https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 18:32:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730762 Mon, 01 May 2017 09:12:19 +0000 peaches1038 2730762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: that's super pretty!<br /> @Mrs. Microscope: love this idea! </p> <p>Thanks all! I decided to get a little garden stone with all of her grandkids names on it for their yard. They have a little area with mulch where it would look cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730686 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 20:51:39 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2730686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bake some cookies with your kid/s and send them, as well as flowers. Grandmas love stuff baked by their grandkids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730677 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:54:56 +0000 erinbaderin 2730677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send some kind of luxury food basket. Or wine? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730673 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:44:57 +0000 gotkimchi 2730673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: I have a mother in law like this so I decided to get her something to collect :silly: so I got her a pandora bracelet once and now can get charms for it for different occasions. I figure at least it's sentimental! I know you said she doesn't do jewelry but I eventually gave up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730672 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:44:23 +0000 Coral 2730672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: What about a sola wood flower centerpiece? (Confession: I am getting one from etsy for mother's day and am super excited.) Here's one I found. They will live forever and you can have them custom dyed in her favorite color. </p> [attach=7986/17/op90pz.337x600.il_570xN.1235045013_jx9r.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730667 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:40:53 +0000 youboots 2730667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about a custom gift basket with a few goodies from your area? Or a birchbox subscription </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730665 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:39:46 +0000 azjax 2730665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she like sweets? I love giving and receiving Shari's Berries for sweet lovers! What about doing the personalized label on a Yankee Candle in her favorite scent? Is she a foodie? If so, check out olive oils and tapenades from The Olive Press or the Sonomic Almost Vinegar from Sonoma Portworks. I put the almost vinegar on pancakes, fruit, in salads, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730664 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:38:07 +0000 peaches1038 2730664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: hmm $50-$100 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730663 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:37:43 +0000 peaches1038 2730663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: nope 😩 I thought of a digital photo frame that we could upload to remotely but they dont have wifi. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730661 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:36:52 +0000 Coral 2730661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: What's your budget? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730660 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:35:45 +0000 youboots 2730660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she collect anything? </p> <p>Flowers are great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-gift-for-mil-with-no-hobbies#post-2730659 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 19:32:29 +0000 peaches1038 2730659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help me think of a gift for mil! We live about 12 hours from them and only get to see them 1-2 times per year. I already send printed pics all the time. She has no hobbies or interests other than spending time with her family, which includes DHs 2 sisters and their kids. She doesn't wear jewelry and doesn't like massages. The only thing I can think of is flowers, but I'm meh about that idea. Any genius ideas for me?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2174470 Mon, 11 May 2015 13:26:04 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2174470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy belated Mother's Day to you! I think that you have a right to feel the way that you do. It sounds as if you have a lot going on right now, and there's a lack in appreciation for all you do for others. I think doing something for yourself is a great idea, even if it's treating yourself to a pedicure this week! </p> <p>I've had a few losses, with my very first pregnancy announced on Mother's day 5 years ago. We lost that pregnancy a few weeks later, and I'm still sensitive about Mother's Day. No one but DH knows that, and I know that I can't expect them to. My BIL always makes a joke about us announcing on Mother's day, and it bothers me to this day....5 years and 6 pregnancies later. But I can't necessarily expect him to know that it bothers me unless I say something. If you feel like you would feel better by just mentioning it, then it wouldn't hurt. Otherwise, I think just treating yourself to something nice is great :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2174423 Mon, 11 May 2015 13:08:31 +0000 ShootingStar 2174423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Mae: hit the nail on the head. When you're pregnant the first time you're super aware of it. You feel different, your body is working so hard, you're making food choices based on being pregnant, etc. Essentially, you feel like a mom already. But guys don't really feel like dads until the baby's on the outside. So for most it doesn't occur to them that they should celebrate you on mother's day when you're pregnant. To them you're not really "parenting" yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2174418 Mon, 11 May 2015 13:04:48 +0000 Keybee 2174418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Mother's Day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2174403 Mon, 11 May 2015 12:53:08 +0000 tofuwad 2174403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy belated Mother's Day! I don't know about the other stuff, but I will say that when I was around my first/early second trimester, I felt really sad/weird that my husband wasn't more excited about our pregnancy. And now that I'm in my third, he's a lot more expressive of his excitement than he was. I think it's harder for men to really "get it" because while we're feeling all these changes going on inside of us, they can only know what we explicitly tell them.</p> <p>I used to get a little hormonal and upset when he wouldn't say goodbye to the baby, but now he's constantly greeting us together (but it didn't start to happen until I was really big, so late 2nd into my 3rd tri). Upset maybe isn't the right word because I wasn't really upset, I just wished he felt as involved as I did at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173846 Mon, 11 May 2015 07:48:33 +0000 catomd00 2173846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy belated Mother's Day!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173735 Sun, 10 May 2015 22:39:11 +0000 Mama Bird 2173735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Mother's Day to you! And good luck with the house situation, that's pretty stressful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173721 Sun, 10 May 2015 22:12:27 +0000 irene 2173721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, Happy mother's day to you.</p> <p>I think it is probably hormonal, as it is indeed.... a tad bit irrational to me if you were down because your husband didn't do anything special on Mother's day when you are 11 weeks pregnant.... Sorry.... but that's just the way I see it. </p> <p>For me, after being a mother for 3 years for a 3+ year toddler son, I still don't expect much from anyone on mother's day. I don't think I would care much if my husband would actually be traveling for work on mother's day. Yes it would be nice if someone did something, but it is not a must. I wouldn't over think over it. We should remind ourselves that we are indeed very very lucky that we are even fortunate enough to be a mother while many women don't even have the opportunity at all even though they really wanted to. </p> <p>I do understand, however, that you are feeling crappy with everything that happens around it though. With the hormones at first trimester I understand why you are feeling that way. I wish you well, and have a real Mother's day celebration the same time next year! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173688 Sun, 10 May 2015 21:20:31 +0000 Mae 2173688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember being frustrated in the first trimester because I felt so crappy, and so few people knew so I spent a lot of time with my "happy face" on, and DH was just going about his life as though we weren't going to have a baby in 7 months. It was hard because the baby was on my mind 24/7 but it was not on his 24/7. He knew we were having a baby but it wasn't as real for him as it was for me, feeling it constantly. And ya know, hormones.</p> <p>I think if mothers day had occurred during that time for me I would have known, rationally, that he didn't *have* to acknowledge it or do anything for it, but it would have been soooooooooo sweet if he had. Like 1000 awesome husband points for a $4 card and a snickers, ya know? And sometimes that makes it frustrating because if it would be so easy and make you so happy, why would he not do it? </p> <p>&lt;because he's a guy&gt;</p> <p>They just don't think that way a lot of the time. I do get it, because I like romantic gestures. But I'm learning to look more at the every day. And to be a bit blunt when I want my husband to do something that I know would probably not occur to him. Yes it would be BEST if he did it all on his own without a hint/instruction. But asking for what you need emotionally is better than waiting for inevitable failure and then being 1) pissed off he didn't do the thing 2) pissed off that you can't even REALLY be pissed off because he didn't really HAVE to do the thing and you maybe possibly shouldn't be as upset as you are but you can't help that you are, in fact, upset. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173683 Sun, 10 May 2015 21:13:05 +0000 cat620 2173683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: I agree with you about having expectations lowered. I think I always expect too much, because I hear about other husbands doing breakfast in bed or writing a heartfelt card. My husband isn't super romantic, but I know he cares. I can't expect him to be something he isn't.</p> <p>@HourThyme: I do agree with you though that I would expect at least people to acknowledge me on mother's day as a pregnant lady. I would probably feel bummed too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173656 Sun, 10 May 2015 20:24:14 +0000 wrkbrk 2173656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HourThyme: not irrational. Sometimes people don't think the way we do - even (especially?) our spouses. DW actually asked me a few weeks ago if she should get me a card (I'm 12.5 weeks). I said YES! Lol. So, not a surprise but that's ok. They don't think like we do!!! Happy Mother's Day :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173606 Sun, 10 May 2015 19:11:37 +0000 mamimami 2173606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Mother's Day to you! And congratulations. I am glad you celebrated yourself.</p> <p>Having said that, I don't want to be a Debbie Downer but even though I had a lovely day today, I have had to waaaay dial down my expectations for Mother's Day ever since I was pregnant and even after my kids were born. So I guess my advice is to lower your expectations and/or be very clear with your husband. (My husband honestly thought it was OK for him not to do anything for me the first Mother's Day AFTER my first child was born. "You're not my mother," he said.) After that he straightened up but really, it's just a day, a nice day to go out to eat or something, but kids take years to figure out what it's about, you have to share the day with every other mom out there, etc. I dunno -- I have been happier since getting all that straight in my head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173419 Sun, 10 May 2015 13:00:43 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2173419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On Mother's Day when I was halfway through my first pregnancy I had the point of view that it would be nice if dh recognized it in some way, but I wasn't a mom the way people with "outside babies" are moms, so I wasn't *expecting* anything. Dh worked 16 hours then surprised me with flowers when he came home.<br /> My first Mother's Day with an outside baby I was still dealing with guilt from having postpartum depression and so I said I didn't want anything. I was pretty bummed when he didn't even say happy Mother's Day though. Went to work, went about the day like any other day. When I mentioned it I found out he apparently ordered flowers since he had to work but they never arrived, and for some reason he just never brought it up. To be honest I can't remember why.<br /> The following year I spent Mother's Day in the ER, and this year I've come to believe I have some kind of Mother's Day bad luck, lol, and I'm just insisting we ignore it!</p> <p>So no, not silly, but I would lower expectations a little, I think it'll help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173417 Sun, 10 May 2015 12:58:28 +0000 BSB 2173417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your feelings are valid. I think we all have certain expectations. </p> <p>Hugs to you and Happy Mother's Day!</p> <p>I am curious to know how many of us got acknowlegded on Mother's Day while we are pregnant. I just created a thread on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173414 Sun, 10 May 2015 12:52:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 2173414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HourThyme: you are a mother and you are doing serious work growing your baby right now! Happy Mother's Day! I think buying the card for the baby book is a wonderful idea. </p> <p>My DH was at a bachelor party in New Orleans when I was pregnant for Mother's Day. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173405 Sun, 10 May 2015 12:15:41 +0000 Astro Bee 2173405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you are having a rough day! First off, your feelings are totally valid, no matter whether they are hormonally induced or not. What people (and especially men) don't seem to realize is that from the moment we first get that BFP, many women do already feel like moms. I know I did, and I was constantly reframing everything I did with a thought to how I would do or celebrate x, y, or z with baby next year. </p> <p>My LO is 5 weeks old today, so this is all fresh in my mind. I wished a friend, who is 6 mos pregnant with her first, a happy Mother's Day today, and I want to wish you one, too! As PP have said, treat yourself today (you are already a momma), give your family a pass (they don't quite realize how you feel), and think of next year's Mother's Day (when you will have your LO in your arms and EVERYONE is calling to wish you a happy first (but really second!) Mother's Day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173393 Sun, 10 May 2015 11:49:29 +0000 simplyfelicity 2173393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HourThyme: First trimester is ROUGH with the lethargy, hormones and morning sickness. I had a legit meltdown because I broke the latch on the gate. Pretty sure I scared my husband.<br /> Thank you for your kind words. :heart: I am now 33 weeks pregnant and super excited. :happy:<br /> Just a thought: maybe write your little one a letter on the train? I think that would be very sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173391 Sun, 10 May 2015 11:44:45 +0000 HourThyme 2173391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: Thank you! that's good advice. I have a train ride to take in a bit and think I will use that time to relax and reframe so that I can give others a "pass." I will be sure to do something kind for myself tonight. Also, I really actually do appreciate your saying that I might be taking things a bit personally right now, because it's probably kind of true! :) </p> <p>My condolences to you on the loss of your pregnancy last year, I cannot even imagine. Blessings to you on this day! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-a-little-irrationally-upset-about-not-being-wished-a-happy-mothers-day-and-other-crap#post-2173390 Sun, 10 May 2015 11:43:20 +0000 AngelicOne 2173390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Mother's Day! I say you're not being silly. I was pregnant with out first baby this time last year (about as far along as you are now) and my hubby at least got me a card for Mother's Day &amp; signed it from our baby (actually used the fruit/veggie for the week since we didn't know it was a boy yet). </p> <p>Hopefully hubby changes his attitude soon :heart: </p>