https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:52:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301996 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 10:05:51 +0000 simplyfelicity 2301996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's super common but things can change so fast!! The end of pregnancy plain sucks and feels like it will never end...but it will! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301976 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:51:17 +0000 wonderstruck 2301976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: ahh okay, good to know! Sorry, OP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301975 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:51:07 +0000 Bubbles 2301975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think anything works until the baby is ready! I did ALL the things and nothing worked, I wasn't even the tiniest bit dilated when I was induced at 40+2 for PROM. </p> <p>Hang in there, it won't be long now whatever happens! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301970 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:48:17 +0000 kiddosc 2301970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: If she's not dilated at all, then they can't get a finger in there to sweep membranes. </p> <p>Unfortunately there isn't a whole lot you can do. I wasn't dilated at all at 38 weeks either. At 40 weeks I was dilated just a fingertip, but I went into labor naturally at 40 +2. You'll get there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301904 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 08:53:22 +0000 wonderstruck 2301904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most people I know who have had luck getting labor started with walking/sex/spicy food/whatever were already at least a bit dilated. I didn't dilate at all until labor started at exactly 40 weeks, and none of the tricks out there made any difference. You could ask about a membrane sweep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301786 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 07:07:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2301786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds pretty normal. I would just keep walking and waiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301761 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 06:29:27 +0000 YouGotMe 2301761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no suggestions but I was in the same boat. Doctor tried to do a membrane sweep but Couldn't since nothing was happening. My water broke at exactly 39 weeks. </p> <p>You are very close to being done :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301757 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 06:21:40 +0000 buttermilk 2301757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the end sex is what put me into labor, but we had done it SO much in the final weeks with no reaction from my body. Its now clear to me the only reason it finally worked was because my body/baby was ready for labor. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301756 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 06:21:02 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2301756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Karmawins: I'm 38w with #2, and pretty much in the same boat although getting a little more sleep probably from sheer exhaustion because I'm waking up crampy from the pregnancy and GI problems several times a night.. I think with #1 I wasn't dilated yet either but still had her on her due date. Hang in there! Eta, no advice about the sex thing but luckily pregnancy does not last forever, even though I understand feeling like it does right now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301744 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 05:49:35 +0000 Charm54 2301744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The end is in sight!! Good luck. With DD I was 1cm at 38weeks and went into labor at 39. Here I am with LO2 at 39+3 and no baby...I'm actually less dilated than I was the last time. You just never know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301739 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 05:35:10 +0000 avivoca 2301739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's not all that uncommon at 38 weeks, unfortunately. My suggestion is to rest as much as you can, walk, and bounce on a labor ball. Good luck! I know how hard those last week's can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301732 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 05:01:37 +0000 ldh112 2301732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately that's not really uncommon at 38 weeks. Things can change so quickly, though. I was over it by that point myself, so I get it! Rest as much as you can, while you can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301725 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 04:25:30 +0000 Kemma 2301725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best advice would be to walk, walk, walk! Unfortunately whilst there's a tonne of old wives tales about bringing on labour there's really not much you can do to make it start if baby just isn't ready but at least walking will get her into a good position. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/38-weeks-and-not-dilated#post-2301722 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 03:57:16 +0000 Karmawins 2301722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I'm 38 weeks and doctor says I'm not dilated, 0% effaciated and haven't lost my mucus plug though she has been dropped for two weeks and has been right on top of the cervix. I've been dealing with menstral like cramps, back pains, and exhaustion. I'm lucky to get 2-3 hours of sleep a night and naps are out of the question including Tylenol pm or other aids due to possible complications. I'm a FTM and my daughter is already 8lbs!! For medical reasons she isnt allowed to go past 40 weeks to avoid complications and Csection. I feel like I'm going mad from lack of sleep, aches/pains, &amp; exhaustion. I've taken baths, drinking warm milk, squats, stretching to no avail. Sex is out of the question. Husband hasn't be attracted to or been able to be turned on since I was 2 months. It's a Latin male thing apparently. Any suggestions on how to expediate the labor??? I'm completely miserable!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1115821 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 05:56:43 +0000 illumina 1115821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: hey lady. I do hope things have got better with L, but incase they haven't I found this link when researching. We are having slightly similar issues with S. Just the first couple of case studies are really useful about sleep cycles- I haven't read the rest.</p> <p><a href="http://www.babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=85500.0" rel="nofollow">http://www.babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=85500.0</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109543 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 08:49:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 1109543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: sorry you are still dealing with this! Why won't they just sleep??</p> <p>When I'm getting really frustrated I try to remind myself how frustrated I feel when I can't fall asleep, and I'm an adult who understands. So it must be frustrating for them too. I really try to think of that to give me patience when I'm trying to rock her down to sleep for the third time in an hour ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109265 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 03:12:17 +0000 .twist. 1109265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skibobrown: we do a bit of co-sleeping out of pure desperation. However, it really isn't a good fit for us, as it kicks DH out of bed. He can't sleep with how noisy L is. </p> <p>@illumina: haha, forcing yourself awake is no way to spend your nights!! </p> <p>@StbHisMrs: it's really not for us either. I really hope this passes soon. </p> <p>Tonight I've managed to get him down asleep. He'll sleep 5 minutes and then wake up. How do I keep him asleep? Little dude needs to cut this out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1109262 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 02:51:45 +0000 StbHisMrs 1109262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: This started 3 days ago for us, and it's brutal. Charlie will be 7 weeks on Saturday, I guess it could be another wonder week, they can come 1-2 weeks early or late according to the book. I've had her sound asleep about 6 times since 9:30, it's now 12:30. I fell asleep for an hour with her on my chest, my neck hurts so bad now, co-sleeping is not for us!</p> <p>* ETA I just realized it's 1, not 12:30. 6 is going to come fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106784 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 05:48:13 +0000 illumina 1106784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: No advice I'm afraid but we're going through the same thing at the moment and have been wondering why S will fall asleep in either of our arms but about a minute after placing her in the moses basket she wakes up and starts crying. I'm sure she's not hungry because I offer her boob and she takes like one suck and pops off. This morning I brought her into bed with us- though like @skibobrown: said, I'm still pretty reluctant to try co-sleeping at this stage, so for a couple of hours I had a sleeping S on one side of me and a sleeping Dh on the other and forced myself to stay awake!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106686 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 23:10:07 +0000 skibobrown 1106686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the kind of stuff that made me give up and give co-sleeping a try. I had sworn I'd never do it... until I found out that we all slept better that way on occasions when DD wouldn't go to sleep on her own. Luckily she didn't become too addicted to co-sleeping, so we got her back in her own bed with a pretty easy gradual transition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106636 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 22:04:37 +0000 .twist. 1106636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyG: aha yep! It happens to me too. </p> <p>@Cherrybee: he's definitely been a little fussier and hungrier than usual, but I feel like he just came out of his 5 week one and it might be a little too early for the 8 week one?? I have no idea. I'm having such a hard time figuring it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1106069 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 15:29:41 +0000 Cherrybee 1106069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: If his due-date age is around 7 weeks it could be the 8 week wonder week? Is he fussier than usual? Hungrier or less appitite? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105983 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 14:58:19 +0000 JennyG 1105983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I hear ya on being short. I can't tell you how many times I've tried to put J down only get his blanket stuck between me and the crib and as a result unswaddled him. He usually wakes up and we start over. The joys of being vertically challenged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105595 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 12:49:56 +0000 .twist. 1105595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipper2010: yep, I have a fan going and his sleep sheep. My next step is to drive the car up to his window and just let it idle to vibrate that side of the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105579 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 12:45:17 +0000 skipper2010 1105579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Have you tried white noise? We have a sound machine and the sound of rain usually does the trick after a few minutes (as long as he's drowsy). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1105006 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:21:09 +0000 .twist. 1105006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: well, I tried waiting a little longer last night and only got moderate success... He stayed asleep when I put him in the crib and then woke up 2 minutes later... Lol</p> <p>@MrsLilybugg: @JennyG: we definitely try these things. I've even tried gently rocking him right in the crib. My problem is I'm pretty short and I can't get him into the crib (even on its highest setting) without bumping the edge... Haha so I'm pretty shaky getting him in. DH is much better but he has to work in the morning and I don't like waking him up. </p> <p>@Bookish: I hope so. :/ this is brutal! </p> <p>@Kemma: I do the gradual lie down, but my shortness makes that a little hard. I will definitely try heating up his bed and lying him on his side! Thank you.</p> <p>@SugarplumsMom: @scg00387: thanks ladies, I totally wrote this on my iPad hahaha it's been a lifesaver! </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: I'm definitely going to start doing this. The only reason I have been changing his diaper still is because we are battling thrush and he has a bad diaper rash. :( </p> <p>@edelweiss: I think you're right. We just need to be more patient with getting him back to sleep. Haha unfortunately for me. </p> <p>@yellowbird: he is 10 weeks, but he was a premie so only developing at a 7ish week baby? I really have no idea if that plays into it. I'm pretty confused by how that works! And yea. If we try to put him down drowsy I'd say we have a 20% success rate, the other 80% is screaming. Haha</p> <p>@Smurfette: I think I definitely have to hold him a bit longer. I can't wait to start sleep training. Hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104531 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:36:41 +0000 Smurfette 1104531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree no diaper change unless it feels super full or you know he poop. </p> <p>I would have to hold R for a good 20 mins after she fell asleep before I could put her down. Then I would put her in the crib and lay my hand on her chest for a couple minutes before I would walk out. </p> <p>Hang in there! It is tough. Things only got better for us once we sleep trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104524 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:32:10 +0000 yellowbird 1104524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many weeks is he? I cant remember! I def suggest no diaper change unless #2 is involved. </p> <p>This never worked for my lo, but what about trying to put him down drowsy but awake. If he fusses you could pat and shush him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104479 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 07:02:07 +0000 edelweiss 1104479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>like the others have said, i think going without a diaper change is a good idea if there's no poop!</p> <p>when my LO started to not fall asleep after a night feeding, i honestly was at a loss. i went back and nursed him a couple of times the first few nights, but eventually i just put him back in the crib and left him alone. he usually fussed for about 15-20 minutes before going back to sleep (and if he didn't, i would keep going back and try to nurse him to sleep). 15-20 minutes feels like a long time at night, though, so i understand if this is not an appealing option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-baby-refuse-sleep#post-1104468 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 06:53:01 +0000 Bookish 1104468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @sslm: Ah, I missed where she said there was a diaper change involved. I agree with y'all, If he's not poopin, skip the diaper change and that won't wake him up nearly as much. </p>