and then go and clean the ENTIRE bedroom and come up to me and kiss and me an tell me how much he appreciates what I do for him. But, he never says sorry. I prefer his method though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441295 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:31:01 +0000 Dandelion 1441295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While DH is terrible at verbal apologies, he gets a little more generous towards me and DS when he knows he's wrong and lets me buy nice things I've had my eye on, lol. He also does things for me, like cleaning the bathroom or something, without me asking or him talking about it first. </p> <p>He's more of an action guy than verbal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441279 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:26:21 +0000 mrsjyw 1441279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is much better about apologies than I am. He does need cool off time, as do I, but he always apologizes (first) either in person or by text/call </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441221 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:04:51 +0000 Weagle 1441221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is SO MUCH BETTER at apologizing than I am. I like space to cool down and then kind of hope it passes. But that's not the best approach. It's better to just deal with the issue than be stubborn, which he's great at doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441201 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:01:46 +0000 CottonCandy 1441201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am always the one that needs space, DH is always the one to want to apologize and move on right away. It annoys me because some of the time I'm not done being mad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441104 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:35:10 +0000 MrsRcCar 1441104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After we fight/argue, I need space. He gives me like half hour to an hour to cool down and then he gives me a big hug and says sorry. I have a bit of a hotter temper then he does.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441098 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:32:19 +0000 .twist. 1441098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: yea, he's definitely gotten better over the years... He still doesn't actually like to talk about it though. If I try to keep talking about it he gets mad again! Haha </p>