https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 04:09:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909505 Mon, 03 Feb 2020 11:34:06 +0000 LemonJack 2909505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@helloperidot: Good luck on Thursday. Keep us posted. Try not to worry in the meantime! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909454 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 22:49:10 +0000 PinkElephant 2909454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@helloperidot: DD3 failed the hospital screening and the first re-test at her pediatrician. We were referred to an audiologist, and she technically passed, but barely/with not great results, in one ear in particular. She was retested at her one year appointment and passed. Along the way, the doctors reassured me that it was probably a combination of her size and her (uncooperative) personality, haha. FWIW, she was early and super small (IUGR), and had a number of ear infections in her first year, but not enough to require tubes. She's three now, hears just fine, and does not get regular ear infections. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909452 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 21:52:38 +0000 helloperidot 2909452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: We have our retest on Thursday. The analyst said that it's about 1 in 10 who fail the initial screen, and 1 in 50 who fail the next screening...she said she refers probably 1 in 1,000 to audiology. It's still nerve wracking, even though I keep telling myself things will be just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909450 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 21:17:32 +0000 LemonJack 2909450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just went through this with our DS in November. He failed 2x in the hospital. He had a follow up screening at 6 weeks and easily passed. I was super nervous about it too, but none of the nurses or our doctor seemed at all concerned. They said a lot of babies fail initially and are just fine! Did they tell you when they’ll test again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909445 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 20:17:07 +0000 MrsSRS 2909445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD failed one and passed all further ones including the most recent at her 4yo well visit </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909444 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 20:07:32 +0000 helloperidot 2909444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: @Shantuck: @jhd: @muffinsmuffins: thank you all so much! This is precisely what I needed. The analyst kept breaking it down by numbers, trying to reassure me that it is super common and there's multiple layers of screening referrals before we would even be sent to audiology...but you know how anxiety is. I just heard "we need you to come back and test a different way" and my mind went crazy. 😳😭😳 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909443 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 19:56:00 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2909443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older son failed his screens a few times before we left the hospital. He was a preemie and had/has very small ear canals. They tried one last time before he would have to be referred on and he passed it. We were reassured it was normal as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909442 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 19:52:55 +0000 jhd 2909442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@helloperidot: same experience as the ladies above. Good luck, and try not to worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909441 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 18:40:33 +0000 Shantuck 2909441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the same experience as @bhbee where my son failed his first test at the hospital but passed when retested. Newborns can have fluid in their ears for awhile after birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909432 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 15:36:39 +0000 bhbee 2909432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m not sure it was the same process but one of mine failed the initial screen in the hospital but passed when it was repeated, not sure exactly what age though. I’m under the impression that the screens are not entirely accurate and that’s why they do further testing but I’m no expert. I hope you can find some peace while you wait, I know it’s hard not to worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/failed-hearing-screen#post-2909431 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 15:07:02 +0000 helloperidot 2909431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey everyone, I'm having a bit of anxiety and am looking for some reassurance, if possible.</p> <p>DD3 is 3w and had her initial hearing screen yesterday. She passed on her left ear, but failed on her right and has been referred for another round of testing. I'm struggling already with the beginnings of PPA and this is putting me through the roof. The analyst tried to reassure me that this is completely normal and lots of babies still have fluid in their ears, even at 3w.</p> <p>Has anyone gone through this process? Did your babe have some level.of hearing loss, or was it just a screening anomaly? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2890121 Fri, 05 Jul 2019 11:32:31 +0000 pachamama 2890121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so great! Yeah I think that's what we kept our two babes in. Kind of like a small bassinet. Newborn sleep is hard, you're doing great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2890112 Fri, 05 Jul 2019 10:41:36 +0000 foodiebee 2890112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: We bought this one: <a href="https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/product/halo-reg-sleepsack-reg-circles-muslin-cotton-swaddle-in-grey/3338221" rel="nofollow">https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/product/halo-reg-sleepsack-reg-circles-muslin-cotton-swaddle-in-grey/3338221</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2890109 Fri, 05 Jul 2019 10:27:08 +0000 paigeface 2890109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@foodiebee: which sleep sack did you buy? I need this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889944 Wed, 03 Jul 2019 15:15:27 +0000 foodiebee 2889944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Belated thank you for all the advice here! Yes, we've been swaddling since day one, but not until two days ago did we try the Halo Sleep Sack, and it was a game changer for us! LO slept in the pack and play "napper" in the Halo Sack for 5 hours two nights ago and 7 hours last night!! So amazing! Knowing we weren't alone in this was so helpful for my mental health, so thank you all. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889579 Mon, 01 Jul 2019 03:56:35 +0000 Pumuckl 2889579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next to all the great advice above:<br /> How are putting him down? Babies have something called the moro-reflex which kicks in when you put them down straight to their back. For us it often helped to kind of roll them to their backs over their sides. That way the reflex doesn't kick in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889416 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 20:05:54 +0000 pachamama 2889416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a lot of friends with newborns and we were all agreeing recently basically it's almost impossible for newborns to sleep safely. There are so few options for them to sleep well! I've never known a newborn to sleep well in a bassinet. They're so tiny in there! Rock and plays, yes! If j was in your position I would use a RnP or a Dock a Tot<br /> We used the cuddle cove attachment thing from a pack and play, I don't even know where I got it, a garage sale I think. Swaddling and keeping the bassinet right next to my bed sort of worked when they were 2 weeks or so. At like 6 weeks we moved ds2 into a crib which was a disaster.<br /> My mentality was basically just to suffer 8 to 10 weeks and then I knew things would get better. And they definitely do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889411 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 18:06:31 +0000 Kaohinani 2889411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@foodiebee: First of all congratulations and I have missed you! Next, my DD was the same way (not only did she have reflux but she had 2 minor hernias so she was pretty fussy and needy). She had the "okay" to side sleep (vs on her back) from her pediatrician but refused to sleep on her own (more than an hour a stretch for weeks). The doula I had worked with me to partially co-sleep (having her ON me for an hour and then, when she hit deep sleep, move her to her "safe sleep space.") It worked fairly well but by 5 mos, my DD was a light sleeper and too smart. At the time, DH was deployed so I purchased side rails for my king-side bed and allowed her to dictate our sleep. She was singularly wrapped and I used a sheet. I had a pillow and T cuddled into the crook of my arm. (I am a super-still light sleeper.) My daughter's pediatrician was amazing and supportive of this choice. T, at 11 mos, dictated that she needed her own "space" when she began trying to "peel" my eyes open when she woke and would look for her toys. I was able to [nearly] seamlessly move her into her crib then... a month before her dad came back.<br /> Moral of the story: It DOES get easier with time.<br /> Also, if you ever need anything, please, feel free to wall me. 💙 Enjoy your new bundle of joy. 🥰 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889399 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 15:42:51 +0000 MrsSCB 2889399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! Both of mine were like this in the beginning, especially my second. I ended up letting her sleep in the bed with me, though I'd try to side-lie nurse and then move away, so she had plenty of her own space, if that makes sense. I hate to say it, but we really just had to keep trying putting her in her own space over and over. Swaddling definitely helped. I also found that she slept better in the pack and play than the Halo bassinet. If it's any consolation, she's now 12 weeks, and for at least three weeks we've now been able to get six or seven hours straight, or on a few nights even more, in the pack and play. So it was an extremely hard phase, but reasonably short-lived for us. Though now we've started going without the swaddle, which is a whole new transition... :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889395 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:58:20 +0000 paigeface 2889395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is 6 weeks and she was the SAME exact way and is still pretty clingy but it's getting better each week. As others have mentioned swaddling seems to help. She will not sleep on flat surfaces either but she also has reflux so that doesn't help. She definitely wouldn't fall asleep without the swaddle unless we were holding her. I agree with other bees that safe co-sleeping was the only way I got any sleep some nights. Also, we use the dock-a-tot for naps and in her bassinet without anything else except her swaddle (this is our personal choice and some may not be comfortable with it!) Hang in there mama! I'm right there with you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889394 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:35:57 +0000 periwinklebee 2889394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO would literally not sleep anywhere else but next to me. Did not matter what swaddle we tried, what bassinet we tried, just would not. We co-slept (husband slept in the living room on the couch). No blankets or pillows, and form fitting clothes for me. It was a huge turning point, before we started, I was seriously on the verge of hallucinating from sleep deprivation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889393 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:35:32 +0000 ALV91711 2889393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DS2 was newborn I rolled a couple small blankets and put them under his crib sheet to make him a nest in the crib. I did this after the first couple nights and it seemed to help home sleep in couple hour stretches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889392 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:31:05 +0000 bhbee 2889392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is he swaddled? That helped mine a lot in the first couple months. So many choices but I always used the miracle blanket to start. This last baby loved to be swaddled and then in this: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Podster-Sling-Style-Infant-Lounger/dp/B003HIXOTQ" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Podster-Sling-Style-Infant-Lounger/dp/B003HIXOTQ</a><br /> Of course only used that for daytime naps when I was around and watching. Also I ended up having her nap in the carrier a lot, all of mine did. I liked the solly when she was small, it made her so cozy. At least then your hands are free and I’m definitely a believer that if you can get better daytime sleep then you get better nighttime sleep. </p> <p>And, full disclosure I’ve always done a lot of co sleeping early on. I understand if you don’t want to but if you’re desperate, read the tips for safe co sleeping. Just saying this so you know that many many bees have done it!</p> <p>Good luck, this age is hard!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889390 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:24:47 +0000 DillonLion 2889390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you swaddling? </p> <p>The only place my LO liked at the beginning besides us was anything that would "cup" or cradle her pretty tightly. So a curved bouncy/vibrating seat or a curved seat on a swing. It had to move/rock/vibrate.</p> <p>Leaving her to just lay on a flat surface was a big no go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-refuses-to-sleep-anywhere-but-on-me#post-2889389 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:14:26 +0000 foodiebee 2889389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Bees! My LO is 2 weeks old (🎉🙌😁) and I’m hoping you can give me some advice on sleep. When we came home from the hospital, he was cluster feeding literally all night, so I never put him down. Now that he’s 2 weeks old, he’s sleeping pretty well at night, but he refuses to sleep anywhere but on me or DH (mainly me). It’s not only exhausting bc I’m not resting fully, but I’m terrified of SIDS. If we put him in the bassinet (pack and play), swing, pack and play “napper”, dock a tot...nothing works. He lasts about 5 minutes tops and then starts squirming. Full on crying starts within a minute or two. I have to pick him up and nurse him all over again, ending with either letting him sleep on me or trying again for the bassinet, which is just an awful cycle. </p> <p>What can we do to get him to sleep anywhere else, or is this normal? He’s also small (6 lb 13 oz at his last checkup a few days ago), so I feel like the bassinet is too big for him, but maybe I’m grasping at straws.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/comforting-a-grumpy-newborn#post-2819839 Wed, 02 May 2018 11:09:37 +0000 gingerbebe 2819839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first child was a nightmare. He didn’t like the yoga ball - only deep knee bends while holding him upright would do. He didn’t like the RNP bc it was too confining. He would sleep on my chest while I sat in a recliner, but only in short bursts. Stroller rides while seated somewhat upright (we used those insert things) facing outward to look at stuff would calm him somewhat. </p> <p>Zantac can stop working. I went straight to Prilosec with our second because DS1 was so awful. We also used gas drops at every feeding and used gripe water pretty regularly. Holding the baby under their armpits and kinda standing them upright in your lap will get some good burps out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/comforting-a-grumpy-newborn#post-2819778 Wed, 02 May 2018 09:08:03 +0000 periwinklebee 2819778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats on her arrival! :grin: :grin: Maybe look into reflux medication if that seems to be the issue - I'm not a fan of having a tiny baby on medicine but it made a huge different for my LO. We tried to wean him off this weekend (he wasn't ready yet) and it reminds me of what a difference the reflux medicine can make. Also, as others have said, bouncing or stroller (my LO only liked the latter over bumpy sidewalks). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/comforting-a-grumpy-newborn#post-2819752 Wed, 02 May 2018 08:11:26 +0000 Synchronicity 2819752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just survived this with my now 6 month old. She's still not an easy, chill baby at all but it's much easier to manage at this stage. </p> <p>When she was really little the yoga ball saved our lives. We'd put her in the carrier or hold her and bounce and bounce and bounce forever. Movement was key, so walking and stroller rides and bouncing and bouncing and bouncing. Fresh air also seemed to help. She took to a pacifier really well and that was also a big help for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/comforting-a-grumpy-newborn#post-2819750 Wed, 02 May 2018 07:58:42 +0000 Mama Bird 2819750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she do better when held? If yes, I'll third recommending a soft carrier! DD was a very grumpy baby, and she was a little better in the carrier. But only half the time, sometimes she was uncomfortable and would just wiggle and fuss until I took her out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/comforting-a-grumpy-newborn#post-2819746 Wed, 02 May 2018 07:47:45 +0000 MrsADS 2819746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son had absolutely horrible reflux and MSPI and it was truly the darkest time in my life. He cried nonstop and never slept. I would nurse him in the middle of the night and then he would cry for 2-3 hours after every feeding. </p> <p>Treat the reflux aggressively if you can. He slept in a Rock &amp; Play - laying him flat was much worse. He hated being worn and always vomited (pressure on his esophagus, maybe?). We used super loud white nose (vacuum cleaner app on our phone), very tight velcro swaddle. And I walked and rocked and bounced him so much I thought my knees would give out, I was in so much physical pain. </p> <p>I don't think there is an easy answer. For my son, he was miserable and in pain and that was the underlying issue, so nothing was going to help that much except aggressive treatment. </p> <p>I'm 36 weeks pregnant with baby 2 and absolutely terrified of going through it again. </p>